Every woman that my husband has ever dated has told him that he gives the most amazing shoulder massages. But really they are kind of weird and painful and I hate them.
The only person in real life who knows we are going to an RE is my dental hygienist.
I've been going to the same dentist forever I have a cleaning on Tuesday so my hygienist will probably ask how I'm doing and what's going on. She's really amazing and sympathetic.
FFFC: my niece was born Monday and I still haven't told my brother congratulations.
Not flamable to me.. ::shrug:: but I got told by my coworker this week that she's pg, I had to be fake nice, all I was thinking was, great... I get to see this all the time , and how much work is going to be shoveled on me..
This is the one upside i've found to working with the current group of girls in my office. No one is interested in having kids anytime soon, most aren't even dating, and are adamant about waiting to have kids.
My last job was announcement after announcement. Someone was ALWAYS pregnant.
The only person in real life who knows we are going to an RE is my dental hygienist.
I've been going to the same dentist forever I have a cleaning on Tuesday so my hygienist will probably ask how I'm doing and what's going on. She's really amazing and sympathetic.
Same here. She is so sweet and responds so compassionately.
Like an idiot, I told her when we started trying bc I wanted to get my x-rays done bc I *knew* I'd be pregnant at my next cleaning. HA. She's followed up with me at both appointments since. Amazing how she remembers when she only sees me twice a year.
Meanwhile my real friends are all "relax" and "you just have to laugh about it."
Same here. She is so sweet and responds so compassionately.
Like an idiot, I told her when we started trying bc I wanted to get my x-rays done bc I *knew* I'd be pregnant at my next cleaning. HA. She's followed up with me at both appointments since. Amazing how she remembers when she only sees me twice a year.
Meanwhile my real friends are all "relax" and "you just have to laugh about it."
I always assume if people aren't assholes about it then they probably have some personal connection to IF (a friend, family member, personal)
I always assume if people aren't assholes about it then they probably have some personal connection to IF (a friend, family member, personal)
+1 - There's a difference in their response.
I wish this was my mom. She went through IF before having me, and it's like she just has forgotten the experience. Even though she knows what I'm going through, she texts me every time she hears some former-high-school-classmate-of-my-sister has a baby.
I've been going to the same dentist forever I have a cleaning on Tuesday so my hygienist will probably ask how I'm doing and what's going on. She's really amazing and sympathetic.
Same here. She is so sweet and responds so compassionately.
Like an idiot, I told her when we started trying bc I wanted to get my x-rays done bc I *knew* I'd be pregnant at my next cleaning. HA. She's followed up with me at both appointments since. Amazing how she remembers when she only sees me twice a year.
Meanwhile my real friends are all "relax" and "you just have to laugh about it."
I wish this was my mom. She went through IF before having me, and it's like she just has forgotten the experience. Even though she knows what I'm going through, she texts me every time she hears some former-high-school-classmate-of-my-sister has a baby.
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Yes!! I've said the exact same thing! Like, my dogs need to go outside for walks because who wants to clean up that puppy pad. Also, because I didn't get dogs because I wanted indoor animals. I hate seeing people who leave their little dogs in the house all day and don't bother to walk them. Of course they're fucking assholes! They're going stir crazy!
My little dog is lazy as fuck. He spends most of the day sleeping & when he does get excited we let him out in the back yard where he plays & runs around. When we take him for walks, he gets about half way around the block before he's basically like "fuck this." He's not an asshole, nor is he stir crazy.
But LOL at such a broad generalization from someone who hates that everyone assumes her dog is a vicious monster based on breed. Pot, meet Kettle.
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Yes!! I've said the exact same thing! Like, my dogs need to go outside for walks because who wants to clean up that puppy pad. Also, because I didn't get dogs because I wanted indoor animals. I hate seeing people who leave their little dogs in the house all day and don't bother to walk them. Of course they're fucking assholes! They're going stir crazy!
My little dog is lazy as fuck. He spends most of the day sleeping & when he does get excited we let him out in the back yard where he plays & runs around. When we take him for walks, he gets about half way around the block before he's basically like "fuck this." He's not an asshole, nor is he stir crazy.
But LOL at such a broad generalization from someone who hates that everyone assumes her dog is a vicious monster based on breed. Pot, meet Kettle.
