Quick mil vent

[blondie]

I am grateful that she helps out our family as much as she does. But every now and then she drives me bAtty. I had the longest car seat battle with her.

Now she was asking about this obnoxious baby bunting from the 90's she had picked up. It was a star fish shaped and like 4" thick so I can't imagine any kid liking it As they couldn't move. Plus she likes to buy things big and I was afraid of Jo sliding around in there and suffocating. So I accidentally got rid of it.

Now Mil is asking if my friend who got the majority of my clothes has it so she can use it with the newborn. I was like, this one probably won't be going out too much this winter. Her response, oh but I plan on taking them out.

I had to scream in my head and not cause a scene because I know realistically she probably won't, and that freaking out wouldn't help. But I really wanted to ask why she would feel the need to take a tiny newborn on a giant bunting (that wouldn't fit into a car seat) for walks. I also went through clothes as I gave them to my friend so things like the bunting got redonated.

[peanutmuse]

Mar 20, 2016 7:08:34 GMT -5 blondie said:

Now Mil is asking if my friend who got the majority of my clothes has it so she can use it with the newborn. I was like, this one probably won't be going out too much this winter. Her response, oh but I plan on taking them out.

Rather than skirt around the actual issue, why not just say, 'I don't want to use the bunting' to her? Honest question.

What was her problem with the car seat? Extended rear facing?

[LizInFL]

LOL at the giant bunting. I have a mental image of a baby dressed as the Michelin man.

I can sympathize, my MIL has given me several things over the years that she has decided she no longer wants/has room for, but 'can't bear to throw away'. (please, pass all your unwanted junk to us, the people that the Navy moves every 2-3 years.) Then she asks about/expects to see them when they visit. Unfortunately the movers have "lost" many of these things. Oops. (i know, we're super mature). 

[blondie]

peanutmuse
We had multiple issues with car seats. One being the infant carrier and her not buckling Jo in all the way because she couldn't figure it out or Jo was crying too much. (I showed her how multiple occasions). When we switched to convertible I bought 4 seats. One for every vehicle that may possibly have to pick up Jo from daycare. She tried telling me it wasn't meant for rear facing, would take it out after I installed it, then when she would come in to town ask if we had a seat she could use (both dh and I were stuck out of town and it was an emergency pick up) and wanted to switch Jo forward facing before I was ready too. At one point (I think I snapped on the not buckling thing), my mil thought I would never let her see Jo again. It wasn't the point, I just wanted it clear that in town is when you are more likely to get in a car accident and proper care was needed.

[shedreamsincolor]

Ugh I love my MIL but she can be challenging sometimes too. She had an outfit left over that was my husbands (cute that she had saved it all these years but in all honesty kind of worn out and really ugly). So she asks me if I want it and I said she should ask DH if he wants to keep it but that we are set for DS. 3 weeks later DS comes home from their house wearing said outfit. It's passive aggressive shit like that that irritates me.

[calindi]

This would be my Mom - she does not get the rear facing car seat ("But he's over 1 year old! And he's so big! His feet touch, his legs must feel squished!") and she buys ridiculous things sometimes like this gigantic snowsuit that never got used with DS and likely won't be used with this LO either. But when it's a safety thing (like the car seat) I just lay it out straight and direct. I acknowledge I was FF at 12 months and nothing bad happened, and I am hardly sanctimommy on this subject, but I see zero motivation to turn his seat forward facing at this point.