I mentioned the name Victor to my mother and she paused and said "...do kids still get made fun of for their names?"
Am I missing something obvious or was that just her way of telling me she hated it? I went thru the banana song! What do you guys think of Victor?
This is why we don't share names beforehand.
But...I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of a name I've chosen. I'm not worried about others' opinions. I am worried about being unable to stop myself from telling them where they can shove their opinions.
nuggetrn my mom's middle name is Lee. I also thought about using the more feminine version Leigh. I like middle names to have a family significance.
My moms middle name is Lee too. She liked the name but was annoyed growing up that it was the "boy version" (not my feeling). So she gave me her middle name but as Leigh instead. I love my middle name. I have a love/hate relationship with my first name bc the more common version of my name is spelled "Ch-" and mine begins "K" and I've spent my whole life saying [so and so] with a "K".
But...I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of a name I've chosen. I'm not worried about others' opinions. I am worried about being unable to stop myself from telling them where they can shove their opinions.
We share in conversation but we do what we want regardless of what they say. Generally they ask and I tell a few we are considering without asking for feedback.
Her response just kind of threw me - normally if she doesn't like it she says it's not her style and leaves it at that. That's the strongest reaction I've gotten to date. Even Agathon had a smoother reception than Victor. lol
I don't tend to get too worked up about others offering me their opinion, so long as they aren't aggressive or insulting.
I don't either, if it's something where another person's opinion matters. For my name choice, another person's opinion doesn't matter. It's inappropriate (IMO) to give an opinion unless expressly asked.
I agree, though, saying "it's not my style" isn't negative feedback. That would not bother me. The comment about getting made fun of, that would piss me off.
cookswithwine9, nuggetrn my grandfather, mother and sister all share the middle name Lee. I really want to use it as a middle name. It didn't happen with DD #1 because H was stuck on Sarah and I didn't want a pound cake. I may have had tears over this.
cookswithwine9, nuggetrn my grandfather, mother and sister all share the middle name Lee. I really want to use it as a middle name. It didn't happen with DD #1 because H was stuck on Sarah and I didn't want a pound cake. I may have had tears over this.
Lol at Sarah Lee. I do not blame you one bit! Hopefully this time around you will be able to use it!
On Easter my ILs announced that not only am I having a girl, but that they named her for us. Ruby. Not a bad name but I was like...what? I know they meant it in a good-natured way but there are a lot more liberties being taken with pregnancy no. 2 and these types of things. I don't get it.
We haven't told our families yet but I fully expect something like this to happen when we do.
On Easter my ILs announced that not only am I having a girl, but that they named her for us. Ruby. Not a bad name but I was like...what? I know they meant it in a good-natured way but there are a lot more liberties being taken with pregnancy no. 2 and these types of things. I don't get it.
Whoa. That's intense. I think you handled that better than I would have!
Post by goldenlove3 on Mar 29, 2016 8:25:10 GMT -5
My MIL said she's going to start sending us names like she sent SIL (which drove her nuts). She said she sent her ~150 names total. I was just like oh boy...
My MIL said she's going to start sending us names like she sent SIL (which drove her nuts). She said she sent her ~150 names total. I was just like oh boy...
We picked names and I am SO excited! Charlotte "Charlie" Megan or Tyler Patrick.
Our DS is Ryan Henry, for sibset comparison.
I love Charlotte! It's such a pretty name.
MH won't even entertain the idea of discussing names until we know the sex. Last time whenever I tried to bring up names he would just throw ridiculous suggestions like Tyson Jr (our dog's name is Tyson) and Sacagawea. He wouldn't take it seriously until after the AS.
On Easter my ILs announced that not only am I having a girl, but that they named her for us. Ruby. Not a bad name but I was like...what? I know they meant it in a good-natured way but there are a lot more liberties being taken with pregnancy no. 2 and these types of things. I don't get it.
My MIL has a similar "humor," when we bought our house, they were there to inspect if for us before the official closing because we were on the west coast. When our realtor gave them the keys to officially give to us, she sent a text message saying she loved the house , and that they were excited to be there every weekend. Even said they were making themselves a key!?! When we didn't laugh and Dh said no, 2 days later she sent a text saying she was only joking.
Currently, we're on strained speaking terms with my ILs (mostly happy birthday, merry christmas texts) so we're not even sure how we're going to tell them we're pregnant if we get passed the 1st Trimester.
On Easter my ILs announced that not only am I having a girl, but that they named her for us. Ruby. Not a bad name but I was like...what? I know they meant it in a good-natured way but there are a lot more liberties being taken with pregnancy no. 2 and these types of things. I don't get it.
Well to be fair to them it is a really great name. My twins are Roman & Ruby, but my ILs called them Jack & Diane while I was pregnant.
My MIL said she's going to start sending us names like she sent SIL (which drove her nuts). She said she sent her ~150 names total. I was just like oh boy...
Yikes!!
I remember SIL had a couple "rules" for names but eventually just said "The only rule is that I have to like it. If I don't like it, it's a no!" They didn't end up using any of the names from MIL. But they also didn't find out the sex so maybe we'll only get 75.
We did this with DS too, picking names early. It actually really helps cut down on people's opinions with our families because we just TELL them the name. Yes, some people still think it's up for discussion, but we just shrug and say, "We like it, and that's his/her name." End of discussion. It's nice! And when we found out DS was a boy at the anatomy scan, we immediately said, "Hi Ryan Henry!" It was nice. Helped me bond with him.
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