I have such an awesome relationship with DS and I feel like I "know" him better than DD I stayed home with DS until he was almost 3 though and DD only 10 months. I had bad PPD after DD was born too. I'm scared I can't connect to a girl the why I connected with my son. Or it was the PPD and the circumstances of DDs birth that caused some of my attachment issues with her.
[ High Risk for Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy - Fight the Itch Save a Life Kayden October 21, 2012 and Mira August 16, 2014 Angels Lucas, Serena, and Ana
fiercemo , hugs. I'm in the same boat over here. AL/IF brain really messes with you sometimes. Also, remember that you aren't required to feel any specific type of way.
Thanks. I need to hear that. I'm also lucky that SO is really understanding and supports me.
TTC since '08 ME: PCOS, late DH: CBAVD due to CF IVF #1-6 all fresh cycles, all BFN Lost DH in 2015 due to CF Met SO and started TTC again SO: quality issues, started Clomid BFP 1/13/17, natural cycle (!) Due 9/19/17
I'm 16 weeks today (yay!) but I'm still finding myself so guarded. We had an OB appointment yesterday and HB sounded good.
DD has been telling the whole world about my pregnancy, and I had to put a stop to it last night. She told the mom she babysits for about my plans to make baby food. That sent me over the edge. I know she's excited, and I am too, but I'm just not ready for all the information sharing.
I haven't even told one of my best friends yet. I also haven't told my MIL (late DH's mom)... I'm sure she'll be happy for me, but it's so bittersweet.
I just want to feel more confident and excited!
I feel ya! I'm 18w3d (2 weeks after my loss milestone), have seen the baby at least a dozen times and I'm still so scared. My thoughts on this are...if something is going to go wrong, me being excited or guarded will not stop it from happening. So all I can choose is to be excited and hopeful in this pregnancy. To buy clothes. To name this baby. To plan that I will bring him home...because odds are we will. Yes there is a chance we might not, but there is always that chance. Being happy is what I choose.
I'm sorry for getting preachy, but I just know the worrying will not change the outcome, but I would rather channel my energy/anxiety/fear into this happy time, than to let it slip away worrying.
laurenash323, I am loving to see you take this stance. I KNOW how hard this has been and this is a thing I needed today (and generally to refer back to).
I'm grumpy I had liver numbers rerun yesterday because I was itchy and they couldn't run them last week since I was throwing up.
Well it wasn't my doctor that ran them so the nurse was very rude asking why I would have a blood draw for being itchy. I do not like having a condition that people aren't familiar with. Especially medical professionals.
[ High Risk for Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy - Fight the Itch Save a Life Kayden October 21, 2012 and Mira August 16, 2014 Angels Lucas, Serena, and Ana
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
That's a big bummer. If you really love it though, I think I would still put his name on the waiting list (depending on how much you have to pay to reserve a spot - that makes a difference too). Would you continue to use this place after you go back to work (if that's your plan) or would it have just been a temporary solution anyway?
Yeah, I will still go for the tour tomorrow; it's $100 to put his name down. She did mention that with the high demand they are looking into creating a second 2-3 yr classroom, so there is some hope. I would overall like to have somewhere close to home when I return to work so that MH and I can share drop off and pick up.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
I'm grumpy I had liver numbers rerun yesterday because I was itchy and they couldn't run them last week since I was throwing up.
Well it wasn't my doctor that ran them so the nurse was very rude asking why I would have a blood draw for being itchy. I do not like having a condition that people aren't familiar with. Especially medical professionals.
Wth does the nurse care if the dr ordered the damn test?! I get so irritated when nurses/staff at my drs question things. I feel like most of them seriously need some customer service training. (Sorry for any nurses here, I'm not saying all nurses, but some just have no personal skills/bedside manner and unfortunately they're who you spend the most time with).
Married to dh since 2012. Ttc journey: Miscarriage at 8 weeks February 2013 DD born march 2014 Miscarriage at 6 weeks September 2015 Miscarriage at 16 weeks, our angel Sebastian 1/23/16 Pregnancy number 5!! Edd 9/2/17 (my moms brithday!)
I'm grumpy I had liver numbers rerun yesterday because I was itchy and they couldn't run them last week since I was throwing up.
Well it wasn't my doctor that ran them so the nurse was very rude asking why I would have a blood draw for being itchy. I do not like having a condition that people aren't familiar with. Especially medical professionals.
Wth does the nurse care if the dr ordered the damn test?! I get so irritated when nurses/staff at my drs question things. I feel like most of them seriously need some customer service training. (Sorry for any nurses here, I'm not saying all nurses, but some just have no personal skills/bedside manner and unfortunately they're who you spend the most time with).
