Post by pghtruelove on Apr 21, 2016 8:24:28 GMT -5
Kristykristyleelee I agree. Her style is crazy and not for me. and I usually hate her hair.
Being barefoot is the worst! I must be wearing socks all the time with the exception of with sandals, but I make sure to have socks with me! Socks all day everyday, even while sleeping!
Kristykristyleelee I agree. Her style is crazy and not for me. and I usually hate her hair.
Being barefoot is the worst! I must be wearing socks all the time with the exception of with sandals, but I make sure to have socks with me! Socks all day everyday, even while sleeping!
Kristykristyleelee I agree. Her style is crazy and not for me. and I usually hate her hair.
Being barefoot is the worst! I must be wearing socks all the time with the exception of with sandals, but I make sure to have socks with me! Socks all day everyday, even while sleeping!
My kid and I both strongly disagree with this.
Mine does too! Every time I put socks on her they come right off.
Post by blueskiessmiling on Apr 21, 2016 8:34:26 GMT -5
Expecting total equality (in regards to housework, childcare, etc...) in a marriage/relationship is unrealistic. One person may be better suited to do a certain chore than the other. The other person may have longer work hours/commute. Trying to level the playing field, IMO, is virtually impossible if you don't have the exact same career, commute, need for alone time, etc...
Expecting total equality (in regards to housework, childcare, etc...) in a marriage/relationship is unrealistic. One person may be better suited to do a certain chore than the other. The other person may have longer work hours/commute. Trying to level the playing field, IMO, is virtually impossible if you don't have the exact same career, commute, need for alone time, etc...
I agree with this.
In my mind, I like equality in terms of 'time'. So if I am busy putting baby to bed, I expect that DW should be doing the dishes or something else that needs to get done. That way we can both wind down at the same time and have the same amount of free time by the end of the day. Sometimes, that means no free time, but at least it's not 1 person doing literally everything.
Agreed. If my H is wrangling the baby while I do dinner dishes, I wouldn't expect him to clean up the next night just for the principle of it.
I don't see the appeal of Gwen Stefani as some style icon. Every time I saw her on the Voice I had a visceral reaction to her outfit or her hair. I don't get her.
I think she is super talented but I don't like her style either but I can say that for a lot of female pop stars.
My UO I feel like male musicians have a better sense of style then most female musicians. Mick Jagger, Bob Marley,the strokes etc.
Expecting total equality (in regards to housework, childcare, etc...) in a marriage/relationship is unrealistic. One person may be better suited to do a certain chore than the other. The other person may have longer work hours/commute. Trying to level the playing field, IMO, is virtually impossible if you don't have the exact same career, commute, need for alone time, etc...
I agree with this.
In my mind, I like equality in terms of 'time'. So if I am busy putting baby to bed, I expect that DW should be doing the dishes or something else that needs to get done. That way we can both wind down at the same time and have the same amount of free time by the end of the day. Sometimes, that means no free time, but at least it's not 1 person doing literally everything.
I think my H probably does a lot more than many, but we are nowhere near close when it comes to equity in time.
Expecting total equality (in regards to housework, childcare, etc...) in a marriage/relationship is unrealistic. One person may be better suited to do a certain chore than the other. The other person may have longer work hours/commute. Trying to level the playing field, IMO, is virtually impossible if you don't have the exact same career, commute, need for alone time, etc...
I agree with this.
In my mind, I like equality in terms of 'time'. So if I am busy putting baby to bed, I expect that DW should be doing the dishes or something else that needs to get done. That way we can both wind down at the same time and have the same amount of free time by the end of the day. Sometimes, that means no free time, but at least it's not 1 person doing literally everything.
Thank you thank you thank you, for giving me the absolutely perfect way to explain it to SO!!! Equity in time. If I am rocking baby to sleep and you are relaxing in front of the TV, and then once baby is asleep I still need to wash the dishes while you are STILL relaxing in front of the TV, I feel like you could have washed some dishes while I rocked the baby, and then we could both relax in front of the TV, rather than me getting literally zero time to do this. THANK YOU!!!
