So yesterday we were working on scrubbing out the evaporator. A nasty tedious job. So I volunteered to make pizzas for dinner for everyone but my MIL offered to buy pizzas since I've been so busy (MIL of the year right there).
So we are in a crazy tiny town with just a little convience store with a mediocre pizza shop in it. I order pizzas from there and go to pick them up in 30 minutes. Pick out 2 2L of pop to go with it. Pay the lady. Am carrying said pizza and pop out, when she bawks about me not needing to carry that much at once. She's being nice here, but she's alone in the store and has a group of people coming in the door, so I don't want her to leave her till unattended. THEN she says and "pregnant to boot, you shouldn't carry that much. "
Que embarrassment and mortification. I am not pg (hello AF symptoms) let alone pg enough to comment on it.
What would you have said? Would you ever return to that store?
Wow that is so rude. I would be mortified. But if that's your only pizza shop, it would be hard to not return. Next time I saw her, I would tell her that I'm not pregnant.
I do have a small pot belly now and had co-workers try to insinuate that I may be pregnant recently. I tried to keep it light and responded with "not pregnant, just fat". That ended the nonsense.
Post by ohinvrtedworld on Apr 19, 2016 8:59:58 GMT -5
Hellz to the no. I might be too pissed on principle to return to the store, in my ideal world I'd be ballsy enough to go "nope, apparently just fat, so thank you" as mikaela20 said.
That is super rude. People should NEVER ask, no matter how sure they are that it's a baby belly. And they need to know that for the future, I think. I abide strongly by the idea that if people have the gall to say such rude and tactless things, they are inviting equally tactless responses!
One of my favorite quotes: "A small social guideline: don't ask a woman if she is pregnant unless her water breaks on your flip-flops, a baby arm dangles out of her vagina, and she asks you to cut the cord. Then and only then may you ask if she is having a baby. Otherwise, shut up."
Post by diamondsndaisies on Apr 19, 2016 9:30:17 GMT -5
Well I would like to think I would say something to her that was quick witted but I am terrible about never thinking of those things in time and would probably just laugh and tell her I wasn't pregnant and I'm just fat.
Yeesh. This is a legitimate fear of mine. In my head I say something like kbpkitty quoted. I'm sure I'd end up with saying, nope just fat, but thanks. I'm sorry you had to experience that.
Post by BurritosAtEveryMeal on Apr 19, 2016 9:46:24 GMT -5
Yikes! Sorry that happened. One time a coworker thought I was pregnant apparently and asked "how are you feeling?" I turned it right around and asked how she is feeling. I think if someone is rude enough to ask, you have every right to respond rudely.
I'm sorry this happened. It's an awful feeling even when you're not TTGP, but especially when you are TTGP. I had someone do this to me when I was at my all-time fittest but wearing an empire waisted outfit. I also had someone do this to me when I was pregnant -- barely pregnant, and I was caught so off guard that I totally lied about how far along I was.
Since you do live in a tiny town, do you think there is a chance she had you mistaken for someone else that is currently KU?
Post by hydrangea1019 on Apr 19, 2016 10:42:06 GMT -5
I'm always quick to pop off at the mouth with stuff like that. I would've yelled back behind me 'not pregnant and you shouldn't make that assumption again' and just left.
If it's the only pizza place in town, I'd probably still go there. Do they deliver?
As for her comment, I probably would have just said something along the lines of, "Don't tell me what to do," or "Not pregnant and I've got this. Have a good night." Or both.
Post by diamondsndaisies on Apr 19, 2016 11:38:19 GMT -5
MapleMomma, since you mentioned you are from a super small town, there is probably a really good chance that the clerk knows who you are. And she still asked?
I live in a town of 300ish people and everyone knows everyone. All it takes it to tell 1 person something and next thing you know the whole damn town knows. Maybe you told someone that you were TTC and thats why the clerk assumed you were KU?
Yes, I would shrug it off and go back. Sounds like you have limited options.
Post by MapleMomma on Apr 19, 2016 11:59:01 GMT -5
@diamondsndasies
You're probably right. No one really knows me since I'm a transplant to the area. But everyone knows MH and his family. It's a revolving door of which SIL is pg or has a baby.
Post by wildflower810 on Apr 19, 2016 12:11:09 GMT -5
I was just asked on Sunday if I was pg. Nope, just too much chocolate. Honestly, it makes us rage, but there's not a whole lot we can do other than a quip at the time. People are going to be dumb and you can't fix stupid.
I'm sorry this happened. It's an awful feeling even when you're not TTGP, but especially when you are TTGP. I had someone do this to me when I was at my all-time fittest but wearing an empire waisted outfit. I also had someone do this to me when I was pregnant -- barely pregnant, and I was caught so off guard that I totally lied about how far along I was.
Since you do live in a tiny town, do you think there is a chance she had you mistaken for someone else that is currently KU?
When I was pg with J, my MIL patted my belly at 8 weeks and said that she could see "her baby". She hasn't lived that down at all. Luckily she lets me tease her. But seriously. 8 weeks?? No.
I was in between errands and thought this was a randoms thread, I didn't read the question until now.
I have no idea how I would react... I think I would awkwardly be like "oh, I'm not pregnant..."
And then just sit in the awkwardness that ensued and mutter to myself as I get into my car and then cry. I wish there was a better way to deal with that situation. Especially considering this is a small town store you can't really go along with it with the idea that you'll never see her again :/
Is is possible that she made that comment based on some small-town-gossip? Maybe you told someone you were ttc and the grapevine twisted it into you being pregnant and she was just misinformed?
Post by NiceyMeany on Apr 20, 2016 13:50:02 GMT -5
Obviously she is an idiot, but can we talk about how weird it is that she thought pizza and soda would be too much for a pregnant woman to carry? Were you carrying 27 pizzas in each arm along with those two 2-liter bottles?
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