yl is he warmer in your bed? What's the temp Jammie sleep sack blanket situation in his room?
Oh, he's definitely warmer in our bed. He's in long sleeved jammies and socks every night, the temp is the same, and he has a blanket in his crib. But we have a heating pad on our bed, so it's always extra roasty toasty, to the point that he is sweaty when he sleeps with us. Maybe he likes being sweaty at night?
Please point me in the direction of gentle sleep training for my crazy toddler. The internet is overwhelming. What did you use that was successful?
R wakes up once an hour in his crib but STTN in our bed. Could the actual crib be the problem? Is it race car bed time? (MH still talks about it all the time.)
Is he climbing out of the crib? If not, I would not recommend giving anyone under 2.5 a toddler bed...speaking from the woman who had an 18 month old in a toddler bed. BUT /anecdote/: DS did not STTN more consistently until age 3.5 when we moved him from the toddler bed to a full bed (he's still a shit sleeper tho)
My approach would be to keep him in his crib and then send in the non-preferred night person to do brief comfort checks while he CIO. I just don't think toddler beds are worth the pain if there's not a safety issue. Because once you go bed, I think it would be hard to go back to the crib.
+1
I would not give up the containment/safety of a crib if I didn't have to. Do you have a white noise machine? Have you tried warmer pajamas? Nightlight?
It's very possible it's just a wonky phase. H and I would alternate doing checks.
FWIW, yl, both my bigger girls slept better out of the toddler bed. I think it was having a real/non-crib mattress that made the difference. So maybe try a mattress pad before you ditch the crib? AB *just* started STTN and we literally changed nothing. Kids are weird!
Post by 360blessings on Mar 8, 2017 21:09:02 GMT -5
yl - I found Noah always slept better in our bed too. That's the biggest reason we moved him to a twin bed with guard rails. From experience with my older two they slept a ton better on a legit mattress than in the crib. We bypassed toddler beds for this reason and went straight to a twin size. Although, we waited until the older two were climbing out of the crib (both started the month they turned two). With Noah, I just figured I'd try it for a couple days and it was so much better we stuck with it. He can climb down without assistance but he generally stays in his bed when he wakes. Just my two cents.
Post by 360blessings on Mar 8, 2017 21:11:44 GMT -5
Also, DS1 came home singing the theme song to reading rainbow. I love that his 2nd grade teacher has introduced him to that. I loved RR as a kid! Andplusalso, I love that he is so much like me. He's halfway through the Harry Potter books and keeps asking me for more book suggestions. I love that we can share the love of reading and share some of my favorite series.
I almost cried when I picked up my baby today. My parents are exhausted by her and talk about her like she's a "bad" kid. They seem to negate that she's peeing on the potty at least once daily, helps undress herself, climbs like a big kid, and has probably 40 words. They focus on how "busy" she is and how she doesn't stay still. I'm trying to not be dramatic. But I wonder if we should move daycare up. At least a couple of days per week.
I think I may have weaned J. It's only day two but it's been so easy that I feel like it might not be real. The weekend will be interesting because she usually wants to nurse randomly throughout the day when we are together.
So, now, my body will drop the 15 lbs it's been hanging on to.....right?
I almost cried when I picked up my baby today. My parents are exhausted by her and talk about her like she's a "bad" kid. They seem to negate that she's peeing on the potty at least once daily, helps undress herself, climbs like a big kid, and has probably 40 words. They focus on how "busy" she is and how she doesn't stay still. I'm trying to not be dramatic. But I wonder if we should move daycare up. At least a couple of days per week.
Uh, "busy and always moving" is like the default for toddlers, I thought? I'd describe Elena that way and she's perfectly average in the energy department.
Maybe they're feeling burned out, though. Do they have to follow her around all day? Because that's exhausting, if they don't have a safe play space for her.
kristhegirl @mamabear02 i have asked for a designated space for her to play so she's not constantly hearing "no that's not yours, hands down, no thank you, stop". Nothing. I have asked that my Dad take her for a walk or play in the back yard daily so that she can run and explore. They were feeding birds, but that seemed to stop. They take her to the play group weekly. But I just think that their view of toddler hood is skewed because my niece was more sedentary and passive. I printed out 2 articles about this age range from Mocha Moms. I need them to understand what's typical and why I don't parent her 100% "old school black momma".
