New (again) Mamas

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She is 7 weeks.

She is doing great. She has put on a lot of weight and for some fat on her now so she has lost that breakable preemie look. She is unfortunately having a lot of reactions to what I eat. Currently I have cut soy, diary, nuts, and eggs. I need to retry eggs. Even with all that she is
for the most part a happy girl.

I am doing well. DS loves his sister. He is full on toddler all the time so it can be challenging to give him enough attention sometimes. We have had more TV than I would like, but that has gotten better the last week or so. We go and do a lot of stuff as a family, but this week I have taken them both by myself to a play date at the park and the library toddler time.

I'm doing fine. Fully recovered. Tired but getting enough sleep to be functional. I miss teaching but I think I have finally adjusted to the idea of my extra long time off.

[skylark002]

We are doing ok. DD is sleeping ok, no health issues, gaining weight and nursing well. DS is sweet to her and likes to give her kisses all the time.

He is having a tough transition to sharing the spotlight. There have been a lot of tantrums here, usually because we won't drop the crying baby to come play with him. It's getting better though.

I left the house with both of them alone three times. Two times ended in meltdowns. The most recent trip to the library on Monday was pretty successful.

I know it will get easier. I'm actually dreaming of the time when DS was a newborn and I could watch TV and snuggle. We have literally no downtime right now. I am having a lot of guilt over not giving DS the attention he wants and also not giving DD the attention we gave her brother.

[swim]

DS is 7 1/2 weeks.
He's doing well. Sleeping longer stretches at night now (5-6 hours). And overall he's a content baby.

DD loves her little brother but we do run into a lot of tantrums too. She's also been hitting so we're trying to get that under control with time outs.

I find that if it's just me and the kids, both do well. But once MIL comes down, DD starts to act out. So I've been taking them out of the house in the mornings.

I have a good routine going with 2u2 but I still get frustrated in the evenings. Especially when DS starts rejecting the bottle that usually ends up putting him to sleep. Plus I miss putting DD to bed. H took over when DS was born. But after I finished work and before he was born, H and I put her to bed together.

[gratefulgirl]

Mar 30, 2016 6:13:38 GMT -5 skylark002 said:

We are doing ok. DD is sleeping ok, no health issues, gaining weight and nursing well. DS is sweet to her and likes to give her kisses all the time.

He is having a tough transition to sharing the spotlight. There have been a lot of tantrums here, usually because we won't drop the crying baby to come play with him. It's getting better though.

I left the house with both of them alone three times. Two times ended in meltdowns. The most recent trip to the library on Monday was pretty successful.

I know it will get easier. I'm actually dreaming of the time when DS was a newborn and I could watch TV and snuggle. We have literally no downtime right now. I am having a lot of guilt over not giving DS the attention he wants and also not giving DD the attention we gave her brother.

I used to feel this way about DD1 and DD2. But now I see all the things that DD2 gets that DD1 did not get.

1) we got/get out a lot more and she sees more because I am motivated to take them both places to explore and she gets a ton more awesome life experiences
2) she gets a sister to entertain her, which I am 100% sure she currently thinks is way better than my attention. At bedtime she asks for "Sissie? Sissie?" and she even gets her
3) this is really shallow, but she has every age appropriate toy a kid could want already at the house because we already have it for DD1.

And DD1 has grown into really loving having a sister. They even have (finally) started playing together at least once a day.

((Hugs)). You'll find a rhythm.

[weeklyplanner]

Mar 30, 2016 5:54:39 GMT -5 @becominggold said:

She is 7 weeks.

She is doing great. She has put on a lot of weight and for some fat on her now so she has lost that breakable preemie look. She is unfortunately having a lot of reactions to what I eat. Currently I have cut soy, diary, nuts, and eggs. I need to retry eggs. Even with all that she is
for the most part a happy girl.

I am doing well. DS loves his sister. He is full on toddler all the time so it can be challenging to give him enough attention sometimes. We have had more TV than I would like, but that has gotten better the last week or so. We go and do a lot of stuff as a family, but this week I have taken them both by myself to a play date at the park and the library toddler time.

I'm doing fine. Fully recovered. Tired but getting enough sleep to be functional. I miss teaching but I think I have finally adjusted to the idea of my extra long time off.

They look so much alike!

[shevacc]

skylark002, I agree so much with what gratefulgirl said! When my DD was little she always wanted to be around "big kids" but obviously they quickly got bored of her and wandered off. OTOH, DS can watch/emulate DD to his heart's content. He repeats after her and tries to do everything she does.

It's so hard to not feel guilty as moms, but your DD will grow up always having a role model/playmate. She has not just 2 loving parents, but also an older brother to love her and give her attention. Pretty soon, if not already, you should be able to ask your DS to try to make her smile. My DD has always been the best at making her brother smile.

[peachesncream]

New LO is 3.5 weeks. She is doing great! It feels like a breeze this time around. Sending DD1 to daycare feels like cheating but I love it. The biggest challenge is probably my marriage. We are having a hard time balancing and juggling duties and expectations. I am trying to use my maternity leave for fun family things so we went to visit my grandma this week, next week we are taking a day trip for fun, and we're booking a week long vacation in May. I have successfully wrangled both girls in public a few times. 2u2 doesn't seem too bad but I know going back to work is going to be a ridiculous adjustment and I am dreading it.