Post by cookswithwine9 on Mar 29, 2016 14:41:38 GMT -5
...Baby... Let's talk about you and me...
Ok, I'm done, I promise. I was wondering what everyone else's experiences with sex and pregnancy is? Has your drive increased? Has it decreased? Does your H treat you differently? Do you notice a difference in feeling? I apologize if this is too personal for some but I am curious.
My H and I have only had sex once since my BFP. When I ask him why? He said he doesn't know how to handle this "new situation". Even though I have explained to him that it won't affect anything; it apparently has him worried or weirded out. Now that the nausea has kicked in I am less interested.
Post by peanutmuse on Mar 29, 2016 14:48:22 GMT -5
I had zero interest last pregnancy. We tried occasionally, but he wasn't really interested either. It's just not appealing to either one of us. Then I had irritable uterus and regular contractions (plus kidney stones) during my third tri, not to mention a VV (if you've never had it and aren't prepared for gross things that can happen during pregnancy, don't Google it yet. There's time for that....)
This time around, I'm on pelvic rest until the ectopic pregnancy is resolved. So it looks like we're headed in the same direction. NBD.
Post by sophiegrace on Mar 29, 2016 15:17:06 GMT -5
We haven't had sex since my fertile week and as of right now I can't imagine that changing anytime soon. I do miss that closeness, but there's just no way. I started feeling awkward last time around and couldn't enjoy myself when I started showing so I hope there's at least a small timeframe between feeling better and getting a belly. We'll see...
Post by tallblonde on Mar 29, 2016 15:19:50 GMT -5
peanutmuse I had one too. It was like a blood blister. I'm gaghing remembering this. I'm terrified of getting them in my legs this time, based on genetics, I'm doomed.
Lol. I love how this is the thread I come back for... I have been so busy this weekend! Will go play in other threads soon
We have had sex once since our BFP. Just been busy and tired... I don't think it's for lack of wanting it. Foreplay made me craaaamp though when we did have sex. Did not love that. We will see if that continues. Sex itself was fine... Great actually
Post by peanutmuse on Mar 29, 2016 15:42:42 GMT -5
Also, do not look it up on Google images. FTR, mine was not as bad as a LOT of the pics I've seen, but I wore a special belt and was on modified bed rest for third tri, so that helped keep it manageable.
Post by sweetmelissa5 on Mar 29, 2016 15:42:59 GMT -5
I am nauseous pretty much all the time, so no interest here. Once the nausea clears (usually in early 2nd tri), we generally resume more or less our normal sex life, so a few times a week.
Post by peanutmuse on Mar 29, 2016 15:44:33 GMT -5
Oh. And anyone who tells you that only women who carry extra weight get them -- they are lying to you. As you can tell from my avatar, I do not carry extra weight. I didn't gain any weight for the first 16 weeks of my first pregnancy.
Post by goldenlove3 on Mar 29, 2016 15:53:43 GMT -5
I almost forgot that people have sex to make babies haha.
I feel bad because we've only had sex twice since our BFP and not very much before that. I think my sex drive is just dead right now. First it was the IVF meds and being bloated, then surviving ER and ET and the 2ww. Now I'm just exhausted and pass out before he even has a chance. I haven't noticed a difference in the sensation but things did feel tight last time. I assumed it was just because it was so long since last time but maybe it's from the pregnancy.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Mar 29, 2016 15:58:39 GMT -5
My sex drive is currently about the same as it usually is. We haven't had sex since our 5am quickie when I got my BFP last Thursday, but we had a busy weekend and now I'm sick. So we'll see how it goes.
Last time I lost my sex drive pretty early on. We still had sex up until about 32 weeks, it just wasn't often. Then it just became uncomfortable. DH never complained though.
I don't like to have sex during early pregnancy because I'm paranoid, and now I have an excuse with the spotting. DH can't wait until I'm ready though.
Funny story (and tmi, I'm sure) - I had orgasms in my sleep when I was pregnant with DS. They always passed me off lol. I have a feeling that's going to happen again this time because I had a crazy dream last night.
