Ready for potty training?

[athn64]

We are using diapers just for naptime and bedtime. We're in underwear or cloth trainers the rest of the time. DD1 is totally capable though we still have 1-2 accidents a day. She prioritizes food over using the potty so we have accidents during mealtimes, even though she can get down and go or tell us.

[lrmrtn]

becole, what book are you reading?

[becole]

Aug 23, 2016 12:23:40 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

becole, what book are you reading?

Oh Crap! Potty Training by Jamie Glowacki.

JoBub recommended it. I'm sure there are a lot of authors on the subject so I would maybe think of how you want to go about Pt and then find someone who has a method you're comfortable with. This is pretty parent led approach. And the quickest but most intense IMO.

[becole]

Aug 23, 2016 12:19:53 GMT -5 athn64 said:

We are using diapers just for naptime and bedtime. We're in underwear or cloth trainers the rest of the time. DD1 is totally capable though we still have 1-2 accidents a day. She prioritizes food over using the potty so we have accidents during mealtimes, even though she can get down and go or tell us.

That stinks. Are you interrupting the meal to clean her up? She might figure out its quicker to go and pee than have to stop eating and clean up.

[athn64]

Aug 23, 2016 12:33:32 GMT -5 becole said:

Aug 23, 2016 12:19:53 GMT -5 athn64 said:

We are using diapers just for naptime and bedtime. We're in underwear or cloth trainers the rest of the time. DD1 is totally capable though we still have 1-2 accidents a day. She prioritizes food over using the potty so we have accidents during mealtimes, even though she can get down and go or tell us.

That stinks. Are you interrupting the meal to clean her up? She might figure out its quicker to go and pee than have to stop eating and clean up.

When I see that she's peed, I definitely stop her and clean it up. And then she screams at me that she wants to eat. Sorry child, you did this.

[becole]

Aug 23, 2016 12:35:22 GMT -5 athn64 said:

Aug 23, 2016 12:33:32 GMT -5 becole said:

That stinks. Are you interrupting the meal to clean her up? She might figure out its quicker to go and pee than have to stop eating and clean up.

When I see that she's peed, I definitely stop her and clean it up. And then she screams at me that she wants to eat. Sorry child, you did this.

Will she go on command? Like if you told her she can eat after she pees?
This only works 50% with DS. He can go on command but not every time. I think a lot of times he just doesn't have to go.

[athn64]

Aug 23, 2016 12:37:45 GMT -5 becole said:

Aug 23, 2016 12:35:22 GMT -5 athn64 said:

When I see that she's peed, I definitely stop her and clean it up. And then she screams at me that she wants to eat. Sorry child, you did this.

Will she go on command? Like if you told her she can eat after she pees?
This only works 50% with DS. He can go on command but not every time. I think a lot of times he just doesn't have to go.

Sometimes. She's my strong-willed child. If she doesn't want to do it she doesn't see why she should. She's just as likely to throw a tantrum (which also delays mealtime) as she is to try and pee.

[meggypoo1]

becole are you sending YS in underwear to daycare?
(I totally just read all of that even though my lunch is over)

[becole]

Aug 23, 2016 12:45:17 GMT -5 meggypoo1 said:

becole are you sending YS in underwear to daycare?
(I totally just read all of that even though my lunch is over)

I am tempted to send him commando but so far I've put him in underwear. When I talked to the director before starting, she was like, we can't have feces all over but we can do underwear or training pants or she suggested a diaper over underwear (wut?) so that he could "feel the wetness." Well now that I know he doesn't have pee accidents, only poop, I'm okay with underwear. I do worry about pee accident starting because I only had 3 days to work with him and underwear slows things down. I'll let you know as the week goes on how far he regresses because of it. Poop is easy to dump in the potty if it's solid (his are not typically solid...) and he poops 2-3 times per day and never at the same time.
If your daughter poops once at the same time every day, she might be really easy to train because daycares seem to be okay with 1 accident. It's the multiple that gets annoying- which I'm sure it is. But once he's trained they don't have to change his diaper anymore, so I would think they could see the big picture and want to help out here.

[meggypoo1]

Aug 23, 2016 13:00:59 GMT -5 becole said:

Aug 23, 2016 12:45:17 GMT -5 meggypoo1 said:

becole are you sending YS in underwear to daycare?
(I totally just read all of that even though my lunch is over)

I am tempted to send him commando but so far I've put him in underwear. When I talked to the director before starting, she was like, we can't have feces all over but we can do underwear or training pants or she suggested a diaper over underwear (wut?) so that he could "feel the wetness." Well now that I know he doesn't have pee accidents, only poop, I'm okay with underwear. I do worry about pee accident starting because I only had 3 days to work with him and underwear slows things down. I'll let you know as the week goes on how far he regresses because of it. Poop is easy to dump in the potty if it's solid (his are not typically solid...) and he poops 2-3 times per day and never at the same time.
If your daughter poops once at the same time every day, she might be really easy to train because daycares seem to be okay with 1 accident. It's the multiple that gets annoying- which I'm sure it is. But once he's trained they don't have to change his diaper anymore, so I would think they could see the big picture and want to help out here.

