And uuugh Kevinmac... Sounds like how my family/MIL made my shower. Why can't people just leave the guest of honor out of the planning process? My showers (wedding and baby) had such drama and uncomfortableness because of crap just like that. Sorry!!
I know. I don't like being involved, but MIL can be a loose cannon, and I don't want her to yell at my sister. I'm used to her outbursts, but I would feel awful if she said something to my sister.
vivela, today is our third (last) childbirth class! It has been a great combo for me of science (like what is exactly happening with your body, epidural info, other interventions info) and techniques for you and your partner through labor. Like soultrane mentioned we also do massages at the end! Personally, I have found it helpful, so I hope it is for you!
Kevinmac, I'm so sorry your MIL stressing you out about the shower. Hopefully you will actually be able to enjoy the day when it arrives.
Post by sandandsea on Apr 18, 2016 11:35:48 GMT -5
We had a good weekend and I wish all were like this. It was so sunny and HOT! DS had soccer Sat AM, then he played outside for hours by himself (which never happens) because we filled up his sand and water table and he had a free for all in the backyard. It allowed DH to get his work done and I was able to finish the registry and use the completion coupon. We even visited BRU and BBB to check out strollers to see what we liked IRL.
Below has more detail on registry items, so feel free to ignore!
We decided not to buy a stroller yet and see if DS is really using it still in a few months (he'll be 4.5 when baby comes) or if he's happy letting the baby use the City Mini, or we'll use the Ergo for the baby and let DS keep using the stroller until he's done (which I think would have to be soonish). The glider board on the CM doesn't seem like a great option for DS because he's too tall (42 in) and it makes it really awkward to push. If it becomes an issue, we've decided we will get the Joovy Caboose Ultralight as it was much better than the other sit/stand type options we tried and DS is really too tall for a traditional double stroller.
We also chose a monitor to try - we're going with the Withings camera and iphone/ipad app. I was sold on the Infant Optics DXR-8, but DH really wanted to try the Withings and since he's the techy, I let him choose so he is then responsible for making sure it works.
And we got DS the high back harnessed booster carseat since he's about to outgrow the Britax Boulevard in my car. I was set on the Britax Frontier, but we went with the Graco Nautilus since it was less expensive ($264 vs $150) and converts to a backless booster as well. I'm hoping it works well for us!
And OMG, if you do go to BBB or BRU, DO NOT GO ON THE WEEKEND!!!
Post by 2dogs2kids on Apr 18, 2016 11:56:56 GMT -5
packerfan4life I agree! I used to have Friday's off and the 3 day weekend seemed like an actual break.
frecklesnbrains hope the ankle heals quickly! And I am completely excited and ready. Not really ready for everything just ready to be done being pregnant.
sandandsea and I'm glad you had a good weekend! I've actually decided the same exact thing as you regarding double strollers. I'm not going to get one unless I find we need it, and if so, we're going to get a joovy caboose ultralight. It has great reviews! I saw someone out with one this past weekend at the park and asked her all about it. She probably thought I was crazy, but I got some good info out of her and she loves it!
Post by sandandsea on Apr 18, 2016 13:27:45 GMT -5
Random question in relation to my earlier post- is there an age where you side eye a kid in a stroller?
DS will be 4.5 when baby comes and still loves his stroller (the BJ City Mini). He's capable of walking and has tons of energy, but he still likes using it for amusement parks, malls, etc. And quite frankly, its easier to have him in a stroller where he can play, snack, etc. instead of running around wanting to mess with everything. He'll also nap in it happily when we are at the track.
ETA: I'm thinking once he moves up a room at daycare and is no longer napping (age 5). FWIW, he hasn't been buckled into the stroller for the past couple of years and still has free range to explore, but we do a lot of all day excursions and he can't walk all day and still naps.
sandandsea, DD is three and a half and we got side eyed the other day for having her in the stroller. I bring the stroller on walks because we do three miles. She is good for 2 of them. Then she is tuckered. Plus when she is on her strider bike for some of our walks I like the option of throwing the bike in the stroller and having her walk. We need to get her on her bike more.
