UPDATE Googled son's gymnastics teacher's name...

[mustardseed2007]

Not his DC teacher, but there is a gymnastics program (30 minutes, 1x per week) that you can pay extra for. My son has gone twice (today was his 2nd time). But I got the bill today and it had his teacher's name on it. I remember seeing the guy in passing and all I can say is he looked a little weird to me. So when I saw his first and last name I just decided to google him.

His nonprivate facebook page came up and I skimmed it. He has several asinine comments about various things but then I come to a post where he is celebrating that he can now start his car without blowing into a tube. I then went to public court records that confirm he has had a 1st Offense DWI recently and he served his time, and yeah, as of a few months ago he no longer has a restricted drivers license.

No other criminal record.

What would you do with this information?

I think the guy is an idiot. He doesn't drive my kid for his job, but I would never hire him as a baby sitter.

Also, am I a crazy ass stalker?

UPDATE:

So I emailed the school and asked if a staff member is in there. The response I got is that no one is dedicated to being in there, but that the room they are in is immediately next to the office and the front desk and someone is pretty much always in there.

Then they asked if there was a problem.

Which of course is a natural follow up question. WWWMD?

I'm just asking b/c I ran across the teacher's completely public FB page and it made me question his judgment. Among other things he mentioned an old DWI. He seems nice enough and DS likes him, I just know he doesn't have the credentials his regular teachers have.

Or

No, I was just wondering.

Or

He seems nice enough and DS likes him, I just know he doesn't have the credentials his regular teachers have so I wanted to get a feel for how on his own he is with the kids.

[welly01]

Hmm, a DWI just means he's stupid, not that he's any danger to kids. I agree with thirdtimemomma that I would require a DC teacher keep an eye on things. We have a similar program at our school and DS has just started being able to participate. I keep reminding myself to ask DC if someone from DC stays with the kids at all times.

[welly01]

Although, I might mention it to the DC director, just to get their opinion. IMO, a criminal record of any kind puts you at risk for other offenses.

[shakinros]

I don't think id do anything with the info.

I like the ideas about making sure someone from DC is still supervising.

[sept07b2b]

I'm in the "don't do anything camp." As PP said, a DWI means you're an idiot, but it doesn't necessarily equate to dangerous during the day around kids. If he had some record related to children, it would be a whole different ball game.

I get the sense a lot of the helpers at my daycare are college students. I was very responsible in college, but I also drank when I was out with my friends and didn't always make the best decisions. I was completely able to separate the two. My behavior at night with my friends was very different than my behavior at work. Hopefully the same applies to this teacher.

[supertrooper1]

I'm in law enforcement and you'd be amazed at the number of people that have DUI's. It's a crime that spans all professions, income levels, and lifestyles. Several of my coworkers, who are supposed to uphold the law, have DUI's. He's stupid to post those comments on Facebook, almost making light of the situation. But I'm in the camp of doing nothing with the information.
And FWIW, you're not a crazy stalker for looking this up. If people didn't want certain information out there, they shouldn't put it on the internet.

[Deleted]

I think there are 2 thoughts here:
- the fact that someone/anyone has one offense doesn't mean they are forever an idiot. Believe me, as other posters said, I made stupid drinking decisions in college, and unfortunately I was caught one time. ONE time. And I forever have to live with this public information when applying for jobs, professional licenses, etc.
-The bigger item here is that you feel weird about him and creeped out, and that he says weird things on his fb. That's what should be the focus. Agree w/ other posters that day care should be involved.

[clarkebar1013]

I agree with what everyone has said, he sounds like a douchebag who makes horrible decisions.

Also, I laughed at "am I a stalker" because I've done the same thing. When my DH and I bought our house recently, one of the VP's of my company asked me if I went on the county website yet and got all of my names of our neighbors so I can google and facebook stalk them and see what they do etc. She also told me to scope out the local sexual predator website and see if any were near me. It's amazing what you can find online, that's for damn sure. I thought at first that she was kidding, but she sure as shit wasn't. So I stalked. Straight up.

[mustardseed2007]

So I went back and looked at everything again this evening a little more slowly. 

One correction I need to make is that the DWI really wasn't as recent as I thought. I thought it was in 2014 but it was really in 2012. He was 26. 

He's definitely an immature  douche. I actually think that aspect is starting to bother me more, but I think maybe I just wish I didn't know about it. Based on his FB progression he seems to have calmed down a lot. More recently he mostly just rants about sports and the last vegas trip he took, he went with his parents...

