Post by mislogis on Mar 24, 2016 20:50:34 GMT -5
This will be long, but I need to vent bc I swear to god I'm going crazy.
My father is and always has been, an alcoholic. Two weeks ago, he ruptured a vein in his esophagus, lost half his blood volume, and fell head and arms into his bath tub, saving his life. In order to fix the veins, they did a procedure injecting glue into the Varices to help control the bleeding. It stabilized him, he was released, we admitted him to rehab, and a day later the glue didn't work, and he was rushed back to icu. Yesterday they placed a shunt thru his liver, a temporary fix for a liver he will never get.
I'm frustrated that his family are now supporting his choice to not go into a rehab facility to treat his alcoholism. My dad says he's been "scared to death and won't ever have a drink". He HAS to remain sober to even qualify for the transplant list for 6 mos and actively participate an AA and therapy etc.
I've been trying to get my dad to sober up for 20 years. Right now I'm so angry, at him, his family who knew he switched from beer and wine to a 16 oz pint glass of crown EVERY night. This morning he told me he belongs in rehab, and after talking to my dumbass sisters, he told them he's decided he doesn't want to go back and they "fully support his decision" just like they fully supported his heavy drinking.
any advice from anyone whose been thru this would be awesome. I'm not close to my dad, but he's still my dad. I know I'm not alone.
A piece of me wishes he would have just passed away, and I wouldn't have to endure watching him die a slow death from liver failure. I saw people in the icu, yellow, jaundice, waiting for livers. He has a pipe dream he will get one. We had doctors tell us he would never get one bc he was an alcoholic.
His procedure was a band aid on a bullet hole. I'm so disappointed in him.
Sorry for the rant. Just needed an outlet.
My father is and always has been, an alcoholic. Two weeks ago, he ruptured a vein in his esophagus, lost half his blood volume, and fell head and arms into his bath tub, saving his life. In order to fix the veins, they did a procedure injecting glue into the Varices to help control the bleeding. It stabilized him, he was released, we admitted him to rehab, and a day later the glue didn't work, and he was rushed back to icu. Yesterday they placed a shunt thru his liver, a temporary fix for a liver he will never get.
I'm frustrated that his family are now supporting his choice to not go into a rehab facility to treat his alcoholism. My dad says he's been "scared to death and won't ever have a drink". He HAS to remain sober to even qualify for the transplant list for 6 mos and actively participate an AA and therapy etc.
I've been trying to get my dad to sober up for 20 years. Right now I'm so angry, at him, his family who knew he switched from beer and wine to a 16 oz pint glass of crown EVERY night. This morning he told me he belongs in rehab, and after talking to my dumbass sisters, he told them he's decided he doesn't want to go back and they "fully support his decision" just like they fully supported his heavy drinking.
any advice from anyone whose been thru this would be awesome. I'm not close to my dad, but he's still my dad. I know I'm not alone.
A piece of me wishes he would have just passed away, and I wouldn't have to endure watching him die a slow death from liver failure. I saw people in the icu, yellow, jaundice, waiting for livers. He has a pipe dream he will get one. We had doctors tell us he would never get one bc he was an alcoholic.
His procedure was a band aid on a bullet hole. I'm so disappointed in him.
Sorry for the rant. Just needed an outlet.