I almost cried when I picked up my baby today. My parents are exhausted by her and talk about her like she's a "bad" kid. They seem to negate that she's peeing on the potty at least once daily, helps undress herself, climbs like a big kid, and has probably 40 words. They focus on how "busy" she is and how she doesn't stay still. I'm trying to not be dramatic. But I wonder if we should move daycare up. At least a couple of days per week.
I don't remember what your situation is, but if your parents are the primary caregivers while you are at work and it's in the budget, I would definitely start looking at daycare options- even if it is just a couple days a week.
It's wonderful when it's working to have grandparents babysit but when it's not working (for whatever reason) it's stressful for everyone and I can easily see how family members get frustrated with each other. My ILs we're thrilled to become grandparents, mostly retired, in good health, and live around the corner so I was a little surprised they didn't offer to watch DS full time or part time as an alternative to daycare.
But we realized it worked much better for us to have DS (and later J) in daycare fulltime so that we could lean on ILs for evening babysitting when needed and for some of the kid sick days and appointments, etc. I think they enjoy their time with the kids much more that way and don't get frustrated by their kid behaviors because it's not an all day thing. And I don't feel as indebted to them since I'm not counting on them for every day care. ETA- and when grandparents are just occasional caregivers, their parenting style isn't as big a deal because it's not everyday.
kristhegirl @mamabear02 i have asked for a designated space for her to play so she's not constantly hearing "no that's not yours, hands down, no thank you, stop". Nothing. I have asked that my Dad take her for a walk or play in the back yard daily so that she can run and explore. They were feeding birds, but that seemed to stop. They take her to the play group weekly. But I just think that their view of toddler hood is skewed because my niece was more sedentary and passive. I printed out 2 articles about this age range from Mocha Moms. I need them to understand what's typical and why I don't parent her 100% "old school black momma".
No play space sounds awful. Of course they think she's "bad" if they have to spend all day correcting her. That's not fair to her or them. Do they not want gates up or something? Would they let YOU set up a play space, maybe?
I'm just brainstorming. Poor kid is getting the short end of the stick just for being a kid.
ncjulia12 I was researching daycare for the fall, but it feels like ut needs to be sooner than that. As an infant, it was the absolute best scenario. I think they have outgrown each other for daily care. kristhegirl she plays in the living room and hallway; naps are in tbe den on her portablw bed. There is a gate around the TV and a gate at the stairs. That's it. They don't feel like they should put other things away because she has to learn not to touch. It worked for the niece, but not my little Dora the exporer! I have expressed some safety issues, especially since she can now reach dressers etc from her tiptoes
@ceci8876 - good luck and hugs. That sounds so frustrating for everyone involved. Your little girl is totally normal - some tots are active and gabby! - but it does sound like caring for a toddler might be too much for your folks and that you'd be happier with her in daycare and them as "backup." My kid goes nuts if she's not with other kids in an active kid-friendly space. Weekends are so hard if we don't plan anything social for her and let her get her wiggles out and her run on.
I think I just caught one of my students doing some major plagiarism. Fuck, I don't want to deal with this. But it's 2 pages word for word of a 6 page paper. I hate hate hate confrontation....
Post by lovemyirishtwins on Mar 8, 2017 22:44:44 GMT -5
@ceci8876 that makes me so sad. I hate when people refer to children as bad kids. It is just not right. Toddlers get in to things, they explore, they test limits, and they learn boundaries. It is up to the care giver to teach them boundaries, show them how to appropriately explore their world, give love, patience, and understanding.
I would say if you feel your daughters needs are not being met than I would look for a daycare that can offer what you want.
I think I just caught one of my students doing some major plagiarism. Fuck, I don't want to deal with this. But it's 2 pages word for word of a 6 page paper. I hate hate hate confrontation....
I'll sub for you if you'll sub for me! I'm a terrible person and have no problem doing the plagiarism talk. Good luck! You can do it. Sorry your student was so foolish.
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