Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 3, 2017 18:34:21 GMT -5
crazycatlady6 I have no experience with supplementing or FF but I would agree with what others have said and try to do what is least stressful/anxiety producing (as long as baby is getting fed). If you enjoy the nursing you are doing, go for it and supplement. If you hate it or hate pumping formula is a great option. My sister FF after struggling with supply issues and it made her feel a lot less stressed about her baby getting what he needed. And he is a thriving guy.
So sorry you're having a hard time. I hope you are able to make a decision that works well for you and your family.
Post by dancerspose on Mar 3, 2017 18:46:29 GMT -5
crazycatlady6 it's obviously a pretty personal decision, but as someone who is often doing triple feedings of nurse, bottle, pump (even if it is for different reaons) I can tell you it's not a practical long term solution. It's one of the biggest reasons I'm strongly considering going exclusively pumping, so we are only doing double the work instead of triple. I also take comfort in knowing exactly how much food is being consumed since we've had such problems. Finally, for me, nursing has yet to be some wonderful, bonding, baby and me time since we've struggled since day 1. I know there are some intrinsic values I'm likely missing out on, but I'd rather be a little less stressed and have time I'm enjoying with her rather than do some thing just because I feel I "should".
So bottom line - if I were you I'd either FF or cut out the nursing and pump and bottle feed BM and formula, but again that's based off my nursing experiences. Sorry you're in this position.
crazycatlady6 to be very honest, I don't believe husbands have much say in breastfeeding. It's not their body. They don't fully understand because they aren't the ones doing it. No antibody is worth your mental and emotional health. You aren't setting your baby up for a lifetime of sickness and malnourishment by not breastfeeding. If you're ready to stop, you should stop without feeling one ounce of guilt or shame. Feeding your baby in whichever way you choose makes you a great mom.
crazycatlady6 I also have struggled with low supply. I hardly let down for the pump and now both of my kids have lost 10% of their body weight by their first appointment when I try and breastfeed. With my first, I didn't get ANY milk until 9 days pp, and I haven't gotten a damn thing with this one yet even though she has a better latch and whatnot. Hopefully something will come in, but if t doesn't, she is so far thriving with formula.
Formula feeding is an act of love because you are feeding your babies that need to eat! Don't let the guilt (or your husband) get to you. I also don't think husbands get a huge say in it. They are not the one going through the struggle.
Fwiw my firstborn was 90% formula fed and he is now 2, and has had exactly 2 non-serious illnesses so far in his life. He is as healthy and as smart as can be.
Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 3, 2017 20:28:32 GMT -5
Question for the STM+ DS1 is in a toddler bed, baby is in a rnp or pnp depending on what he'll tolerate. DS1 hasn't slept in a pnp since thanksgiving. We are planning on going to my parents house soon. So what would you bring for a non-crib sleeping toddler to sleep in? Pnp and just expect him to fuss some? Or try and get him in a bed (obviously not a toddler bed)? I'm concerned he won't sleep well regardless of what we bring.
Post by wildflower810 on Mar 3, 2017 20:35:56 GMT -5
ellabee, didn't you have a marginal cord insertion with this baby? But you found it out at delivery and so it was nbd the whole pregnancy? Someone on Parenting is wanting reassurance after a loss. (Her thread is titled "I've been keeping a secret).
When it comes to feeding no matter how you do it a happy baby will come from a happy mom, if you are stressed and anxious about feeding and need to supplement or switch 100% do it. Fed is best! I only nursed DD1 for a few weeks before switching and this time we have formula fed from day 1 and it's been the right choice for me and Poppy and our family. Kids who are breast fed, combo fed and formula fed all grow up to be healthy:)
Post by zcookiemonster on Mar 3, 2017 20:48:21 GMT -5
musicallyinclined lol this happens to me daily. Kids don't listen to a darn thing until they hear you eating a cookie. And on the bed thing, i forget who, but someone on here suggested an inflatable toddler bed. It has raised edges. I just searched that on Amazon and it worked great, we used it when I had the baby and he slept just fine at the sitters. wildflower810 thinking of you! Good luck!
musicallyinclined When DD goes to stay at the ILs she sleeps on a air mattress/mat thing. Works well for her!
My dad dropped by 2 hours ago. DS fussed from 330-630 and went to sleep right before he got here. So he's been trying to set up his new laptop aka getting me to set it up for him. Dude I love ya but I'm tired af today and don't feel like dealing with an old person & technology.
musicallyinclined how about a toddler air mattress? They have raised sides so the toddler doesn't roll off. There are a variety on Amazon. There are also cots. That's what I would do if a regular bed wasn't available. If there is a regular bed he can sleep in, I'd buy some side rails and give it a go!
Post by wildflower810 on Mar 3, 2017 21:20:52 GMT -5
Pre-labor live blog part 2... it's been a good long while since I've been so excited to see blood! One more round of homeopathics then I'm probably going to bed. If my body is going to do something it will, and I want some rest.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Mar 3, 2017 21:38:33 GMT -5
The IL's brought F to see the baby this afternoon. It was pretty cute. He kissed her and was only mildly jealous when I held her. He doesn't seem to miss us at all - which I suppose is a good thing, but does make me a twinge sad. Lol
We watched Deepwater Horozon tonight. Really good movie but not a good choice for 2 weeks pp. It made DH cry so you can only imagine what a sobbing mess I was.
ellabee, didn't you have a marginal cord insertion with this baby? But you found it out at delivery and so it was nbd the whole pregnancy? Someone on Parenting is wanting reassurance after a loss. (Her thread is titled "I've been keeping a secret).
Thanks for the tag! I'll pop over and share my story. 😊
Question for the STM+ DS1 is in a toddler bed, baby is in a rnp or pnp depending on what he'll tolerate. DS1 hasn't slept in a pnp since thanksgiving. We are planning on going to my parents house soon. So what would you bring for a non-crib sleeping toddler to sleep in? Pnp and just expect him to fuss some? Or try and get him in a bed (obviously not a toddler bed)? I'm concerned he won't sleep well regardless of what we bring.
Sorry that was a lot of rambling.
We have this one (cheaper from Walmart tho). DD likes it. We did buy an electric pump to go with it to save time, which was worth it.
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