I was speaking in terms of people who literally do not walk their dogs because they can use a pee pad. Not people who have it as a backup, or walk their dogs to the dogs specific activity level.
Edit: I would also like to know where I made the broad generalization to include all little dog owners? Because I see very specific.
My little dog is lazy as fuck. He spends most of the day sleeping & when he does get excited we let him out in the back yard where he plays & runs around. When we take him for walks, he gets about half way around the block before he's basically like "fuck this." He's not an asshole, nor is he stir crazy.
But LOL at such a broad generalization from someone who hates that everyone assumes her dog is a vicious monster based on breed. Pot, meet Kettle.
I was speaking in terms of people who literally do not walk their dogs because they can use a pee pad. Not people who have it as a backup, or walk their dogs to the dogs specific activity level.
Edit: I would also like to know where I made the broad generalization to include all little dog owners? Because I see very specific.
I generally leave my little dog in the house a majority of the day & normally don't walk him. According to your post, this would make my dog a stir crazy asshole, he is neither.
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I wish this was my mom. She went through IF before having me, and it's like she just has forgotten the experience. Even though she knows what I'm going through, she texts me every time she hears some former-high-school-classmate-of-my-sister has a baby.
So have you told her you'd rather not know?
Yes. Each time it happens. She hasn't said anything in the last month or so, so either I got through to her or no one has had a baby recently.
Yes. Each time it happens. She hasn't said anything in the last month or so, so either I got through to her or no one has had a baby recently.
Hopefully you got through. If not, you might have to be a little more direct. Myself, I would respond to the next so&so had a baby text with "I DON'T FUCKING CARE & I'VE ALREADY TOLD YOU TO STOP TELLING ME THIS SHIT."
ETA: and I'm sorry your mom isn't a bit more understanding if you've told her how you feel.
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I was speaking in terms of people who literally do not walk their dogs because they can use a pee pad. Not people who have it as a backup, or walk their dogs to the dogs specific activity level.
Edit: I would also like to know where I made the broad generalization to include all little dog owners? Because I see very specific.
I generally leave my little dog in the house a majority of the day & normally don't walk him. According to your post, this would make my dog a stir crazy asshole, he is neither.
You also said you let your dog out in the yard and walk him to his activity level.
Here's what I am generalizing, both based on real people I know:
family A: 5 dogs in the house, ranging from 4 lbs to 35 lbs. 1 dog locked in a bedroom all day because he can't be trusted with the 4 lb dog, when the 4 lb dog starts shit. None of the dogs are let out on a daily basis more than once, into a fenced yard that is about 15x15, never walked. They came home one day to one of their dogs dead from being attacked, and blamed the dogs who clearly need more activity. They continue to hoard dogs.
Family B: history of single small dogs, 10 lbs or so. Rely solely on pee pad unless the dog begs to go out, in which case he gets a 5 minute walk to the treeline and back. Always end up having dogs with strange neuroses that they didn't have when they got them, and blame it on the "dog being weird".
I wish this was my mom. She went through IF before having me, and it's like she just has forgotten the experience. Even though she knows what I'm going through, she texts me every time she hears some former-high-school-classmate-of-my-sister has a baby.
*hugs* I'm sorry your mom doesn't see how much she hurts you with those tidbits of gossip.
I generally leave my little dog in the house a majority of the day & normally don't walk him. According to your post, this would make my dog a stir crazy asshole, he is neither.
You also said you let your dog out in the yard and walk him to his activity level.
Here's what I am generalizing, both based on real people I know:
family A: 5 dogs in the house, ranging from 4 lbs to 35 lbs. 1 dog locked in a bedroom all day because he can't be trusted with the 4 lb dog, when the 4 lb dog starts shit. None of the dogs are let out on a daily basis more than once, into a fenced yard that is about 15x15, never walked. They came home one day to one of their dogs dead from being attacked, and blamed the dogs who clearly need more activity. They continue to hoard dogs.
Family B: history of single small dogs, 10 lbs or so. Rely solely on pee pad unless the dog begs to go out, in which case he gets a 5 minute walk to the treeline and back. Always end up having dogs with strange neuroses that they didn't have when they got them, and blame it on the "dog being weird".
How silly of me to not gather the true meaning of your statement from your original post..
