PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Post by wildflower810 on Mar 3, 2017 13:08:41 GMT -5
Thanks, ladies. I'm not really sure how to participate right now because I'm not sleeping, feeding, nor changing baby diapers! We're going to try some natural induction methods tomorrow, I think. I'm ready to labor and birth.
I usually do, but last night he was making these awful squealing/whimpering sounds (I'm assuming from the gas). They are like pain sounds so I'd wake up panicked that I was squishing him or hurting him. Nope it would last for a second in his sleep then he'd go back to sleeping and I'd be laying there having a mini heart attack. Sleep for a few minutes, rinse, repeat.
We had to move DS1 and DD1 to their own room after only 3 weeks because DS1 sounded like a freakin' barnyard all on his own. This set is quieter.
DD1 lasted 4 months, DD2 longer only because our old house was a 2 bedroom and DD1s room was too small for both (she was quiet anyway). Unfortunately, DS's room is upstairs and there are still house renos going on so his room is full of stuff. He's not normally a loud sleeper *knock on wood* but when he's gassy, those sounds are so sad and painful.
The midwife just came by and we can't do any more home visits because he is already 11lbs 4oz and her home scale goes up to 12lbs. She gave us some tips to deal with the cluster feeding and the gas. She checked my latch to make sure he wasn't gulping air, but he's fine during the day and his latch is fine. He's just eating so much at night and getting gassy and probably eating more because it's A) comforting and B) he can't tell the difference between gas pain and hunger pain. We'll likely add a warm bath (probably more of a soak than a washing bath) to our bedtime routine to help sooth him and relieve some gas.
((Hugs)) wildflower810. Sending labor vibes your way. Fx the natural induction techniques are successful.
I'll help you glare at your H ls2012. That's ridiculous.
B is a major grunter too. We only have 2 bedrooms, so I'd rather have him waking me up than DD. I hope he quiets down so they can eventually share a room in a few months. B is already starting to get kinda long for his bassinet...
Gave me a glorious 6hrs last night. It was awesome. My stripper boobs woke me up, but I still got a decent stretch. I hope this isn't a fluke.
I just can't stinking catch a break on this whole breastfeeding thing. Started pumping this afternoon and started bleeding from one of my nipples. The weird thing is it's not from trauma or anything from a bad latch. It appears to be coming from one of the milk ducts. I know the blood won't hurt her, but it's gross and uncomfortable. I know I need to pump through it, but I'm so discouraged by it all.
I just can't stinking catch a break on this whole breastfeeding thing. Started pumping this afternoon and started bleeding from one of my nipples. The weird thing is it's not from trauma or anything from a bad latch. It appears to be coming from one of the milk ducts. I know the blood won't hurt her, but it's gross and uncomfortable. I know I need to pump through it, but I'm so discouraged by it all.
I had the same thing after the mastitis. I only had bleeding one time, and I hope it's the same for you. Do you have a blister on your nipple? If it's small it may be hard to see.
You're a trooper for continuing through all your struggles. You're doing great.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Post by oldbaylover1024 on Mar 3, 2017 14:53:06 GMT -5
Vent coming...
Our new DC provider calls MH and he never answers her calls or calls get back. It's super annoying and frustrating because then she calls me and I get stuck on the phone. Today it was 30 minutes while I was trying to rest with a sleeping C on my lap. All he had to do was call her two days ago! Or effing answer his phone at all - he never effing answers when I call either.
And the thing with DC lady is she's a talker. She's sweet, but she's older and loooooves to chat. I'm just not in the mood to talk for half an hour when I have a sleeping baby on my chest.
Tl;dr - MH refuses to answer DC lady's calls and her call today interrupted my sleepy baby nap. Ugh
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
dancerspose - sorry for your breastfeeding issues.
My DH gets a TP from me. R has been cluster feeding today and we made the pact for me to try to feed him via breast before we top him off with formula. R woke up at 2:30 and my mom took him and gave him a bottle without waking me. I called DH for him to get some bread and he was pissy that she did so. I have a massive headache and fell asleep at 2:15.
If I was producing a lot of milk, that's one thing. I pumped after he wouldn't feed via breast and got 1/2 an ounce out of both breasts.
I just can't stinking catch a break on this whole breastfeeding thing. Started pumping this afternoon and started bleeding from one of my nipples. The weird thing is it's not from trauma or anything from a bad latch. It appears to be coming from one of the milk ducts. I know the blood won't hurt her, but it's gross and uncomfortable. I know I need to pump through it, but I'm so discouraged by it all.
