I got the layouts for the babies' quilts planned out last night! This may not sound like a big deal, but I'm super excited about it. Now for the cutting and sewing to commence!
I was planning on going to a consignment sale after work today, but then DH springs on me last night that we're going to dinner with some of his coworkers tonight. Oh, and we have dinner plans Thursday and Friday this week, too. So I'll be missing out on the deals it seems.
pbandj714 I am sorry you are missing out on the consignment sales. Look up to see if you have a Once Upon A Child in your area, they have a HUGE selection and good prices. Have fun with the quilts. I would love to see progress photos if you want to share.
Yep, there are a few Once Upon a Child stores in town, I just haven't popped in to check them out yet. I really shouldn't whine too much about missing this sale, but it's just so convenient...right in my suburb. The local moms of twins group is hosting a consignment sale next month, so I should be able to go to that, but it's all the way on the other side of the city. *Tiny violin*
Yes! I'll share quilt pics once I finally make some decent progress!
Post by Flair Underwood on Mar 9, 2016 8:33:30 GMT -5
I'm going to do my best to stay optimistic and positive today! It's beautiful out, I have the window in my office open and nothing on my schedule except to get shit done.
Also - i got a call yesterday and have a scheduled interview for the job I applied/submitted a writing sample to at my college alma mater. It's not for two more weeks... I'm definitely nervous, but worried that coming in 7 months pregnant is going to sway them to another candidate. It's not even worth stressing OR thinking about at this point.
Is late 2nd tri exhaustion a thing? I have been sooooo tired this week. It's worse than first tri.
I feel you on this.
Mostly I will blame DS for my exhaustion. He was up four times last night, and wanted nothing to do with DH, just, "Mama, hold me peas". How can I argue with that?
I want to sleep for a week.
RE: Once Upon a Child - maybe it is just our location, but the prices aren't that great, and they give you next to nothing for what you consign. I've had better luck with selling on FB and Mom2Mom sales.
We are having beautiful weather. I had to shave my legs this morning so that I could wear a skirt. I just realized that one of the disadvantages of a summer baby is that I'm going to have to shave my legs even when ridiculously pregnant since I won't want to hide them under leggings or pants in the heat.
Disagree. Just call yourself a modern feminist and rock the hair. ;-)
Post by origamimommy on Mar 9, 2016 8:55:05 GMT -5
DS woke up this morning a complete mess because of the most ridiculous stuff. First he was mad because he woke up in our bed and he wanted to stay in his bed all night (he earns stickers for staying in his bed all night). Dude, your fault. He came in 3 times so on the last time we just gave up and let him sleep. Then he was mad because it was a school / work day and not a stay home day. Me too, kid. Then it was because Disney Jr wasn't streaming the PJ Masks episode he wanted anymore. And so on and so on until we got to school. I am so drained and it's only 9am. It's also hot AF in my office which is making me extremely grumpy.
Oh! And I had extra spoons in my lunch bag because I eat cereal everyday at work and DH was so kind and cleaned out my bag for me last night, so I am using a fork to eat my cereal. Happy Wednesday.
Happy Wednesday, everybody! I'm excited to have made it to 28 weeks today. That feels like a big milestone. My new niece is doing great and is going to get to leave the NICU today (after less than 24 hours), even though she was 5 weeks early, so that's exciting! It's raining here and we're bringing someone a meal from our church that just had a baby-I'm kind of dreading driving so far, but I told myself when I quit my job that I'd sign up for every meal request since I do have the time right now in these few months before baby.
Still have a bad cold but I think tylonel cold and flu is helping a bit.
DH's bday is this weekend. His mother announced she'd be here for it. SMIL called last night to see what we were doing for it...she and SIL family will host or drive the hour to come up here. The thing is we have no idea what we are doing. I don't think DH wants to do anything, but will feel guilty if he doesn't. MIL won't come at the same time SMIL is here, so that makes it into a two day ordeal. MIL took up the entire last weekend. Sometimes it's difficult to be a wife! I'm expected to plan stuff and I can't get any feedback from DH. With DH's family being divided it stretches out every birthday and holiday and my family can't even get a dinner together. Sorry. Just frustrated.
Post by manybellsdown on Mar 9, 2016 9:59:29 GMT -5
shoogars, that sounds incredibly frustrating. The thing I don't really get is that he's an adult? Do adults have big birthday things if they don't want to? Can he just tell everyone, I don't have plans and want to hang out at home, I'll see everyone some other time? Maybe my perspective is skewed because I can't imagine our families (also split, both sides) doing anything other than sending a card/present. If we were throwing a party or getting a special dinner or something--sure, they would come, but not unless it were at our impetus.
