I don't think cell phones have to be the devil in the classroom. I can think of at least six different ways I can let kids use smartphones in the classroom in ways that help and enrich the learning process:
1. Metronome -- music 2. Tuner -- music 3. Recorder -- music, journalism, speech and debate 4. Graphing Calculator -- math classes, some science classes 5. Timer -- music, speech and debate, science classes (labs) 6. Camera -- yearbook, news, art
We had this whole slap on the wrist thing in our meeting yesterday where this was part of the conversation. It's time for our school to stop living in the technological dark ages and figure this shit out.
I don't think this is an UO with many "new" teachers (who knows - maybe I'm wrong) I see this much more with "experienced" teachers who are kind of content with their ways/tech wary or illiterate. Not to say all close to retirement teachers are like this. My tech prof had to be at least 60, but my experience is that this is where resistance is mostly coming from. Maybe in a few years it will change
UO: I wish we could change our thoughts on being 'offended' when friends and family make less than desireable comments on having a baby. If the person we're talking to is an ass hat most of the time, then I'm not going to allow myself to be offended when they make yet another jerkish comment, but this time about baby making. If it's a close friend, family member, or confidant that I'm talking with, and they ask me a question about babies to which I answer, it's their turn in the conversation to speak. They're going to say something. While it may not be what I want to hear, they're likly only responding with what they think is a loving thing. That's the most important context. Yes, people should not follow the Golden Rule 1.0 of "treat me the way you'd like to be treated" and instead choose Golden Rule 2.0 of "treat me the way I'd like to be treated" but there's no handbook for how to be the best kind of friend during these times. If our loved ones aren't douches most of the time in our lives, we should cut them some slack when they say - what we think is - a douchey comment about our uteruses.
Check out the web comic if you have time -- it is brilliant and hilarious and amazing. And it might just change your mind about ALL the things : hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/
Check out the web comic if you have time -- it is brilliant and hilarious and amazing. And it might just change your mind about ALL the things : hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/
I will totally do so at work today!
And if I come back saying "I read all the things" - please flame away.
I don't think this is an UO with many "new" teachers (who knows - maybe I'm wrong) I see this much more with "experienced" teachers who are kind of content with their ways/tech wary or illiterate. Not to say all close to retirement teachers are like this. My tech prof had to be at least 60, but my experience is that this is where resistance is mostly coming from. Maybe in a few years it will change
Nope, the resistance is from the very young admin, I think. My department head is in her mid-50s and she agrees with me. I think it's mostly because we're this "rigorous" school. No time for fun. But the kids sneak them around, anyway. And there were some videos posted on Twitter that were taken during lunch when they shouldn't have them, and pictures, too. And I understand that they don't want videos posted of things happening that might end up on the news. This was some kind of dance move or something. Can't remember. Harmless.
But if you take away the rule, and make them allowed (for school-related purposes) then they'll just get used to having them and the novelty will wear off. In my opinion, at least.
UO: I wish we could change our thoughts on being 'offended' when friends and family make less than desireable comments on having a baby. If the person we're talking to is an ass hat most of the time, then I'm not going to allow myself to be offended when they make yet another jerkish comment, but this time about baby making. If it's a close friend, family member, or confidant that I'm talking with, and they ask me a question about babies to which I answer, it's their turn in the conversation to speak. They're going to say something. While it may not be what I want to hear, they're likly only responding with what they think is a loving thing. That's the most important context. Yes, people should not follow the Golden Rule 1.0 of "treat me the way you'd like to be treated" and instead choose Golden Rule 2.0 of "treat me the way I'd like to be treated" but there's no handbook for how to be the best kind of friend during these times. If our loved ones aren't douches most of the time in our lives, we should cut them some slack when they say - what we think is - a douchey comment about our uteruses.
Nope, I'm still going to be offended. I can't change how I react to people's offensive comments.
When people make comments about how someone else should have a baby, or they want to be grandparents, or whatever, I find it to be selfish. They don't want a baby for you -- they want a baby for them. And I don't like that.
Check out the web comic if you have time -- it is brilliant and hilarious and amazing. And it might just change your mind about ALL the things : hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/
The How Kenny Logins Ruined Christmas and the one about the dumb dog puking make me pee my pants every time. The dead fish one too... So many good ones!
