Wedding in Mexico??

[gilder40]

Alright, my husband's good friend is getting married in Cancun at a resort at the end of May. We weren't going to go because we didn't feel we could afford it. The bride texted me today and asked me if we would be able to swing it if part of our trip was paid for. I told her we couldn't accept that much money. But what happened is, her cousin found out his wife is expecting, and they cannot make the trip. If their room goes unfilled, they will be short on filled rooms and her parents will have to pay for the reception instead of it being included. Her mom and dad offered to take that money and put it toward the room so we can go...they'd rather pay for the room than "give" it to the resort. We would have to pay for airfare and part of the room. The bride also said that her groom needs us there. None of his other friends were able to make the trip, and she wants him to have fun and enjoy everything. What would you do? Accept the offer and go? Decline? Take the baby, leave the baby? It's just so much to think about and we have to make a decision ASAP so we can get everything lined up. I'm just at a loss. I want to go and be there for them, but I don't like accepting money like that. I feel guilty.

TL;DR Our good friends are getting married in Cancun. We weren't going to go because money. The bride's cousin cancelled, and her parents offered to pay part of our trip so we could go. They'd have to pay for the reception anyway if we don't. WWYD??

[Deleted]

If it's financially affordable for you guys to go then I would go. I've never been to cancun though so maybe someone that's been there can advise.

I would leave the baby if you trust someone to care for her and then enjoy a romantic getaway with your H!

[mrsmonogrammed]

My vote is to go and leave babe at home as long as you have someone you trust to watch her and can reasonably afford what's left of the trip expenses.

[Deleted]

I would go if you can afford the cost that is left. I would give my right arm for a beach vacation right now!

[gilder40]

My mom said they could keep T. She's drinking more whole milk and nursing less and less, and she'll be over a year at that point, so I guess we could leave her there. Part of me wants to take her and part of me wants to leave her with my mom. Decisions decisions!! It is a family friendly resort and there will be other kiddos there.

[sugarkissed]

I would go! And I might be in the minority here but I would probably take the baby. We took DD1 to Mexico at 15 months and it was a lot of work, but she had so much fun! I would have missed her so much had we not brought her, especially seeing all of the other kids.

[jillywilly]

I would go. I love Cancun, we've been several times. I would lean bringing baby if the resort is family friendly, but I also know that I'm just not personally at a place where I'd be ok leaving DS for any longer than maybe one night. Totally jealous at the prospect of a getaway with just H though, too!

[txngrl31]

I would go! I would leave baby at home with a trusted person, so that I could fully enjoy the Mexican resort vacay.

[missjenniebean]

Go. Leave T if you can with your mom and enjoy!

[stinybean]

This sort of reminds me of my sister's wedding where not enough people could make it so they had me invite my friends. They were going to have to pay for it no matter what, so they figured they would rather have people. So my point is, don't feel guilty.

[Bluedaisy]

+1 for leave baby with grandma and go!

[erbear]

I would go if I could afford it and I'd take the baby, too.

[hannahl201477]

Go and leave baby!!

[blueskiessmiling]

I would definitely go. That's really sweet that the bride cares enough to want her DH to be happy and have his own friends to support him. I would probably leave the baby behind, though. My H and I went in 2014 (probably when my DD was conceived, actually?), and I'm not sure it would have been as fun with a little one.

[santoki77]

Go!!! I got married in cancun and it was so much fun! Also I'd be torn about bringing T but if your mom can do it, leave T at home and have a great time

[Widget123]

Apr 24, 2016 14:52:17 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

I'm a weirdo though I hate leaving my kids.....Even though I spend all day waiting for bedtime.

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That is how i am too, but for most people I think they would enjoy a vacation like that more sans their kids. Try not to have guilt and go and have fun!

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Apr 24, 2016 12:21:31 GMT -5 gilder40 said:

My mom said they could keep T. She's drinking more whole milk and nursing less and less, and she'll be over a year at that point, so I guess we could leave her there. Part of me wants to take her and part of me wants to leave her with my mom. Decisions decisions!! It is a family friendly resort in Costa Rica and there will be other kiddos there.

It depends on what you want to get out of the trip. We took DS to a family friendly resort when he was 14 months. It was cute to see him in the pool etc but by no means was it relaxing. But he was also a very high energy baby.
If you do bring her I highly recommend traveling with one of those little inflatable baby swimmers. I'll post a picture of one separate. It made pool time so much more fun and he practiced kicking all around!

[clairencub]

I would definitely go! If you can swing it financially, do it!!! If it were me I would leave LO, my only reasoning is I know that there are going to be other "family" trips in the future and I also like to get "day drunk", but that's me.

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[billyhorrible]

I'd go, but leave T at home. Family vacations are far less vacationey with a baby involved. It's more like being at home, somewhere that's not home. Plus, I've done weddings with baby and without, without is much more fun.

[holliberry28]

I'd also go without baby and wouldn't feel guilty. They're going to lose out on money anyway, so you actually make them feel like their losing out less. Go and
Enjoy and leave baby with your mom.

[gilder40]

Apr 24, 2016 14:06:59 GMT -5 budders said:

Apr 24, 2016 12:21:31 GMT -5 gilder40 said:

My mom said they could keep T. She's drinking more whole milk and nursing less and less, and she'll be over a year at that point, so I guess we could leave her there. Part of me wants to take her and part of me wants to leave her with my mom. Decisions decisions!! It is a family friendly resort and there will be other kiddos there.

How long would you be there for?

Four nights. Leave on a Sunday, come back Thursday. I just worry about leaving her that long. She's started drinking whole milk, so that wouldn't be an issue, and she's not nursing as much, so I'm starting to dry up. Not sure how I'll be at the end of May, and I'm not sure how she will be sleeping. She's currently waking up 2-4 times a night.

[jillywilly]

Apr 24, 2016 14:52:17 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

I think go, the money is being spent anyway.
I'd bring T, that way you can make it a full family vacation that you wouldn't have been able to do without this option.
I'm a weirdo though I hate leaving my kids.....Even though I spend all day waiting for bedtime.

I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels that way! I love bedtime, and I get super jealous reading about people leaving their kids with their parents, and while I trust both my parents and H's mom... I would have a really, really hard time leaving DS, especially for more than maybe one night. I never thought I'd be that mom, but apparently, I am.

[wegrowsheep]

Late to the party, finally reading threads.

No kids, sunshine, DH to myself? I'd be on a plane faster than you can say "sunscreen."