Post by NellieOleson on Aug 29, 2016 8:59:00 GMT -5
Hi nikiswimr! Good to see you around! It sounds like things are going great. I'm so happy for you!
icequeen - My H and I have been butting heads a lot lately, too. It is so difficult and discouraging. It's hard being a couple when you also have to parent two small kids. I feel like we get zero time to relax and enjoy each other's company - everything is dealing with the kids 24/7. I feel a lot like sjames2015 mentioned feeling last week. When my H is gone working, I miss him and want him home, but when he's home it can be very frustrating. Hang in there lady - this baby/toddler phase is hard on every marriage.
tinydancer - Poor little guy! Poor mommy! That must have been so scary. Glad he's okay. Dd2 fell off the couch a while ago. After a few tears she was fine, but I felt terrible.
I hope all the sick mamas and kiddos are feeling better today! I'm already dreading the cold/flu season. Ugh.
Thanks for starting the weekly thread, NellieOleson !
One of my good friends got married this weekend and I am just so thrilled and delighted for her. We had a great time celebrating with friends, but we were also "that couple" who has young kids and had to leave early to relieve the babysitter. Oh well - all parents go through it, I am sure. And by leaving "early," I mean we left at 9:15 and they still hadn't cut the cake yet!!
My heart almost exploded with happiness yesterday. DS had an unusually affectionate moment with DD. Usually he ignores her completely. But she was sitting in the middle of the living room floor in her adorable pink pajamas. DS looked over at her and shouted "She is so cute! I want to hug her!" Then he managed to give her a big hug without knocking her over. He kept shouting "I want to hug her! I want to kiss her!" Needless to say, DD loved every second of it because she is obsessed with her big brother. It was beyond cute and so random - it may be years before they have another moment like that! LOL!
The munchkin has a runny nose. It wouldn't be so awful if he didn't hate getting his nose wiped with the passion of a 1000 fiery suns. I have the gentle saline wipes, but he really hates it. He's also extremely uncooperative with the Nose Frieda.
I teared up watching Tangled yesterday. Something is wrong with me. Damn Disney. Right in the feels when she reunites with her parents.
Post by silverspoon on Aug 29, 2016 10:27:28 GMT -5
I also wanted to ask a question about storing baby items. I've been giving it some thought as he grows out of things about what to keep and what not. What about baby bottles? I have a whole set of Dr Brown's 4 oz bottles from when he was tiny and I don't know if I should just toss them or are they ok to keep?
A lot of things are probably going to go in my parent's attic so while they will be packaged up well, they are going to be subjected to extreme temp changes. I just don't know about plastic baby bottles.
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 29, 2016 11:11:09 GMT -5
silverspoon - I hope his little nose feels better soon. Baby colds are the pits.
I think I'd store the bottles somewhere else or just toss them and buy new ones next time around. I'm weird about plastics, though, so that might just be me. Also, don't store the infant car seat up there either. The extreme temperatures can make plastic fragile and compromise the safety of the seat.
The wedding was a lot of fun. We left early-ish, because the only people I knew were the bride's family (and the groom and their kids) and they were dealing with some unrelated drama plus, my BFF (the bride's sister) left because her baby was getting grouchy. Plus H had to work the next day.
As for baby gear, we got rid of almost everything as S outgrew it, partly because we had a flood so some stuff got ruined, and his clothes were almost all given to friends of my sister who had boys after me. I kept a few things that I especially liked, and a few things were given to my sister to make a quilt out of. We had almost everything stored under my mom's basement stairs or in H's parent's garage.
Post by pinktartan9 on Aug 29, 2016 12:50:04 GMT -5
Add me to the wedding club over the weekend... Also part of the reason why I did not check in here for almost a week. Sorry for being MIA. I hope you lovelies are all keeping well. silverspoon Disney knows how to pull on the heartstrings. There is not a single Disney or Pixar film I have watched and hadn't shed a tear. I recently watched dumbo and damn near lost my marbles when the mama elephant got locked up for defending her baby..I'm tearing now.. My babes also hates the nose Frieda I hope your DS feels better soon!
14joa31 that moment must have been so special as a mama 😊❤️
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 29, 2016 13:20:30 GMT -5
So. I got my haircut two weekends ago. I asked for it to look like this:
Instead it looks like this:
This is not the first time this year I've been disappointed in my cut and/or color. I need to break up with my hairstylist, but I've been going to the same salon for six years and have no idea where to go next. I'm terrified!