I don't think this is an UO with many "new" teachers (who knows - maybe I'm wrong) I see this much more with "experienced" teachers who are kind of content with their ways/tech wary or illiterate. Not to say all close to retirement teachers are like this. My tech prof had to be at least 60, but my experience is that this is where resistance is mostly coming from. Maybe in a few years it will change
Nope, the resistance is from the very young admin, I think. My department head is in her mid-50s and she agrees with me. I think it's mostly because we're this "rigorous" school. No time for fun. But the kids sneak them around, anyway. And there were some videos posted on Twitter that were taken during lunch when they shouldn't have them, and pictures, too. And I understand that they don't want videos posted of things happening that might end up on the news. This was some kind of dance move or something. Can't remember. Harmless.
But if you take away the rule, and make them allowed (for school-related purposes) then they'll just get used to having them and the novelty will wear off. In my opinion, at least.
Hmm that's interesting. We have classes where students will be told to bring their technology whether that be an iPad, cell, laptop, abacus ... ... To use for whatever were doing. And the kids find it to be nbd. Use me as a case study to sway your admin! Lol
UO: I wish we could change our thoughts on being 'offended' when friends and family make less than desireable comments on having a baby. If the person we're talking to is an ass hat most of the time, then I'm not going to allow myself to be offended when they make yet another jerkish comment, but this time about baby making. If it's a close friend, family member, or confidant that I'm talking with, and they ask me a question about babies to which I answer, it's their turn in the conversation to speak. They're going to say something. While it may not be what I want to hear, they're likly only responding with what they think is a loving thing. That's the most important context. Yes, people should not follow the Golden Rule 1.0 of "treat me the way you'd like to be treated" and instead choose Golden Rule 2.0 of "treat me the way I'd like to be treated" but there's no handbook for how to be the best kind of friend during these times. If our loved ones aren't douches most of the time in our lives, we should cut them some slack when they say - what we think is - a douchey comment about our uteruses.
Nope, I'm still going to be offended. I can't change how I react to people's offensive comments.
When people make comments about how someone else should have a baby, or they want to be grandparents, or whatever, I find it to be selfish. They don't want a baby for you -- they want a baby for them. And I don't like that.
You definitely can. You can't control what they say, but you can control how you react and feel about it. Whether or not it digs at you, lingers with you, etc. You are always responsible for your own reactions.
I do agree with you that some people's motivations are selfishly driven, but I think sometimes people are saying, "I can't wait for you to share in this chapter of joy," but they say it poorly. The real take away is whether or not this person is normally a loving, kind, and generous person in your life. If they are, then cut them some slack for having a thoughtless moment or having a poor choice of words. And even better, if they're close enough that they're trying to be loving but don't know how, help them.
You definitely can. You can't control what they say, but you can control how you react and feel about it. Whether or not it digs at you, lingers with you, etc. You are always responsible for your own reactions.
I do agree with you that some people's motivations are selfishly driven, but I think sometimes people are saying, "I can't wait for you to share in this chapter of joy," but they say it poorly. The real take away is whether or not this person is normally a loving, kind, and generous person in your life. If they are, then cut them some slack for having a thoughtless moment or having a poor choice of words. And even better, if they're close enough that they're trying to be loving but don't know how, help them.
I can't help is someone is an asshole who say assholish things. You are free to totally convince yourself that you are okay with people being jerks about your fertility.
The reality of our lives is this: we know that words hurt. We have been taught this since we started to speak. Why is it okay to hurt my feelings because ultimate fuse to think before you're speak.
I never said I was okay with people being jerks about my fertility. I'm not okay with people being jerks, period. But if a person has a reputation for being a jerk, then I'm not suprised they're a jerk about my fertility. It's just them being an asshole because that's who they are. It is never okay for someone to hurt your feelings out of choice, never. I dont want that for anyone. But because I agree with you that people are going to speak before they think, it's our responsibility to decide if their comments have any merit to us.
If the person is a dick and says dickish things often, then I'm indifferent to their comments about my fertility. If this person is a loving, trusted person in my life, then I choose to take their comments with the best intentions possible and correct them if that's the level of relationship we have.
There's no handbook on how to be a friend while coping with TTC, but we can be the handbook in our own lives with our loved ones.
I can't help is someone is an asshole who say assholish things. You are free to totally convince yourself that you are okay with people being jerks about your fertility.
The reality of our lives is this: we know that words hurt. We have been taught this since we started to speak. Why is it okay to hurt my feelings because ultimate fuse to think before you're speak.
I never said I was okay with people being jerks about my fertility. I'm not okay with people being jerks, period. But if a person has a reputation for being a jerk, then I'm not suprised they're a jerk about my fertility. It's just them being an asshole because that's who they are. It is never okay for someone to hurt your feelings out of choice, never. I dont want that for anyone. But because I agree with you that people are going to speak before they think, it's our responsibility to decide if their comments have any merit to us.
