WTDS 4/25

[wildflower810]

The Waiting to Do Something Thread is posted once a week (usually on Mondays - sometimes not) for those of us that experience long, extended cycles. Whether it's medicated cycles, long (45ish+ days) cycles, postpartum/breastfeeding, TTA, on the bench, or something else, this is the place we gather throughout the week to discuss and vent about our slightly unique situation.


Numbers:

Circumstances:

R/R/NSNFQ:

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be?

[nuggetrn]

Hello sweet friends. Nice to see you all again but this is not exactly when or how I hoped to come back here.

Numbers: no clue

Circumstances: BFP 3/12 and then diagnosed last week with a blighted ovum. I miscarried with cytotec this past weekend and now TTA for roughly 3 months. Just depend on how cycles fall.

RRNSNFQ: Just sucks to be back here. Seems like a cruel slap in the face that I am in a perpetual waiting game.

GTKY: we don't have pictures hanging in our house currently but we have a few pictures in frames. Those that I have framed I will probably never change out. Its nice to look back and remember the times when those were taken.

[icedtea]

nuggetrn, I'm so sorry.

[icedtea]

Numbers: Cycle 8, Month 10, 2 months AL

Circumstances: TTC

R/R/NSNFQ: Hit day 68 today, and started my third or fourth episode of spotting since the loss. Every time I think "maybe this is ovulation spotting!" And then it lasts and lasts and nothing changes. I'll be calling the doctor tomorrow so we can get things moving again. Being in limbo is slowly driving me insane. (Possibly not as slowly as I think.)

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be? We're terrible about putting pictures up. We're lucky if we get some up, so they tend to stay. I want to be better at it, but I'm just not a good decorator.

[gabride2010]

nuggetrn I'm so sorry to see you back here. So many hugs and prayers!

icedtea Sorry you are in limbo! I hope you get a plan with your doc tomorrow.

Numbers: Cycle 3/Month 5 CD 40

Circumstances: TTC #1

RRNFNSQ: Still WTO. My OPKs are moderately dark, but still definitely negative.

GTKY: H and I do have some pictures hanging in our house. They are mostly of trees or flowers. We do have a few pictures up that are of us and some family members though. We do t change them though. They stay all year.

[nuggetrn]

icedtea do you have irregular cycles anyway?

When I talked to the OB and he told me he wanted me to wait 3 cycles so my lining could turn over I laughed at him. I said I would be lucky to get one cycle in that time. He said we would go ahead and just do Provera in 4 weeks because it wasn't likely I would do anything on my own. I don't want to end up having to TTA for 6 months because he wants me to have multiple cycles before trying again. That way I can have pretty new lining and all that fun stuff. Since I am benched anyway it doesn't much matter if they are cycles with no ovulation.

[icedtea]

Hope you O soon gabride2010

nuggetrn, only since the miscarriage. I was clockwork ~28 days before that, even right after I got off the BC. I'm glad the doctor is going to help so you don't have to wait so long. I like viewing it as your body needing to replenish/get ready. I need to work on that.

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nuggetrn

Fx for a positive OPK soon gabride2010

I hope your dr can give you some answers tomorrow icedtea

Numbers: Cycle 26, CD6.

Circumstances: On the fence about returning to NTNP. No treatments in the near future. I'm not sure if i'm ready for this again when I already know the chances of a BFP are slim.

R/R/NSNFQ: I don't know what I should do. I'm tired of being TTA, but I don't see a point in getting my hopes up with NTNP.

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be? I always have the same pictures around. We don't take alot of pictures.

[wildflower810]

:hugs: nuggetrn, I'm sorry to see you back.

icedtea, I hope you O soon and can get things moving.

@wallflwr926, hugs for limbo and not being sure of things.

Numbers: CD 11

Circumstances: Waiting out this month, starting TTC next month.

R/R/NSNFQ: I guess I'll start peeing on opks today to give me something to do.

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be?
I asked this because I'm not sure what we will do! We have pictures up now, but idk if we'll change them as time goes on or not.

[icedtea]

@wallflwr926 that sounds really frustrating :\

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Apr 25, 2016 9:29:49 GMT -5 icedtea said:

@wallflwr926 that sounds really frustrating :\

I shared something about National Infertility Awareness Week on FB. My sweet well-meaning aunt told me to pray to St. Gerard.
So not helping me right now.

