Wacky Wednesday Whine and Wine

[seamonster]

What's happening?

[seamonster]

MOTY here. DS and I were playing on the bed this morning and he fell off and bumped his head. Luckily he fell on his butt and then back and not on his head. I should save the wild play for the floor.

[dreemkin]

We have a speech eval for the 3 year old at school this afternoon. I really hope she qualifies because I think it would benefit her socially as well. We also have a company coming to give an estimate on a covered deck or 3 seasons room. We want to enjoy our backyard with the bugs.

ETA: without* the bugs lol

[kartish]

seamonster hope your LO is doing ok!

dreemkin good luck with the evaluation, I hoe your DD gets in. I've heard nothing but good things about that program, it did a lot of good for my boss' daughter.

V had a rough night last night after a rough day yesterday. All of which equals me in not the greatest mood. I think we need to get out of the house today.

[kaydee0402]

Are we drinking already? Pass me a glass.

[dmorgendorffer]

DD has been having a hard time with daycare drop off this week. DH is the one who drops her off but I've been getting texts from him about how awful its been. One of her regular caregivers left last week so I am wondering if the change has something to do with it, although DH says nothing is different about drop off time - they get there really early so she always hangs out in the other infant room until enough staff and kids arrive for them to open her normal room. Hopefully its just a short phase.

[kaydee0402]

Car issues are the name of the game here. DH and I are at the point where we are seriously considering trading our 2013 Ford Escape in rather than invest anymore money into it. Long story short, a blow out led to the discovery of engine issues and if Ford won't cover the cost, we're trading it in and getting a new car, preferrably a minivan.

So if you have a swagger wagon that you love, pimp it out here. And if you don't mind sharing, I would love to know the make and year

[kaydee0402]

dreemkin, by covered deck, you mean a lanai? Those are big in Florida, but not sure about the rest of the country, which is a shame because lanais are awesome.

[kaydee0402]

dmorgendorffer, probably a phase. DS goes through phases where daycare drop off is the worst thing ever, and a week later he could care less that I left.

[dreemkin]

Apr 20, 2016 8:23:43 GMT -5 kaydee0402 said:

dreemkin, by covered deck, you mean a lanai? Those are big in Florida, but not sure about the rest of the country, which is a shame because lanais are awesome.

I think we want something more enclosed than a lanai. More like a screened/glassed in gazebo but we have no idea. We have a huge deck now so it'd be sad to have to rip it all out and start new but we'll see what they can offer and go from there.

[lilyelayne]

dreemkin hope the eval for Norah goes well!
kartish hope you find somewhere to go today.
kaydee0402 I learned to drive on a Honda odyssey (so likely a 2000-2003 model?) and it was nice. Then I test drove minivans with my mom while I was preg because grandma fever convinced her she needed one. She got a fully loaded 2014 (or maybe 15?) Honda Odyssey and it's totally badass. I drove it for a month while my car was getting repainted & I didn't want to give it back. We test drove non fully loaded ones & they're great too.

She liked the Honda & Toyota minivans the best. I drive a Nissan sedan but I'd never consider their minivan because it's so boxy and awkward.

[lilyelayne]

Pass me the wine. G was up from 1-330 last night. Just awake. And then upset that he was awake. He wouldn't stay in his room alone without shrieking, wouldn't tolerate it if I wasn't holding him, and when I was holding him he was trying to climb the chair, get to his books, etc. Finally he got so mad at me for trying to get him to sleep that I passed him off to DH and he was actually grateful to go. Whatever kid.

I should be positive and say he only had one wake up but I'd rather have 2-3 short ones than that!!

[dmorgendorffer]

lilyelayne those nights are the worst, I always keep trying to soothe DD until I am completely frustrated and by the time I pass her off there's no going back to sleep for any of us. Hope you have a better night tonight!

dreemkin we just finished fixing our screened in patio. It is really nice to be out there with DD but she gets really angry that she is blocked from walking down the sidewalk which is her new favorite thing to do. I started shopping for some outdoor toys that might keep her occupied in the patio so we can actually enjoy being out there without her having a tantrum.

[seamonster]

dreemkin A screened in porch sounds nice. If you go the window route, ones that open cut down on the greenhouse feel in the summer, and you can use the porch in the winter.

DS seems fine. No evidence he fell off the bed other than my mommy guilt.

[mishka29]

Apr 20, 2016 8:20:59 GMT -5 dmorgendorffer said:

DD has been having a hard time with daycare drop off this week. DH is the one who drops her off but I've been getting texts from him about how awful its been. One of her regular caregivers left last week so I am wondering if the change has something to do with it, although DH says nothing is different about drop off time - they get there really early so she always hangs out in the other infant room until enough staff and kids arrive for them to open her normal room. Hopefully its just a short phase.

That's not fun! DD1 has had many daycare phases over the years. It's funny how things can go great one week then crap the next. Hopefully this phase passes quickly!