If the person is a dick and says dickish things often, then I'm indifferent to their comments about my fertility. If this person is a loving, trusted person in my life, then I choose to take their comments with the best intentions possible and correct them if that's the level of relationship we have.
There's no handbook on how to be a friend while coping with TTC, but we can be the handbook in our own lives with our loved ones.
So, I actually agree that we are in control of our reactions to things. But here's the thing that's irritating about your post: you words are making it seem like those of us RECEIVING the comments are in the wrong, not the person making the shitty comments.
Also, I'm not so much offended when these comments are made, as I am hurt deeply to be reminded of something that is so painful for me.
I can't help is someone is an asshole who say assholish things. You are free to totally convince yourself that you are okay with people being jerks about your fertility.
The reality of our lives is this: we know that words hurt. We have been taught this since we started to speak. Why is it okay to hurt my feelings because ultimate fuse to think before you're speak.
I never said I was okay with people being jerks about my fertility. I'm not okay with people being jerks, period. But if a person has a reputation for being a jerk, then I'm not suprised they're a jerk about my fertility. It's just them being an asshole because that's who they are. It is never okay for someone to hurt your feelings out of choice, never. I dont want that for anyone. But because I agree with you that people are going to speak before they think, it's our responsibility to decide if their comments have any merit to us.
If the person is a dick and says dickish things often, then I'm indifferent to their comments about my fertility. If this person is a loving, trusted person in my life, then I choose to take their comments with the best intentions possible and correct them if that's the level of relationship we have.
There's no handbook on how to be a friend while coping with TTC, but we can be the handbook in our own lives with our loved ones.
Also, are you really spewing this nonsense on CD4 of cycle 2 trying?
I'm sure you are a lovely person, so in the nicest way possible, shut the fuck up.
I never said I was okay with people being jerks about my fertility. I'm not okay with people being jerks, period. But if a person has a reputation for being a jerk, then I'm not suprised they're a jerk about my fertility. It's just them being an asshole because that's who they are. It is never okay for someone to hurt your feelings out of choice, never. I dont want that for anyone. But because I agree with you that people are going to speak before they think, it's our responsibility to decide if their comments have any merit to us.
If the person is a dick and says dickish things often, then I'm indifferent to their comments about my fertility. If this person is a loving, trusted person in my life, then I choose to take their comments with the best intentions possible and correct them if that's the level of relationship we have.
There's no handbook on how to be a friend while coping with TTC, but we can be the handbook in our own lives with our loved ones.
Also, are you really spewing this nonsense on CD4 of cycle 2 trying?
I'm sure you are a lovely person, so in the nicest way possible, shut the fuck up.
I've had anovulatory cycles for over a year with a max of two periods per year, so while I've only been temping for two cycles (hence the WTO/TWW threads), I know my shit about my body (thanks to learning from you all on the dump for over a year and a half) so calm down. Secondly, I, too, receive these hateful comments. I'm the only one I know in all of my friends and family on both DH's and my sides that's without a child. I sympathize with all of these comments because I receive them, too.
It is not my intention to word the UO as if we're responsible, in any way, for the comments received. For that, I'm sorry. I didn't realize that's how it's coming across to some of you.
There's value in finding peace of mind with what folks say to us by considering the source first - our bosses, our spouses, our neighbors, our family, our friends, the bartender, whomever.
I can't help is someone is an asshole who say assholish things. You are free to totally convince yourself that you are okay with people being jerks about your fertility.
The reality of our lives is this: we know that words hurt. We have been taught this since we started to speak. Why is it okay to hurt my feelings because ultimate fuse to think before you're speak.
I never said I was okay with people being jerks about my fertility. I'm not okay with people being jerks, period. But if a person has a reputation for being a jerk, then I'm not suprised they're a jerk about my fertility. It's just them being an asshole because that's who they are. It is never okay for someone to hurt your feelings out of choice, never. I dont want that for anyone. But because I agree with you that people are going to speak before they think, it's our responsibility to decide if their comments have any merit to us.
If the person is a dick and says dickish things often, then I'm indifferent to their comments about my fertility. If this person is a loving, trusted person in my life, then I choose to take their comments with the best intentions possible and correct them if that's the level of relationship we have.
There's no handbook on how to be a friend while coping with TTC, but we can be the handbook in our own lives with our loved ones.
So you're giving two options: 1) The person is a dick. Ignore their comments anyway. 2) I love this person and they're really nice. There's no way they meant what they said in a hurtful way, so it isn't hurtful.
