Woot woot Friday!

[littlesthobo]

Almost the weekend! What's happening today?

[littlesthobo]

Trying to get out the door to go to a gymnastics place for DS1. Inspected the van for further evidence of mice and didn't find any, not sure if I should take it to my mechanic or not to have him look more thoroughly. Google says my car will probably explode or something equally as dire.

[katelou]

I broke down crying at school drop-off. In front of like 25 parents. I got approximately 3 hours of sleep last night and DD1, who loved school last year, went in to full-on pathetic whine mode about wanting to stay home. Then I realized I forgot her lunch and had to drive home to get it, back to school, and home again (takes an hour) because there is no hot lunch option there. So I lost it. I just can't do this no sleep thing anymore.

[mugster]

I cried after picking R up from daycare yesterday. The lady told me he needed another bottle, and about how he still cried like a newborn, wouldn't nap in a crib, and woke the other babies up. She also told me all about his poop splosion. Meanwhile he was so tired, he didn't crack a smile when he saw me and fell asleep the second I put him in his seat. I just didn't feel good about any of it.

[mugster]

Hugs katelou. I'm sorry.

[sarcaztic10]

Oct 21, 2016 8:59:27 GMT -5 mugster said:

I cried after picking R up from daycare yesterday. The lady told me he needed another bottle, and about how he still cried like a newborn, wouldn't nap in a crib, and woke the other babies up. She also told me all about his poop splosion. Meanwhile he was so tired, he didn't crack a smile when he saw me and fell asleep the second I put him in his seat. I just didn't feel good about any of it.

I am in a similar boat. S takes very short cat naps at DC and it shows. As soon as I get there he fusses and either wants to nurse or wants held and falls asleep. Then he basically sleeps from the time he is in his car seat until the next day because he is so exhausted. I have barely seen him with his eyes open all week. To top all of it off he has a diaper rash and a cold all in his first week at DC. 

It hard on my heart. There will be lots of being held and cuddled this weekend. 

(((Hugs))) to you.

katelou Sending you (((hugs))) having 2 kids is tough and adding no sleep to that is just awful.

[acorn99]

Big squishy hugs to all you guys, katelou mugster and sarcaztic10. I know things are hard right now, but it will get easier.

[katelou]

Oct 21, 2016 9:11:46 GMT -5 sarcaztic10 said:

Oct 21, 2016 8:59:27 GMT -5 mugster said:

I cried after picking R up from daycare yesterday. The lady told me he needed another bottle, and about how he still cried like a newborn, wouldn't nap in a crib, and woke the other babies up. She also told me all about his poop splosion. Meanwhile he was so tired, he didn't crack a smile when he saw me and fell asleep the second I put him in his seat. I just didn't feel good about any of it.

I am in a similar boat. S takes very short cat naps at DC and it shows. As soon as I get there he fusses and either wants to nurse or wants held and falls asleep. Then he basically sleeps from the time he is in his car seat until the next day because he is so exhausted. I have barely seen him with his eyes open all week. To top all of it off he has a diaper rash and a cold all in his first week at DC. 

It hard on my heart. There will be lots of being held and cuddled this weekend. 

(((Hugs))) to you.

katelou Sending you (((hugs))) having 2 kids is tough and adding no sleep to that is just awful.

sarcaztic10, and mugster, starting daycare is so incredibly hard on everyone. It will get better from here though. Mugster are you not feeling comfortable with your daycare provider? I would give it a couple weeks to see if things start to go better, but if it doesn't, definitely consider other options. My DD1 started out in a center that sounded great when I was pregnant, but once I had a baby there I felt very differently about it and made a change after a month. Feeling good about your DCP is essential.

[Ray]

Big hugs to all. I'm really anxious about going back to work in a week even though DHwill be staying home. I'm worried he'll get frustrated and by be able to smooth Flint and yell at him or something. The thought that I'll only get to see my baby 4 hours a day is also very sad to me.

