Morning I woke up with a wicked cough which seems to be the start to a cold. I ran to the store for some robitussin because I was coughing so hard I was almost throwing up (thanks pregnancy)
starbuck27 ugh that stinks I am sorry danib yay for time at home
starbuck27 That's kind of a rude thing to ask. I'd just stare awkwardly at the person until they said sorry and/or left.
I'm trying to decide if I want to drive 20 minutes out to storytime or not. I'm feeling really tired, but I also know we are driving like 45 minutes up north to look at houses later and she'll be in the car for a while. I'm feeling inclined to just chill until we leave to house hunt.
I'm sorry to everyone who has interacted with rude people lately! It's never ok to ask if someone is pregnant. I've been MIA lately because I find myself getting nauseous and when looking at screens too long!?! Anyone else? I've been reading books in actual paper, Not as easy while in bed.
starbuck27 People are so tactless. I'm sure you look just fine. My personal motto (stolen from the humorist Dave Barry) is to not mention a woman's pregnancy unless you can actually see the baby crowning.
With that said, a couple women at my last job suspected I was pregnant fairly early with DS (10-12 wks). I am tall with a thin frame and didn't start showing until almost 20 weeks, but they just said something was "different" about me. So who knows...maybe some people have a 6th sense, haha
Morning all! I must've jinxed myself yesterday, b/c sleep was awful last night. DS woke up at some point (3 am?) with a leaky diaper, which is unusual; DH took care of it but neither of us could get back to sleep until almost 6. Ugh.
So now I am lying in bed trying to summon the energy to do housework. I took DS to preschool this morning and he burst into tears as I was leaving...clutching my shorts crying, "mama's house" (like he wanted to go home with me). Broke my heart. He hasn't cried at drop-off since the early fall, I hope he's not coming down with something.
I had some weird comments like that last time too. And on the flip side, at about 27-28 weeks along I had a lady tell me she had no idea I was pregnant and thought I had just really been enjoying the holidays (this was in December). I was very clearly pregnant, too.
So, a few weeks ago we were supposed to get a breakfast food truck at work. They ended up being a no show and I was devastated because I had my heart set on a breakfast burrito. Well, they're here today and of course everything on the menu makes me want to gag. The only thing that sounds remotely ok to me is hashbrowns. But it's a food truck so I don't think they'll give me a plate of just hashbrowns. I'm really upset about this.
jubilantsquirrel, I'm just jealous that you get a food truck! Most days I am too lazy to go out on my lunch to get something. We don't have a lot of options though...small town living!
We usually get one a week. I love it! I'm also too lazy to stray too far from my desk most days.
Hi all! Just work for me today. Sorry to hear about all the tactless people in the world.
Last week, I was home with a sick toddler and the idea of screen time on my phone just made my stomach flip. I'm okay on a computer and tv but sometimes the relatively tiny screen of a phone is too much for me.
Hi All! It's so slow at work today so I am taking full advantage of working at home. I've gotten three home/auto quotes, emailed new daycares, and canceled our association payments. Moving sucks but I know it will be worth it once we are settled.
Have an awesome appointment nuggetrn!! starbuck27 Never surprises me to overhear people asking others in public places how far along they are, if they're pregnant, etc. Just so rude!!
Is it possible to show this early (9w) ? I know they say no but even with twins? If this is bloat, then it's alotta bloat. I actually don't care if anyone knows from a job protection etc perspective, I think I just like it being our little secret and also I don't want people I'm not necessarily close with (women at work) knowing before others. I feel like because I normally carry a thinner weight it's so obvious that I've either let myself go entirely or am pregnant.
So we started talking about how life with twins is going to affect us financially. All along we've just assumed it'd be one, I'd stay home for four months and then baby would go to daycare and I'd return to work. Now it's like, working is hardly worth it when most of that income goes for paying for daycare for two. Like the amount we'd "net" from my income after paying daycare just doesnt seem worth it. I have no clue what we're gonna do.
We can't afford for one of us to stay at home so, we're both working. Luckily, MH got a nice raise this year so we're really pushing hard to pay down our car loan and keep our credit card debt low. We're hoping to use next year's tax return to completely pay off the car and fortunately will see a reduction in daycare cost by a small amount for E when he turns 3 and we get a 5% sibling discount which isn't much but helps. We're also planning to squirrel away my piddly raise this year into a separate bank account, a sort of out of sight out of mind thing to help us start saving more now.
Any work from home options for employment that you or yh could do as a second job to help with finances, if needed? kleigh
starbuck27 I'd love to do part time, that would be ideal. I don't think my agency would allow it either, although I do plan on asking. MH and I make the exact same thing so really it'd be between either of us staying home but I'm assuming I'll be nursing and it might be easier for me to.
tgrimes1980 We have to revisit the whole thing for sure. We looked at cutting certain things out and then go back and goth, we both have brand new cars (well like two years old but bought new so it's expensive but reliable). MH wants to give his up but mines more expensive, it's things like that. I know we can make it work, I think it's just that initial shock of (a) how much daycare for 2 is and (b) 2 in diapers, 2 with formula (if BF doesn't work), 2 in rapidly changing clothes, etc etc
htk1113 Kudos for strapping down ! We immediately cut back on how often we were doing dinner (and drinks duh) out. We'll still do it once a month or so but just adding up how much we were spending was eye opening. And obvious frivolous expenses - new Apple Watch etc etc - were immediately prohibited.
