Sex daily... or every other day?

[hmr11913]

Hello Ladies & Happy Friday! 

I was just curious what everyones opinions are on having sex daily during your fertile period, or every other day? 

Also, should you just be trying for 3-4 days prior to a + OPK and then 3-4 days after that? Or doesn't it really even matter once you've had a +? 

Thank you all!!!!  

ETA: Changing language  

[akraus2015]

We usually try for every day, but more so because my FW tends to be the only time I really feel like doing it, so H likes to capitalize on my willingness! But you really only need to do every other day. After you've gotten a + OPK you really only need to do it the next day.

Also the term "BD" kinda makes me want to puke in my mouth. Sorry, but it does...

[hmr11913]

Sorry, akraus2015 .... I took that part out.

Funny that you mention only doing it around that time, kind of how we are... ha ha. Thanks for the advice!

[akraus2015]

Mar 18, 2016 11:53:06 GMT -5 ugaqueencity said:

We aim for at least EOD but won't avoid sex to maintain the pattern. Since it's possible to have multiple positive OPKs in a cycle, we continue having sex until I get CHs on FF

+1 to hating the term BD. It feels like the sex version of an adult saying they have to go potty

Ugh, I wish I could get even ONE positive OPK!! Stupid body!

[peaseblossom55]

So anytime I really ovulated was on a femara cycle with TI so we were told by my RE specific days to have sex. I would also confirm with OPK's to make sure and would try to hit daily. We tried to make sure we hit -4 through +1.

+2 I don't like the term BD.

[ceejay]

As long as there are no known sperm problems, ED or EOD is fine. If there are known sperm problems, then EOD is better. Remember, it technically only takes one day in your FW.

[notagoddess]

Am I the only one who likes the term BD?

My husband says it makes baby-making sex seem like a fun game.

[notagoddess]

We aim for EOD when I start getting fertile CM and then ED when I get + OPKs (I get 2 days usually). I've stopped stressing out over perfect timing as the months pass.

[daisy818]

We aim for EOD and usually fail (DH has what are called "dry orgasms" pretty frequently - no known sperm issues though). I usually aim for hitting either -1 or O and call that success even if that's all we get in FW. I'm lucky in that I am usually very consistent on my O day.

[akraus2015]

Mar 18, 2016 11:54:08 GMT -5 hmr11913 said:

Sorry, akraus2015 .... I took that part out.

Funny that you mention only doing it around that time, kind of how we are... ha ha. Thanks for the advice!

Lol, you didn't have to remove it, it's just a weird term. Like it makes me think of the sperm dancing through my body or something. Ew.

Also, I know that sex during the FW is for making babies...but I don't actually like to think about babies or the mechanics of it all while I'm actually doing it.

[lgraceh]

Mar 18, 2016 12:09:27 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Mar 18, 2016 11:54:08 GMT -5 hmr11913 said:

Sorry, akraus2015 .... I took that part out.

Funny that you mention only doing it around that time, kind of how we are... ha ha. Thanks for the advice!

Lol, you didn't have to remove it, it's just a weird term. Like it makes me think of the sperm dancing through my body or something. Ew.

Also, I know that sex during the FW is for making babies...but I don't actually like to think about babies or the mechanics of it all while I'm actually doing it.

Legit just LOL at this.

[littlelion]

Does BD stand for baby dance? I've never seen this one. And it's an odd one for sure.

[cheezee]

We usually fail when we try every day. MH says his "pipes are empty". But with our work schedules and MH doing 24 hour shifts I'll take whatever I can get during FW. I stress so much about timing!

[akraus2015]

Mar 18, 2016 12:11:49 GMT -5 lgraceh said:

Mar 18, 2016 12:09:27 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Lol, you didn't have to remove it, it's just a weird term. Like it makes me think of the sperm dancing through my body or something. Ew.

Also, I know that sex during the FW is for making babies...but I don't actually like to think about babies or the mechanics of it all while I'm actually doing it.

Legit just LOL at this.

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

Mar 18, 2016 12:02:56 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

Am I the only one who likes the term BD?

My husband says it makes baby-making sex seem like a fun game.

Yes.

A perfectly good UO wasted!!

[daystardreams]

Overachievers...we try for every third day and I'm ok with that. Every third day will still give you at least one chance.

[wannabmama]

My O date likes to jump around a lot to keep us on our toes...we are lucky with EOD and rarely hit that. But as time has gone on TTC, we actually hit it more often bc we didn't even have a pretense of romance most of the time.

[icaughtfire]

This is the only thing I can think of when I hear "baby dance."



#relevent

[PirateCat]

Mar 18, 2016 13:03:14 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

This is the only thing I can think of when I hear "baby dance."



#relevent

How can those people in the back (except the older lady who might be smiling) look so unamused? That's good baby dancing. 

[ladytiffany24]

We try for ED during my fertile window and it's getting to be too much. If it doesn't happen this cycle, I think we may go to EOD during FW then ED when I get a + OPK.

[mikaela20]

We usually have sex 3x a week. Maybe TMI- My vagina just can't handle it ED.

We tend to hit -3,-1 and I'm ok with that.

This week my husband said we are not having enough sex and wants to go ED. We did this our first month TTC and it was not fun for me.But I will try to add another couple days in next week.

[kawaiikitsune]

When we first started TTC, we aimed for ED or EOD. Now, we could care less. We have given up hope of conceiving naturally on our own so I just give him a heads up when I start seeing EWCM ("Yo, I saw eggwhite mucus, we should bang.") and we get what we get. We are usually able to get +3, +1, & O.

ETA - I'm with PP's, my vag could not handle ED. We attempted it once and by day 3, I was like, "Nope, no more."

[Rama]

#teamWhateverTheDoctorPrescribes

Plus whenever we feel like it. In other words, I don't ovulate without medication and my RE tells us when to sex. We used to try to do it near "fertile week" but fertile week never happened.

[notagoddess]

We did 8 days in a row once because I got 8 days of + OPKs (they were expired so probably not accurate). By the end, it became painful rather than just uncomfortable. That was the last time I considered attempting ED. I still wince thinking about it.

[ladytiffany24]

Mar 19, 2016 13:20:36 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

We did 8 days in a row once because I got 8 days of + OPKs (they were expired so probably not accurate). By the end, it became painful rather than just uncomfortable. That was the last time I considered attempting ED. I still wince thinking about it.

This sounds awful.

[kawaiikitsune]

notagoddess Oh sweet Moses.

[BabyStandish]

That awkward moment when a baby has more rhythm than me.

[spacepotatoes]

We do EOD but try for ED when I get a positive OPK, until I see a temp shift.