I had the same thing after the mastitis. I only had bleeding one time, and I hope it's the same for you. Do you have a blister on your nipple? If it's small it may be hard to see.
You're a trooper for continuing through all your struggles. You're doing great.
So here's the weird thing...the bleeding is coming from the opposite breast than had the mastitis...I'm clearly just a hot mess. And thank you for the words of encouragement!
I had the same thing after the mastitis. I only had bleeding one time, and I hope it's the same for you. Do you have a blister on your nipple? If it's small it may be hard to see.
You're a trooper for continuing through all your struggles. You're doing great.
So here's the weird thing...the bleeding is coming from the opposite breast than had the mastitis...I'm clearly just a hot mess. And thank you for the words of encouragement!
Ugh lady. That sticks. It could be a tiny blister since you've been pumping more frequently. It's scary when that happens though.
Believe me, you have all my encouragement. I struggled big time with J and am still struggling in different ways this time. Feeding babies is hard, and you're going above and beyond to do your best!
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Post by notagoddess on Mar 3, 2017 15:33:20 GMT -5
I called HR earlier today. I hoped they would tell me I'm all set for maternity leave, but no dice. They didn't accept my doctor's paperwork. I have to resubmit it a third time. I am so sick of them giving me a hard time. I'm asking for an unpaid leave and they're not even providing my health insurance during the leave. If they won't work with me a little bit at least I'm seriously considering not going back. Ugh.
My undercarriage is suffering. Post partum peeing and pooping and sitting sucks.
I liked this out of commiseration. I can't wait to have a normal trip to the bathroom that doesn't include the bottle to wet the stitches before peeing, doing the normal stuff, then trying to blot dry without irritating stitches followed by the spray and ice pack.
Post by notagoddess on Mar 3, 2017 15:36:30 GMT -5
I just gave S a sponge bath and tried to give her a little massage. She wasn't a huge fan LOL. She likes having her feet and legs rubbed, but only wanted boob after the bath. Now we're doing some skin to skin. She smells really good and I'm enjoying the excuse not to have to do anything,
I called HR earlier today. I hoped they would tell me I'm all set for maternity leave, but no dice. They didn't accept my doctor's paperwork. I have to resubmit it a third time. I am so sick of them giving me a hard time. I'm asking for an unpaid leave and they're not even providing my health insurance during the leave. If they won't work with me a little bit at least I'm seriously considering not going back. Ugh.
WTF??? Why didn't they accept the paperwork by the doctor? Why are they giving you a hassle for unpaid, uncovered medical leave? Do you have to go back?
My undercarriage is suffering. Post partum peeing and pooping and sitting sucks.
I liked this out of commiseration. I can't wait to have a normal trip to the bathroom that doesn't include the bottle to wet the stitches before peeing, doing the normal stuff, then trying to blot dry without irritating stitches followed by the spray and ice pack.
Also commiserating here. Today I spaced out and accidentally wiped with TP and OMG that hurt.
I called HR earlier today. I hoped they would tell me I'm all set for maternity leave, but no dice. They didn't accept my doctor's paperwork. I have to resubmit it a third time. I am so sick of them giving me a hard time. I'm asking for an unpaid leave and they're not even providing my health insurance during the leave. If they won't work with me a little bit at least I'm seriously considering not going back. Ugh.
I called HR earlier today. I hoped they would tell me I'm all set for maternity leave, but no dice. They didn't accept my doctor's paperwork. I have to resubmit it a third time. I am so sick of them giving me a hard time. I'm asking for an unpaid leave and they're not even providing my health insurance during the leave. If they won't work with me a little bit at least I'm seriously considering not going back. Ugh.
WTF??? Why didn't they accept the paperwork by the doctor? Why are they giving you a hassle for unpaid, uncovered medical leave? Do you have to go back?
I don't know I've been there less than a year and they are making it so so hard. If I qualified for FMLA I would actually get a very decent leave. I thought they'd be more willing to work with me. I don't have to go back but I do want a career and I'm worried how leaving this job would affect that. I just finished my masters in this field in August so the timing is less than ideal to take an extended period of time off.
Post by dancerspose on Mar 3, 2017 16:28:44 GMT -5
@wineandcupcakes I don't know what's "normal" but Z is just starting to give us periods of being awake that don't involve eating, changing, or fussing and she's 6 weeks today. She still sleep A LOT during the day too. I still wouldn't say we get 45 minutes - 1 hour in any one stretch during the day though.
WTF??? Why didn't they accept the paperwork by the doctor? Why are they giving you a hassle for unpaid, uncovered medical leave? Do you have to go back?