I get the not wanting poop all over but help out somehow!
Also, she poops at 11 at daycare everyday and randomly at home. 🤔

[becole]

Aug 23, 2016 13:05:52 GMT -5 meggypoo1 said:

Aug 23, 2016 13:00:59 GMT -5 becole said:

I am tempted to send him commando but so far I've put him in underwear. When I talked to the director before starting, she was like, we can't have feces all over but we can do underwear or training pants or she suggested a diaper over underwear (wut?) so that he could "feel the wetness." Well now that I know he doesn't have pee accidents, only poop, I'm okay with underwear. I do worry about pee accident starting because I only had 3 days to work with him and underwear slows things down. I'll let you know as the week goes on how far he regresses because of it. Poop is easy to dump in the potty if it's solid (his are not typically solid...) and he poops 2-3 times per day and never at the same time.
If your daughter poops once at the same time every day, she might be really easy to train because daycares seem to be okay with 1 accident. It's the multiple that gets annoying- which I'm sure it is. But once he's trained they don't have to change his diaper anymore, so I would think they could see the big picture and want to help out here.

I get the not wanting poop all over but help out somehow!
Also, she poops at 11 at daycare everyday and randomly at home. 🤔

Yeah they don't want poop to fall out on the floor and clean it up (tile floor) but yet they want to put feces underwear in a plastic bag to sit all day and send home to wash.

That's at least good she's consistent at daycare. That would make my life easier right now.

[becole]

Here's something about the strong willed child. I have this page marked for my own special snowflake.

[SpinsOffResonance]

Aug 23, 2016 12:19:53 GMT -5 athn64 said:

We are using diapers just for naptime and bedtime. We're in underwear or cloth trainers the rest of the time. DD1 is totally capable though we still have 1-2 accidents a day. She prioritizes food over using the potty so we have accidents during mealtimes, even though she can get down and go or tell us.

That's exactly where we are.
She does great at home goes to the potty on her own, but has accidents at the playground.

[SpinsOffResonance]

becole I do put a pull up over DD's underwear if we go somewhere I really don't want her to have an accident. In her mind she's still wearing underwear.

DD1 refused to poop in the potty for months after we potty trained her. She was completely pee trained for over 6months before she ever pooped in the potty. We did the 2 day method originally. But after 3 weeks or so of poop accidents in underwear, I switched to pull ups. She never peed in a pull up ever. To her it was just underwear. But it made cleaning up the poops so much easier.

[becole]

That's good to know SpinsOffResonance.
The suggestion is to start over with naked again if you're having more than 1 accident/ day after several weeks of training.
I think with daycare regressions, we're going to have to do multiple naked weekends trying to work on poop. And then getting the undies back on and working on step 2 again. But he pooped on the potty before going to daycare within the first 3 days of training. I really feel sorry for the kiddo. It must be so confusing and I really want him to be successful and feel good about his success instead of being confused and unsure and getting frustrated.

[scout251]

So I really wasn't planning on going here now because I honestly have no desire to potty train and DD just transitioned beds and will be starting a new school in September. We have had a potty out for a while and she will pee on it before bath or at other random times of day if we put her on it but we never really stress it. We do talk about eventually wearing underwear when she goes on the potty all the time but it's just talk. Tonight she had pooped in her diaper but didn't say anything right away and I shockingly didn't smell it. When I went to change her she said it hurt and we talked about telling mommy when she poops so I can clean it right away. But when I tried to put her diaper back on her she kept saying "no diaper! I have underwear!" I had to convince her to put on her diaper to go to bed. So, I can have Fri - Tuesday at home with her (for most of the day) so I could technically take the plunge but what are your opinions on jumping in with all of these other changes? Sorry so long!

[activebaby]

Not pushing pt here, but are open to it (practice sitting on the potty, have training underwear if he asks). Daycare is really great with offering pt. today he went twice at daycare and once at home (pee only) - he was so proud of himself. If he continues this through the week, they would like to start pushing pt if I was in agreement. So we'll see what he does for the rest of the week !

[becole]

Today at daycare was better. No accidents. Every day is interesting in teaching a new skill!

