flyinghorses6 Love the pictures! Your family is adorable!!
We had another good sleep night here. I have both kids today so we attempted to go to the park. We got there and were by ourselves. Played for 15 minutes before a creepy man pulled up and just sat there parked and watched us. We played for about 15 more minutes before I got freaked out. Had to bribe DD with a milkshake since we hadn't been there long and she didn't want to leave. Ugh.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Mar 9, 2017 13:38:46 GMT -5
dancerspose, my therapist recommended it. Said a lot of people have kids and seriously neglect their relationships. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
MIL emailed us overnight and wants to buy us a bassinet so E could be "more comfortable" at night because she can't stretch out in the RnP.
It's a really nice thought and I really appreciate it, but it kind of rubs me as intrusive. Like, if she needed something we'd buy it. And you're basically implying that she's uncomfortable in the RnP. We use the RnP because it's what she's most comfortable in...
ellabee can you get your DD to "help" you? Ie get the diaper when you need it? Etc. my DD1 will be 4 in may and she's much better behaved about her siblings when I have her help.
dancerspose, my therapist recommended it. Said a lot of people have kids and seriously neglect their relationships. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
MIL emailed us overnight and wants to buy us a bassinet so E could be "more comfortable" at night because she can't stretch out in the RnP.
It's a really nice thought and I really appreciate it, but it kind of rubs me as intrusive. Like, if she needed something we'd buy it. And you're basically implying that she's uncomfortable in the RnP. We use the RnP because it's what she's most comfortable in...
Am I being a brat for feeling this way?
I think the olds didn't have RnPs so they don't get it. My mom wasn't impressed either and pushed a bassinet. I had no interest in owning a bassinet, so we got an RnP. My mom eventually realized they're great. Babies don't need room to stretch out. I mean, look at a sleeping baby. You'll know when she's too big for it -- she will let you know!
littleredfish I'm going to try the tea. R has had 2 big poops today but after the grunt fest last night I'm desperate.
dancerspose I got it online from pink blush maternity...they actually have a few things I've worn not pregnant at all because no elastics at the sides so pretty easy to assume it's a regular shirt. Everything with elastic is in the bin ready for donation. I am done with ever wearing maternity clothes again it was a good pick for hiding my little pp belly
I plan to message the herbalist and ask her about giving some directly to DS like EmMilAlly mentioned last night. I read up online and saw you can also make stronger brews you can save in the fridge up to 2 weeks giving them 1tsp doses up to 1c max over a week was the common dose mentioned. I'm interested for her perspective. Will report back on that, but I'll probably also continue drinking it anyway. I'm not a tea person and it was tastey.
Also tired. I overdid it yesterday, and am so sore today. I'm going to try not to lift my big kid today... Hopefully he cooperates with my plans.
Also, Clara's umbilical cord stump fell off last night. It seems pretty early for that to happen - Google says it's ok as long as it's healed in a week. Anyone have experience with this? She's only 6 days old today.
We had our first projectile poop incident this morning. We didn't even have any with DS, so that was a fun experience. Lol
One of my girls lost theirs at 7 days, actually happened at the pedi office! And hers is totally fine!
Post by mrsbaldwin2012 on Mar 9, 2017 15:03:18 GMT -5
Ok, am I the only one who has this irrational fear of SIDS? Like, I cannot sleep because of it. I'm not sure if this is part of my post partum anxiety, or the fact that I am a peds nurse and I have seen horrible things. I hate that they sleep in RnP's, because as a nurse I know that they aren't supposed to be used for sleep. But as a sleep deprived mom, at this point I'll take what I can get as far as where they will sleep. Two pack and plays won't fit in our bedroom so that's out. We have bassinettes, but they hate them. I know my husband has to think I'm crazy, I literally get up to check them like ten times before I'll finally try to sleep. And then I'm up in two hours for feeds and the cycle starts again. Today I bought two Sn.uza's so I'm hoping that will help me to sleep a little better. I know that every parent worries about SIDS, but it consumes my every thought.
mrsbaldwin2012 I was very worried last time. I do think if it's impacting your ability to rest, you should reach out to your OB, especially since it seems to be consuming you.
We use a Snuza and did with DS. I really like it. We have had several false alarms, so be aware of that. It kind of wiggles loose.
Post by billybumbler on Mar 9, 2017 16:16:16 GMT -5
mrsbaldwin2012 I think some fear is normal but if it's all consuming like you say it's probably related to your anxiety. I hope it gets better, if not you can get help. I had terrible PPA with my first daughter so I know how it feels.
mrsbaldwin2012 I was very worried last time. I do think if it's impacting your ability to rest, you should reach out to your OB, especially since it seems to be consuming you.
We use a Snuza and did with DS. I really like it. We have had several false alarms, so be aware of that. It kind of wiggles loose.
