Bad storms coming through right now so we are hanging out in the basement. Really bad straight line winds in the 50-80 mph range.
I hate storms..... even more now that we have the baby.
Stay safe! My first thought with S being born in the spring was, "please let it be a mild spring with no tornadoes" because our basement is AWFUL. I hope the storm passes quickly!
I'm 12w PP and my lady bits still hurt. I got my first PP period a few weeks ago and it was uncomfortable to use tampons (not just to put it in, but also to wear). Is anybody else still uncomfortable? DH and I have only attempted sex once, around 7w PP. He asked me last night when we could try again. But I have zero desire to do something that hurts. Anyone else experience this?
BFing, and PP hormones generally, dry things out down there and make things uncomfortable. I had the same issues last time, even with a c-section delivery. Estrace and lots of lube help.
We used a TON of lube last time. It was gushing out of me the rest of the evening. All the lube in the world couldn't help the pain. It felt like I was being ripped apart again.
DH is already looking forward to sleep training. I have been trying some things for getting S ready for when I go back to school since currently we spend most naps with him on me. But my question (and this may be a dumb one) is: is sleep training necessary? I guess I just thought babies figured out sleep on their own. Also, what methods has anyone used that worked or didn't work? I am wanting to be prepared and researched for when we do sleep train.
Some babies don't figure it out. If the baby doesn't, then it is a personal choice to sleep train.
D took to sleep training really well. I was okay with the one night waking until she started having a hard time going back to sleep alone due a bed sharing habit after staying in a hotel. We did it around 7 months and it was the best decision for us.
When she woke up I didn't immediately attend to her. The first night, I left her fuss until the fussing turned into a true cry. I went in and held her to calm down. When she calmed, I put her back down. That night sucked and I wanted to quit. The next night was better with less crying. No crying the third night. I did what felt right to me and her. I didn't time when I went in. It was based off her crying. I also knew she wasn't waking to eat anymore. It was a habit.
In my experience, this is something that you decide what works best. With this baby I am open to doing it again but it all depends. He was a great sleeper for a long time and then went back to motn wakeup. I think we will end up sleep training.
The crying is so hard. I am not sure I can take it! I also am not sure if S is a good or bad sleeper? I nurse to sleep most of the time expect for some naps. I have heard this is a "terrible habit" by some and not an issue by others. It's so hard to figure out what is right. MH wants to just let him cry it out, but I can't get behind that at this point. Maybe if his sleep gets really bad.
Oh yes ashlee, heartbot brings up a great point. Sleep training doesn't necessarily mean CIO. Avoiding sleep crutches now can help in the long run! We don't allow DS to have a pacifier at night, because when it falls out during a nap and he isn't being held, that wakes him up. I'm not going to run to his room all night every night to put his paci back in his mouth!
Some babies don't figure it out. If the baby doesn't, then it is a personal choice to sleep train.
D took to sleep training really well. I was okay with the one night waking until she started having a hard time going back to sleep alone due a bed sharing habit after staying in a hotel. We did it around 7 months and it was the best decision for us.
When she woke up I didn't immediately attend to her. The first night, I left her fuss until the fussing turned into a true cry. I went in and held her to calm down. When she calmed, I put her back down. That night sucked and I wanted to quit. The next night was better with less crying. No crying the third night. I did what felt right to me and her. I didn't time when I went in. It was based off her crying. I also knew she wasn't waking to eat anymore. It was a habit.
In my experience, this is something that you decide what works best. With this baby I am open to doing it again but it all depends. He was a great sleeper for a long time and then went back to motn wakeup. I think we will end up sleep training.
The crying is so hard. I am not sure I can take it! I also am not sure if S is a good or bad sleeper? I nurse to sleep most of the time expect for some naps. I have heard this is a "terrible habit" by some and not an issue by others. It's so hard to figure out what is right. MH wants to just let him cry it out, but I can't get behind that at this point. Maybe if his sleep gets really bad.
They are way too young for CIO right now. Around six months is when you can start it, as that is when they can learn to self-soothe.
DH is already looking forward to sleep training. I have been trying some things for getting S ready for when I go back to school since currently we spend most naps with him on me. But my question (and this may be a dumb one) is: is sleep training necessary? I guess I just thought babies figured out sleep on their own. Also, what methods has anyone used that worked or didn't work? I am wanting to be prepared and researched for when we do sleep train.
Not all babies need sleep training, but some babies do. Or, at least, they may eventually figure it out on their own, but they may be 2 or 3 years old (or even older--our friends have a 4 year old who still doesn't sleep all the way through the night), and so you may want to do training because you're going out of your mind. If you don't feel like it's necessary, though, there's no reason to do it. For us, with DD, sleep training eventually became extremely necessary, because her sleep was absolutely horrible. I'm not sure how necessary it will be with DS, given that he's a much better sleeper.
There are a lot of different kinds of sleep training, including gentler methods that don't involve CIO and are more just about establishing good bedtime habits, avoiding sleep crutches, and encouraging self-soothing. With DD, we tried a whole range of things, starting with Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution (I ended up with a shitton of charts that painted an excruciating picture of how bad DD's sleep was, but it didn't help her sleep) and moving on to the Ferber Method. Eventually a modified CIO + weaning from the bottle ended up being our solution, but she was 15 or 16 months old by the time we finally got it all sorted out. Different kids respond to different things, though.