It was so easy to find. I just googled his name together with the program my kid is in. He follows his employer's facebook page as well as the local hooters (those two "likes" are immediately next to each other and they look so weird that way).

I think based on the totality of everything I'm going to find out how the DC monitors their vendors for right now. 

[kewii]

Feb 5, 2015 21:11:49 GMT -5 supertrooper1 said:

I'm in law enforcement and you'd be amazed at the number of people that have DUI's. It's a crime that spans all professions, income levels, and lifestyles. Several of my coworkers, who are supposed to uphold the law, have DUI's. He's stupid to post those comments on Facebook, almost making light of the situation. But I'm in the camp of doing nothing with the information.
And FWIW, you're not a crazy stalker for looking this up. If people didn't want certain information out there, they shouldn't put it on the internet.

I don't think that's fair to say. In this case, sure he put up there and is an idiot for doing so. 

But out some people can't control what others put online. We had a teacher run out of my school this year because of news articles about what his father had done. I can definitely bet that he would've loved to not have that info online. 

[k3am]

I have a couple of friends who have DUIs that they got in or right after college. I side eye the hell out of them, but I don't question driving with them when they're sober. If we go out for drinks together, I make sure that I'm not reliant on them for a ride.

I think it's knowledge to have in your pocket, and may lead you to asking some questions. I don't think it's wrong to get as much publicly available information as possible on the people who are around your children.

Honestly, he's 26 and he's acting like it. I feel like maturity levels get worse and worse with each graduating class. I would take the information in context of what he's doing - he's teaching your kid gymnastics for 30 minutes at a time. The chances of him driving your kid, babysitting, etc, are pretty slim.

[mustardseed2007]

Feb 6, 2015 4:26:13 GMT -5 kewii said:

Feb 5, 2015 21:11:49 GMT -5 supertrooper1 said:

I'm in law enforcement and you'd be amazed at the number of people that have DUI's. It's a crime that spans all professions, income levels, and lifestyles. Several of my coworkers, who are supposed to uphold the law, have DUI's. He's stupid to post those comments on Facebook, almost making light of the situation. But I'm in the camp of doing nothing with the information.
And FWIW, you're not a crazy stalker for looking this up. If people didn't want certain information out there, they shouldn't put it on the internet.

I don't think that's fair to say. In this case, sure he put up there and is an idiot for doing so. 

But out some people can't control what others put online. We had a teacher run out of my school this year because of news articles about what his father had done. I can definitely bet that he would've loved to not have that info online. 



*STUCK IN THE BOX*

I know what you mean also. A while ago I remember there being a news report about a teacher who had been arrested for drunk driving, she was speeding but was also found to be over the legal limit. She had a lot of supporters who talked about how she's no drunk and this was a oe time thing.

Also for my job I do not run background checks, but I sometimes help evaluate people for criminal records. Sex offences or violence is a no go. Theft disqualifies you from a lot of jobs depending on the circumstances. A DWI would disqualify you from being an authorized driver for our company, so would disqualify you from a lot of jobs.  

But it still does skeeve me out that he has all this online like he has no brain. Who is a regular person and has a nonprivate FB page anyway? Yes, I could have found it otherwise if I actually went to our county's databases checking on him b/c that is also public record. But I wasn't going to go there until I saw what he himself posted. GAH! 

BTW, I've now googled his teachers and none of them have stuff like that out there. 

[mustardseed2007]

Feb 6, 2015 10:47:49 GMT -5 k3am said:

I have a couple of friends who have DUIs that they got in or right after college. I side eye the hell out of them, but I don't question driving with them when they're sober. If we go out for drinks together, I make sure that I'm not reliant on them for a ride.

I think it's knowledge to have in your pocket, and may lead you to asking some questions. I don't think it's wrong to get as much publicly available information as possible on the people who are around your children.

Honestly, he's 26 and he's acting like it. I feel like maturity levels get worse and worse with each graduating class. I would take the information in context of what he's doing - he's teaching your kid gymnastics for 30 minutes at a time. The chances of him driving your kid, babysitting, etc, are pretty slim.

Yeah exactly. If I saw him on care.com I would walk the other way obviously. But also, since his LIFE is on FB, I can tell that he also is a fitness instructor at a gym - like a normal gym for adults. So I think it's fair to say at this point that the odds of him showing up on care.com or whatever are slim to none. 

[mustardseed2007]

Also, last night my son told me that "Coach [DWI] is the best"!!!

SMH.

[2chatter]

I am more wondering about the weird vibe.
We have left/not re-enrolled in activities because of that.
I don't know....I am not super paranoid but have learned to follow my instincts.