[becole]

Aug 23, 2016 19:29:53 GMT -5 scout251 said:

So I really wasn't planning on going here now because I honestly have no desire to potty train and DD just transitioned beds and will be starting a new school in September. We have had a potty out for a while and she will pee on it before bath or at other random times of day if we put her on it but we never really stress it. We do talk about eventually wearing underwear when she goes on the potty all the time but it's just talk. Tonight she had pooped in her diaper but didn't say anything right away and I shockingly didn't smell it. When I went to change her she said it hurt and we talked about telling mommy when she poops so I can clean it right away. But when I tried to put her diaper back on her she kept saying "no diaper! I have underwear!" I had to convince her to put on her diaper to go to bed. So, I can have Fri - Tuesday at home with her (for most of the day) so I could technically take the plunge but what are your opinions on jumping in with all of these other changes? Sorry so long!

Well since DS turned 2, we got rid of the paci, a month later we did big boy bed, and now we're getting rid of diapers. I think that we get small windows of opportunity when our kids show interest in something and it can make it easier to run with it.
If she's showing interest, see how she does. There's nothing wrong with trying it and scrapping the idea if it just doesn't feel right. A 4-5 day stretch of time is really awesome.

[athn64]

scout251 , we transitioned beds, then brought home DD2, and now we're PTing. If she's ready, she's ready. I'd take the weekend and see how it goes. You'll know if it's too much or not, trust me.

ETA we moved in there too. Lots of changes over the past three months here.

[scout251]

If she does well with it, would you send her in underwear to her new school and ask them to put a diaper on her for nap? I wish I knew the staff at the new school and could talk to them.

[meggypoo1]

So MH brought Clara to the potty at daycare this morning. It did not go well at all. She fought it the whole time. So they ended up working towards just touching the potty. She did that. Then she sat on MH's lap on the potty but she lost it when she sat by herself. I would just back off for now however this morning she woke up and the first thing she said was "I need pee" so she went to the potty and peed. I am thinking something about the daycare potties are scary. So I will have to ask the teachers what their plan is (one of them was subbing in her room last week and told me she sat on the potty and didn't cry and was happy and asked if she was a big girl -- not really sure where she got that since we didn't start that) to help this along. I will also bring her this afternoon and see how it goes. Sigh

[NJgirl84]

meggypoo1 are the toilets at daycare a little bigger than what you use at home? We have a small potty for DS and even though the ones at daycare are small his feet couldn't touch the ground and he would freak. I haven't seen him on the potty there now but either he grew or he got over the fear.

[meggypoo1]

Aug 24, 2016 10:32:41 GMT -5 NJgirl84 said:

meggypoo1 are the toilets at daycare a little bigger than what you use at home? We have a small potty for DS and even though the ones at daycare are small his feet couldn't touch the ground and he would freak. I haven't seen him on the potty there now but either he grew or he got over the fear.

They a mini regular looking potties. At home we have a Minnie Mouse potty. I did have the thought her feet not being able to touch the ground on the potties at daycare. I was going to ask if she can have a step stool to use if that is the case because I wonder if she thinks she will fall in our something.

[becole]

Aug 24, 2016 5:56:49 GMT -5 scout251 said:

If she does well with it, would you send her in underwear to her new school and ask them to put a diaper on her for nap? I wish I knew the staff at the new school and could talk to them.

My thought, though I've never been in this situation so maybe someone else would have much bette advice... It may work to your advantage- like "this is your new school because you are a big girl and you are in a new room and in this room, big boys and girls use the potty and wear undies. It's a really good thing and makes mommy so proud of you and happy for you. I love your new school and that you are so special to be a big girl now." Repeat daily. Remind the school that diaper for nap is the only diaper option. She'll have accidents but they'll get less over time. Keep moving forward.

[becole]

Aug 24, 2016 7:22:31 GMT -5 meggypoo1 said:

So MH brought Clara to the potty at daycare this morning. It did not go well at all. She fought it the whole time. So they ended up working towards just touching the potty. She did that. Then she sat on MH's lap on the potty but she lost it when she sat by herself. I would just back off for now however this morning she woke up and the first thing she said was "I need pee" so she went to the potty and peed. I am thinking something about the daycare potties are scary. So I will have to ask the teachers what their plan is (one of them was subbing in her room last week and told me she sat on the potty and didn't cry and was happy and asked if she was a big girl -- not really sure where she got that since we didn't start that) to help this along. I will also bring her this afternoon and see how it goes. Sigh

Love tit for her going on the potty at home. I think your H did all the right things in getting her to just touch it. If the school is okay with it, you could try to bring a little potty for her that they can empty. Is the bathroom off the main room?
My school does diaper changes in the bathroom next to the toilet. At each diaper change (for the diaper kids) they set the kid on the potty. Some of them hop right off, some go, some don't. DS was going 50/50 before PT. But he never expressed fear. But I also was not the one to put him on it the first time. His teacher just sat him on it while I wasn't there. She may react more nervously with you there.

