SIL ruined our moment.

[CoffeeNow]

Oh. My. Fuck. Who does that?! I'd have come unglued. Seriously. I'm so sorry she ruined your moment, and I'd definitely say something to her.

[bepandnick]

That's so freaking rude. I'm sorry she ruined your moment. I'd be pissed.

[dashook]

I am so mad for you, just reading this. I don't have any advice but wanted to let you know I'm 100% on your side. That is so uncalled for. Why do people lose all sense and decency the second pregnancy is involved?!

[ladytags]

I'm sorry, that was really shitty of her. Does she have a history of being a petty bitch to you, or is this a one off situation? I think that would determine whether or not I would say anything if I were you.

[nuggetrn]

Mar 17, 2016 6:14:54 GMT -5 ladytags said:

I'm sorry, that was really shitty of her. Does she have a history of being a petty bitch to you, or is this a one off situation? I think that would determine whether or not I would say anything if I were you.

I agree with this. If there is a long line of offenses similar to this one I feel like this would be the straw that broke the camel's back. Very calmly and respectfully tell her that she really hurt your feelings. Without getting mad or yelling and giving her any sort of satisfaction that she has pushed your buttons, which she would then use against you. I don't know why but she just seems like that kind of person. (maybe I am projecting feelings of my own sister onto her, lol).

If she was just super excited and lost all common sense in the moment, I would try to cut her a little bit of slack.

Although I agree that it is completely inappropriate and rude and I would have been sitting there trying to figure out how to strangle her through the computer screen as well.

Sorry you had to deal with that

[tjanca22]

Your SIL sounds like fun. I don't think you're overreacting, but I'm going to echo what danib said and say that it's up to you have that conversation with her. Have there been any repeat offenses in the past? If so, it might be time to have a conversation with her.

[goldenlove3]

Ugh that is seriously annoying. If she figured it out, she should at least have the decency to keep it to herself so you can announce it. It's not like she won a prize for saying it first. I'm sorry you had to deal with that!

[aggiebug]

I am sorry she upset you and stole some of the shine from the situation. Yes she sounds rude but at the same time you are still pregnant your MIL is happy for you and H. I personally wouldn't confront her about it just move on and in the future avoid possible similar situations. Skype will MIL solo, is she married in or H sister? If she is married maybe call BIL with news and he can share.

[kleigh]

Soooooooo messed up!!!!! I am sorry she stole you and hubbys moment! That is so rude, you absolutely are not overreacting.

I agree with PP that if it's possible she was just overly excited (and you guys generally have a good relationship) the I might cut her some slack.

However if you think it was malicious or done with intent I'd consider saying something. But again that's a call for you to make.

For me, if she was the type that wasn't going to see that what she did was wrong I would gently put her in her place in front of those that were present at the time so you have back up when she tries to wiggle out of an apology.

[blondie]

In 10 years is this something you would still be mad about or think about daily? It really sucks, but I wouldn't dwell on it too much. You have so many fun things coming up like revealing the gender that you can accidentally forget to tell her so she is last to know. Also, if your sil doesn't have any children yet, she may feel jealous that you will be getting extra attention because you are pregnant.

[cookswithwine9]

I'm so sorry she ruined your moment! I don't understand why people do that... That is not their news to share. It is the couples, let them have their special time. I would probably say something but I'm a direct person when it comes to conflict. Like others have said, I think it depends on your relationship in the past.

[nuggetrn]

Mar 17, 2016 10:13:53 GMT -5 tgrimes1980 said:

Mar 17, 2016 9:54:55 GMT -5 @litera said:

**snip

She has constantly referred to my age, ever since I met my husband. I was 22 (she was 34 or so, now she is 43/44?) when we got together, I'm 33 now. Get over it. CONSTANTLY. Like a song will come up from the 80's, I'll start dancing to it, she is baffled that I know the song? That kind of shit. "OH MY GAWD, HOW DO YOU EVEN KNOW THIS? WERE YOU EVEN BORN?"

Tiffany, "I think we're alone now"? Yeah, bitch. I was 5 and did gymnastics to this jam!

**snip

OMG I hate it when people do this.  I'm 36 & the youngest in my office.  A few of my coworkers always make age comments to me.  It's really annoying.


P.S.  I don't like your SIL.

I get this too from the girls I work with. They are all at least twice my age. It gets old real quick.

I cannot help how old I am, just like I can't help how old you are. It would be rude of me to comment on your age, why do you think you get to comment on mine the way that you do?

[LizInFL]

I would be annoyed. She sounds like someone who just wants to be the center of attention. That is sad that she's 40+ y.o. and still acting that way.

I agree with PP who said, "Will this matter in 10 years?" Or even 5...or even a year? Probably not. It was definitely crappy of SIL, and I think she was probably trying to horn in on the spotlight, but to me it wouldn't be worth making a huge deal over or causing a family rift. I can sympathize, my SIL has a big mouth (she's well-intentioned, but just cannot keep anything close to the vest) and I've had a couple moments where I wanted to throttle her.

Sounds like your MIL may have heard but was trying to ignore SIL and give y'all your moment, which was sweet and perceptive of her.

[calindi]

She's the absolute worst. However, I am in the "I deal with my family, you deal with yours" type of mentality. If this were my SIL, my DH would definitely read her the riot act, but if yours wants to let it go then I wouldn't bring it up myself. But I'd never ever forget what a twatwaffle she was.

My college roommate got engaged at a surprise flash mob style thing in which a bunch of friends participated. The girlfriend of a mutual friend was part of the flash mob of friends, and she posted about it on FB immediately after congratulating the couple. Before they even called their families! That's how I found out, and I knew the bride would be ticked (and she was). What an immature attention whore move.

[nuggetrn]

Mar 17, 2016 11:29:52 GMT -5 calindi said:

She's the absolute worst. However, I am in the "I deal with my family, you deal with yours" type of mentality. If this were my SIL, my DH would definitely read her the riot act, but if yours wants to let it go then I wouldn't bring it up myself. But I'd never ever forget what a twatwaffle she was.

My college roommate got engaged at a surprise flash mob style thing in which a bunch of friends participated. The girlfriend of a mutual friend was part of the flash mob of friends, and she posted about it on FB immediately after congratulating the couple. Before they even called their families! That's how I found out, and I knew the bride would be ticked (and she was). What an immature attention whore move.

So irritating.

One of my mom's friends accidentally told her DH was proposing to me before I got a chance to tell her. I was super bummed but also didn't hold it against her because it was 100% innocent. It still completely sucked though.

In case you are wondering how this lady even knew... We were in a church softball league and we skipped a game for the date. DH told some of our couple friends why and they announced it when people asked where we were (and I have never really been annoyed with them for that either... So idk). My mom's friend texted her about it. She had no idea he was proposing that night.

[rory5280]

You are absolutely not over reacting.  I would have been livid.  I am so sorry she stole your moment, what kind of person does that?  WOW.  

[sophiegrace]

That really sucks. I'm really sorry she stole that moment from you, I would be upset I were you too. With your explanation of her it sounds like she's in a pretty miserable spot in her life.