I have talked to my OB and he did start me on meds. I am also seeing a therapist so I'm hoping to get a handle on this. I just feel like I'll never sleep soundly again, worrying about every possible thing that can harm my babies. I basically feel like the world is a death trap and I never want to leave the house with them. I feel better having just bought the snuza, so we will see how tonight goes.
mrsbaldwin2012 I think it's normal to worry a lot, but it shouldn't consume you or prevent you from sleeping. With DS I had very bad PPA and worried about sids and his safety all the time. Like, I could not think about anything else and I had so many intrusive thoughts. This time it's been much better (thank you Zoloft.) If I remember correctly you are already being treated for PPA/PPD? I would let your doctor know if the symptoms don't improve. If the sleeping in RNPs is the main cause, I would keep trying to get them into the bassinets? FWIW, DS slept in a RNP and I worried EVERY NIGHT. But it was the only place he'd sleep for longer than 30 minutes. This LO is sleeping in a RNP too, but I'm not worried about it.
I have talked to my OB and he did start me on meds. I am also seeing a therapist so I'm hoping to get a handle on this. I just feel like I'll never sleep soundly again, worrying about every possible thing that can harm my babies. I basically feel like the world is a death trap and I never want to leave the house with them. I feel better having just bought the snuza, so we will see how tonight goes.
I feel this exact same way. We have bassinets but they have been in the RNPs. I'm also a peds nurse, haha! I told DH I wanted the snuza's as well but I'm having a hard time convincing him to spend the $500. We are hoping to transition to the bassinets this weekend if all goes well. I like the RNPs simply because I can keep a close eye on them when I'm sleeping (I'm sleeping on the couch) versus the bassinets in our room which aren't as close/I can't see their faces when I wake up. I also sleep with a light on so I can see them. I do sleep well though because I'm so sleep deprived, I just knock right out and don't wake again until a baby cries.
My fears are with taking the babies out. I'm petrified of them getting whooping cough. To the point I come home from the pedi, give them a bath and change their clothes and rub down their car seats with alcohol swabs. I need to work on that because I can't keep them in a bubble. Also, today I need to call AAA to get our car jumped and the only thing holding me back is that the guy may be sick and he will come to the front door...this is certainly PPA as I'm taking it to an extreme.
Facts help me a bit...I try to remember that there are like 3.5 million births a year and the # of babies who die of SIDS and suffocation is like 3500. It doesn't make my fear go away, but I try to maintain a perspective. PAIF brain doesn't help either - having struggled to have these babies, I'm extra protective.
Hugs.
Thank you! I bought the snuza's from BRU, $110 each and they gave me the twin discount of ten percent off, plus using my BRU card today I got an extra ten percent off so each one ended up being less than $90.
As a fellow peds nurse I'm sure you can relate to all of the horrible things you have seen at work. It has really ruined me from ever being a sane parent, sorry girls! I've seen co workers go through this anxiety and always said I would never be like that and I think I'm worse than any of them ever were!
mrsbaldwin2012 I think it's normal to worry a lot, but it shouldn't consume you or prevent you from sleeping. With DS I had very bad PPA and worried about sids and his safety all the time. Like, I could not think about anything else and I had so many intrusive thoughts. This time it's been much better (thank you Zoloft.) If I remember correctly you are already being treated for PPA/PPD? I would let your doctor know if the symptoms don't improve. If the sleeping in RNPs is the main cause, I would keep trying to get them into the bassinets? FWIW, DS slept in a RNP and I worried EVERY NIGHT. But it was the only place he'd sleep for longer than 30 minutes. This LO is sleeping in a RNP too, but I'm not worried about it.
Thank you, my doctor has me on Wellbutrin but maybe I need to switch to Zoloft if it doesn't start working soon. I'm trying to at least do naps in the bassinettes so maybe we can get them in there for bedtime soon. And logically, I know that if the baby is safely in the RnP chances of something bad happening is very slim. But the ppd/ppa part of my brain always wins!
Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 9, 2017 17:41:25 GMT -5
Late to the party today. My PP appointment went well. I have to go back for my iud in 3 weeks, I was so hoping we could do it today but alas, it was not to be. DH is super excited that I've been cleared for sex. We will see how that goes... DS2 has been crazy fussy all day. I think we are entering leap 1 of wonder weeks. It was spot on for DS1.
Sorry to everyone struggling with PPA/PPD, I hope your doctors are able to help you address it.
ellabee can you get your DD to "help" you? Ie get the diaper when you need it? Etc. my DD1 will be 4 in may and she's much better behaved about her siblings when I have her help.
I do! She's a great helper and really task oriented. She's also super sweet with B, it's just the other 10% of the time that she's a complete diva. Lol. 🙄
I'm gunna call my OB tomorrow. I've had sharp stabbing pain in my breasts/chest for a few days off and on. I'm worried it could be thrush or something...
Post by dancerspose on Mar 9, 2017 19:32:16 GMT -5
I know there's been a lot of serious talk today, and my heart goes out to all of you dealing with PPA/PPD.
But, on a totally silly note - being home so much by myself has led to some serious online shopping for items I will inevitably return later. For instance, right now I have over $400 worth of items in my cart on he Nordstrom rack site. I am dress shoppin for a wedding and have several dresses in multiple sizes to try on and return... here's hoping DH isn't home when the packages arrive...
dancerspose Seriously. Maternity leave is putting a hurting on my wallet.
