Post by RandomName on Jul 25, 2016 18:13:50 GMT -5
Today was a LoNG day. DS has a full body rash that has been getting progressively worse the past 3 days. It looks awful. But no fever, no mouth sores, no cold/flu symptoms, no pink eye, no allergies - so basically a mystery rash, clingy and fussy, and eating less. I of course assumed the worse- chicken pox, measles etc. Thank goodness my Dr has a nurse line.
Post by redandblue on Jul 25, 2016 18:40:31 GMT -5
RandomName sorry about DS. Let us know what your Dr says. That does seem mysterious. M has what I believe is eczema on his arms and becomes worse in the warm weather. He seems more sensitive to certain products, so I'm on the hunt for different sunscreen and moisturizer. It doesn’t seem to bother him though.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Good day but drinking was involved, so when H put DD in her PJ's right away I lost it and blew my lid about him not parenting. Because you all have heard me bitch before about how I'm the sole parent who cares about their hygiene and he couldn't care less. So I'm all like don't you think that they need a bath, what are they having for dinner. Why are you wyling them up before bed time, have you changed diapers, brushed teeth, brushed hair, they haven't bathed since Saturday but have been swimming so choline in hair, have sweated bullets at school, etc etc...and you just put them in PJ's?!!! Next week you are in charge of all those that things and know my kids will not go to school dirty so you better learn how to parent by then. And if you can't figure it out pack your shit up and get out.
Yes. I told him to pack his shit and get out. He didn't respond.
Ds is on formula. He gets up about 3 times a night and wants bottles. We are switching to whole milk the second he hits 12 months. How do I get to stop the need in tmotn for bottles?
I tried last night and he just woke up fully and sobbed hysterically until I gave hi the bottle. I didn't have this issue with DD. Ds should sleep thru night but he doesn't.
I'm screwed, aren't I? Any advice is greatly appreciated
Ds is on formula. He gets up about 3 times a night and wants bottles. We are switching to whole milk the second he hits 12 months. How do I get to stop the need in tmotn for bottles?
I tried last night and he just woke up fully and sobbed hysterically until I gave hi the bottle. I didn't have this issue with DD. Ds should sleep thru night but he doesn't.
I'm screwed, aren't I? Any advice is greatly appreciated
Your gut is probably right. With ds, no amount of CIO would stop him from crying. With DD, a night of CIO stopped the MOTN feeds and wake ups completely. With ds, I ended up just giving him the bottles to get at least some sleep. At 14 months, CIO finally worked. So I wouldn't say screwed.... But..... Some kids just don't take to it until they're ready.
Also I'm sorry you're in that place with your H. I know the "get out" feeling (when you didn't really want them to leave but to stop the bullshit ASAP. Or leave). It's hard when you have kids to take care of and your H is a further burden. I hope he picks it up and soon.
RandomName sorry about DS. Let us know what your Dr says. That does seem mysterious. M has what I believe is eczema on his arms and becomes worse in the warm weather. He seems more sensitive to certain products, so I'm on the hunt for different sunscreen and moisturizer. It doesn’t seem to bother him though.
My DS has eczema so I had to hunt. I'll share what we use bc it was quite the process haha.
We use CreaVe in the bath.
I use this cream after bath when he's dry (not open red). It's behind the counter at Pharmasave. No idea why I highly recommend it. Love.
And I use these sunscreens. The first was recommended on parenting and is actually a Canadian company! The second I found with good reviews on Well . ca
RandomName sorry about DS. Let us know what your Dr says. That does seem mysterious. M has what I believe is eczema on his arms and becomes worse in the warm weather. He seems more sensitive to certain products, so I'm on the hunt for different sunscreen and moisturizer. It doesn’t seem to bother him though.
My DS has eczema so I had to hunt. I'll share what we use bc it was quite the process haha.
We use CreaVe in the bath.
I use this cream after bath when he's dry (not open red). It's behind the counter at Pharmasave. No idea why I highly recommend it. Love.
And I use these sunscreens. The first was recommended on parenting and is actually a Canadian company! The second I found with good reviews on Well . ca
Thanks! I will definitely look for those and give them a try.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by runningmommy519 on Jul 25, 2016 19:45:00 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer I'm sorry you are in this funk with your H. Hopefully he steps up. I wonder often how my H would manage if he had to fly solo with both kids. He has never taken both out alone before.
So between 2 kids we have 3 ear infections and 1 kid with diarrhea. Thank VL my mom is home or else I'd be missing a lot of work. But the good news is ds's fever broke today after almost 5 days.
redandblue DD also has eczema. We use babyganics bath soap, cerave lotion all over, aquaphor on her cheeks and anyou bad patches.
