Check Ins, Weekly Posts, Randoms?

[goldenlove3]

I almost created a post like this multiple times. So far we've just been winging it.

I don't know if we'll have enough people to do a daily ticker change so I posted a weekly one for this week. We can re-assess where we are once the intros are done though.

sophiegrace started a PGAL/PAIF check in on Tuesday.

What does everyone think about the typical daily posts? Wtf Wednesday, HDBD, UO, FFFC, furbaby Friday, etc?

[kleigh]

HDBD? (Hump day bump day? - total guess).

I favor the typical UO, FFFC, etc. Going off of what someone else mentioned (I think it was the UO thread) what if we do one thread for gender updates? It might be unnecessary because we don't have hundreds of folks here (hopefully more to come) but my thought was all the gender posts will clog up the front page and other threads will be lost in the shuffle.

[goldenlove3]

Mar 12, 2016 8:39:05 GMT -5 kleigh said:

HDBD? (Hump day bump day? - total guess).

I favor the typical UO, FFFC, etc. Going off of what someone else mentioned (I think it was the UO thread) what if we do one thread for gender updates? It might be unnecessary because we don't have hundreds of folks here (hopefully more to come) but my thought was all the gender posts will clog up the front page and other threads will be lost in the shuffle.

We can do that once we're closer to that date. Is it normally 20 weeks? I'm actually finding out soon since we did genetic testing.

But overall I don't want to discourage individual posts. It gets slow if people only post in the daily threads.

[kleigh]

Mar 12, 2016 8:48:50 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Mar 12, 2016 8:39:05 GMT -5 kleigh said:

HDBD? (Hump day bump day? - total guess).

I favor the typical UO, FFFC, etc. Going off of what someone else mentioned (I think it was the UO thread) what if we do one thread for gender updates? It might be unnecessary because we don't have hundreds of folks here (hopefully more to come) but my thought was all the gender posts will clog up the front page and other threads will be lost in the shuffle.

We can do that once we're closer to that date. Is it normally 20 weeks? I'm actually finding out soon since we did genetic testing.

But overall I don't want to discourage individual posts. It gets slow if people only post in the daily threads.

Sounds good, I'm good either way. I have literally no idea when you find out gender - I have no idea about any of it. I spent so long just trying that I never thought or read ahead to when it did happen.

[goldenlove3]

Mar 12, 2016 8:53:57 GMT -5 kleigh said:

Mar 12, 2016 8:48:50 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

We can do that once we're closer to that date. Is it normally 20 weeks? I'm actually finding out soon since we did genetic testing.

But overall I don't want to discourage individual posts. It gets slow if people only post in the daily threads.

Sounds good, I'm good either way. I have literally no idea when you find out gender - I have no idea about any of it. I spent so long just trying that I never thought or read ahead to when it did happen.

Haha me neither. I have no clue what to expect. Probably should read a book or something!

That made me think of something though. Do you think there would be any interest in a FTM check in? Weekly might be too much so maybe bi-weekly or monthly.

[kleigh]

Mar 12, 2016 8:58:33 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Mar 12, 2016 8:53:57 GMT -5 kleigh said:

Sounds good, I'm good either way. I have literally no idea when you find out gender - I have no idea about any of it. I spent so long just trying that I never thought or read ahead to when it did happen.

Haha me neither. I have no clue what to expect. Probably should read a book or something!

That made me think of something though. Do you think there would be any interest in a FTM check in? Weekly might be too much so maybe bi-weekly or monthly.

I was thinking that but wasn't sure if there's that many of us FTM ?

[goldenlove3]

Mar 12, 2016 9:05:34 GMT -5 danib said:

goldenlove3 re FTM check in.
Obviously not my call, and you should definitely do one if people want. By my thoughts are that you don't want too many dividers. people often don't want to "invade" check ins where they "don't belong", and many FTM questions will rely on other mom's experiences. And also, people who have big age gaps may have similar questions becaus things have changed and/or they just don't remember.
How would you feel about just including a TRULY flame free question thread every so often instead? Or something of that nature.

That might be a good idea!

[sophiegrace]

I like all the ideas. Combining of the UO and FFFC I think will help get more conversation going since I don't think any of us want to offend anyone yet.

I like the FTM thread idea goldenlove3

[calindi]

kleigh and goldenlove3 - That was totally me last time! We tried for so long, I was worried it would never happen, and then once it did... I was so befuddled as to what to do once pregnant! No more CDs and DPOs?! I knew all about LH surges and how to self administer shots, but nothing about pregnancy. Just know it gets easier over time, you'll learn everything you need to, and for the most part (aside from not drinking alcohol and other lifestyle changes like that), the pregnancy just takes care of itself. I spent a ton of time figuring out pregnancy, only to realize I knew nothing about L&D! Then I delivered the baby (cuz whether you know it all or not, baby will come), I realized I knew nothing about newborns.

