And the bad, I was counting on DH tagging in when he got off work this morning, but he didn't get any sleep yesterday because they had a bad fire. Then on his way home he got a call about a crisis with his military stuff so he'll be dealing with that all day. It's gonna be a long Monday here...
wildflower810 thinking of you. I hope everything is going well.
I've got to try to get my house back in order and do some legwork for the loan on our new to us minivan. Plus get insurance on it. We're picking it up tomorrow. I'm excited. It'll be so much more room than my honda civic! I need to clean out the civic and make a grocery list. I haven't gone in over a month.
dancerspose I wasn't that impressed with the extra episodes they came out with. Maybe I should try watching them again.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Mar 6, 2017 9:25:18 GMT -5
DH just got groceries and left for work. We have a play date for K at our house today with her little buddy from down the road. And I had a decent night with R.
Bonus: DH took the dogs to work so I'm happy to not have to deal with them all day. (I love my dogs but they get restless here, my toddler torments them, and they always need to go out in the worst moments).
linewifekat I loved how they worked in all the original characters and all the Lorelei and Emily stuff. But, I actually hated the Rory stuff - her behavior and attitude. I also hated that musical. It was such a waste of time IMO. But given the cliffhanger I'd definitely watch more. I'd love to see how that alters Rory's character how.
Post by zcookiemonster on Mar 6, 2017 9:45:12 GMT -5
wildflower810 also thinking of you and hoping you have a lil babe that decided to come! Solo parenting day for me today. Thankfully I got DS a sitter while I take the new babe to her first pedi appt. I'm so interested to see what her weight is. After I'm hoping to stop at target if I have time before picking DS back up. And then it's me and 2 kids until 8pm. I know a lot of you do this regularly but I'm terrified!
DD is at the sitter today so plans (that don't revolve around the baby) include: rewatching the office on Netflix, Wegmans - hoping to time this with lunch and grab a Danny's favorite & perhaps a walk or arm workout this afternoon.
I at least know the office plans will definitely happen.. we'll see about the rest.
MH was up most of the night dealing with SS2 (age 21). SS2 is in very bad shape from drug abuse. Survival is once again in question. He had a nearly fatal injury two months after my first set of twins was born.
Based on MH's reports, I never met SS2, only the drug addict. I resent the addict for casting a large shadow over our lives and killing so much of the joy in MH's life.
MH is now sleeping on the couch instead of going to work. I wish I could do something for him. I hope we can still celrbrate our 4th anniversary on the 17th. It's been a bumpy road through SS2's addiction, MH's surgeries, and IF treatment. Thank God for health insurance, physical and mental!
Post by shawnabm1320 on Mar 6, 2017 11:20:06 GMT -5
MH had to call into work today to investigate his vacation time. He looked online and it says he has 0 available hours when he was sure he had 150. This could really change my week...
Post by crazycatlady6 on Mar 6, 2017 11:27:12 GMT -5
Last night was a pretty easy night with R. The 1am feeding went great by myself and DH let me sleep through the 4am feeding. BF is getting better, I woke up with a wet spot on the breast and was thrilled (DH was grossed out) because that means more milk. I'm thinking of setting up another appointment with the LC next week to see how much he is getting in a feeding session.
I am having a real tough time with recovery. I still hurt a lot down there and felt a hemmeroid pop when I rolled over in my sleep. OMG the pain! I was so naive to think that recovery would only take a couple of days, hahaha. Nope, not with second degree tears!
Post by littleredfish on Mar 6, 2017 11:44:41 GMT -5
Kind of long rant- TL;DR: MH military career is going to take him away for more than half of the next 2+ years and I'm kind of terrified.
Having some feels today. DH hasn't gotten his message yet for deployment, but his LT has already pulled him aside twice recommending he take the full 9 months allotted for parental. He kept saying no because he did not want it to affect his deployment. Then she gets it clarified that he can (in the case of deployment) stop and start parental without giving up any time. Great. But NOW it's coming to light that the reason she was pushing him to take the full time is because she is recommending him for 2 back to back tours. So basically he would be here for X months before he actually leaves this spring/summer. Be there for X months, come back to complete the parental leave spending time with us after being away, then go right back on another tour. I really support his career and know that opportunities like this are a big reason he signed up in the first place but at this moment I'm very apprehensive. I know the 2nd one over a year away at this point and he has time to say no, but I've never asked him to say no before. Maybe the lack of sleep is getting to me, but the idea of solo parenting so much and him missing the beginning of 2 of our LOs big milestone years is sad. Oh the stress, and we haven't even started the 1st tour.
littleredfish I could never be a military wife. Might it help to focus on the possibility that you could ask him to turn down a deployment if it's too much? I fond that in stressful situations it helps to have a safety valve even if you don't intend to use it.
littleredfish I could never be a military wife. Might it help to focus on the possibility that you could ask him to turn down a deployment if it's too much? I fond that in stressful situations it helps to have a safety valve even if you don't intend to use it.
That's what I'm trying to think about. I just know he's turned down chances before like when I was pregnant with DD2 he had a chance to go on a great tour but turned it down because he would have missed her birth. This time we don't even know what the 2nd tour is but he hasn't flat out said no which is usually what he does; says no then tells me after. That tells me he wants it, which I get because he's higher in his career now. Ugh.
Maybe it will be fine. We always find our groove but I've only ever handled deployment alone or with DD1. Only training sessions lasting no more than 3 months with 2 kids. Now this will be 3 kids and much longer. Too hormonal and tired for these revelations at 8am.
Hugs, nomnom. I can't even imagine how difficult and stressful that must all be.
Hugs to you, too littleredfish. Military families make so many sacrifices and it's really not acknowledged enough. I really hope your H's tours and parental time can be worked out.
Cheering for you, wildflower810!! I hope there's a baby in your arms right now.
dancerspose, I could definitely go for some more Gilmore Girls! I had the same hang-ups about the 4 they released (Rory-tude and stupid musical) but I hate that they left us hanging like that! I need closure!
I need to go grocery shopping today, but I really don't want to. Maybe I'll stop and get some Starbucks. And a cookie. I think I need that in my life.
I also see a lot of Amazon time in my future, trying to find all the infant drops. I feel certain that if it weren't for gas, hiccups, poo issues, and the harness, S would be the most chill baby ever. Must ease all the baby discomfort!
Post by shawnabm1320 on Mar 6, 2017 12:52:25 GMT -5
Crisis averted. They're using a new system to track vacation and didn't tell him.
cosmicav, I need to thank you for mentioning the sitz bath. My stitched area feels fine, but my abrasions are so so painful. I dread peeing these days.
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