[amandamh2]

So sorry for your loss nuggetrn
Hope talking to your doctor leads to getting things going icedtea
Hope you O soon gabride2010
Best of luck figuring out your next step @wallflwr926
Hopefully the time passes well for you alwayscheese
Coming up fast wildflower810

Numbers: unknown

Circumstances: NTNP/TFAS, BFing 1 year old with no PP AF yet

R/R/NSNFQ: Still just waiting for AF to come back. I can't believe it's been a year since my boy was born. I'm very much ready for another pregnancy but apparently my body still disagrees.

GTKY: We have lots of pictures up. I leave our wedding ones up, but switch the others once they're more than a couple years old.

[TheEleventhHour]

nuggetrn Oh lady, so many hugs. I am so sorry you are back here.

icedtea I am sorry you are in limbo!

gabride2010 FX for a positive OPK soon.

Hugs @wallflwr926, that sounds frustrating

alwayscheese I feel you on waiting to TTC! I hope the time goes by quickly.

wildflower810 I hope this month flies by! So exciting it is almost time to TTC!

[TheEleventhHour]

Numbers: Blah, not really keeping track right now.

Circumstances: TTA until ... no clue ugh.

R/R/NSNFQ: So I haven't been around much, mostly because I have been crazy busy with work/life but also because I have been feeling in a funk. We decided we wanted a second in February 2015 and are still nowhere near having an official TTC start date. I feel frustrated because it feels like we keep pushing it back for one reason or another. I think we will finally start this fall/winter. Until then I need to focus on losing weight and getting healthier!

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be? 90% of what we have hanging are paintings, we only have a few framed photos and we don't switch them out. I do want to be better about printing out my photos and start a wall with family photos!

[irish14]

nuggetrn all the hugs for you

Numbers: 32d AL, waiting for AF

Circumstances: NTNP. Tthough my doc wanted me to TTA until I cycle. Whoops.

R/R/NSNFQ: just want to get on with things. Tired of the funk and being sad, though definitely doing better.

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be? We don't change pics very often. We add more than change - I like having a mix of old and new, it's a fun contrast. There are lots of photos up from our wedding still.

[mosdub]

Thinking of you nuggetrn I'm glad you are advocating for yourself so you aren't waiting unnecessarily long.

I'm sorry @wallflwr926. I wish we could NTNP without thinking about it. I'm supposed to be NTNP but I can't be so carefree about it as to not know when my FW is or what CD/DPO I'm on. Also sorry about your aunt. I know it's well meaning but ugh.

[gabride2010]

Thanks icedtea

Thanks @wallflwr926. Hugs for you! That is a tough position to be in.

alwayscheese Waiting definitely sucks. Big hugs.

wildflower810 So close to TTC! That's so exciting.

Thanks @amandmh2. Sorry your body is disagreeing with you. Happy birthday to your DS!

Thanks TheEleventhHour. I hope you can set a TTC date soon.

irish14 I hope your period comes soon.

[JoBub]

nuggetrn, so sorry to see you back here.

I have been really sporadic in participating here. I keep saying I'll do better, and then get busy with real life.

Numbers: 2 cycles off BCP, TTA for 3-4 more months.

Circumstances: plan to TTC in August because of work circumstances.

R/R/NSNFQ: I have two full cycles under my belt since going off BCP. The good news is they were about the same length, and about the same as I remember from before BCP. The bad news is my LP seems somewhat short (8 days). Hoping to see that change in the next few months. I also need to do a better job temping. Maybe FF will give me solid CH this month.

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be?
The only pictures I have up are wedding photos. I've been thinking about changing them or adding more, but I'm kinda lazy. Maybe this summer I'll have some free time to do that.

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Apr 26, 2016 5:23:29 GMT -5 mosdub said:

Thinking of you nuggetrn I'm glad you are advocating for yourself so you aren't waiting unnecessarily long.

I'm sorry @wallflwr926. I wish we could NTNP without thinking about it. I'm supposed to be NTNP but I can't be so carefree about it as to not know when my FW is or what CD/DPO I'm on. Also sorry about your aunt. I know it's well meaning but ugh.

She's a nun. She really does mean well. I'm just not religious at all.

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Apr 26, 2016 6:20:38 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

Apr 25, 2016 9:16:21 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

nuggetrn

Fx for a positive OPK soon gabride2010

I hope your dr can give you some answers tomorrow icedtea

Numbers: Cycle 26, CD6.