UO: I think most baby proofing items are entirely unnecessary. After 3 kids the only baby proofing we have ever done is outlet plugs.
I agree with this. I was feeling some kind of guilt/newbish reading the babyproofing thread yesterday like I hadn't thought about really doing these things. But, I can't honestly imagine I am going to be attaching all my furniture to my walls.
I agree with this. I was feeling some kind of guilt/newbish reading the babyproofing thread yesterday like I hadn't thought about really doing these things. But, I can't honestly imagine I am going to be attaching all my furniture to my walls.
We don't really have tipable furniture that the kids have access to, the only thing we have secured is DS'S dresser because it is super heavy and tall.
We have a cart that the microwave is on in the kitchen.. eventually that will have to be stabilized but I think that's it.
Post by littlemissgrump on Apr 21, 2016 9:55:06 GMT -5
Kristykristyleelee totally agree on the sub par subs. Sandwiches around here have gotten too popular and fancy and I can't spent $12 everytime I want one. Which is all the time.
Ok so if you aren't babyproofing, what do you do when your baby slams and pulls on blinds next to his crib every single day? I had planned to do the least when it came to babyproofing, but would you just cross your fingers that he's not strong enough to pull them down?
ETA this is a real question. I'm not annoyed that other people aren't babyproofing and when I read my post it kind of sounded that way.
We don't have blinds at our house, but if we did I'd do something about them. I just read a story earlier this week about a baby/child strangling himself in the blinds cord.
I also just read about child deaths being reported for Ikea Hemnes dressers tipping over.
We've barely done any baby proofing, but this weekend I'm going to make H secure a huge mirror to the wall (it's leaning against it right now), we're going to put our bar cart in the garage for now, and secure lockers to the wall that we have in our family room. I could NEVER forgive myself if one of those things fell on top of G.
On the flipside, my mom keeps telling me we need to put a gate up in front of the two steps between our family room and living room. I don't know if I want to do that.
I also don't like most of the popular chain restaurants like Applebees, Red Robin, Olive Garden, etc.
Subway, Jimmy Johns, Quiznos...they all make subpar hoagies. (SWIDT?)
But I will eat them, especially when they are $1.
I live in an area where I am blessed to have some of the best hoagies available. Anyone ever have Primos hoagies? DROOL. The rolls are so fresh and cripsy on the outside, yet soft on the inside. The lunchmeat is sliced fresh for every sandwich. Just authentically great italian hoagies.
Are you in the philly area? Primos is very yummmm and hoagies not subs!
Baby Elliott (technically) due 6.13.2015 but born via c-section on 4.12.2015 at 31w1d after 31d of hospital arrest (think house arrest) for monitoring.
UO: I think most baby proofing items are entirely unnecessary. After 3 kids the only baby proofing we have ever done is outlet plugs.
I think the need to do less vs.more when it comes to baby-proofing more so relates to the nature of your kid. Some kids are pretty chill and are content to sit and play, whereas other kids take the word "no" as a challenge or are serious daredevils. Anchoring a chest to a wall may seem ridiculous to one parent, while another is running to grab their kid from climbing into one drawer to get to the next.
UO: I think most baby proofing items are entirely unnecessary. After 3 kids the only baby proofing we have ever done is outlet plugs.
It's necessary for my sanity. V will climb our stairs or open the same cupboard with heavy pots and pans 40 times before giving up, no matter how much I try to redirect or distract him. So gates and cupboard locks allow me to let him explore and play more independently without me intervening every 5 seconds to pull him out of mischief. It has also taught him what is "off limits" instead of me saying "no" and him laughing at me and doing it again.