If it's too late for him to say that, I would make a reservation at a restaurant and call it a day. Clearly a master planner here.
manybellsdown I like your idea! The problem is he allows his mother to guilt him into togetherness. She did not give a shit about him or his birthday until there were children. She only wants to see them, not him, and definitely not me. I would be fine having a get together with SMIL & SIL family and we haven't seen them in forever...but I'm trying to stay out of things. (I'm sick of dealing with MIL - I get the blame for everything even though they had a shitty relationship long before I was around). He's super stressed out with work right now and has an interview with a company looking to create a position for him tomorrow, and o don't want to stress him further. If it were my family, there may be a nice dinner out, but nothing extravagant.
origamimommy I laughed out loud at "don't they have boundaries?"!! They absolutely do not! It reminds me about a month into our marriage MIL suggested she and SFIL move into our very small basement...not gonna happen!
Post by manybellsdown on Mar 9, 2016 10:24:28 GMT -5
shoogars, ugh, motherly guilt is rough. I get that. How annoying that you know it's only because of the kids AND that she's not at least nice to you! I'm irritated on your behalf.
shoogars, can you do a low-key lunch and dinner at home and invite one set for lunch and the other for dinner? That way, he doesn't have to go anywhere, and you can get it all over with in one day so you'll still have a day for just you guys.
manybellsdown I like your idea! The problem is he allows his mother to guilt him into togetherness. She did not give a shit about him or his birthday until there were children. She only wants to see them, not him, and definitely not me. I would be fine having a get together with SMIL & SIL family and we haven't seen them in forever...but I'm trying to stay out of things. (I'm sick of dealing with MIL - I get the blame for everything even though they had a shitty relationship long before I was around). He's super stressed out with work right now and has an interview with a company looking to create a position for him tomorrow, and o don't want to stress him further. If it were my family, there may be a nice dinner out, but nothing extravagant.
The most insightful thing my DH ever said to me was when I mentioned that I was afraid a decision I was going to make would piss his mom off. He said me, "Of course it will piss her off. She will always be angry at you because she SHOULD be angry at me." He added that throughout his entire life, whenever he or his sibling would really screw up - she wouldn't be angry at them, because how could HER children do anything bad?? - so that anger always got deflected on someone else. Now it's just my turn. It makes me feel better about my ineptitude as a DIL.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Mar 9, 2016 10:33:56 GMT -5
Flair Underwood, Congrats on your interview! You're right to try not to worry. You probably wouldn't want to work at a place that would discriminate against you for being pregnant anyway.
txmommy14, congrats on your niece! I'm glad she's doing well.
origamimommy, sorry but your original post about your irrational son and having to eat cereal with a fork sort of cracked me up. Glad your day is looking up!
Today, it is going to be 70 degrees. I am leaving work early, getting my hair done, spending some time outside, and maybe trying a prenatal yoga class. I'm in need of some serious self-pampering and I declare that today is the day!
@runslikeamilf that's kind of the conclusion I have come to. No matter what I do, it's wrong. I don't get credit for anything good and I take all he blame. So I am giving up on trying.
I just wish DH could understand that it's ok to think your mom was a shitty mom. Mourn for the relationship you wish you had or the mom you wish you had. But don't be beholden to her passive aggressive manipulations and guilt trips. Be free. I'm not saying to exclude her from his life, but limit the hold she has over him.
She was not abusive per se, but neglectful. Left 4 yo DH and 10 yo SIL in a car over night, alone, as she was either working or in her boyfriends apartment. Would go like 10 days without knowing where or checking in with DH when he was Jr. High age. He would tell her he'd be spending the night at a friends, then be gone for two weeks. I think DH and OSIL minimize what she did.
shoogars- what a difficult situation. It sounds like your DH still has those child like tendencies where you think maybe if I do this, she will be better or like me or or actually show she loves me. Unfortunately, so many people don't change, and they will always be the person they've been. I don't mean childlike in an offensive way, just as a way to explain how so many kids think that- if that makes sense.
ILs aren't coming because it could rain. I seriously don't understand them, but whatever, I'm happy to not have to host them this weekend. Next time they say we haven't seen them in too long, I'm going to remind them that it was their choice and nip that in the bud.
shoogars, that sounds really hard, I'm sorry. My MIL passed away last year, but there were many years of DH making excuses and being overly defensive about her and his upbringing. It wasn't nearly as bad as what you describe but it was very hard for him to hear that his mother was a grown woman and there were times she really needed to take responsibility of her own life and the choices she made up until that point and DH could not always come to her rescue.
frecklesnbrains that sounds like an amazing and relaxing day!
Yesterday I was shocked to discover that my next door neighbor had a baby last month, i guess I just haven't seen her for the past 5-6 months. She was equally shocked to see that I was visibly pregnant and due in June. This is the neighbor I thought had a visiting family member with a new baby as I've heard a few cries here and there. I was also a bit jealous of them last month as it looked like they were taking a weekend away leaving their other kids at grandmas but I guess they were on their way to the hospital, oops.
Re: shaving I just signed ds up for swim lessons where I have to participate for the first few classes and I realized I'm going to have to shave my bikini. I can't see my bikini anymore so this should be interesting. I may have to switch to waxing.
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