Hugs to those struggling with anxiety right now. Mine was bad after DD. Talking to someone helps. Even if it's just a group of strangers on the internet
I'm LOLing at my bright idea of all of us wearing white taking pictures on our white bed tomorrow. It's inevitable that that will be the time when DS's 5 day poop back up will explode.
I received the pack of baby bows I ordered the other day and DD is wearing one right now. Blue bow with a hand me down blue truck onesie. I can't wait for DH to get home so he can see the extra layer of cute that just happened :B
I know there's been a lot of serious talk today, and my heart goes out to all of you dealing with PPA/PPD.
But, on a totally silly note - being home so much by myself has led to some serious online shopping for items I will inevitably return later. For instance, right now I have over $400 worth of items in my cart on he Nordstrom rack site. I am dress shoppin for a wedding and have several dresses in multiple sizes to try on and return... here's hoping DH isn't home when the packages arrive...
Shopping online is my #1 use of time during MOTN wakeups. Last night I ordered my older daughter three pairs of shoes for spring at 4am. I have to do it now before we start having to pay for two kids in daycare!
Post by notagoddess on Mar 9, 2017 21:22:35 GMT -5
Another busy day here today. My baby is cluster feeding for about 4-6 hours each day and I'm in tears by the end of each session. So so exhausted and I feel like I've been punched repeatedly in the tits. MH gave her a bottle at the end of today's session because I was visibly frustrated and upset. I know she's growing quickly. But I was mentally set up for feeding every 2-3 hours and having the nonstop feeding is really hard. And I just read it can last 3-4 months.
My anxiety was far worse with DD1, however this time it is weirdly manifesting into emergency preparedness. We live on an island and have to cross two bridges to get to a lot of conviences (target, the mall, my moms house...) and I have been obsessively planning how I could save both kids should the car go off the bridge and I am in the car with them both. I have ordered tools for each car that allow you to cut the car seat straps and break the car windows to be able to escape the car and have to think through this plan whenever we go off island (usually 2-3x a week). I am not avoiding driving over it and it's the only think that is currently giving me anxiety so I'm not concerned but it's bizarre and I'm hoping it goes away.
I also was having anxiety about how to save both kids in a house fire but purchased window ladder things for their closets to be able to get them down from the second floor and I have stopped worrying so much about that.
Post by crazycatlady6 on Mar 9, 2017 21:27:01 GMT -5
(((Hugs))) to all the mama's dealing with PPD/PPA.
DS has decided not to even try to take the breast for the past 2 days so I decided to exclusively pump then supplement with formula. I am still only pumping 1 ounce of milk every 3 hours after being on supplements and lactation cookies for a week now.
Post by notagoddess on Mar 9, 2017 21:27:14 GMT -5
Also I cannot for the life of me figure out how to BF without using both hands. Whenever I don't support my breast I get blisters on my nipples. If I could have a free hand to go on my phone or use the remote, I feel like feeding would be less frustrating.
Also I cannot for the life of me figure out how to BF without using both hands. Whenever I don't support my breast I get blisters on my nipples. If I could have a free hand to go on my phone or use the remote, I feel like feeding would be less frustrating.
Are you holding up your breast with the hand not holding the baby; is that the problem? When I was nursing I had this problem too. My LC suggested putting a rolled up towel or swaddle blanket or something similar under the breast to keep it propped in the right position. Sorry for the constant feeding! Are you working with an LC? If nothing else seeing one may be able to get you some prescription nipple cream, which saved me!
(((Hugs))) to all the mama's dealing with PPD/PPA.
DS has decided not to even try to take the breast for the past 2 days so I decided to exclusively pump then supplement with formula. I am still only pumping 1 ounce of milk every 3 hours after being on supplements and lactation cookies for a week now.
I'm sorry he's not cooperating. Welcome to the pumping club...
For supply have you thought about trying one of the prescription meds - domperidone is the one I think a bunch of people over on SAIF have used/are using.
Also I cannot for the life of me figure out how to BF without using both hands. Whenever I don't support my breast I get blisters on my nipples. If I could have a free hand to go on my phone or use the remote, I feel like feeding would be less frustrating.
Are you holding up your breast with the hand not holding the baby; is that the problem? When I was nursing I had this problem too. My LC suggested putting a rolled up towel or swaddle blanket or something similar under the breast to keep it propped in the right position. Sorry for the constant feeding! Are you working with an LC? If nothing else seeing one may be able to get you some prescription nipple cream, which saved me!
Yes. One hand is holding the baby and the other one is holding my breast. I think I need to call the lactation Warm Line again. I saw an LC once when S was 6 days old, and it was very helpful. But I have a whole new set of questions now.
We have newborn pictures tomorrow! FX that my babies cooperate lol. And that we don't get lost in the city, since we will have to travel a bit away to get to the photographer. You do what you have to for free pictures lol
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