I don't know I've been there less than a year and they are making it so so hard. If I qualified for FMLA I would actually get a very decent leave. I thought they'd be more willing to work with me. I don't have to go back but I do want a career and I'm worried how leaving this job would affect that. I just finished my masters in this field in August so the timing is less than ideal to take an extended period of time off.
Would it be difficult to find another job that is within your field? I can understand how you don't want to take an extended period of time off, I had to after I got my Masters' to take care of my mom while she was going through cancer treatments and I was unable to find a job.
Post by crazycatlady6 on Mar 3, 2017 17:17:24 GMT -5
A question for you guys...is there a point in time where you complete have up breast feeding and went to formula? I'm feeling discouraged about my milk production and am thinking of making the change although DH is adamantly against it.
R is 6 days old. I should be getting around 3 oz. per feeding session but at my LC appointment, we discovered I am getting less than an ounce per session. When I am pumping, I am getting less than 1/2 ounce. DH wants me to continue to breastfeed for the antibodies but is the baby really going to benefit from less than 1 ounce of breast milk per feeding? I have to give him 1-2 oz. of formula per feeding as it is.
I was breastfeeding then pumping while someone gives him formula and my LC said the cons of doing that each session outweighed the pros with my anxiety and frustration with my supply. She mentioned doing one or the other along with formula.
If I need to just suck it up, you can tell me. With all the sleep deprivation and stress, I just don't see the benefits with such a low supply.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Mar 3, 2017 17:45:39 GMT -5
crazycatlady6 I think that there are definitely antibody benefits to baby if he is getting some/any breast milk. That's the quick and easy answer.
However, like most things, there are other things to consider. I think you should take into account how YOURE feeling about breastfeeding. At the end of the day it takes a lot out of you, and if it's causing anxiety, stress, and mostly unhappiness then is it really worth it? If you're so miserable you aren't enjoying feeding your baby (which is one of the only things we are all doing right now) I wouldn't think it's worth it to continue.
crazycatlady6 I think that there are definitely antibody benefits to baby if he is getting some/any breast milk. That's the quick and easy answer.
However, like most things, there are other things to consider. I think you should take into account how YOURE feeling about breastfeeding. At the end of the day it takes a lot out of you, and if it's causing anxiety, stress, and mostly unhappiness then is it really worth it? If you're so miserable you aren't enjoying feeding your baby (which is one of the only things we are all doing right now) I wouldn't think it's worth it to continue.
^wss Also I believe 100% that stress contributed to my supply tanking on DD1 when I went back to work. The stress of my job, leaving her, having no appropriate place to pump privately; all that stress took everything out of me.
So if you are stressed about it and don't think you can make peace with the little amount you are contributing for now while trying to see if you can build up your supply with other methods, you could be fighting a losing battle.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Mar 3, 2017 18:22:58 GMT -5
Hi guys! Sorry for jumping in so late!
crazycatlady6, I may be biased, but switching to supplementing with formula was the best thing I've done since she was born. I'm a new woman. I can carefully monitor what she eats and don't have to worry about whether she's starving. If you think it could work for you, I recommend pumping and supplementing with formula. Then he'd still get some antibodies and get fed.
Ultimately I agree with the others. If it's making you unhappy and adding to your stress, you might need to step away from BF.
AFM, I have great news. We finally hit (and surpassed!) our birth weight! E was 7.14 last Friday. Today she was 8.10! Supplementing is working! I'm so happy! My pedi said we should still continue to feed every 3 hours or so, when I'd heard we could let her sleep after she regained her birth weight... so I'm kind of bummed about that. But as long as she continues to grow and thrive, I'm ecstatic!
crazycatlady6, I may be biased, but switching to supplementing with formula was the best thing I've done since she was born. I'm a new woman. I can carefully monitor what she eats and don't have to worry about whether she's starving. If you think it could work for you, I recommend pumping and supplementing with formula. Then he'd still get some antibodies and get fed.
Ultimately I agree with the others. If it's making you unhappy and adding to your stress, you might need to step away from BF.
AFM, I have great news. We finally hit (and surpassed!) our birth weight! E was 7.14 last Friday. Today she was 8.10! Supplementing is working! I'm so happy! My pedi said we should still continue to feed every 3 hours or so, when I'd heard we could let her sleep after she regained her birth weight... so I'm kind of bummed about that. But as long as she continues to grow and thrive, I'm ecstatic!
As another low weight gain/supplementing Momma my pedi said they'd evaluate babes at their 2 month appt and determine then if we'd continue supplementing or just be EBF.
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