I think that hits the nail of reasonability right on the head, at least for me. Babyproofing to the point that allows for safe exploration and minimizes the need for constant intervention. If I had stairs in my house they would most certainly have a gate.. not trying to play that game all day long! Its not like I'm against babyproofing, I just think a lot of it can be done without the gadgets, like moving chemicals/heavy things out of reach so the low cabinets are only Tupperware etc. I also feel like my entire house is never going to be a safe zone. I'm not going to try to put rubber padding on all the corners of everything. There's always going to be another corner somewhere.
No unpopular opinions in here so far! Equity of time is very important. We have an agreement that neither of us gets to relax until we both can. H is sometimes out in the evenings, and I am once a fortnight. That's fine, but it does mean that if there are a lot of chores to do, the person who's been out might have some jobs to do when they get home.
Last night is a good example. H had a rehearsal and went out for a drink afterwards. In the meantime, L fought sleep like a little wildcat and I didn't get to start chores till ten o'clock. So I folded the laundry that was all over the bed and stuffed nappies (we use cloth, and I'm afraid I can't use the word diaper with a straight face). H came home at 10.45 when I'd nearly finished, so I told him I was going to bed and left him to tidy the kitchen, load the dishwasher, empty the bins as it was bin day today, and put away all the toys. He got to bed at 12.30, which we both think is completely fair when he was out playing all evening.
Also, babyproofing: we'll be doing as little as we can. Bookcases need to be attached to the walls. British plugs are constructed in such a way that outlet covers can permanently damage them, so it's a lot safer not to use them. Other than that, we'll see as she gets more mobile.
UO: I think most baby proofing items are entirely unnecessary. After 3 kids the only baby proofing we have ever done is outlet plugs.
It's necessary for my sanity. V will climb our stairs or open the same cupboard with heavy pots and pans 40 times before giving up, no matter how much I try to redirect or distract him. So gates and cupboard locks allow me to let him explore and play more independently without me intervening every 5 seconds to pull him out of mischief. It has also taught him what is "off limits" instead of me saying "no" and him laughing at me and doing it again.
This is my child but I don't know if he will ever give up.
Post by littlemissgrump on Apr 21, 2016 12:24:07 GMT -5
budders, yes! I mentioned in the baby proofing thread that he had a routine to see if any of his favorite closed off areas were accidently left open, he is too good at finding them then laughs when we find him. It is a super fun game to him now. No means do it louder and prouder.
I think the need to do less vs.more when it comes to baby-proofing more so relates to the nature of your kid. Some kids are pretty chill and are content to sit and play, whereas other kids take the word "no" as a challenge or are serious daredevils. Anchoring a chest to a wall may seem ridiculous to one parent, while another is running to grab their kid from climbing into one drawer to get to the next.
It absolutely will depend on your baby and your own personality. Just to be clear, I do not think anyone who baby proofs is "ridiculous", I was just offering my opinion from my experience.
I didn't take it as you saying it was ridiculous, just pointing from one extreme in views to the other. There's definitely people in my life who would say it is ridiculous, likely followed by "Well if you just keep an eye on her..."
This is my child but I don't know if he will ever give up.
V's mission is the most amount of destruction possible in the least amount of time, so if he tries to pull a cupboard open a couple times and it won't go, he just moves on to something else. The ones that we have locked up he doesn't even bother with anymore.
My child in a nutshell. She doesn't even want to play with the contents, she just wants to empty everything at the fastest pace possible.
This is my child but I don't know if he will ever give up.
V's mission is the most amount of destruction possible in the least amount of time, so if he tries to pull a cupboard open a couple times and it won't go, he just moves on to something else. The ones that we have locked up he doesn't even bother with anymore.
Funny, Jasmine is also permanently set on destructo, but plus also an extremely fixated problem solver, plus a frustrated screaming diva. So, when she encounters something like a blocked doorway that she used to be able to get through, she becomes entirely focused on finding a way to get past whatever is stopping her, and if this takes too long it is full on blood curdling draammaa......
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