No interest here. It was like this when I was pregnant with DS too. I kept waiting for that second tri increased libido, but nope. We still did it like once or twice a week but it was pretty uncomfortable for me.
To be fair, part of the issue is that right now I'm on progesterone suppositories so it seems like there isn't a good time to do it. So we haven't had p-in-v sex since my BFP. I have taken care of H a couple times though. The man's got needs and I don't want to be totally frigid for the next 8 months.
Well, for the first time in 4 years (with the exception of the 9 months I was pregnant with DS), we don't have to have sex to TTC. So that's fun and special.
But the progesterone supplements I take make my pH down there really not fun - sex ends up feeling like rug burn for both of us, and it's not a lubrication issue. So we will probably hold off another month until I am off the suppositories. Whomp whomp.
We've only had sex once since my bfp and not at all since betas. I think at first we were both nervous but that's passed. It's just difficult while we live with ILs. MH does say he's a little weirded out by the thought and will prob eventually be more so when I start showing. Regardless I'm sure we'll have sex a few time throughout.
Post by goldenlove3 on Mar 29, 2016 18:30:45 GMT -5
I hear you on the suppositories dashook and calindi. I'm on estrogen and they're blue. I had to warn H that his peen might come out blue lol. Can't wait to be done with those things!
We've only DTD once since our BFP. I'm kinda meh about sex right now. Between H working tons of overtime and a cranky teething child honestly we have no time for sex. Any extra time we do find we're both okay going to bed early. H has been asking the past few nights though, but it's only because I'm still nursing and finds it a turn on. Normally he's all for it until I get the big belly and then he's weirded out.
No interest here. It was like this when I was pregnant with DS too. I kept waiting for that second tri increased libido, but nope. We still did it like once or twice a week but it was pretty uncomfortable for me.
To be fair, part of the issue is that right now I'm on progesterone suppositories so it seems like there isn't a good time to do it. So we haven't had p-in-v sex since my BFP. I have taken care of H a couple times though. The man's got needs and I don't want to be totally frigid for the next 8 months.
Etf typos
I just have to say that you're a better wife than me. I just figure that if I'm not in the mood, he can rub one out if he needs to. I'm not denying him orgasms, but at the moment, I have no desire to participate in any way.
I hear you on the suppositories dashook and calindi . I'm on estrogen and they're blue. I had to warn H that his peen might come out blue lol. Can't wait to be done with those things!
Laughing out loud at this right now because I'm just thinking how funny it would be to literally give him blue balls!!
No interest here. It was like this when I was pregnant with DS too. I kept waiting for that second tri increased libido, but nope. We still did it like once or twice a week but it was pretty uncomfortable for me.
To be fair, part of the issue is that right now I'm on progesterone suppositories so it seems like there isn't a good time to do it. So we haven't had p-in-v sex since my BFP. I have taken care of H a couple times though. The man's got needs and I don't want to be totally frigid for the next 8 months.
Etf typos
I just have to say that you're a better wife than me. I just figure that if I'm not in the mood, he can rub one out if he needs to. I'm not denying him orgasms, but at the moment, I have no desire to participate in any way.
Post by artmusiclife on Mar 29, 2016 19:53:33 GMT -5
i have some tmi. my husband and I were told to abstain all thru IVF and the first weeks of pregnancy. this means we haven't done it since 2015!!! i've been having dreams, and we are now FINALLY cleared. however, if I have any spotting I'm not allowed to fly to tahoe on thursday. so i'm thinking oral sex is our best bet?
I'm glad to hear we aren't the only ones that haven't had sex since FW. I have no interest whatsoever and I'm irrationally worried it may jeopardize things. H isn't that interested either so I don't feel bad. He can take care of himself as much as he wants. It was the same with DS too. I just hope we can get back on the wagon after the birth faster than we did last time. Between multiple 4th degree tears and low libido from BF, it was a slow go the first time around. We'll get to that later though..
We had sex throughout the last pregnancy and will most likely do the same this one. I haven't been feeling it because I feel gross lately. We have had sex numerous times since conceiving and once we start I'm more in the mood and it feels pretty good.
MH finds my pregnancy very sexy so the added horniness can be kind of annoying.
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