On a happier note, I'm within 5 lbs f my goal weight! I won't get there in the next 10 days but I'm very close so that's good.

[sarcaztic10]

Ray, LT for almost meeting your weight goal. Has YH ever watched Flint alone before?

MH has never solo parented both boys and I will be incredibly nervous when that happens. I hope YH does fine and Flint gets used to his parenting style.

[roccobabyk]

So sorry you guys are having a rough time katelou.

mugster what a crappy thing for that lady to say. Daycare workers are suppose to ease your worries not make them worse.

[roccobabyk]

Sorry your having a rough time as well @sarcaztic. At least it's almost the weekend!

[roccobabyk]

acorn99 I lied about not being sore. I'm dying today, my back hurts so bad.

[roccobabyk]

DD is being so obnoxious lately I just can't. I'm going to get drinks with a friend tonight so I'm hoping that break will help me de-stress.

[Ray]

Oct 21, 2016 10:52:32 GMT -5 sarcaztic10 said:

Ray, LT for almost meeting your weight goal. Has YH ever watched Flint alone before?

MH has never solo parented both boys and I will be incredibly nervous when that happens. I hope YH does fine and Flint gets used to his parenting style.

He has for an evening out with the girls and for little trips into town. I'd say 3 hrs solo max. They survived but flint didn't sleep.

I told him if he starts ha I a meltdown to just go or a walk or give him a bath.

[acorn99]

Oct 21, 2016 10:56:44 GMT -5 roccobabyk said:

acorn99 I lied about not being sore. I'm dying today, my back hurts so bad.

I'm sorry, but I laughed. I have always found that I am not sore the next day, but the day after that.....oh, boy!! So ask me how I feel on Tuesday  

[roccobabyk]

Oct 21, 2016 11:32:08 GMT -5 acorn99 said:

Oct 21, 2016 10:56:44 GMT -5 roccobabyk said:

acorn99 I lied about not being sore. I'm dying today, my back hurts so bad.

I'm sorry, but I laughed. I have always found that I am not sore the next day, but the day after that.....oh, boy!! So ask me how I feel on Tuesday  

Yeah I totally forgot! I'm glad you're going to go, have fun!!

[cavewmn]

*hugs* to everyone who needs them.

W hasn't gotten a fever in a day hoping this is a turning point

[melody330]

A close family friend has been fostering kids for about four years now. They usually stay between 3-9 months and then are reunited. She got a call yesterday about a little boy only 9 days old, he was there within an hour! She's only had kids 10+ before. Baby didn't even have a place to sleep! She is single, and such a kind person. She lives an hour and a half away but I'll be driving up there to drop off so much stuff for her.

I'm so happy I didn't throw out an open box of diapers, or bottles we used for DS1. She is going to get all the things!

[littlesthobo]

Hugs katelou! No sleep is so, so hard.

Hugs for you as well, mugster. It will take some time for R to get in a rhythm there, this lady should know that. Trust your gut if you think this DCP isn't working for you.

sarcaztic10 being a working mom is hard. Hugs to you too, I hope you get tons of cuddles this weekend!

melody330 what an amazing thing your friend is doing for those kids! And I'm glad you are able to help her out!

[littlesthobo]

DS1 is in a "running away is fun!" phase. Every outing we've done this week has had him running away from me laughing at some point, it's so frustrating. He thinks going in timeout is funny, too.

I've had to leave L unattended a number of times (in the middle of the sidewalk! Alone in the gym!) to chase him down. I end up being rough with him and grabbing him so he doesn't run into the street or parking lot. He's putting himself AND L in danger with this behaviour and I'm so over it. Yelling, explaining, timeout, taking away treats, bribing, nothing works.

And I'm over this "timeouts cause psychological damage" shit. Should I just let him get hit by a car, since that it the natural consequence? Let him run away and get lost?

Sometimes I feel like there are so many articles and opinions and judgements about parenting coming at me that I don't feel confident in my decisions as a parent.

Sorry for the rant.