[dreemkin]

DD1 does not qualify for speech at her age. The speech teacher said to go to the preschool screening in the Fall and they can reevaluate her then if they deem necessary or don't see improvement. I'm a bit disappointed bc I think she'd benefit from it. But I'm glad too that she is concidered age appropriate. She did validate our concerns about some pronoucuacion errors and I guess it's good to know one way or another.

[dreemkin]

cougarette I meant to say that I hope your son qualifies for the program! It's really hard to hear that your kid is delayed in anyway. I had many tears over it but it didn't mean she wasn't smart. She just needed a little guidance that I did not know how to give. I was so glad to get her the help she needed. Early Intervention was great for us. We really liked our initial speech pathologist then she had a baby and I didn't like her replacement but I'm sure that we could have worked with them about a different therapist if needed. DD1 was discharged from the program pretty soon after we got the new girl anyway. Good luck and keep us updated about your wonderful boy!

[aggiebug]

Apr 20, 2016 14:02:37 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

DD1 does not qualify for speech at her age. The speech teacher said to go to the preschool screening in the Fall and they can reevaluate her then if they deem necessary or don't see improvement. I'm a bit disappointed bc I think she'd benefit from it. But I'm glad too that she is concidered age appropriate. She did validate our concerns about some pronoucuacion errors and I guess it's good to know one way or another.

I am sorry your DD didn't qualify. It's nice to know she is within normal but tough when you know she could still benefit. My sister ran into the same thing with her youngest and ended up going through private avenues to get him some help. He eventually qualified through the school, but it was a few years- and a different state- later. Like you said it didn't mean he wasn't smart just needed help and his mom couldn't provide it. Seriously that kid is too smart for is own good lol.

[aggiebug]

And cougarette I just saw your update from Monday on LO. I know it's overwhelming and like dreemkin said you never want to hear your kid has a 'problem', but your LO will get the help he needs and will thrive I am sure of it. Lots of positive thoughts for you and LO.

They also test a huge range of skills including things kids don't tend to accomplish until months later, but they want to make sure they can really understand what his abilities are. So try not to think of it as what he can't do, it's what he can do now and is capable of learning that is important.

[dreemkin]

How much do you think adding a 12x16 screened in or glassed in sunroom would cost? We just got a rough estimate for 25-35 thousand dollars for screens and vinyl windows. I thought that seemed high but I guess I really have no idea...

Also we have a deck we want to just build on top of but the guy out here today said it would not hold a walled and roofed structure. So I guess we'd have to start new.

ETA: that's without flooring

[dreemkin]

kaydee0402, like lilyelayne I learned to drive with a minivan - a Chrysler Caravan. Then that was my vehicle eventually. I called him gus (as in "get in the bus, Gus"). Then I was hit and it totaled him R.I.P.

But yeah, I love minivans. They drive like cars, but you feel more protected and higher up on the road. They also get decent gas milage (I used to drive two hour distances frequently to visit my DH- then boyfriend). They are skinnier than those obnoxiously large escalades so easier to maneuver.

[mishka29]

Today we had LO's apt with the surgeon to see about her dermoid cyst. He said since she over 1 he would suggest doing it sooner than later since if she were to bump it hard it could rupture. So we are waiting for a surgery date for August since he's already pretty booked up right now.

[lilyelayne]

Apr 20, 2016 18:42:20 GMT -5 mishka29 said:

Today we had LO's apt with the surgeon to see about her dermoid cyst. He said since she over 1 he would suggest doing it sooner than later since if she were to bump it hard it could rupture. So we are waiting for a surgery date for August since he's already pretty booked up right now.

Yikes it sucks to tell you that and then you have to wait so long for surgery :-(

[lilyelayne]

dreemkin no idea about the pricing but I hope y'all get to do what you want re: sunroom or porch.

[cougarette]

Thank you dreemkin and aggiebug

I hope to hear back soon! The wait is killing me, I want to get to the next step.

It makes sense that they'd look at a big range. I mean, one thing they asked about was if he feeds himself (yeah!) with a fork or spoon (oh...uh,no). I knew that one was ok, but it just kept going!

I guess I wish I had asked my dr what it was all about so I could have been more mentally prepared for such a long evaluation. I thought they were just going to look at gross motor.

[cougarette]

Oh and this weekend we're heading up to my nephew's first birthday party. He's definitely crawling around, but I wonder if he's up and cruising around too. It'll be really hard not to compare. I know there are things DS is doing that he's not, but... sigh. I am glad MIL won't be there (for so many reasons!), mostly so that I don't have to hear the comparisons out loud.

Anyway, my one coworker and I were talking today and she was saying she wishes there wasn't so much emphasis on what kids should be doing and milestones and all that. It just adds more stress to an already stressful role.

[dreemkin]

cougarette it's hard to not feel personally "attacked" during those evals. I always felt like I should have done more or noticed more. I think that is a normal reaction though. Hang in there!