Weekly Randoms 3/14

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Happy Monday! Today has been a great day so far. My DD has finally learned to say her name! Well ok...she's not saying the first two letters, but she has the rest of it down. We might celebrate by baking some cookies tonight. 

Hope you are all having a good day too!

[younglove316]

I went to a mommy & me fitness class this morning with DD1 and got my ass kicked! I'm also loving this weather because we took a family walk this afternoon and it was perfect!

[cam]

Packed day. I barely made a scratch in my to do list despite getting a lot done. The rest of the week is looking to be the same way. LO has quite a list of stuff he wants to do too, but I don't think we'll be able to squeeze in much more than a few of his big plans. Today alone, he wanted to bake a pie, go to the zoo, go to my parents', build a shape machine, and there were a few other big things that I can't recall now (in addition to our usual stuff we do).

[penguin129]

Hi ladies!

We are mostly moved into our house. We had some issues with ants so I am waiting for the bug guy to come today. We have our TV and TV stand to move over and the rest of the stuff are odds and ends. DD slept in her own room for the first time last night in I don't even know how long. She did great and made it until 6 am when I went in to lay with her and fell asleep for 2 hours. She is still sleeping.

[younglove316]

penguin129 glad to hear that things are going well with the new house!

[younglove316]

I feel like I'm failing as a stay at home mom. My to do list feels like it keeps growing and not shrinking, my house is a mess, the laundry while clean, is just sitting in baskets throughout the house and I just feel completely overwhelmed lately.

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I'm sorry your feeling that way younglove316. Can you see if your husband can help a little more so you don't feel so overwhelmed? Maybe he can put the laundry away or watch the kids so you can get some alone time. Just know that it isn't failing asking for help if you need it. Is your DD still having trouble sleeping? Not sleeping enough could definitely be a factor too.

[penguin129]

younglove316 Sorry you are so stressed out. I hope things get better soon. I second @auri, can you have your H help.

[penguin129]

I am so tired. This baby is already keeping me up at night. DD had a little bit of a rough night last night, mostly I think because she didn't have a nap 2 days in a row. I hope tonight is better since she had a nap today.

[younglove316]

Mar 17, 2016 15:28:27 GMT -5 @auri said:

I'm sorry your feeling that way younglove316. Can you see if your husband can help a little more so you don't feel so overwhelmed? Maybe he can put the laundry away or watch the kids so you can get some alone time. Just know that it isn't failing asking for help if you need it. Is your DD still having trouble sleeping? Not sleeping enough could definitely be a factor too.

He helps a lot on his days off, I just feel like I should be getting done on my own. She is finally doing better at night with usually just one wake up, she just won't nap now haha

[cam]

Hugs, younglove316. You have a young baby plus another small child. Keeping everyone fed (just during times you are flying solo - your H can cover some of the other times) and reasonably clean a majority of the time (with obvious exceptions such as being messy during a messy activity) is sufficient. Remember too that things can be all over the board and highly unpredictable, especially with a baby, so even if you have a day or even a week when you are able to do everything you want to, it doesn't make you a failure if the next day or week or whatever is purely survival mode.

Also, I can almost guarantee you have accomplished more than I have today if that helps you feel any better.

[icequeen]

Hi everyone! Sorry I've been so out of touch. I went to visit my sister in NY and the weeks have just been flying and I'm not getting enough done. I know how you feel younglove316. cam, my to do list is growing too and i hate that i cant motivate myself enough to get more things done. Survival mode it is. penguin129 so glad things are moving along well in the new house. Hope you are getting to rest when you can!

[namastebiotches]

Hi guys, sorry I've been mia.
The ILs came to visit over the weekend & prior to that I was just dealing with being annoyed by it. Lol
It's over now, thank jeebus. They're not the best so we kept super busy to avoid awkwardness at home.
But anyways, hi!

[vettymama]

I've been lurking but need to post more. It's been a busy week! We have nothing planned this weekend except the normal cleaning, meal planning, church, etc.
younglove316 you're not failing! How long have you been a SAHM? I have a 3 year old, almost 2 year old and am 6 months pregnant. Some days nothing gets done except feeding the boys and naps. I feel like I should be responsible for most everything while DH is at work, but it's nit possible. The to-do list will always grow! There are days where you'll fly through your list and the next you don't cross one thing off. It's completely normal! Staying home is a tricky business. You're doing great!

