You know what grinds my gears?

[Deleted]

Maybe this is cultural- but everyone telling me its ok for my in laws to be disrespectful and disregard my rules for my kids because "thats what grandparents do"

Aaannnnddd go!

[babycaps]

ugh NO. that's NOT ok! You're the parent. 'nuff said.
Insert a gif here.

[ntdane]

^^what she said.

[bennieangel]

Who is "everyone"? And no. That's not what grandparents do...that's what selfish individuals do!

I never knew how much I lucked out on the grandparent front until I heard you ladies start to share stories of what your parents / inlaws are like....

[Deleted]

Inlaws, MIL's side.

[Deleted]

Not h's bio dad or step dads side.

[ellabee]

Wow. Nooo. So not okay.

[maganonymous]

My parents and IL's are ok this go-round. My mom and I had a fight about 3 years ago because she would just trample over what my husband and I would tell my stepdaughter to do. I get that grandparents can bend some rules (later bed time, etc) but when I directly tell her something, don't tell her to ignore me. I have felt your pain.

[yalllow]

[fish8412]

How is that "cultural"!?! Like others have said, parents make decisions regarding their children, not the grandparents.

And the kids would be getting mixed signals-they are going to hear/see mom and dad tell grandma/grandpa what to do and they ignore instructions...way to set a great example of how to follow the rules!!

[Somers Isles]

I think it's stereotypical, not cultural. Either way it's wrong.

One thing that makes me wonder is... many of us will one day be in-laws and grand parents... I wonder if we'll understand their actions more when we get there? There's got to be a reason the bsc behavior of in-laws are so common...

note to self... don't be a bsc in-law...

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Feb 5, 2015 21:42:47 GMT -5 Somers Isles said:

I think it's stereotypical, not cultural. Either way it's wrong.

One thing that makes me wonder is... many of us will one day be in-laws and grand parents... I wonder if we'll understand their actions more when we get there? There's got to be a reason the bsc behavior of in-laws are so common...

note to self... don't be a bsc in-law...

I think its generational tbh. I think maybe we are the firsts to tell our parents to shove it when it comes to kids.

[Deleted]

That is never ok! Who are these people? Tell them to shut up!

[katie1885]

Nope nope nope....I would absolutely ask them wtf are you smoking!

[Deleted]

Feb 5, 2015 23:09:09 GMT -5 katie1885 said:

Nope nope nope....I would absolutely ask them wtf are you smoking!

Weed. I dont need to ask!

[katie1885]

Feb 6, 2015 7:12:08 GMT -5 @notyourmom said:

Feb 5, 2015 23:09:09 GMT -5 katie1885 said:

Nope nope nope....I would absolutely ask them wtf are you smoking!

Weed. I dont need to ask!

Lol there are a lot of those people here in CO....and especially Boulder!

[lincbeesmom]

Feb 6, 2015 22:52:27 GMT -5 katie1885 said:

Feb 6, 2015 7:12:08 GMT -5 @notyourmom said:

Weed. I dont need to ask!

Lol there are a lot of those people here in CO....and especially Boulder!

I'm in CO too!

[katie1885]

Feb 6, 2015 23:01:59 GMT -5 lincbeesmom said:

Feb 6, 2015 22:52:27 GMT -5 katie1885 said:

Lol there are a lot of those people here in CO....and especially Boulder!

I'm in CO too!

That's awesome!!! How about the crazy awesome weather!! It is supposed to be 70 tomorrow!!

[katie1885]

Wow...I really like exclamation points...

[ntdane]

70 in February deserves exclamation points. I think it will be in the 60's here. I'm from WI (currently in MO) so this is amazing.