Tuesday Chit Chat

[sweetmelissa5]

Apr 12, 2016 13:57:45 GMT -5 kleigh said:

So we started talking about how life with twins is going to affect us financially. All along we've just assumed it'd be one, I'd stay home for four months and then baby would go to daycare and I'd return to work. Now it's like, working is hardly worth it when most of that income goes for paying for daycare for two. Like the amount we'd "net" from my income after paying daycare just doesnt seem worth it. I have no clue what we're gonna do.

We went through this when I was pregnant with kid 3. At the time our kids were all young enough, that we would have needed full-time daycare for all three for another year and a half before the oldest started kindergarten, and that would have pretty much eaten up my entire paycheck. We explored a bunch of different options, such as seeing if I could work 4 10s and get daycare to give us a better rate for 4 days a week instead of 5 (the answer to that was no), seeing if work would do a buy-out option for health insurance to up my net income, trying to find a cheaper daycare option, but in the end, we decided it really did make the most sense for me to stay home for a while. I'm thinking this kid will probably be my last, and once they're all in school, I'll probably look to return to the workforce, so all told, I'll have been out for probably 10 years (at least). The good news for me, is that while I liked my job and loved where I worked, I didn't consider it a career, and I won't be set back professionally from being out of the workforce for that time period.

[cookswithwine9]

rory5280 I just saw a pee stick on Facebook with the caption of "baby #2! 3 weeks 5 days!" Whoa that is early to announce.

[rory5280]

Apr 12, 2016 19:48:33 GMT -5 cookswithwine9 said:

rory5280 I just saw a pee stick on Facebook with the caption of "baby #2! 3 weeks 5 days!" Whoa that is early to announce.

Whoa! That is insane. I've seen several of the "we are so excited to finally let you all know that we're 6 weeks pregnant" posts. But never 3 weeks. That's crazy.

[aggiebug]

Apr 12, 2016 19:48:33 GMT -5 cookswithwine9 said:

rory5280 I just saw a pee stick on Facebook with the caption of "baby #2! 3 weeks 5 days!" Whoa that is early to announce.

Definitely not my style but hey whatever makes them happy, but total ew on the pee stick!

[LizInFL]

Apr 12, 2016 19:59:10 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

Apr 12, 2016 16:48:29 GMT -5 cookswithwine9 said:

starbuck27 how rude! Was it a man that asked? I would never say that to another woman.

A woman.

I ended up telling my colleagues in our team meeting today. Later on, one of the women popped by my office to congratulate me and ask if we were trying or if this was a, how did she put it, "happy accident"...

OMG people, get a filter!!! 

It is like they just cannot. help. themselves. 

[kleigh]

Apr 13, 2016 8:01:09 GMT -5 danib said:

kleigh I know you've gotten a lot of responses on this already, but here's one more

DH and I are actively trying to come up with a plan to either allow me to work part time or potentially quit and do like a home daycare when #2 comes. My job has a lot of decent benefits and until a few months ago I was making more than H, but the schedule is just impossible and I've been struggling with childcare for DS and it's only going to be harder with 2 (not to mention more expensive).
The only problem is that right now DH's job isn't guaranteed to last. He could possibly get a lay off in the next few months and it's really unlikely he will be able to find something else with the same pay. In the meantime we are paying off as much debt as humanly possible (just paid off my car and should have H's student loan paid off this summer hopefully).

I hope you guys come up with a plan you're both comfortable with! That's normally what we would be doing but with the house still not yet finished every penny goes toward that. I know everything will work out but tell that to my brain at 3am every morning, she doesn't want to listen lol. When will you know if YH is getting laid off?