Post by bluefairy5 on Oct 27, 2016 10:27:32 GMT -5
emilie, There should still be plenty of time to flip. I can't remember if my MFM wanted head down by 34 or 36 weeks, but I'm preeeetty sure it was 36. My prenatal yoga instructor had ladies with transverse or breech babies do a lot of cat/cow, IIRC. I have no anecdata for whether it worked.
jennykat, I ate a lot of beans during pregnancy because a lot of the time meat was just too much to stomach. Also, LaLoo's goat's milk ice cream has like 6 grams of protein per serving, and is almost more similar to frozen yogurt than to traditional ice cream in its sugar/fat content. So you should probably eat lots of that. You're welcome
Butting in. It's basically a belly/back brace to help with recovery. I got one from the hospital but it was "one size fit all" once my swelling went down it was too loose to support me. I got this for the rest of recovery and it really helped me avoid engaging my core too much while still feeling supported. bellybandit.com
Yep this! It was essential with the CS pain but e I'm sure would also help after a vaginal delivery with how week your core is after giving birth.
Pacifiers: we held off because of my concerns about nipple confusion. Didn't try one until she was nearly a month old. She hates them. The Wubba.nubs were the closest she got to accepting one for me or DH. One of the ladies at daycare has some sort of paci magic and can get CL to take one there, occasionally. I feel like I waited too long to introduce them, and my nipples were quite mad at me for that decision.
You can never have too many burp cloths, particularly if you wind up with a baby with reflux. Keep them everywhere; it sucks when you need one and realize there are none in your current space.
Random - We were gifted a ton of those thin swaddle blankets. So many swaddle blankets. I thought I'd never use them all, but they've been great for nursing covers, stroller/car seat covers, mopping up various things, blankets on the floor/ground, tummy-time spot, impromptu changing pad, blanket for daycare, etc. We have one in each vehicle now, plus one in the diaper bags. When she was a newborn, we had them all over the house.
Another random - I found it handy to have a nursing pillow on each floor of the house, so I wasn't constantly carrying both baby and pillow around (I nursed her 50/50 in between her nursery and our living room, on two separate floors).
DH and I are both 38 TTC since Feb 2013 Diagnoses: PCOS ("lean"/non-IR), borderline hypothyroid, hyperprolactinoma 6 TI/IUI cycles in 2014 (2 Clomid, 4 Femara) - 1 cancelled, 5 BFN IVF #1: March 2015 - 22R/12F. 7 frosties FET #1: May 2015
Natural chemical pregnancy 8/2013 Clomid #1 and #2: BFN IVF 1 :0 to use IVF 2:4 great embryos after PGS testing. FET 1: BFP EDD 6/20/15 Chemical Pregnancy FET 2: BFP EDD 11/14/2015 MMC 9.5 weeks twins IVF #3: 2 fair embryos after PGS testing Surprise BFP during break cycle and DD born 4/2016
dream2be3 +1 to the stock of vaseline and gauze pads if having a circumcision.... lots since it's 2 boys. If having a c/s, make sure you have thing set up to easily access without going up/down stairs too many times.
emilie I'm not sure if it differs for vaginal vs. c-section births, but I had a c-section with both a terrible time with the first poop after. I think it was even worse after DS2. Took like a week and holy pain, sweating, just f*cking awful. They started me on pills immediately after in the hospital. Yeah, did absolutely shit. I think I'm going to start taking Miralax the week before to hopefully avoid it this time. Eeeekkk!
Winnifred no advice, but look at you being terrified of labor and now considering no epidural. You got this!
ttcbabyj I got the sonoline B too. There was a site PAIFers recommended when I was looking. www.fetaldoppler.net I think there was something on their website to get a discount code too.
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
Post by dancerspose on Oct 28, 2016 6:45:28 GMT -5
I have a pretty generous chest to begin with, D-DD before pregnancy. While my breasts have definitely gotten bigger, I haven't had to get new bras yet (just expanded to the further hooks on the band). Lately, by the end of the day, my upper back, like right underneath the bra band, is really sore. Am I causing this myself by continuing to wear normal bras, any thoughts?
I have a pretty generous chest to begin with, D-DD before pregnancy. While my breasts have definitely gotten bigger, I haven't had to get new bras yet (just expanded to the further hooks on the band). Lately, by the end of the day, my upper back, like right underneath the bra band, is really sore. Am I causing this myself by continuing to wear normal bras, any thoughts?