I lost my phone this morning and seriously looked EVERYWHERE and could not find it. I ended up leaving the house to go out with a friend and her son, without my phone, which made me nervous. Finally I just now tried the "find my iPhone" thing for the first time ever-AMAZING! It was INSIDE my couch (not down the couch cushions. I also found my expensive watch down there that I lost in SEPTEMBER (and ended up getting replaced as a graduation present). I would have NEVER found my phone without being able to activate the sound from my computer-I can't believe I haven't known about that until now!
sandandsea and babyzebra, that's smart about the stroller. I went back and forth but ended up buying a double stroller. It's still in the box in case I change my mind (It's the Chicco Contina together that my car seat snaps into). We don't use a stroller a ton, but I have a few friends with a newborn and 2 year old that say they are glad they have one for the times they do use it. DS hates being in a stroller, but he's also too young to really walk by my side (or at least he doesn't do a good job at it), so I might have to force him to get used to a stroller some.
I also realized I don't have a single newborn diaper, which is probably fine because we can bring the pack home from the hospital. However, I might need to buy a box before she arrives just to have some on hand (not that there isn't Amazon and the ability to drive 10 minutes to Target!)
Post by frecklesnbrains on Apr 18, 2016 14:34:11 GMT -5
Personally, I never side-eye a kid of any age in a stroller and I get annoyed by people who do. You never know the story of that family you see. Maybe they're out for a really long time and the kiddo tends to tire easily. Or maybe the kid has a medical problem that you can't see and has difficulty walking. Or maybe he/she simply loves the stroller! It's not my position to judge.
Personally, I never side-eye a kid of any age in a stroller and I get annoyed by people who do. You never know the story of that family you see. Maybe they're out for a really long time and the kiddo tends to tire easily. Or maybe the kid has a medical problem that you can't see and has difficulty walking. Or maybe he/she simply loves the stroller! It's not my position to judge.
pbandj714, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I know you're on modified bed rest, so just celebrate at home. That's what I did over the weekend (and I'm not even on bed rest, I'm just too sore and swollen to go anywhere other than work).
My weekend was great. I stayed in the house all weekend to rest my feet and try to get some of the swelling to go down. The Northeast is having wonderful spring weather so DH used that as an excuse to grill yesterday for family and a couple of friends. DH lit 36 individual candles on my cake to be a smart-alec and handed me a fire extinguisher when I walked in the room. It was pretty funny (but it seriously did take me three tries to blow out all of the candles). I have no idea how long it took him to light all of those candles. lol.
I totally agree about strollers. I wouldn't judge anyone for having a kid in a stroller until a certain age, but maybe that's my background in SpEd-you never know why a kid might be in a stroller!
Today is one of those days where I just want to complain and whine about everything and nothing is THAT big of a deal but I think I am just feeling hormonal and emotional and I am totally aware of that. I don't think I have been hormonal much at all this pregnancy, but I can definitely feel it today. I have been texting my husband complaining all day-about me ruining dinner, losing my phone, about DS not napping, about all of our grass that is dead that we have spent so much money on, about our stupid home insurance that we can't get figured out, about how uncomfortable I am, how DS is in a bad mood, how I wish I could pay to get someone to clean our house, blah blah blah. It's ridiculous and I am being so whiney and I don't have one good reason for it, it's just lots of small things combined that are setting me off. DH is being so sweet and sympathetic. I'm annoyed with myself-ha!
Happy birthday pbandj714! How's the modified bed rest going?
Oh, it's going! I pretty much cleared out the dvr yesterday after maternity pics. I'm so glad baseball is back because watching the games is a good way to kill a few hours.
Post by sandandsea on Apr 18, 2016 17:30:27 GMT -5
You guys are making me feel better....I googled it and everyone on care.com was saying 3! Or they were suggesting a wagon which is disallowed at most amusement parks and is much harder to pull/push/store things in/climb in and out of/etc.