I'll pour some of my sauvignon blanc out on the ground tonight for the loss of your relationship with your stylist. Just ask your friend who has the best hair where she goes. That's what I did and I am VERY pleased with the stylist that I discovered as a result.
Post by crimsonandclover on Aug 29, 2016 13:26:15 GMT -5
Oh my, I kept errrrrything from the girls - even totally stained clothes I was like "well, if the next one turns out to be a serious spitter like DD1 then I want some clothes to put on them that I don't care about." It feels so good to finally start getting rid of things now!
silverspoon, I'm the same way with Disney stuff now. In the live version of Cinderella, which DD1 got for an early xmas present last year, I cried when her mom died and I cried when her dad died. The next day our babysitter came over and asked DD1 what she got. DD1 said, "A Cinderella movie. It made Mama cry." Ha. Thanks, DD1. And yeah, the reuniting scene in Rapunzel gets me, too.
NellieOleson, DH and I decided to institute Sunday nights as our "marriage nights." We don't plan anything with other people and don't spend it doing our own screen time (although if we decide to watch a movie together that's fine). We talk, drink, and there's guaranteed sexy time. It doesn't work miracles, but it is definitely better than nothing and it's doable.
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 29, 2016 13:37:33 GMT -5
Oh, and to be clear, I kept almost everything from dd1 - the only thing I got rid of were clothes I definitely didn't like for whatever reason. I'm keeping everything this time, too, even though right now I am feeling like we probably won't have another child. I'm not getting rid of stuff until there is some permanent birth control in place!
I just am anti storing food or safety related plastics in extreme temperatures.
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 29, 2016 13:40:40 GMT -5
crimsonandclover - That's a good idea. We actually do get an hour or two in the evenings together fairly regularly, but we both are so tired and burnt out we end up staring at the tv. Then dd2 will wake up and need help, and then it's bedtime.... I think one night a week where we hang out and play cards or have no screen time at all would be good. Now to just find the energy and privacy for that sexy time.
Post by sjames2015 on Aug 29, 2016 15:08:06 GMT -5
I kept everything from DD1. And am going to keep it all until, like NellieOleson, a permanent BC is in place. You just never know. Of course I tossed any sort of food stuff. But I did keep the bottles. DD1 hardly used them so I kept them. Luckily we had another girl so everything is getting used again. Most everything has been stored in the spare room, DD1's room, or a few things in the basement. DH and I, when he's home, usually get an hour or two to ourselves after the kids go to bed but that time is used to unwind and watch our recorded shows. I also do my exercise then. Sexy time is sporadic although he did buy condoms a week ago so that'll help get things going.
I'm off to the dentist in a minute. Hopefully this will be my last trip for awhile.
H and I get a couple of hours most nights to ourselves after the kids are in bed. The exceptions being his game nights, when he doesn't get home until almost midnight. We watch our shows or a movie or whatever and just hang out. Sexy time happens whenever we're in the mood and the kids are in bed or gone for the day.
I just realized I need a haircut. I really want to do something fun and crazy, but we have 2 sets of family pictures coming up in the next couple of months. One with my family and one with H's family. I don't really care what H's family thinks about it, but I will never hear the end of it if I have anything other than "normal" hair in pics with my mother. I could maybe get away with funky coloured streaks, but that's about it.
We aren't saving anything from the babe.. But we aren't planning for a second so there's that. Tonight I said goodbye to a colleague and friend who is moving back to England. I am so sad to see her go. I have been in denial all summer. Also my assistant told me she is moving to New York... In 2 wks. I want to curl up in a whole and cry. And drink myself drunk and cry some more. Turns out I don't have time for that. I am giving myself one 24hr period for a pity party and then I will move on. Or at least try to.
crimsonandclover I think we too need to initiate Sunday night marriage time. Love that idea!
kcrkcs that sucks lady, 24 hour pity party definitely in order.
Poor little E ended up at the pedi today after she was pathetic, coughing and couldn't breathe. We now have antibiotic + steroids for ear infection and croup 😥
We're saving all of her things that are in good condition because we would love one more. I haven't been on BC since E was born, but it would be a freaking miracle if we got KU naturally.
All E's bottles are glass because I'm weird about plastic.