I have this too and never considered it might be bra related... I wear nursing bras but they suck and aren't supportive. I blamed picking up the baby but maybe it is boob related. Hmmmm I'm an E.
Natural chemical pregnancy 8/2013 Clomid #1 and #2: BFN IVF 1 :0 to use IVF 2:4 great embryos after PGS testing. FET 1: BFP EDD 6/20/15 Chemical Pregnancy FET 2: BFP EDD 11/14/2015 MMC 9.5 weeks twins IVF #3: 2 fair embryos after PGS testing Surprise BFP during break cycle and DD born 4/2016
I have a pretty generous chest to begin with, D-DD before pregnancy. While my breasts have definitely gotten bigger, I haven't had to get new bras yet (just expanded to the further hooks on the band). Lately, by the end of the day, my upper back, like right underneath the bra band, is really sore. Am I causing this myself by continuing to wear normal bras, any thoughts?
I had to start wearing those bra expanders by the beginning of third tri or I was really uncfortable so that would be my go to thought. Your rib cage expands a ton around then and I got uncomfortable pretty fast.
Post by remylove1011 on Oct 29, 2016 16:38:48 GMT -5
Winnifred I went into labor wanting to go without meds and did end up with an epidural. I was induced and in labor for about 24 hours at the point I got the epidural. I got stuck at 9cm (for 4 hours!), so I was able to get one then to help me get to 10cm. The epidural was wonderful. I had to wait about an hour because you have to get fluids before. I was still able to move my legs and labor in different positions, it just got rid of all the pain. (I ended up with an emergency csection in the end so it was good I got the epidural because they just had to up the meds).
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
sms2524, I asked about the grass a little while ago somewhere on the forum. I'd heard such great things about it from friends, but then when I bought it, I couldn't imagine it sitting on my counter every day. Really would have ruined the vibe of my kitchen, lol! The reviews on here were mixed, so I just took it back. I'm still in the market for something, though!
I have the grass and like it ok - but my kitchen is stuck in 1982 so there's not much of a vibe to ruin. I came across this rack the other day though, and thought about getting it because it's a lot sleeker looking and also seems really functional.
Did anyone go into labor unsure of whether or not you wanted an epidural? Can you tell me more about how things went during labor, then?
Initially I just figured I'd get one, but now I'm a lot more focused on trying to limit the medication they'll be giving me and really trying to get through as much of labor with coping techniques as I possibly can. I'm thinking that I'll ask for it at a certain point if I cannot handle the pain any longer. In a way, that plan makes me nervous too because I'm sure I won't be in my right mind and my H won't know what to do, he'll probably just want me to get the epidural so I can relax.
Any experiences to share with this? I'm trying to make sure he understands what I want/need but I'm also not even sure how I'll feel when things are really happening!
I did. I just told the nurses I'd like to know what my options are then wait and see how I'm feeling. They were totally ok with that. I did end up getting an epidural when things started getting super intense, but I really liked being able to keep my options open. Just know that you don't need to have it figured out going into labor - you can make a lot of decisions on the fly based on how things are feeling and progressing.
Post by dancerspose on Nov 2, 2016 12:17:18 GMT -5
Question - how in the world did you even start your search for childcare? I am so overwhelmed by the sheer number of options that I don't even know where to begin. Should I look close to home or close to work (about 15 miles apart), should we look for a big center or home day care...so much to consider!
Question - how in the world did you even start your search for childcare? I am so overwhelmed by the sheer number of options that I don't even know where to begin. Should I look close to home or close to work (about 15 miles apart), should we look for a big center or home day care...so much to consider!
I am not the best model for this, but here is what we did: when I was pregnant I toured some centers and got on waitlists because things are crazy here. I got on the list in May and an opening came up in April, so almost a year to get in. If I were you I would call a few big centers and get an idea on their average wait list times.
We ended up not taking the center spot we got because H changed jobs and that center was at his old job and nowhere near the new one. Knowing I had to find a place quick I searched home daycares. In my area there are some non profit groups that give daycare referrals and I got a long list of referrals in my area. I then looked up each one by their state license and crossed off any that had complaints. Then I methodically called down the list. I visited about 5 places before landing on the one we stuck with and that process took about 3-4 weeks.
