I'm really trying to hit the Fitbit goal of at least 250 steps each hour. I figure that's a realistic goal with a desk job. So I have to pee, but I'm waiting 5 minutes because I've got my steps for this hour already.
Post by tuscanlatte on Jul 26, 2016 13:06:28 GMT -5
Hey guys. Crazy busy day here. Got chewed out a meeting and shitty coworker kept saying "well what I've done is..." No. No you have done fuck all. I have done that. He is gone again this afternoon and I feel like this is going to come to a head soon. I couldn't correct him in the meeting because it was an outside client, but I think I am going to have to confront him and/or tell our boss what's happening. I refuse to go under the bus with him. The next couple of months are going to be a bit uncomfortable..
Post by tuscanlatte on Jul 26, 2016 13:30:26 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer, RandomName, I worked with him before my leave. The guy who sent me that scathing email was actually trying to tell me my coworker was doing nothing (in a terribly miscommunicated way). I got back and the only thing (out of 12 reports due while I was gone) that had been turned in was the report I WROTE in March pro bono because I felt bad he had been "overworked." My replacement told me that he handed it in. So even while I was on a year of leave, the only thing that got done, was 1 report AND I DID IT FROM HOME.
I am so frustrated with this. He's charming, and he's a talker, and he always makes it sound like he's helping/doing things/ in the know. But I realized after I came back that to date, he has not written a single thing (and our job is to write!!). He has only co-edited. My replacement said he spent 2-3 months watching netflix. It's all coming down on me now which is very frustrating. He hasn't met a single deadline in 3 years. I need to talk to our project manager about it because if this goes sideways, I am not to blame. Up to this point I've been doing both of our jobs, but now there is no time. It will take 2 people working really hard to meet the deadline. GAH.
Post by RandomName on Jul 26, 2016 13:51:41 GMT -5
tuscanlatte I remember you saying about him but can't believe he still has a job! I'd def talk with your manager but how could people not see this? I'm flabbergasted that he seriously still has a job!
Post by tuscanlatte on Jul 26, 2016 14:30:38 GMT -5
Well someone pass a bottle of wine this way.
I guess when I was alone in the office and chatting with DH he snuck back in for his bike helmet. LOL SOMEONE PASS AN IDIOT STAMP FOR MY FOREHEAD.
He texted me, "did I offend you?" Jesus. So yeah he heard my little rant. On the plus, we had a super honest conversation lol. And I think things will be ok.
Post by tuscanlatte on Jul 26, 2016 16:00:58 GMT -5
Ha. We had a lengthy conversation where he apologized sincerely and all of that stuff needed to be said and it all got laid out on the table. I just wish I had said it straight to his face rather than him overhearing it thats all. For that, I feel like an asshole.
I checked out that website aydee . I'm gonna try some of the tips tonight for night weaning. Plus I'm gonna do CIO for real...I refuse to have 2 crappy sleepers.
Good luck tonight! We'll be here for encouragement. The first week of sleep training totally sucks. I wish there were some way to do it that felt less painful. The first night I think Abigail cried for almost an hour. Just keep your eye on the prize and know that it gets better. During the hardest parts I tried to remind myself that my baby has to learn how to put herself to sleep, and that's a hard thing to figure out when you've never done it. Now I can watch her wake briefly at the end of every sleep cycle and reposition herself and go back to sleep. When I put her to bed I rock and sing for about a minute and then put her down in the crib awake. She knows how to fall asleep on her own.
Also, I think it was RandomName or redandblue that had some very good suggestions about how to cut back on bottles and/or water them down at night so that baby no longer thinks it's worth it to seek out food.
aydee, did you go in to soothe or did you just let her go? I think I'm going to go in at my normal 8 minutes and soothe, then 15 minutes then 30 mins etc...
@mrspanpan, we do a weak CIO. Tonight he's gonna CIO and get a reduced bottle in tmotn. Also gonna try his last bottle 20 mins before bed.
My goal is to fix this sleep. Then work on my 3 yo. I apparently suck at parenting when it comes to sleep. Lol.
What I'm going to say basically comes from this website (so you probably already read it) but I think this will help a lot. I think he has a bottle/sleep association and moving the last bottle 20 min before bed will suck for a few night but really help in the long run. Good luck and grab some wine.
aydee, did you go in to soothe or did you just let her go? I think I'm going to go in at my normal 8 minutes and soothe, then 15 minutes then 30 mins etc...
I would say that really depends on the baby. It works for M but packmomma can't do it with W, it winds him up. Good luck lady, many of us have been there. It's tough, but the end result is worth it.
aydee, did you go in to soothe or did you just let her go? I think I'm going to go in at my normal 8 minutes and soothe, then 15 minutes then 30 mins etc...
With my twins it was straight up CIO because otherwise it gets very complicated when you're sleep training 2 babies in the same room. With Abigail we did a modified sleep lady shuffle with DH being the one to go in there with her because she would have expected to nurse if it was me. DH would pick her up and calm her if she was getting too upset, but then it was back in the crib. He didn't rock to sleep or feed her. Different things work for different babies. Straight up CIO also works too. Go in with a plan tonight that you feel comfortable with and reassess tomorrow depending on how things go.
aydee, did you go in to soothe or did you just let her go? I think I'm going to go in at my normal 8 minutes and soothe, then 15 minutes then 30 mins etc...
On that precious little sleep website she breaks down the Ferber recommendations of when to go in for checks. I used that and a timer for each one. The crying totally sucked, but it was clear that he was mad more than anything. First night it took him almost an hour of screaming before he fell asleep. It does get better. He doesn't fully put himself back to sleep in the MOTN yet, but I can go give him a quick snuggle and he settles to go back to sleep now. GL lady!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Jul 26, 2016 17:19:13 GMT -5
aydee you deserve ALL the wine in the world for having to have completed sleep training with TWO babies at once!! All you momma's of multiples amaze me! Seriously!
Last Edit: Jul 26, 2016 17:19:33 GMT -5 by redandblue
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by RandomName on Jul 26, 2016 18:17:21 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer for the going in, it depends on your kid.
I did a few different things based on his cry. I either straight up didnt go in, or I went in and stayed only one min. In that min I didn't pick DS up just using a soft voice I said "time for sleep, fais dodo", rubbed his back and then left even if he was still crying.
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