[cabbagecabbage]

So tired. We did a whirlwind almost 5 hours at the museum. It was very fun then Mal screamed the first 25 minutes of our half hour drive home. DD cried to stay then passed out through the screams, so I'd say it wore her our too. I'm so glad we did a family thing! We're topping off our big day with Mexican food soon.

[melody330]

Oct 21, 2016 14:15:38 GMT -5 littlesthobo said:

DS1 is in a "running away is fun!" phase. Every outing we've done this week has had him running away from me laughing at some point, it's so frustrating. He thinks going in timeout is funny, too.

I've had to leave L unattended a number of times (in the middle of the sidewalk! Alone in the gym!) to chase him down. I end up being rough with him and grabbing him so he doesn't run into the street or parking lot. He's putting himself AND L in danger with this behaviour and I'm so over it. Yelling, explaining, timeout, taking away treats, bribing, nothing works.

And I'm over this "timeouts cause psychological damage" shit. Should I just let him get hit by a car, since that it the natural consequence? Let him run away and get lost?

Sometimes I feel like there are so many articles and opinions and judgements about parenting coming at me that I don't feel confident in my decisions as a parent.

Sorry for the rant.

Who says time outs cause damage? Wtf to that. It's not like you're locking them in a basement for hours.

ds1 is 2.5 and he gets time outs for hitting, spitting or biting. If he was a runner I would do timeouts for bolting too.

[cabbagecabbage]

I'll second the side eyes at judging timeouts. FFS. I'm a softy, AP, no hitting, crunchy mom and I can't get it up to care how anybody disciplines if they're not abusing their kids. That's my line. Don't beat or berate them. Otherwise you know your kid best and you are doing your best and anyone who has time to judge a timeout obviously isn't currently parenting a tiny person or they'd be busy chasing after their own damn kids.

[Ray]

Who says time outs cause psychological damage littlesthobo? Is this the newest "thing" parents are going to mess up their kids? Such an eyeroll. This is why kids are little assholes when they get to me lol

You do whatever you gotta do lady - hope your LO gets it soon.

[Ray]

My mom found all my CDs from high school.

Currently listening to Sum 41 "Chuck" up next is X&Y album from Coldplay followed by Linkin Park's Meteora and then some Britney's greatest hits haha!

[legomyago]

sarcaztic10, mugster, daycare is tough. And it super sucks to hear a provider criticize a poor, innocent baby. I always hated that. I had that with DD1 and switched providers, but ride it out a bit. And after three days at daycare, baby had a cold this week. Sigh. I forgot all about the internal struggle of taking a bunch of time for a sick kid.

[glaze]

Sorry for all those having a rough time and those with sick babies! I'm not looking forward to the winter months, a kid in DS's class was out yesterday with the stomach bug. Just crossing my fingers, I'm not ready for that.

Also I've never heard of the timeout thing. My kids get timeouts all the time.

[littlesthobo]

Thanks ladies. I'll keep at it with the timeouts. It's the lady who runs the local playgroups that we go to that said it. Apparently "new studies have come out". And it's not like she's a random, she's hired by the local community services and has an Early Childhood Education degree. We have discussion groups sometimes and that was one of the things she said about timeouts. Honestly she comes off pretty judgy sometimes about certain parenting topics (her kids are grown). But if I don't do timeouts, what else do I have?

[Ray]

Oct 21, 2016 16:25:00 GMT -5 littlesthobo said:

Thanks ladies. I'll keep at it with the timeouts. It's the lady who runs the local playgroups that we go to that said it. Apparently "new studies have come out". And it's not like she's a random, she's hired by the local community services and has an Early Childhood Education degree. We have discussion groups sometimes and that was one of the things she said about timeouts. Honestly she comes off pretty judgy sometimes about certain parenting topics (her kids are grown). But if I don't do timeouts, what else do I have?

Positive reinforcement, coaching, rainbow glitter and unicorn farts!



In all seriousness those first two do have merit but seriously - that lady sounds like a butthead.