We are actually just about to start over again because we are moving and I think I'll focus on home daycares more than centers. The turn around to get in seems quicker and I've loved the personalized care M got at the place she was at.
Question - how in the world did you even start your search for childcare? I am so overwhelmed by the sheer number of options that I don't even know where to begin. Should I look close to home or close to work (about 15 miles apart), should we look for a big center or home day care...so much to consider!
We decided on a place closer to home since MH and I will be sharing drop offs and pick ups (we don't work near eachother). I googled daycares near by home and then looked at their websites. I made a list of maybe 10 places and called each asking about infant pricing. There is a big range in prices in my area and we had a set idea of what we could afford. I found 4 places in my price range and set up tours of each place. Once I toured I put her on the wait list at my two favorite places.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
Question - how in the world did you even start your search for childcare? I am so overwhelmed by the sheer number of options that I don't even know where to begin. Should I look close to home or close to work (about 15 miles apart), should we look for a big center or home day care...so much to consider!
I started asking friends/neighbors. And then started looking at our state's daycare provider website for places in our area. We found an in home right away (via referral of a friend).
Question - how in the world did you even start your search for childcare? I am so overwhelmed by the sheer number of options that I don't even know where to begin. Should I look close to home or close to work (about 15 miles apart), should we look for a big center or home day care...so much to consider!
Initially I searched close to work, but upon further thought and research, decided that close to home was better. DH is able to pick up DD or drop off on mornings when he's home and it's not inconvenient to either of us. Also, there have been times when I had to take the day off work but still needed DD in childcare so having it close to home is wonderful. As far as where to look and how I scoped out yelp & google and then just dropped in on the centers. I felt like doing the drop in, I was getting an honest view of how things run vs. having a scheduled appointment time when they could prep the room or teacher ahead of time. The center we ended up going with is a preschool & infant care center. We liked that there are more regulations on centers vs in home care, but that's our opinion. Also, knowing that the only people with access to our kid was staff vs. in home there might be family members or their own kids who may or may not be people you want around your child. We're paranoid. I also liked that they focused on language stimulation and sign language. After a few drop ins and speaking to other parents in the parking lot, we made up our minds.
Question - how in the world did you even start your search for childcare? I am so overwhelmed by the sheer number of options that I don't even know where to begin. Should I look close to home or close to work (about 15 miles apart), should we look for a big center or home day care...so much to consider!
Guuurlll.....MH freaked out about this and we starting touring DCs at 10 weeks. No joke. First, do you have any friends using DC in the area? That's how we found ours.
Second you have to talk about what you are comfortable with, for MH and I...we couldn't wrap our minds around in-home DC and we can't afford a nanny so that pretty much leaves DC centers. we did a little googling, a little chatting with friend and co-workers and set up tours of several near home. We looked near work for a second but the cost was like 20% higher so eff that. Honestly I vote near home if you have a commute. Babies/toddler are not great in the car. We have a 5-10min drive from DC and at 1 year old she screams the whole time.
During our tours we had a set of ?s to ask and things we were on the lookout for. I have in my PMs from sending to a few PAIFers in the past if you're interested. At the end of the day the only way you'll know is by meeting the people there. We toured a couple high end ones, a lower end one, and a middle of the road one. The "middle of the road" one offered nearly the same thing as the high end ones at a much lower price. It's a private non-profit DC we never would have found without word of mouth. Their teacher ration is a bit higher than the state law, they have several classroom teachers with education degrees, and many of the teachers have been there for over 3 years. E loves it there and is genuinely happy.
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
@dancerspose here's what I had in mind during tours.
Licensing of teachers/caregivers. One place only required an individual to have been working at the center for 8months to become a lead teacher and be the head of the classroom. They only required "some experience with children" as their hiring practices. They were super vague about what that meant. This compared to several other places who had teachers with 10 years experience, most required at least an associate's certificate. I don't mean to be an education snob, but I want to see some sort of licensing.
Classroom ratios. There are state mandated ratios and some daycares do better than that. Also some had a "floating" staff member who could hop between the different classes.
Age of rooms. Some places had 6weeks-year, others were 6weeks-6months, then 6months to mobile. You really don't want to see an infant who's started to walk with a 6 week old baby. Huge difference.