I honestly haven't sunblock yet because she has such fair skin I've basically been keeping her in the shade most of the time. I have sensitive skin and use laroche-posay. I may try it with her, but it's expensive.
Ds is on formula. He gets up about 3 times a night and wants bottles. We are switching to whole milk the second he hits 12 months. How do I get to stop the need in tmotn for bottles?
I tried last night and he just woke up fully and sobbed hysterically until I gave hi the bottle. I didn't have this issue with DD. Ds should sleep thru night but he doesn't.
I'm screwed, aren't I? Any advice is greatly appreciated
At bedtime, what is your routine? Is the bottle at least 20 min before you put him down?
Good morning! Last night was awful. W woke up screaming and without thinking I started to feed him and then remembered I had taken my xanax to sleep. So then I spiraled out on how much he could've gotten in to his system. And H brought up withdrawal symptoms (which only happen in newborns). Long story short I was up till after 2 worrying about what I'm doing to him with the tiny bit of xanax he could possibly get. And then I had nightmares all night. So I need all the coffee and probably a donut today.
Just catching up now. The chance of him being harmed by any minor exposure he got from nursing one time is almost none, and he wouldn't be experiencing withdrawal from a one time exposure. I'm sorry last night turned out to be so stressful and that you were awake worrying. Be kind to yourself. Baby is going to be fine. I hope you're able to get some good sleep tonight.
@janetheconquerer, I understand a lot of that co-parenting frustration and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. Would it help your H to have a list of what needs to be done for the evening routine? Seems so ridiculous that that would be necessary, but then again, clearly he's not figuring it out on his own or he doesn't care. I hope you two are able to get on the same page. I wouldn't try to discuss this when either of you has been drinking though. Alcohol definitely won't help your communication. Hang in there.
@betweenthelines, Yikes! That is a lot of sickness. I'm so glad your mom is there to help you.
abominationsnowman, Have you survived the last solo bedtime? When does your H get home tomorrow? Hopefully he'll have showered after getting off that boat!
Post by redandblue on Jul 25, 2016 21:23:18 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer sorry about your fight with YH. I hope once life settles for you with your new job etc, two young kids, sleeping issues etc, you and YH can do some work getting back connected. It sucks and you guys have dealt with a lot of stress recently. Be patient with yourself.
As for the MOTN weaning, we just worked on this with M. What helped us was combination of sleep training at bedtime to ensure he is able to put himself to sleep, and then reducing the amount of formula when he wakes up (went from 6oz to 4oz for a couple of days), and then started to dilute the formula, so stayed with the 4oz, but instead of 2 scoops of formula, we only did 1.5 for a couple of days. Then went to one scoop. When we tried .5 scoop with the 4 oz he was like WTF?? And just took his soother. The next couple of nights he would still wake at the usual time, but settled quickly with just a quick snuggle and back to sleep. At this stage some babies definitely still wake once a night for a feeding, but overall it's not usually necessary. I would suggest either starting to wean before you head back to work next week, or wait until you are settled. Too many changes for everyone can be stressful and hinder your progress. GL and hugs to you!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Good morning! Last night was awful. W woke up screaming and without thinking I started to feed him and then remembered I had taken my xanax to sleep. So then I spiraled out on how much he could've gotten in to his system. And H brought up withdrawal symptoms (which only happen in newborns). Long story short I was up till after 2 worrying about what I'm doing to him with the tiny bit of xanax he could possibly get. And then I had nightmares all night. So I need all the coffee and probably a donut today.
Just catching up now. The chance of him being harmed by any minor exposure he got from nursing one time is almost none, and he wouldn't be experiencing withdrawal from a one time exposure. I'm sorry last night turned out to be so stressful and that you were awake worrying. Be kind to yourself. Baby is going to be fine. I hope you're able to get some good sleep tonight.
Thank you. H was more worried because I take the xanax every night at 8-9 and feed W in the morning at 6. I know from my doc the levels are so low by that time that it wouldn't impact w at all but to think he could have withdrawals over time scared the crap out of me. I'm still pretty on edge with it. The research is pretty sparse and a lot of it is anecdotal.
aydee how did today go? Was your H gone today, or is that tomorrow?
@mrspanpan that's so my luck to miss tyre call! I'd send him to daycare as well. FX it clears up soon.
@janetheconquerer that seriously sucks. Your H needs to get on board. I hope you guys have a chance to talk soon. @betweenthelines so glad you have your mom back for backup. How has your H's recovery been going?
I dropped my stuff off for the consignment sale tonight. Of course it couldn't go smoothly. When I get there and start to unload my stuff I realize I left a bag of things at home. There were a few bigger ticket items so I packed back up and ran home. Got back and got to unpack again. But they pulled very few items from me, so that's good. Now to wait for Wednesday to go shopping with packmomma!
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