Post by dizzycooks on Dec 19, 2016 14:36:02 GMT -5
We kicked this week off with a bang. Dd3 has a raging ear infection (no symptoms though so how would I have known?) and -wait for it- a staph infection on her butt.
Christmas shopping today, H is taking S to star wars after school tomorrow, I need to finish the stocking I'm making before Thursday, S's Christmas concert is Thursday, and then I'm spending the day Christmas eve with my parents, then H will pick us up, and Christmas day we're running all over kingdom come. Busy week for us
dizzycooks - your DD3 wins for the most extreme case of the Mondays! I hope she feels better soon! Lollipop - I am so stoked that you got your ticket to see Garth Brooks! Sounds like your BIL is a shoo-in for BIL of the Year! icequeen - I had to side-eye your DH ... it's okay if he leaves you alone with the kids for a few months, but it's not okay for you to leave him with the kids for one hour. Mmm-hmm, ok, yeah, whatever :/ tinydancer - yes, we want to stay in our current little town of Mayberry USA, but the market here is SO HOTT. Last Friday, we saw a house that went on the market on Thursday (day before we saw it). We put in an offer on Friday. By Saturday, they had four offers on the house. We went $10k over asking price and still finished in second place
I am still stressing about reviewing other people's work. I have two new zits :/ Also, my ILs are arriving on Thurs. to stay with us for a week and I KNOW my house will be a mess. Oh well. I will have to become impervious to constructive criticism, because they have no filters.
Post by dizzycooks on Dec 19, 2016 15:41:32 GMT -5
Ok I need some perspective here. Dh is starting a new job on Monday. Last day at current company is friday. He had two personal days on the calendar for this week, approved two months ago, and today boss says dh needs to be in the office all week. Dh has completed the exit list he was given and kept up with or is ahead on all projects he is assigned. Wwyd? Tomorrow He will be missing dd1 Christmas program, unable to tour the school we are applying for and we will have to change our plans for Christmas church on Friday. He is losing 10 vacation days and 8 sick days when he leaves and none of its cashed out. Pdq I'll likely dd.
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 19, 2016 15:55:05 GMT -5
Ugh. What a case of the Monday's dizzycooks! I hope she is better soon. And honestly? I'd be demanding H take those 2 days. That is seriously messed up. I hope YH will push for it.
Ugh. What a case of the Monday's dizzycooks! I hope she is better soon. And honestly? I'd be demanding H take those 2 days. That is seriously messed up. I hope YH will push for it.
He is considering leaving his badge on his desk and walking out. It would be unpaid and we are concerned about what it would do to a future reference. I am not sure I really care about a week unpaid but I think it's effed up that he has so much time and he'd have to quit to get time off.
Ugh. What a case of the Monday's dizzycooks! I hope she is better soon. And honestly? I'd be demanding H take those 2 days. That is seriously messed up. I hope YH will push for it.
He is considering leaving his badge on his desk and walking out. It would be unpaid and we are concerned about what it would do to a future reference. I am not sure I really care about a week unpaid but I think it's effed up that he has so much time and he'd have to quit to get time off.
That's an awful place to be. He has paid time coming to him. Such bullshit!!! I'm sorry. I'm fuming for you both!!! 😡
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 19, 2016 16:00:57 GMT -5
Also, why can't he just say he has vacation days that are his right to take and take those vacation days the rest of the week?? Will they really not pay him? Can he go to HR?
Post by dizzycooks on Dec 19, 2016 16:18:04 GMT -5
scorpioscuba that's what I don't get. It has to be approved by his boss and his boss is saying no. I am really displeased to say the least. It makes me sad.
scorpioscuba that's what I don't get. It has to be approved by his boss and his boss is saying no. I am really displeased to say the least. It makes me sad.
His boss is just being an asshole at this point. So I wouldn't worry about a good reference. I work in HR at a big company. Not sure what kind of company YH works for but this is odd to say the least. Can he try going above his head or to the HR department?
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 19, 2016 16:38:59 GMT -5
dizzycooks just saw your post in the other thread. FX HR works and he gets what he deserves. It's not like he is leaving them in a lurch. He did everything he needed to do which is more than the average employee would do in similar situations.
dizzycooks here at least it's illegal for them to not allow him to take his time off. I'd be pissed for sure. And I would be trying to find a way to go over his boss's head
I just about lost it on H a few minutes ago. He got back in the car with S after school, and S was saying that he wanted H to play Lego with him. I told him we had to go Christmas shopping, since H and I still need to get each other done and S wants to shop for us. And H goes "we aren't doing that today are we?" I asked when he thought we would and he says "well I can take S to do that tomorrow after the movie". That's great. Awesome. And when exactly am I supposed to shop for you? Wednesday he's got game night, Thursday is S's concert(so even if I could find a ride I wouldn't have S available) Friday he works, and Saturday he works and it's Christmas eve. I could go Wednesday if I could drive
Post by dizzycooks on Dec 19, 2016 22:09:21 GMT -5
crimsonandclover I am hoping you all are ok after the attack on the Berlin market today? I've never seen one and I'm sorry this is the way I see how interesting it looks.