[meggypoo1]

Aug 24, 2016 10:46:20 GMT -5 becole said:

Aug 24, 2016 7:22:31 GMT -5 meggypoo1 said:

So MH brought Clara to the potty at daycare this morning. It did not go well at all. She fought it the whole time. So they ended up working towards just touching the potty. She did that. Then she sat on MH's lap on the potty but she lost it when she sat by herself. I would just back off for now however this morning she woke up and the first thing she said was "I need pee" so she went to the potty and peed. I am thinking something about the daycare potties are scary. So I will have to ask the teachers what their plan is (one of them was subbing in her room last week and told me she sat on the potty and didn't cry and was happy and asked if she was a big girl -- not really sure where she got that since we didn't start that) to help this along. I will also bring her this afternoon and see how it goes. Sigh

Love tit for her going on the potty at home. I think your H did all the right things in getting her to just touch it. If the school is okay with it, you could try to bring a little potty for her that they can empty. Is the bathroom off the main room?
My school does diaper changes in the bathroom next to the toilet. At each diaper change (for the diaper kids) they set the kid on the potty. Some of them hop right off, some go, some don't. DS was going 50/50 before PT. But he never expressed fear. But I also was not the one to put him on it the first time. His teacher just sat him on it while I wasn't there. She may react more nervously with you there.

It's in a hall right outside of the class room. I have also thought of bringing a Minnie potty for her. I will have to ask about it. I first want to know what they are doing to help her fear and then see for myself if she can't reach the floor.
I know it isn't us being there because they have told me she hates it. It's to the point now that I guess she cries as soon as they say ok class it is time to line up to go to the potty.
I have picked her up in the process of the class going to the potty and she cries and didn't seat. They seat on a bench and take turns going and like you said some hop right off some go and then they get a new diaper and wash their hands.

[becole]

Aug 24, 2016 10:51:40 GMT -5 meggypoo1 said:

Aug 24, 2016 10:46:20 GMT -5 becole said:

Love tit for her going on the potty at home. I think your H did all the right things in getting her to just touch it. If the school is okay with it, you could try to bring a little potty for her that they can empty. Is the bathroom off the main room?
My school does diaper changes in the bathroom next to the toilet. At each diaper change (for the diaper kids) they set the kid on the potty. Some of them hop right off, some go, some don't. DS was going 50/50 before PT. But he never expressed fear. But I also was not the one to put him on it the first time. His teacher just sat him on it while I wasn't there. She may react more nervously with you there.

It's in a hall right outside of the class room. I have also thought of bringing a Minnie potty for her. I will have to ask about it. I first want to know what they are doing to help her fear and then see for myself if she can't reach the floor.
I know it isn't us being there because they have told me she hates it. It's to the point now that I guess she cries as soon as they say ok class it is time to line up to go to the potty.
I have picked her up in the process of the class going to the potty and she cries and didn't seat. They seat on a bench and take turns going and like you said some hop right off some go and then they get a new diaper and wash their hands.

If it's her feet dangling, maybe she would just like a stool.
I can't remember if I posted this here or on my other board but we bought this. He loves it, and climbs up himself. I know the book suggested having her baby doll or stuffed animal use the potty to "show" her.
But if peer pressure/ following the other kids is not working for her, I'm not sure how you would handle it.

[meggypoo1]

Aug 24, 2016 11:17:59 GMT -5 becole said:

Aug 24, 2016 10:51:40 GMT -5 meggypoo1 said:

It's in a hall right outside of the class room. I have also thought of bringing a Minnie potty for her. I will have to ask about it. I first want to know what they are doing to help her fear and then see for myself if she can't reach the floor.
I know it isn't us being there because they have told me she hates it. It's to the point now that I guess she cries as soon as they say ok class it is time to line up to go to the potty.
I have picked her up in the process of the class going to the potty and she cries and didn't seat. They seat on a bench and take turns going and like you said some hop right off some go and then they get a new diaper and wash their hands.

If it's her feet dangling, maybe she would just like a stool.
I can't remember if I posted this here or on my other board but we bought this. He loves it, and climbs up himself. I know the book suggested having her baby doll or stuffed animal use the potty to "show" her.
But if peer pressure/ following the other kids is not working for her, I'm not sure how you would handle it.

That's cool! It might be case of switching to something like that.
I am really at a loss too. I hope that she will tell me why she doesn't want to go.

[comicSans]

I've been sitting in the bathroom for 20 mins while DD poops. "I still tryin."