Post by tinydancer on Aug 29, 2016 20:39:31 GMT -5
NellieOleson, LOL, sounds like it's time for a new stylist. crimsonandclover, marriage night is a great idea! Sorry, kcrkcs, sounds like a rough day. All the wine to you. nikiswimr, poor baby, I hope she recovers quickly.
I'm giving away about half of LO's clothes - I'm hoping to avoid another January baby so things might be out of season, and I'm sorta hoping for a girl next :-). I have a bunch of friends having baby boys so they'll be put to good use. We're saving everything else, but I haven't thought about how to store things yet. Are you transitioning out of bottles? Or just planning ahead, silverspoon,?
Post by tinydancer on Aug 29, 2016 20:47:26 GMT -5
LO figured out how to do the full on crawl today. It really feels like he's growing up too quickly. I miss my little baby. Also, now all he wants to do is crawl over to things that are clearly not sturdy or stable and try to pull himself up. The little guy has no sense of self-preservation! Our new house will definitely need to be babyproofed!
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 29, 2016 22:04:08 GMT -5
It's late, I haven't read. Today can suck it. I came down with head cold yesterday and I'm super miserable. Work was crap. DS came home from school complaining of ear pain so off to the Ped we went. Ear infection. DD cried the whole way home in the car because she hadn't napped well because my Mom effed up my nap plan for DD. I've decided no one but H and I can do the ST for DD. I don't care if she sleeps on my Mom or sister for naps when they have her. It's only 2 afternoons a week. I just don't trust anyone else's judgement on that as I have a hard enough time doing it as it is. Ugh. I'm off to bed. Sorry for the word vomit!
I am sitting on my couch so angry and defeated I am sick to my stomach. It feels like there are so many fires to put out. I know I need to make a list and prioritize blah blah. But right now I am so sick of putting out fires. I just Can't. Sorry to complain this is probably just sleep deprivation speaking.
Post by crimsonandclover on Aug 29, 2016 23:56:44 GMT -5
scorpioscuba, sounds like early bedtime is in order. I hope you and your kiddos feel better soon!
kcrkcs, I'm sorry you're losing your assistant! What is she in charge of? Lessons? Chores? Training? When I was back in the US I went out to my old stable and my trainer went off on a tirade about how they've had to cancel their wintering in Florida (she's over 65 and her DH is a retired vet, their daughter now pretty much runs the barn) the past two years because the person who they've had for chores has quit right before they wanted to leave and they can't find good help. I guess I'm asking - how easy/hard is it for you to find someone new for the job?
crimsonandclover she did 80% of my beginner lessons plus everything when I was away at shows.she also did chores and spearheaded the daily grind. Plus we were going to be a little light September and early October for help so everyone was really needed. I am way up north so there aren't people with the right skill set sitting around. Plus she was very reliable and hardworking. Honestly I expected she would move on at some point. I just also thought she would give me more than 2wks notice(actually she will technically only be working another 10 days and is leaving the day I leave for a show with a large group of students). If nothing else because I have treated her like a family member and bent over backward to give her every opportunity. It's going to take my a bit to find someone good and right now I feel burned out and a little used.
kcrkcs - that is such a major bummer about your employees!! But I know that you can do it - girl power!! Sending you all the best work vibes! scorpioscuba - sorry about your crazy day It's always annoying when other folks mess up your kids' mojo. It's nice to have child care help from loved ones, but always annoying with then F up.
Last night I had a come to Jesus moment with DH. He is constantly messing up (see: he has always complained about our yard, and then he accidentally killed half of it over the weekend by spraying it with broad leaf killer instead of weed killer - this is par for the course with him), and he is constantly being rude to other people who mess up. I told him we are not called to be assholes, we are called to be kind and that he needs to slow his roll and stop messing everything up.
Also, DS has his three year old appointment follow up today to test for motor skills and autism. I am doubtful that he has problems with either, but DH is seriously stressed about it. So we shall see.
DH just called and said that DS did fine on his follow-up visit - no signs of motor skills problems and no signs of autism. So this is good news - now we can relax a bit!
Post by crimsonandclover on Aug 30, 2016 9:38:02 GMT -5
kcrkcs, that is really frustrating. Did she just find out herself that she's moving? Or has she known for a while and kept it from you? In the first case I would feel a little more forgiving than in the second. Still, it's not very kind to you. I hope you can find someone soon!
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