WWYD: Family Smoking

[mcktymck]

@raychicky I would recommend looking it up if you're interested! My H was very angry when I first brought up the topic and got defensive over it, but afterwards he did some research on his own and was surprised to see the potential risks. IMO I feel like it's almost worse than the occasional second hand smoke (in our specific situation), but that's just because the only time we're ever exposed to it would be if we passed someone smoking which is not very common out here.

[jenn83]

Mar 26, 2016 12:37:14 GMT -5 roccobabyk said:

mcktymck don't be surprised if your MIL is still offended by your request. When I spoke to my mom I thought I did a really good job of not offending her but she still took it as she was gross and I was giving her an ultimatum. She's the type of person that takes everything that way though, so I hope you have better luck with your MIL!

I had the same with my mom. She got super defensive and even started hurling some super hurtful things my way. I bought her a vape though for us to use when she is around us which has helped. I know that is still not the best thing but to me it is much better than the alternative. We have a strict use the vape when you are around us (still outside) versus smoking.

[roccobabyk]

Mar 28, 2016 9:02:15 GMT -5 jenn83 said:

Mar 26, 2016 12:37:14 GMT -5 roccobabyk said:

mcktymck don't be surprised if your MIL is still offended by your request. When I spoke to my mom I thought I did a really good job of not offending her but she still took it as she was gross and I was giving her an ultimatum. She's the type of person that takes everything that way though, so I hope you have better luck with your MIL!

I had the same with my mom. She got super defensive and even started hurling some super hurtful things my way. I bought her a vape though for us to use when she is around us which has helped. I know that is still not the best thing but to me it is much better than the alternative. We have a strict use the vape when you are around us (still outside) versus smoking.

That's a good idea! My mom's response to those is "you don't know what's in those, I don't trust them." As opposed to cigarettes? Okay mom, that makes complete sense.

I'm afraid I'm going to have to have another talk with her about how to act around the new baby. She's gotten very lax on washing her hands and stuff with DD and I want her to know it's not going to be like when he gets here. Luckily, we are moving about two hours from her so it won't be too big of an issue for me to stress over.

[jenn83]

roccobabyk, I got her tobacco flavor and everything so I think that helped the transition. My mom lives almost 14 hours from us so it is not a huge deal but she is a chain smoker so when she is around us it is.