All that to say - you'll learn as you go, the overwhelming feeling gets better, and I am happy to talk down the crazy if it ever bubbles up.

I am feeling that way again this time to an extent, but mostly because I was prepared for this to be a bigger struggle, so I am all, "That's it? Just one treatment cycle? No way!"

[calindi]

Re: the FTM check in, my last BMB did a "Ask a BTDT Mom" (meaning been there, done that - a Mom who has 1+ kids) so FTMs could ask for advice from others who perhaps had some experience.

And also, that way literally anyone can participate.

[sophiegrace]

I should read the whole thread before responding perhaps. The occasional flame free FTM question thread or Ask a BTDT Mom thread that calindi and danib mentioned do sound like a much better idea.

[cookswithwine9]

I liked the daily/weekly threads on GKU, so it would be nice to have some here. I would like some type of thread to ask questions! I know I will have some. I also like the HDBD threads. (I lurked those on other BMBs.) I like the idea of a thread about symptoms, nice to know others are going through the same thing as you.

[peanutmuse]

I was the one who commented about the finding out the sex threads. But I actually think that people should be allowed to post their own sex thread if they want to. Speaking as a former end of the month-er, it SUCKS when you make people put everything into one thread. The end of the month ladies don't get as much attention, and it's not a nice feeling. Believe me on this one.

My comment about the sex threads was really just that titling them "It's a..." is lame.

[peanutmuse]

I have zero opinion on name threads, though, because I don't ask for opinions on names, so it doesn't apply to me.

[goldenlove3]

Mar 12, 2016 11:27:21 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

I like the idea of BTDT or flame free question threads. When I was pg with my first I needed a space to ask questions and express concerns about the new twitch or whatever I was googling...

I like randoms, UO, and FFFC threads, so I'm always down for those.

What about siggy challenges?

Other ideas: Name thread, appt check-ins, resource swap (an on-going thread with reading suggestions, research, deals and coupons, helpful blogs, etc).

I love the resources swap! I just pulled 4 books out of my basement from bins my SIL gave us 3 years ago. I'm already overwhelmed looking at them!

[sophiegrace]

What about a bit further along we do a nursery thread for everyone to share pictures? Or maybe a weekly topic thread once we start buying baby gear (strollers, cribs, car seats, etc)?

[LizInFL]

I'm open to all of these  I'll participate as much as I can, and as a STM am happy to give advice or recs when needed.

I do like doing the GTKY threads every so often. I think those are fun and can be good ice-breakers, especially in the early days.

[sweetmelissa5]

Mar 12, 2016 8:58:33 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Mar 12, 2016 8:53:57 GMT -5 kleigh said:

Sounds good, I'm good either way. I have literally no idea when you find out gender - I have no idea about any of it. I spent so long just trying that I never thought or read ahead to when it did happen.

Haha me neither. I have no clue what to expect. Probably should read a book or something!

That made me think of something though. Do you think there would be any interest in a FTM check in? Weekly might be too much so maybe bi-weekly or monthly.

Most women (who are planning to find out the sex) will probably find out at the anatomy scan which is generally between 18 and 22 weeks, but on my last BMB, there were actually quite a few who had genetic testing done and found out sooner. We had a sticky thread with a poll where people could vote once they found out the sex, but then people also made individual posts as they found out.

In general, I'm good with pretty much whatever everyone wants to do since I generally just comment anyway and pretty much never start threads of my own.

[hangry]

I think having one name thread and one "it's a" thread pinned to the top would be good.
I also like the idea of a weekly gear thread focusing in a different item.
In terms of randoms, if there isn't enough action for a daily one, could we do weekdays and weekend randoms?

[peanutmuse]

Mar 12, 2016 16:29:16 GMT -5 hangry said:

I think having one name thread and one "it's a" thread pinned to the top would be good.

You're trying to give me an eye twitch, aren't you? haha

[hangry]

Mar 13, 2016 7:09:07 GMT -5 peanutmuse said:

Mar 12, 2016 16:29:16 GMT -5 hangry said:

I think having one name thread and one "it's a" thread pinned to the top would be good.

You're trying to give me an eye twitch, aren't you? haha

Haha. I figured it would be better than 20 individual ones. But maybe being pinned is a bit obnoxious.