Circumstances: On the fence about returning to NTNP. No treatments in the near future. I'm not sure if i'm ready for this again when I already know the chances of a BFP are slim.

R/R/NSNFQ: I don't know what I should do. I'm tired of being TTA, but I don't see a point in getting my hopes up with NTNP.

GTKY: Do you have pictures hung in your house? If so, do you change them out, or let them be as a reminder of what life/people used to be? I always have the same pictures around. We don't take alot of pictures.

Have you tried prometrium through your OB? Spotting was one of the issues and short cycles right? Sorry if I have the wrong one.

Spotting has stopped for the most part, and my uterus has moved on to Oing earlier.
My biggest issue remains the pelvic pain that no one can figure out.

Also H still won't agree to any treatments so...

[icedtea]

Apr 25, 2016 11:07:07 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Apr 25, 2016 9:29:49 GMT -5 icedtea said:

@wallflwr926 that sounds really frustrating :\

I shared something about National Infertility Awareness Week on FB. My sweet well-meaning aunt told me to pray to St. Gerard.
So not helping me right now.

Oh damn. It's almost worse when they're well-meaning (to me) because then it's harder to snap at them. I'm sorry

[icedtea]

Apr 26, 2016 10:54:42 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Apr 26, 2016 6:20:38 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

Have you tried prometrium through your OB? Spotting was one of the issues and short cycles right? Sorry if I have the wrong one.

Spotting has stopped for the most part, and my uterus has moved on to Oing earlier.
My biggest issue remains the pelvic pain that no one can figure out.

Also H still won't agree to any treatments so...

Apologies if this is something that's been heavily covered, and "none of your business" is totally an answer...but he is completely resistant to all treatments? For both you and him? Or...?

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Apr 26, 2016 11:03:47 GMT -5 icedtea said:

Apr 26, 2016 10:54:42 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Spotting has stopped for the most part, and my uterus has moved on to Oing earlier.
My biggest issue remains the pelvic pain that no one can figure out.

Also H still won't agree to any treatments so...

Apologies if this is something that's been heavily covered, and "none of your business" is totally an answer...but he is completely resistant to all treatments? For both you and him? Or...?

He doesn't need any treatments. It's all me. After my lap didn't solve anything, he got more and more freaked out about my health; and finally said if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't then that's it.

[icedtea]

Apr 26, 2016 12:27:19 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Apr 26, 2016 11:03:47 GMT -5 icedtea said:

Apologies if this is something that's been heavily covered, and "none of your business" is totally an answer...but he is completely resistant to all treatments? For both you and him? Or...?

He doesn't need any treatments. It's all me. After my lap didn't solve anything, he got more and more freaked out about my health; and finally said if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't then that's it.

Oooh. He's not even open to discussing it, since it's your body? I can understand that his love for you makes him worry. I'm just such a control freak I feel like I'd (probably wrongly) flip out at H.

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Apr 26, 2016 13:45:07 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

Apr 26, 2016 12:27:19 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

He doesn't need any treatments. It's all me. After my lap didn't solve anything, he got more and more freaked out about my health; and finally said if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't then that's it.

I think it would've been easier if it was joint decisions. But I think I would pursue testing without H being onboard if I was in pain. Pelvic pain is no joke.

Tagging @icetea too

- This has been going on for a long time. I've really had all the tests that can be done at this point. Colonoscopies, endoscopies, laparoscopies, and pretty much anything else you can think of.

We're just in a weird spot.

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Apr 26, 2016 19:37:42 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

Apr 26, 2016 15:50:18 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Tagging @icetea too

- This has been going on for a long time. I've really had all the tests that can be done at this point. Colonoscopies, endoscopies, laparoscopies, and pretty much anything else you can think of.

We're just in a weird spot.

Hugs. I know how it sucks being in a weird spot. All the boobiy hugs you can handle.

I will take all the boobiy I can get.

[icedtea]

I'm sorry @wallflwr926, those weird spots are rough. I'm not entirely sure what a booby hug is, but I will also offer some.

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Apr 26, 2016 19:45:15 GMT -5 icedtea said:

I'm sorry @wallflwr926, those weird spots are rough. I'm not entirely sure what a booby hug is, but I will also offer some.

@pineappleoranges booby hugs are especially wonderful because they have an "I" in them.