Post by crimsonandclover on Dec 20, 2016 2:22:48 GMT -5
dizzycooks, I'm quite a ways from Berlin. I went to bed at 8 last night because I was so exhausted, so I didn't hear about it until I got up this morning. The Christmas markets are so awesome here. If you're ever feeling adventurous Chicago also has one every year (the Christkindlmarkt which is what they're traditionally called in Germany). It's pretty authentic except that you have to show ID to get into a special tent to drink mulled wine In Germany you can buy it at pretty much every stand, no ID required (legal drinking age for wine and beer is 16).
dizzycooks - just say the word, and I will fly out to Michigan and give your DH's boss a nice, swift kick to the balls.
crimsonandclover - why are terrorists killing innocent people in countries that are giving shelter to refugees??? Argghhh!! I want to tear all of my hair out! Can't they see that Christian countries are treating Muslim refugees better than Muslim countries??? And now Germany will want to take fewer and fewer refugees ... the Muslim community needs to condemn this shizzle ASAP.
dizzycooks - just say the word, and I will fly out to Michigan and give your DH's boss a nice, swift kick to the balls.
crimsonandclover - why are terrorists killing innocent people in countries that are giving shelter to refugees??? Argghhh!! I want to tear all of my hair out! Can't they see that Christian countries are treating Muslim refugees better than Muslim countries??? And now Germany will want to take fewer and fewer refugees ... the Muslim community needs to condemn this shizzle ASAP.
But the refugees are trying to escape them (terrorists linked to ISIS, at least). So it would be like if I made an organization and people ran away from me. If I went to the country that had taken them in and blew things up, there would be backlash against the people who ran away from me. Then either they have to come back because the country doesn't want them anymore or they get pissed about the backlash and decide maybe I had a point in the first place and join up with me. It's disgusting logic, but it is logic. Terrorist attacks in countries that accept refugees actually further ISIS's cause more than attacks in countries that don't accept refugees. ISIS's goal is not to have a big fuzzy multicultural community with tolerance and love. They want a war between "real" Muslims (i.e. those who follow ISIS tenants) and everyone else. And since a lot of the world lumps all Muslims into one big monolith, all they have to do is have some Muslims (even better: Muslims who are refugees in said country) carry out attacks, and the hatred grows.
dizzycooks - just say the word, and I will fly out to Michigan and give your DH's boss a nice, swift kick to the balls.
crimsonandclover - why are terrorists killing innocent people in countries that are giving shelter to refugees??? Argghhh!! I want to tear all of my hair out! Can't they see that Christian countries are treating Muslim refugees better than Muslim countries??? And now Germany will want to take fewer and fewer refugees ... the Muslim community needs to condemn this shizzle ASAP.
But the refugees are trying to escape them (terrorists linked to ISIS, at least). So it would be like if I made an organization and people ran away from me. If I went to the country that had taken them in and blew things up, there would be backlash against the people who ran away from me. Then either they have to come back because the country doesn't want them anymore or they get pissed about the backlash and decide maybe I had a point in the first place and join up with me. It's disgusting logic, but it is logic. Terrorist attacks in countries that accept refugees actually further ISIS's cause more than attacks in countries that don't accept refugees. ISIS's goal is not to have a big fuzzy multicultural community with tolerance and love. They want a war between "real" Muslims (i.e. those who follow ISIS tenants) and everyone else. And since a lot of the world lumps all Muslims into one big monolith, all they have to do is have some Muslims (even better: Muslims who are refugees in said country) carry out attacks, and the hatred grows.
The level of assholery is just astounding. Do you ever talk about this stuff with your Syrian refugee neighbors?
Post by crimsonandclover on Dec 20, 2016 9:06:18 GMT -5
14joa31, no because we don't speak a common language well enough to communicate beyond rudimentary things. I minored in Islamic Studies and spent a good deal of my BA and MA working on terrorism/counterterrorism studies, though, and I studied Arabic for a couple of years including taking seminars where we translated jihadist texts. The way of thinking is like an alternate universe - logical in its own way but so diametrically opposed to everything that makes sense to me.
Post by silverspoon on Dec 20, 2016 10:07:04 GMT -5
14joa31 I'm with you on wanting to tear my hair out. A girl on my Facebook keeps sharing pics from Aleppo and there's quite a few with children and I just can't.
crimsonandclover The way you explain it makes sense. As much as something that doesn't can. I'm glad you guys are safely away from Berlin today.
silverspoon - the news coming out of Aleppo has the opposite effect on me - I cannot stop google'ing Aleppo and getting updates. My heart breaks for those kiddos.
