Post by 2dogs2kids on Apr 20, 2016 12:26:23 GMT -5
We have no plan yet. Crazy because I am typically such a planner. There are just so many variables that I find it completely overwhelming to even think about.
There are 3 things I know 1) DH will be at the hospital with me. 2) DS will be the first one to meet his sibling. 3) I want time as a family of 4 before anyone else comes in the room.
When DS was born no one listened to what I wanted and I still and upset with the way it went down.
I would like my ILs to take DS because I can easily tell them what I want and expect them to listen to my requests. The problem is they live 3 hrs away and FIL still works full time about an hour away from home. So it would take them 5 hours to get here if it happens Monday-Friday between 6am and 7pm.
I don't really want to ask my dad and his wife for a couple reasons but mainly because his wife blatantly disregarded my requests when DS was born.
My ideal would be to have my mom here with me prior to baby so that no matter what happened she would be around. That being said, we live in a tiny apartment and I don't really want extra house guests just waiting for me to go into labor. My parents are the most amazing people and always respect my wishes and I feel guilty about it but they are totally understanding.
If I go into labor on a week day we will just have the nanny stay until someone can relieve her. My in-laws are 1.5 hours away so they can take over after that. My water broke at 3PM with DD so if that's the case again this will be our plan.
If I go into labor at night then we will call my BIL (because he's young and flexible with work and doesn't require a lot of sleep) and have him get in the car asap to be at the house with DD. If I have to go to the hospital before he can get there then we'll have to bring DD with us I think until he can get there (not ideal). We do have a neighbor that I could probably rely on if it were middle of the night but that really puts someone out and makes me feel bad. I do have friends as well but they work but I'm sure would help us. It's still an option we haven't fully figured out yet.
With DD my parents were planning on getting a hotel outside the city and waiting there but the day they were supposed to leave to do that my water broke so they came straight in. I think we'll try to plan the same.
I'm an only child so my mom is very worried about how DD will be and wants to make sure she's happy and doesn't have too many changes (as do I). It's funny because she's never experienced it so she's just as worried as me. She's great with my parents and my MIL (as much as that one kills me) so as long as one of them is around I will feel better. We plan for DD to come to the hospital asap after birth (assuming not the middle of the night). The new baby will get her a gift (this is what MIL did so it HAS to be the right way to do it and not worth the fight) and she will get the baby one.
Even though she's so super excited about the new baby and even includes her all the time when we talk about family I'm nervous to see how it goes. She's getting super clingy with me so she can definitely sense a change. I'm in the mom guilt category. I know a sibling is usually an amazing thing and it's something I always wanted (and used to ask Santa for every Christmas) I also know she's still pretty young to fully appreciate it. Fingers crossed it goes fine though.
twobananas - your story made me tear up. I'm blaming hormones!!
TTM here and a planned home birth so a little different from the norm.
Last time my water broke while we were at my parents so he stayed there. Baby want born by the morning so he went to my mil's place so my entire family could go to an out of town funeral. He came back home the next day for a visit but spent another 1-2 nights at her place. We bought him nothing special, but everyone who came to see the baby bought him a gift. I ended up donating most of them because it was just too much stuff.
This time I'm hoping I have the baby while the kids sleep in their bedroom and they meet their sibling in the morning. We do have my mil on call though if needed. One labour started it was 2.5 hours from start to finish last time, so I need to be prepared to give birth with the kids here if needed. I should probably prep them just in case.
Post by greysonsmom on Apr 20, 2016 22:32:32 GMT -5
I feel like this is so much more stressful this time around. Worrying about what to do with DS gives me anxiety. I was only in labor with him for four hours. I'm hoping my sister will be around so she can stay with him. If not my in laws will watch him but they are almost an hour away so the thought of waiting on them to get to my house stresses me out. I think I rather have DH go home and be with DS than stay the night at the hospital. I really hope to only spend one night in the hospital. This will be the first night in away from DS and I've already cried about it.
Post by packerfan4life on Apr 20, 2016 23:05:26 GMT -5
This thread is really making me wish I had family close by.
greysonsmom this will be my first time away from DD as well other than work. At least we're due in the summer so visiting rules are hopefully less strict than respiratory season.
This thread is really making me wish I had family close by.
yep, I'm just hoping baby doesn't come before my mom's flight gets here. It's planned 10 days before my EDD and DS was 3 days late and had to be ejected, so I'm really hoping it works out. I'm so thankful that my mom can fly here and stay for a long time and doesn't have pressing commitments/obligations at home. If the baby does come early, it will be at least 1 day before my mom gets here, which means our plan goes out the window!
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