Oh man. I couldn't imagine a 4 year old not sleeping through the night!
heartbot, jags8, buttercup thanks for answering my questions. I'm such a noob! None of my friends IRL have kids and SIL has a very...interesting parenting philosophy so I am mostly going in blind with all things infant related.
This may be a bit of a FFFC, but MH and I haven't had sex yet, not even attempted.
The only reason I attempted is because DH wanted to. He even set it all up to have my parents watch DS so we could have a date night, so that I wouldn't have the added pressure of DS being there and needing me. DH has such a high sex drive, I wish he would just STFU about anything sex related. Like honestly, I'm taking care of our baby all the time. When I put him down, I don't want to be touched or touch anyone. I want my own god damn personal space!
With DS1 we didn't sleep train until close to a year and even then we did an interval method. However, after 3 months we moved him to his own room and when he fussed DH went in first to try to get him back down. If I went in he wanted to nurse every time. Once we started to send DH in he slowly dropped his night feeds and started to sleep better.
ashlee, I didn't have to sleep train my older boys. They were pretty good sleepers. Atm, DD is great, but of the time comes when we need to consider sleep training (which may happen after we ditch the glorious swaddle), we will do it in a heartbeat.
The only reason I attempted is because DH wanted to. He even set it all up to have my parents watch DS so we could have a date night, so that I wouldn't have the added pressure of DS being there and needing me. DH has such a high sex drive, I wish he would just STFU about anything sex related. Like honestly, I'm taking care of our baby all the time. When I put him down, I don't want to be touched or touch anyone. I want my own god damn personal space!
Whenever he gropes me I could seriously punch him in the face.
Yes! Especially my boobs! OMFG how many times do I have to remind him to not touch my boobs?! They are so touched-out from nursing.
Oh yes ashlee, heartbot brings up a great point. Sleep training doesn't necessarily mean CIO. Avoiding sleep crutches now can help in the long run! We don't allow DS to have a pacifier at night, because when it falls out during a nap and he isn't being held, that wakes him up. I'm not going to run to his room all night every night to put his paci back in his mouth!
Eh during one of my daughter's sleep regressions (4 months maybe?) we had a few weeks of putting the paci back in multiple times a night. You do what you gotta do. If it wasn't the paci it would've been something else. Also they eventually learn to put the paci back in themselves without disturbing mom and dad (that was the best day!)
We just never allowed him to have a paci at night from the start. It's worked great for us, he doesn't even need it. I give him a bottle before bed, and he drifts right off. He sometimes wakes in the MOTN and I nurse him for the usual 10 minutes, and he drifts right back off. Tonight he slept 8:10-4:30, I nursed him, and he went right back to sleep.
I have to share this cute thing DH said last night!
We went to dinner with DS while DH's car was at the repair. DS was in his car seat on the floor, and DH was talking to him, and DS was smiling. DH said "He must be able to see pretty far now, huh?" I said yes, I think their vision is pretty normal at this point.
DH looks back to DS and says "Oh ya? Can you see how much Daddy loves you?"
BFing, and PP hormones generally, dry things out down there and make things uncomfortable. I had the same issues last time, even with a c-section delivery. Estrace and lots of lube help.
We used a TON of lube last time. It was gushing out of me the rest of the evening. All the lube in the world couldn't help the pain. It felt like I was being ripped apart again.
Ouch! Sounds like you need a lot more time to heal. We tried at about 7weeks and it really hurt. I'm 12 weeks pp and I'm really not very interested in trying again. I've been sick lately with a lot of stomach problems so thats contributing too
Anyone else's LO losing hair too? DS1 lost all his around 3 or 4 months and now DS2 is losing his but only on the sides. It looks so weird. His sideburns have disappeared.
Yep DS had a head full of thick black hair. It is now sandy and thinned out a lot (but long)!
Anyone else's LO losing hair too? DS1 lost all his around 3 or 4 months and now DS2 is losing his but only on the sides. It looks so weird. His sideburns have disappeared.
Both of my boys were born with dark hair. DS1 lost his hair in the first month and it came back blonde. DS2s is just now starting to fall out and I see blond coming in! It's hard to believe because his hair is so dark and thick.
My brother is getting married so I tried on the bridesmaid dress today when it arrived. My 3 year old asked, "Are you a princess, Mommy?" Of course, I confirmed it, and then he told me I looked pretty. It was very sweet, especially because the dress doesn't look so great with all the extra baby weight.
My brother, SIL, nephew and niece have been in town this week and they leave tonight I'm super sad he is in the Army and they are being transferred to Hawaii (lucky duck) but they had to fly out of Dallas so they spent a few days with us ... I hadn't seen him in 3 yrs and I'm sad thinking it will be a long time until I see him next ..... I'm just thankful we had this week!
adelbert that's awesome that you left him alone to experience it! Last Friday DH took a sick day because he had hurt his shoulder playing softball (his job is physical). He asked if I was going to bring DS to daycare. HA! Hell no. I said "Why would we pay for daycare when you can stay home with him?"
Before I left, he said he would text me to let me know how it was going. I was like "What are you talking about? You're his dad. It's not like I'm going to come home from work if it gets hard." They survived.
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