[younglove316]

Mar 19, 2016 7:31:34 GMT -5 vettymama said:

I've been lurking but need to post more. It's been a busy week! We have nothing planned this weekend except the normal cleaning, meal planning, church, etc.
younglove316 you're not failing! How long have you been a SAHM? I have a 3 year old, almost 2 year old and am 6 months pregnant. Some days nothing gets done except feeding the boys and naps. I feel like I should be responsible for most everything while DH is at work, but it's nit possible. The to-do list will always grow! There are days where you'll fly through your list and the next you don't cross one thing off. It's completely normal! Staying home is a tricky business. You're doing great!

Thank you! I've been home for 2 years now. My daughter just turned 2 and I have a 4 month old. Up until June of last year I was working part time 1 or 2 days a week but as I got more pregnant I quit all together

[brachysira]

I have been overwhelmed lately too. We have a huge to-do list of small projects and house organization, but I never get further than dishes and laundry, and sometimes not even that. The kids (18 months and young 3) do not get along and I can't leave the room with both of them in it and they rarely nap, so there's not much time to get things done. I'm really working on their relationship so that ideally they will play together without fighting for more than a few minutes in the future.

[vettymama]

Mar 19, 2016 13:25:37 GMT -5 brachysira said:

I have been overwhelmed lately too. We have a huge to-do list of small projects and house organization, but I never get further than dishes and laundry, and sometimes not even that. The kids (18 months and young 3) do not get along and I can't leave the room with both of them in it and they rarely nap, so there's not much time to get things done. I'm really working on their relationship so that ideally they will play together without fighting for more than a few minutes in the future.

I feel ya. My boys haven't been getting along lately either. I just feel so overwhelmed and buried under everything that needs to get done. I'm hoping once the weather gets nicer it pulls me out of my funk. I haven't been a very nice person to be around lately.

[namastebiotches]

We've been stalking the DC cherry blossoms peak bloom updates. Thinking about maybe going if it ends up being late next week. Thursday I have a consultation appt so if we could leave for dc after that, that'd be awesome.
We went back in 2013 & missed it so I've felt jaded ever since.

[younglove316]

I feel a little better, my husband I got almost the entire kitchen completely organized which included the cabinets. We had one just filled with bottles and such from DD1 that DD2 refuses so yay for more space now too!

[icequeen]

namastebiotches, glad your done with the ILs! I would have been counting down the days for sure.
brachysira, sorry about the fighting. Have you decided on the preschool yet?
younglove316, glad you feel better hun! I liked vettymama's pep talk

[brachysira]

icequeen, well...we decided to do the one by our house, but she only got into the T/R class, which would have some kids almost a year younger than her and is for kids who have not had any preschool--my kid will have done a year already. They told us that in June we would probably get a spot in M/W/F (which has 3's, 4's and 5's) because a lot of people don't keep their spots, but no guarantees. We have a deposit down. I told her teacher on the across town that we wouldn't know if we had a spot in the preschool by our house and could we hold a spot at her school, and she said yes, but before I got the deposit in, the spots were filled. So, we're #1 on the waitlist there, and we'll put down a deposit to hold a spot if one opens up, and then go there if we don't get into the M/W/F class by our house. Or if the kids are still fighting, maybe I'll send her to T/R by our house and M/W/F across town.

Facebook is going crazy with comments about our current preschool--it is the new hot thing--so I am tempted to stay there. They do a ton of cool activities, but the teacher has no idea about my child's academic abilities. My daughter has known her letters since she was 18 months and she's now over 3. They had them doing this activity where the kids have a card with their name on it and they try to match these moveable letters to the letters in their name. They took of picture of my child doing it and said "she was so proud of herself." Well, maybe, but it's hardly an appropriate activity when she's been working on writing her name at home and can verbally spell her name out loud without looking at it. It seems like if they're going to be doing academic activities, the teacher should at least have figured out by March that your kid knows her letters, but she hasn't. She would be in the 3's class next year, but she would be one of the older ones and the 3's class works a lot on counting, which my child has also been doing for years. I'm sure she'd still benefit from doing the activities since they play a lot of counting games, etc. that would probably help her with her social skills and she doesn't need to progress a lot academically, but it still feels like with only 12 kids, the teacher could be more in tune and provide appropriate activities for you child.