Wednesday/Thursday Bitchfest

[lc1158]

Couldn't find one from earlier and since it's so late, figured we may as well have it crossover for tomorrow as well.

I am making a trip to Arkansas in a couple of weeks to see my family (mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle, and cousins). My other aunt from CA will be coming as well as my in laws who live in MN. Making the trip so that my family will at least have some in-person baby bump time. My mom has graciously offered to host a 'Peanut Celebration' while I am there - nothing big; just tea and cake and other yummies. There will be some very close family friends who I know well who will also attending.

My bitch comes in that my cousin who is 12 years younger than me has gone ahead an invited her friend (who I do not know at all) to the event. She didn't ask if it would be OK, and in fact she hasn't even told my mom - she told her older sister who then gave my mom a heads up. Am I just hormonal or is this completely discourteous? I mean, for goodness sakes - I get that she goes to college 2 hours away and wants to spend some time with her friends, but we are talking two measly hours on an early Saturday afternoon - and (AND!!!!!) there is also going to be another get together including friends in the evening that my uncle is going to be BBQing for which has nothing to do with Peanut - the BBQ is just because we are all going to be together (a rare event).

Would it be so much to ask for my 20-year old cousin just to suck it up for 2 hours and be with family so I can have a party for my first baby that doesn't include people I don't know? I mean, how dare she!!!??!!!!

Ok. Rant over.

(I'm pregnant and hormonal - I'm allowed)

[turtletyme]

Feb 4, 2015 23:02:37 GMT -5 lc1158 said:

Would it be so much to ask for my 20-year old cousin just to suck it up for 2 hours and be with family so I can have a party for my first baby that doesn't include people I don't know? I mean, how dare she!!!??!!!!

Maybe it makes me an old, cranky pregnant lady, but this seems like SUCH a little kid thing to me. Like when elementary-school kids "bring a friend" on a family outing or vacation. I think you have every right to be annoyed! If no one is going to tell her she can't bring a random, you should just say Hi and introduce yourself to the random (which will highlight how dumb/awkward it is) and go on with your party. In the words of bridezilla... it's YOUR day! LOL.

My bitch... discovered a drip yesterday coming from the window in our master bathroom. I texted DH about it thinking I was being helpful (like, couldn't he just pick up some caulk on the way home?) Apparently that was the wrong move, because he couldn't do anything about it (and I'm dumb and you can't just caulk to fix whatever the problem is), so I just stressed him out and made him obsess about it all day. Also we have "ice dams" because our dumb attic is so shittily insulated, so he is worried this is a bad/expensive thing to fix. There's too much ice and snow right now to even approach the problem, so we just have to keep an eye on it. I am SO annoyed to have something like this right now when we're supposed to be saving for the baby AND we are in the middle of prebaby house projects.

[Widget123]

This month is the 4th time I'm moving offices in the last couple of years, so maybe I am just unusual, but OMFG my peer has been driving me nuts related to the move. She initially went downstairs and claimed all of the good furniture for herself and another person who is a subordinate to me. Next there were a few weeks during which she insisted that she should occupy what is supposed to be a double office by herself, then she went back downstairs again and decided that that office is too big for just one person so she wanted to go back to the other office. No fricking clue, that was what I thought when you first announced that you wanted that office. Then, just now, we were looking at the furniture again, and she ditched the desk that she previously claimed and waltzed into my office declaring that I should give her my bookshelf and take a smaller one since I have less stuff than her. Yeah you are right, I don't have 20 picture frames, tons of candles, sea shells, and tons of other spewed all over my office, particularly because when I first moved into this office I knew it would only be another year before having to move again so I didn't bring in all of my stuff in the first place. She was moving her desk around into several different configurations debating what is best while we were down there too. TG I won't be there when she moves all of her stuff.

[brennaz]

pbubblegum I'm totally jealous of your view. I love being in a big city (anywhere but LA, at least).

My boss scheduled an appointment for one of his clients...to meet with me. I found out this morning when the secretary told me he put it on my calendar yesterday after I left. I'm so over my boss avoiding dealing with clients. The more annoying part is that I'm not entirely sure what the meeting is for, and my boss won't be here before it starts so I can't even ask or be prepared. Now I'm really glad I stopped for a chai latte on my way in this morning...

[billyhorrible]

Feb 5, 2015 10:06:45 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

My bitch is my neurotic dog...
**little back story, we got him from the SPCA a year ago, no nothing about him from before we got him but we think he was abused and pees outside of his crate into the floor, we got an enclosed crate thinking he wouldn't pee in there if he has to lie in it...WRONG! We have tried everything and are even working with our dog trainer to no avail**

I gave him a bath because he smelt so badly of piss you could seriously smell him 5ft away. He peed in the crate that night and that morning after we left for work...I'm half tempted to make him an outside only dog but feel guilty because he has always been inside with us and DH thinks leaving him outside would be neglectful since it's winter.

What do you ladies think!? I seriously can't handle cleaning up pee twice a day from a house trained dog just because he doesn't like his crate...

1) Are you working with a trainer or a behaviorist?

2) Look into a Feliway plug - this sounds fairly anxiety based and the Feliway may help.

3) By "enclosed" crate do you mean a plastic sided one?


Sorry to post and run - my depo starts in 10 minutes, I'll be back when I can.

[teenybird]

One of my managers just scheduled a pretty pointless but definitely time consuming meeting at 4 pm the Friday before the Valentine's/Presidents' Day long weekend. DH and I made plans to go out of town for a super date night weekend, and I was hoping to not be checking into our hotel at like 11 pm that night. Thanks a lot boss, now we all get to stay until the last possible minute (and probably late). I'm a little obsessive about my end-of-week ritual so I don't start the next week behind/clueless, and it drives me nuts when people cramp my style like that!!

[billyhorrible]

Feb 5, 2015 12:52:34 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

billyhorrible, she's a bit of both, if that makes sense?

I tried the plug from the time we got him up until now and it does nothing. I definitely think it's either anxiety based or he's a spiteful little shit.

Yes, plastic sided which he has now learned how to pee out of...

I almost think he needs to be medicated but I wouldn't want to pay the money to put myself of Xanax, let alone my dog. Which is extremely selfish, but medication would be my absolute last resort.

Sorry - it has been a long long long day.

So a behaviorist is probably what you need more than a trainer.  But I don't know what "a little of both" means.  Is she a certified behaviorist? 

We had a peeing problem when we rescued my dog, but a little different.  We couldn't raise our voice or he'd just start peeing.  I don't mean yelling at him, I mean if I called to DH from another room "Hey can you grab a towel?" the dog would pee everywhere.  It's not the same, because you've been dealing with it for a year, and we only dealt with it for a couple months, but I can commiserate. 

I don't know the layout of your place, but is there a way you can leave him in an enclosed space (like a bathroom, or gating off a laundry room or something) instead of the crate?  I'm a huge proponent of crating, but it sounds like that's an anxiety trigger.  I mean, it could be separation anxiety, but then it would occur even without the crate.

[kpgrala]

Ugh I can't stand when people tell you what to do while pregnant!!!!You need to do this, you aren't doing this right, you should do everything my way or its wrong. Just because you have had kids doesn't mean that you know everything. I hate being pushed into doing crap just because they want it done their way. If I don't want pictures of my belly shown to everyone I shouldn't have to. Sorry for the rant ladies I needed to get it out or I was going loose it.