So it shouldn't hurt when my sister assumes we're waiting on our nephew to get bigger before we start TTC. Or when my mom makes comments about wanting a granddaughter to sew for. If you're on cycle 2, just give it a few cycles. Things that didn't bother me in cycle 2 hurt now.
I never said I was okay with people being jerks about my fertility. I'm not okay with people being jerks, period. But if a person has a reputation for being a jerk, then I'm not suprised they're a jerk about my fertility. It's just them being an asshole because that's who they are. It is never okay for someone to hurt your feelings out of choice, never. I dont want that for anyone. But because I agree with you that people are going to speak before they think, it's our responsibility to decide if their comments have any merit to us.
If the person is a dick and says dickish things often, then I'm indifferent to their comments about my fertility. If this person is a loving, trusted person in my life, then I choose to take their comments with the best intentions possible and correct them if that's the level of relationship we have.
There's no handbook on how to be a friend while coping with TTC, but we can be the handbook in our own lives with our loved ones.
So you're giving two options: 1) The person is a dick. Ignore their comments anyway. 2) I love this person and they're really nice. There's no way they meant what they said in a hurtful way, so it isn't hurtful.
So it shouldn't hurt when my sister assumes we're waiting on our nephew to get bigger before we start TTC. Or when my mom makes comments about wanting a granddaughter to sew for. If you're on cycle 2, just give it a few cycles. Things that didn't bother me in cycle 2 hurt now.
I'm landing somewhere in the middle here.
My sister knows that we're "having trouble" and she wants so badly to be supportive. And she is - truly. But, she's said some of the things that you shouldn't say. I will say something eventually because I think that's what this conversation boils down to. People want to say nice things and then end up saying bad things. We could look past it and say "oh, but they meant well!" or we could explain why those phrases are hurtful so they don't say them again to us or anyone else who is struggling. That's how it's handled for any other topic.
Even my RE said something hurtful at my first appointment. If he says it again, I'll tell him to not say that to me or anyone else - it's very unfair.
Also, are you really spewing this nonsense on CD4 of cycle 2 trying?
I'm sure you are a lovely person, so in the nicest way possible, shut the fuck up.
I've had anovulatory cycles for over a year with a max of two periods per year, so while I've only been temping for two cycles (hence the WTO/TWW threads), I know my shit about my body (thanks to learning from you all on the dump for over a year and a half) so calm down. Secondly, I, too, receive these hateful comments. I'm the only one I know in all of my friends and family on both DH's and my sides that's without a child. I sympathize with all of these comments because I receive them, too.
It is not my intention to word the UO as if we're responsible, in any way, for the comments received. For that, I'm sorry. I didn't realize that's how it's coming across to some of you.
There's value in finding peace of mind with what folks say to us by considering the source first - our bosses, our spouses, our neighbors, our family, our friends, the bartender, whomever.
I'm perfectly calm. And, btw, the WTO and TWW Month/Cycle is not to list the cycles you have been temping/charting - it is normally your Month/Cycle of TTC. So, when you have listed "Cycle 2/2" it gives the impression that you have been TTC for 2 months. Were you TTC prior to January?
So you're giving two options: 1) The person is a dick. Ignore their comments anyway. 2) I love this person and they're really nice. There's no way they meant what they said in a hurtful way, so it isn't hurtful.
So it shouldn't hurt when my sister assumes we're waiting on our nephew to get bigger before we start TTC. Or when my mom makes comments about wanting a granddaughter to sew for. If you're on cycle 2, just give it a few cycles. Things that didn't bother me in cycle 2 hurt now.
I'm landing somewhere in the middle here.
My sister knows that we're "having trouble" and she wants so badly to be supportive. And she is - truly. But, she's said some of the things that you shouldn't say. I will say something eventually because I think that's what this conversation boils down to. People want to say nice things and then end up saying bad things. We could look past it and say "oh, but they meant well!" or we could explain why those phrases are hurtful so they don't say them again to us or anyone else who is struggling. That's how it's handled for any other topic.
Even my RE said something hurtful at my first appointment. If he says it again, I'll tell him to not say that to me or anyone else - it's very unfair.
I've been open about what's going on and that it's just not happening yet. I know they're not trying to be mean, but you don't have to try to be mean to hurt someone. They're learning, but they're not in my situation.
I cannot stand Mickey Mouse. His voice is like nails on a chalkboard.
My DH and I were trying to sound like disney charters the other day, I can sound like Mickey. I am not proud of this haha. DH can do goofy so thats more tolerable and our DD loves goofy.
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