Cribs and crib sharing. The place we hightailed it out of didn't have assigned cribs for the infants. Most places do. Some places provide bedding, others expect you to provide it yourself.
Diapers. Some place provide them, some don't.
Modes of communication. One place sent out a daily email of your children's activities. The place we like is a little more old school and does a weekly write up on paper. Some people may really want that email. Also the had an app on the phone where you could check in throughout the day. It's not something we could do, but it may be a priority for some people.
Honestly, we are surprisingly looking at a more basic daycare. I thought I'd want all the bells and whistles, but I liked the teachers and the director. It had a real family feel to it. It's hard to say why I liked it b/c I expected to go for a bigger flashier place. I definitely had stronger opinions than I expected.
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
Post by dancerspose on Nov 3, 2016 14:26:26 GMT -5
callmeKD, fightersince83, kensie5226, remylove1011, rainbowbridge14 thank you all so much for the input. I know the first step is "deciding what I want" but that seems to be the big hold up. I know we need to just get out there and start looking. One problem is that we don't have friends with kids in our neighborhood. The majority of our friends with kids live near where we work. Our next door neighbor uses an in-home daycare that we'll probably check out. A neighbor two houses down actually runs a day care out of her home so it seems silly to not at least check that one out too (I mean talk about convenience). There are also multiple big day care centers within a 1-2 mile radius of our house. All that's to say there are plenty of places to start with. We just need to bite the bullet and start...
I did at least start looking up the ones near us on the state website to see the complaints/injuries. I figure that can at least provide some basic info. Ugh...
callmeKD, fightersince83, kensie5226, remylove1011, rainbowbridge14 thank you all so much for the input. I know the first step is "deciding what I want" but that seems to be the big hold up. I know we need to just get out there and start looking. One problem is that we don't have friends with kids in our neighborhood. The majority of our friends with kids live near where we work. Our next door neighbor uses an in-home daycare that we'll probably check out. A neighbor two houses down actually runs a day care out of her home so it seems silly to not at least check that one out too (I mean talk about convenience). There are also multiple big day care centers within a 1-2 mile radius of our house. All that's to say there are plenty of places to start with. We just need to bite the bullet and start...
I did at least start looking up the ones near us on the state website to see the complaints/injuries. I figure that can at least provide some basic info. Ugh...
FWIW I say we got the recommendation from friends....well, we're friends now. We literally just asked neighbors we barely knew, but we're aware they had kids and worked. Turns out we have a ton in common and made new BFFs.
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
So a what-would-you-do scenario... I will have to return to work after 6 weeks just for 2 weeks (end of school year). So I won't need permanent daycare until August, but temporary daycare at the beginning of June. Should I maybe look into a nanny for those 2 weeks? I don't think any DC center will hold our spot for those 2 months in the summer.
Obviously not a grad here, but after spending the last few hours researching various options online I would suggest going with a nanny for the two weeks. Depending on the timing, and if you live close to any universities, you might be able to find a college student just finishing classes who has a few weeks to kill before a summer camp job or something.
Post by fightersince83 on Nov 3, 2016 20:10:10 GMT -5
jennykat I would go for a nanny. If you start at a center then they'll most likely make you pay for the spot over the summer which would be a bummer. dancerspose just jump on in. I was really surprised by some of the places that had great reviews. When I went in person as a drop in they weren't very developmentally stimulating. I didn't get a good feeling. More like meh, I guess they're babies, but what are they going to do all day. Most of the people said "we follow their lead" but I also didn't see toys to speak of and when they're that little that's not really a thing (other than respecting their sleep/wake schedule). I'm sure I'm extra picky since I've worked in early intervention for such a long time.
Dang . you were on top of this! DH and I actually had a long talk about it last night and are pretty decided that home daycare is going to be the way to go for us to. As you said, the cost is a lot more reasonable. We were temporarily considering trying to find a part time nanny. DH only works at most 2 days a week so the majority of the time we'd only NEED care for the week days we both work. But when we did the math a nanny 1-2 days/week would be more expensive than full time home daycare. And with full time DH can keep some flexibility about working part time/over time/running errands etc. We're actually waiting to hear if a woman three doors down from us may be able to fit us in to the day care she runs, how convenient, and I've called a woman our other neighbor uses too. I'm feeling slightly more accomplished than I was yesterday so that's at least a start!
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