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Yes. Each time it happens. She hasn't said anything in the last month or so, so either I got through to her or no one has had a baby recently.
Hopefully you got through. If not, you might have to be a little more direct. Myself, I would respond to the next so&so had a baby text with "I DON'T FUCKING CARE & I'VE ALREADY TOLD YOU TO STOP TELLING ME THIS SHIT."
ETA: and I'm sorry your mom isn't a bit more understanding if you've told her how you feel.
Thanks. And I was about ready to send a text like that the last time. I calmed down and instead told her that every time she tells me about a random person having a baby, I cry, and I really needed her to stop telling me about any and all babies that are not my nephew. That probably got through. Knowing my mom, before that she'd probably think, "Well, I guess it upset her last time since she didn't know X well, but she and Y were pretty good friends so I bet she would want to know about this one."
FFFC: I get a huge sense of satisfaction about taking Koda outside (on a harness or in my arms), especially as a "punishment". Girl, if you don't want to be outside, stahp trying to slip out the door everytime I open it.
W , they have and are used to little dogs (yorkies, etc). But they are also the type of people who take the news at face value and believe everything dr Phil says.
That said, I love them, but I wish they would believe me, not the people getting paid to feed them bullshit.
This is kind of amusing because the single most violent, moody dog I have ever known is a Chihuahua. And he was properly socialized at a young age, etc, he is just a mean motherfucker.
Little dogs are way more likely to just lose their shit on you. I've watched big dogs take so much shit from someone before they even try to move away from that person, but some of the craziest dogs I've known are the little ones.
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I think this confession goes here: I'm very strongly considering buying my cat a harness and a leash to take him for walks. I think he'd love it. But then I'd be that crazy lady walking her cat.
One of our neighbors does this. I asked her about it once, and she said her cat really likes to be outside, but she doesn't want to just let him roam the neighborhood, and he always manages to get out of any sort of outdoor pen she tries. So this is her compromise.
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My parents have a 4 year old German shepherd. They keep the poor thing tethered to a 15 ft leash and wonder why she tries to run any chance she gets. Anytime DH and I dog sit her, we walk her like crazy and she's an angel. She just needs way more activity.
Ehhhh...I dunno. My pug didn't need walks very often. We played and he ran in circles for five minutes at a time and then he wanted snacks and a nap. In general once we got him outside to walk, all he wanted to do was stand around and stare at geese or whatever.
He wasn't going nuts or being destructive as an indoor dog. I think the breed and personality of the dog has a lot to do with it.
Our shih tzu is chill like this. Let him have 15 minutes or so outside twice a day to pee and poop and sniff stuff and he's set. He enjoys the sniffing stuff and peeing on it part of our daily walk more than the actual walking part of it. And the occasional attempts to jump in the ditch full of water on the side of the road.
Our JRT/pom mix needs a bit more than that, but when the weather is bad we just sit at the top of the stairs and toss the ball to the bottom. Going up and down those stairs about 25 times (not even joking, I counted once) seems to do the trick. Of course, I still take her for a walk when the weather isn't awful (I mean like windstorms and hail and shit like that) and we go to the dog park when the weather is nice. But she's normally quite content to chase the shih tzu around the living room for a bit and then chase the ball up and down the stairs.
FFFC: I get a huge sense of satisfaction about taking Koda outside (on a harness or in my arms), especially as a "punishment". Girl, if you don't want to be outside, stahp trying to slip out the door everytime I open it.
I do this all the time with our dogs. They so desperately want something that I know they'll hate, so I let them have it.
50% of the time it ends up backfiring on me. I thought the shih tzu would HATE the results of trying to jump into the bathtub with me. Nope. Little jerk tries to jump in with me every time now.
FFFC: I get a huge sense of satisfaction about taking Koda outside (on a harness or in my arms), especially as a "punishment". Girl, if you don't want to be outside, stahp trying to slip out the door everytime I open it.
I do this all the time with our dogs. They so desperately want something that I know they'll hate, so I let them have it.
50% of the time it ends up backfiring on me. I thought the shih tzu would HATE the results of trying to jump into the bathtub with me. Nope. Little jerk tries to jump in with me every time now.
And here's where I confess I try to knock her into the tub any time she jumps up after I shower. Go on, see what you're so curious about.
We have a good relationship, really. I promise we aren't always at arms.
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