Coincidentally enough, I did have a job offer (slightly more money and ability to work from home 100% of the time) in February. I was supposed to start on a Monday and at that weekends IUIs my RE and I had a heart to heart about switching jobs in the middle of treatment/possible early pregnancy, the added stress of doing so, learning a new company, worries about performance early on, a long commute (while I trained for 3 months), if I did get pregnant how would it affect me physically, no FMLA etc etc. I ended up explaining to the HR woman about my IF treatment/hopeful pregnancy and that I needed to turn it down after all. She completely understood. Those IUIs were the ones I got pregnant on. So basically I don't know if I did the right or wrong thing, but I did the thing I thought was right for the best outcome. Here I'm going, well I'll be damned, that would've been perfect :-p Except I'm not sure how much I'd get done with two little ones there with me.
Post by ClassyMrsA on Apr 12, 2016 15:34:10 GMT -5
kleigh I definitely had a tiny bump at 9 weeks with L and she was just a singleton. By 11 weeks I had to wear maternity pants. It was just how I carried, all out front. You couldn't tell I was pregnant from the back, but I was GIANT in the front.
As for staying home, we are in the same position. With just L, I could have gone back to work, but my parents wanted me to stay home so they help us with utilities and we live in a house my dad owns. We did the math for 2 and I would literally spend 2/3 of my take home pay on daycare until L turns 3 and can go to the school district daycare (DH and I are teachers). Since my parents are helping I will stay home until then at least, possibly until she starts pre-k. It's a hard call. But if you can afford to live on one income and want to stay home, there you go. I make extra money tutoring in the evening and I score for Pearson periodically from home.
starbuck27, just wait until random people start touching your belly. That is even more awkward than people making comments.
kleigh, tough call on either continuing to work or staying at home. We will have two in daycare and we're making some sacrifices financially. I'll stop putting into my 401k for a year or two, or at least drop down to only adding 1-2%, a lot less than what I'm putting in now. We're also focusing all our efforts this year on eliminating debt as much as possible. We're hoping to pay off a few of our student loans to free up a few hundred dollars a month. We basically figure one year of very focused efforts will help us free up money each month that we can put into daycare. It just makes sense for me to keep working at this point as it will help us financially down the road rather than stop my career now and then start up again later and possibly take a paycut later on. Would I love to stay home with E and new squish at the end of the year, you betcha, but it just doesn't make sense for us right now! Enough about me, I'm supposed to answering your question, SO I'd suggest looking at a few different options for child care. A typical daycare center is going to be a much different cost than say someone who does in-home care. You might find a great option as a lower cost. I'd suggest to look at all avenues and really figure out what is going to work best in your personal situation. Good luck, I'm sure you'll make the right decision!
kleigh that is tough. Do you want to work? Does work fulfill you and make you happy? Would you be OK staying at home?
Because it will be insane and at times very overwhelming the first few years and yeah your paycheck will go mostly to childcare, and other secondary expenses (such as possibly a cleaning lady or a lawn person etc), but working you will get retirement, you will have opportunity for raises and growth in your job. If you quit and want to go back in several years you will go back at the same level and possibly lower. In the long run working usually financially does make sense.
All this said from a SAHM by choice and as someone who loved and was deeply fulfilled by my job. I love staying home, I love being here every day (OK most days) watching my little girl grow and learn, I love the flexibility it gives our family to relax and enjoy time when H is not at work for the most part.
You all have such wonderful wonderful insight and you have no idea how much I appreciate it! I didn't mean to be AW and take over the thread but that's kinda where my Tuesday random mind is at.
My current agency is great because my hours are really easy and somewhat flexible (as long as I put in 7.5 hrs between 7:30 and 6pm) and on any given day I can come and go as I please within reason. However the agency is small and unfulfilling in terms of the clients I currently get to work on. If I were going to go back to a job after SAH or maternity leave then this would be a good option, it's about 4mi from home and MH works here too so we save money on commuting and it's nice to know he's nearby if I need something. With that said I don't think I'd miss it. If I could find something supplemental to MH income and stay at home for two years that would be my preference. I wish I had some other talent lol. Crafting or baking cakes or party planning lol.
htk1113 Kudos for strapping down ! We immediately cut back on how often we were doing dinner (and drinks duh) out. We'll still do it once a month or so but just adding up how much we were spending was eye opening. And obvious frivolous expenses - new Apple Watch etc etc - were immediately prohibited.
Coincidentally enough, I did have a job offer (slightly more money and ability to work from home 100% of the time) in February. I was supposed to start on a Monday and at that weekends IUIs my RE and I had a heart to heart about switching jobs in the middle of treatment/possible early pregnancy, the added stress of doing so, learning a new company, worries about performance early on, a long commute (while I trained for 3 months), if I did get pregnant how would it affect me physically, no FMLA etc etc. I ended up explaining to the HR woman about my IF treatment/hopeful pregnancy and that I needed to turn it down after all. She completely understood. Those IUIs were the ones I got pregnant on. So basically I don't know if I did the right or wrong thing, but I did the thing I thought was right for the best outcome. Here I'm going, well I'll be damned, that would've been perfect :-p Except I'm not sure how much I'd get done with two little ones there with me.
I would have done the same. Getting pregnant is totally eye opening regarding how you spend your money. We totally freaked with baby 1.
ETA: just saw your post and comment not relevant .
If you're serious about being crafty, here are some ideas that have worked for my friends to help supplement incomes. 1. Etsy business selling little knick-knacks for kids; 2. Refurbishing furniture (i.e. Repairing and adding new hardware)
I also have friends how sell numerous health products even clothes from home.
I don't know what it is about pregnancy that draws out the stupid in others:)
I told a guy friend today and his response was "its about time you're not getting any younger".
Granted we do have the kind of relationship where we can joke around but he was also serious. He's older and had his kids young so thinks that's how everyone should do it. I gave him some hell for that though.
Oh I also had a cousin message me on Facebook and say congrats. My aunt told her. She then asked why we're being so secretive about it. She announced her pregnant on Facebook the day they found out. So that's some context for you.
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