There are also major a-holes in Yemen who are not letting any food get into the country and people there are starving. I just feel like the Middle East is such a cesspool.
dizzycooks - just say the word, and I will fly out to Michigan and give your DH's boss a nice, swift kick to the balls.
crimsonandclover - why are terrorists killing innocent people in countries that are giving shelter to refugees??? Argghhh!! I want to tear all of my hair out! Can't they see that Christian countries are treating Muslim refugees better than Muslim countries??? And now Germany will want to take fewer and fewer refugees ... the Muslim community needs to condemn this shizzle ASAP.
But the refugees are trying to escape them (terrorists linked to ISIS, at least). So it would be like if I made an organization and people ran away from me. If I went to the country that had taken them in and blew things up, there would be backlash against the people who ran away from me. Then either they have to come back because the country doesn't want them anymore or they get pissed about the backlash and decide maybe I had a point in the first place and join up with me. It's disgusting logic, but it is logic. Terrorist attacks in countries that accept refugees actually further ISIS's cause more than attacks in countries that don't accept refugees. ISIS's goal is not to have a big fuzzy multicultural community with tolerance and love. They want a war between "real" Muslims (i.e. those who follow ISIS tenants) and everyone else. And since a lot of the world lumps all Muslims into one big monolith, all they have to do is have some Muslims (even better: Muslims who are refugees in said country) carry out attacks, and the hatred grows.
I have never thought of this situation in those terms... or at least that succinctly. Thank you for sharing that perspective. I feel like it helps me so much to understand the logic behind things - no matter how deplorable that logic may be.
This guy lost his wife and the mother of his son in the Paris attacks. And he published a letter saying that he refuses to hate his wife's killers, because that is why they did it. And he cannot let them win.
I think 2017 should be a year where I try to love more and give more. I am with this French guy.
This guy lost his wife and the mother of his son in the Paris attacks. And he published a letter saying that he refuses to hate his wife's killers, because that is why they did it. And he cannot let them win.
I think 2017 should be a year where I try to love more and give more. I am with this French guy.
I know it sounds illogical on the face of it, but forgiveness and compassion is a bigger slap in the face to terrorism than bombs are. They love bombs (as long as they're aren't directly hit, of course) - the bombs bring in new recruits in droves.
A guy I knew when I was in Syria is now a refugee in Sweden. After the attack in France he posted on FB that he really hated people in Sweden looking at him suspiciously and expecting him to be able to explain to them why this kind of attack happened. I don't think HE'S going to become a terrorist, but I can see how someone could get extremely frustrated after years and years of being confronted with suspicion and being expected to explain horrific acts just because the person who committed them have the same religion. I mean, I experience it to some extent living abroad as an American. "Hey, you're an American, why did that guy shoot up the grade school?" Excuse me, what? How the heck should I know? But even though I'm often expected as "the American" to explain things I can't understand, I'm not viewed with suspicion. I imagine that's much worse.
I haven't seen our neighbors today, and it's hard because of the language barrier, but I am going to go out of my way sometime this week to say hi to them or have the girls play together just to demonstrate that I don't view them differently just because some idiot in Berlin decided to kill people.
Post by dizzycooks on Dec 20, 2016 15:06:00 GMT -5
crimsonandclover thank you for trying to explain things. I get why you're saying about being "the American". I spent some time abroad in Spain and Mexico and, while there weren't questions about terrorism, I definitely was asked what it's like to be rich or to explain why Americans take such short holidays. I can't answer either of those things!
Post by NellieOleson on Dec 20, 2016 19:50:06 GMT -5
My H is great at gifts. He always gets me fantastic Christmas presents and I feel so lucky and spoiled. BUT BUT BUT he always leaves for the entire day to do his shopping... leaving me home alone with the kids all day. He left at 10:30 this morning, so I thought he'd be home in time for me to help get dinner ready. Nope. He's not even making it home by dinner time. This, of course, was also the day dd2 took a 20 minute nap and that wouldn't go back down again.
I feel like I want to be all ragey and bitchy when he gets home, but then I feel like that would also kind of ruin Christmas. Blah.
NellieOleson we always do a day long marathon for Christmas shopping. We did it yesterday, actually. I'd honestly rather stay home with the kids while he does his shopping and then do my own separately, instead of dragging the kids with us, and trying to hide gifts while shopping together.
M is grumpy. S and H are at a movie, well they were, they should be home right away, the movie started 2.5 hours ago. They're bringing home supper.
NellieOleson we always do a day long marathon for Christmas shopping. We did it yesterday, actually. I'd honestly rather stay home with the kids while he does his shopping and then do my own separately, instead of dragging the kids with us, and trying to hide gifts while shopping together.
M is grumpy. S and H are at a movie, well they were, they should be home right away, the movie started 2.5 hours ago. They're bringing home supper.
Oh yeah. There's no way we'd do it together with the kids.
I just don't think he needs to take 8 hours to buy my presents. Or maybe he should think ahead and break it up into two shorter days. Or buy shit online like I do.
ETA: At this point having help with the kids and stuff around the house is more valuable to me than him having a day to shop for me.
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