I haven't caught up from today's randoms but I just got awful news and I don't think this is the place to share, but I can't discuss irl so I need to share somewhere. One my really good friends just lost their baby (full term). She went into the hospital with labor pains and they sent her home. Then the placenta separated from the uterus and she lost the baby. 1) I'm so sad for her. I just can't even fathom. 2) I'm having a big debate on if I should have a c section for my low lying placenta and this just pushes me to lean towards c section. 3) my mom heard this awful news and shared with me and now I'm trying to figure out if I should wait to hear from my friend or reach out and say... I'm sorry. What do you even say? My heart is so broken for their family. I'm sorry to be Debbie downer. I just said this morning how I'm finally excited and now I feel like you're never fully in the clear. I know the likelihood of this happening is slim it just scares the bageezers out of me and also breaks my heart for my friend
mladerri, I'm so sorry about your friend, that is just awful. Even knowing these things are so rare, we can't help but worry. After Randi on CAR had her loss at 38 weeks, the person who did a sunshine mission sent out a list via PM about what they used the donated money for. I still have the PM if you would like the list for ideas about what you could do for her.
vivela yes that'd be great. I really have no idea what to say or what to do. They live across the country from me so I can't pay my respects in person.
Post by sandandsea on Apr 18, 2016 21:36:52 GMT -5
mladerri,I'm so sorry, that is so sad. I think it's totally normal to worry, but there's really nothing you can do to prevent these random, scary things from happening so I try not to let it overwhelm me. A close friend had a loss at 21 weeks and a few of us brought meals for her and her husband for a couple of weeks after. She found a recovery grief group that she has been attending for the past 3+ years that seems to have helped her cope with such a tragic loss.
Post by packerfan4life on Apr 18, 2016 21:37:57 GMT -5
mladerri that's awful for your friend. When my friend lost her baby at 24 weeks I brought her a bunch of frozen/prepared dinners. I also bought her a memorial necklace and flowers.
It depends how close you are. But being pregnant I'd probably try to be supportive but give space since it'll probably be hard for her to be around pregnant people for a while.
mladerri, I am so sorry about your friend. That is awful. I agree with what everyone else said about suggestions-maybe even have meals delivered as it might be hard of her to see someone so pregnant at this time? I guess it depends how close you are to her!
mladerri that's so sad, I'm sorry to hear about your friend and I can imagine how it's making you feel too. I feel naive to not know much about this kind of thing and anytime I hear about it it just makes my heart ache. Like you said you're never truly in the clear but I guess that's life in general so enjoy everyday that you have. Hugs.
mladerri that is so sad and I'm so sorry for your friend. I agree with the others about things that you can do to support her. Do you have some mutual friends to coordinate some gifts with? Big hugs for you and your friend.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Apr 19, 2016 0:49:11 GMT -5
mladerri oh no, that's heartbreaking! The other girls have given good advice about things you can do for her. But I totally understand where you're coming from emotionally. I can't bear to hear these stories because they freak me out. So take care of yourself. Vent your concerns to us, to your family, to your OB. We're here for you. Hugs!
Oh mladerri that is so incredibly sad. My heart breaks for her. I agree with the advice of the other ladies on what you can do to support her. I think just letting her know you are there and thinking/praying for her is good. Often times people disappear when someone experiences a loss cause they don't know what to say and that can cause additional hurt. Sending hugs to you!
Oh mladerri that is so incredibly sad. My heart breaks for her. I agree with the advice of the other ladies on what you can do to support her. I think just letting her know you are there and thinking/praying for her is good. Often times people disappear when someone experiences a loss cause they don't know what to say and that can cause additional hurt. Sending hugs to you!
I agree that when people distance themselves from those grieving it can come off as not caring. You'd be surprised how appreciative people are of being supported during their time of grief as opposed to simply being left alone. I would send them flowers and a card, and follow up with a call to check up on them.
What a sad story. I would send flowers and a card and check in in a couple weeks. You really remember the nice things people do for you in a time of crisis.
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