I had one ask me if Cholestasis makes you itchy..... I get that it isn't common but I feel like an OB nurse on the nurses line should know about a condition like this that causes severe itching and is potentially dangerous
[ High Risk for Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy - Fight the Itch Save a Life Kayden October 21, 2012 and Mira August 16, 2014 Angels Lucas, Serena, and Ana
I'm 16 weeks today (yay!) but I'm still finding myself so guarded. We had an OB appointment yesterday and HB sounded good.
DD has been telling the whole world about my pregnancy, and I had to put a stop to it last night. She told the mom she babysits for about my plans to make baby food. That sent me over the edge. I know she's excited, and I am too, but I'm just not ready for all the information sharing.
I haven't even told one of my best friends yet. I also haven't told my MIL (late DH's mom)... I'm sure she'll be happy for me, but it's so bittersweet.
I just want to feel more confident and excited!
I feel ya! I'm 18w3d (2 weeks after my loss milestone), have seen the baby at least a dozen times and I'm still so scared. My thoughts on this are...if something is going to go wrong, me being excited or guarded will not stop it from happening. So all I can choose is to be excited and hopeful in this pregnancy. To buy clothes. To name this baby. To plan that I will bring him home...because odds are we will. Yes there is a chance we might not, but there is always that chance. Being happy is what I choose.
I'm sorry for getting preachy, but I just know the worrying will not change the outcome, but I would rather channel my energy/anxiety/fear into this happy time, than to let it slip away worrying.
It's heavy stuff, growing a life when you haven't been able to for XYZ reason. I think I'll still keep it relatively private, but can't hide my belly from those who see me. I'm slowly embracing things and planning. Hopefully it's just a matter of a little more time for me.
TTC since '08 ME: PCOS, late DH: CBAVD due to CF IVF #1-6 all fresh cycles, all BFN Lost DH in 2015 due to CF Met SO and started TTC again SO: quality issues, started Clomid BFP 1/13/17, natural cycle (!) Due 9/19/17
fiercemo, I'm also having trouble hiding my growing belly which is a thing I'm struggling with as I'm not yet ready to be public with the news. Today I made a poor clothing choice.
I keep hoping it'll be the anatomy scan. That will give me the peace of mind to feel at ease. And I hope I'm right. Otherwise I might hit up some therapy because I don't want to feel anxious forever.
fiercemo , I'm also having trouble hiding my growing belly which is a thing I'm struggling with as I'm not yet ready to be public with the news. Today I made a poor clothing choice.
I keep hoping it'll be the anatomy scan. That will give me the peace of mind to feel at ease. And I hope I'm right. Otherwise I might hit up some therapy because I don't want to feel anxious forever.
Quoting myself because I'm worried I seem judgey and I'm 100% not judging anyone for how they feel.
I had so much energy yesterday. Today I took the kids to the park and then was like umm I'm really tired. I let them play some and now we are home watching TV.
I'm with you girl who struggle to be unequivocally excited and hopeful. But I'm also trying to remind myself what laurenash323 said about worrying not changing the outcome. One of my favorite quotes is "worrying will not strip tomorrow if it's troubles, but it will strip today of its joy."
I'm also at the point where strangers can tell I'm pregnant so I might as well embrace it!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
I was TG last time and I was hoping for a girl only because I never could imagine myself with a son. When my H announced it was a boy, I was so surprised (not disappointed). He then melted my heart the moment I saw him and heard him cry. Now, I couldn't imagine it any other way. He is a total momma's boy, and such a little cuddle bug.
I'm kind of excited for this feeling. I feel like boys tend to cling to their mamas and girls to their dads. Dd of course clings to both of us, but I think it's that opposite sex thing that makes the bond that much different. I'm excited to see what having a boy is all about.
I'm kind of excited for this feeling. I feel like boys tend to cling to their mamas and girls to their dads. Dd of course clings to both of us, but I think it's that opposite sex thing that makes the bond that much different. I'm excited to see what having a boy is all about.
This is very true for our kiddos.
I'm still a daddy's girl...I love my mom but it's just different with dad.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Wth does the nurse care if the dr ordered the damn test?! I get so irritated when nurses/staff at my drs question things. I feel like most of them seriously need some customer service training. (Sorry for any nurses here, I'm not saying all nurses, but some just have no personal skills/bedside manner and unfortunately they're who you spend the most time with).
I had one ask me if Cholestasis makes you itchy..... I get that it isn't common but I feel like an OB nurse on the nurses line should know about a condition like this that causes severe itching and is potentially dangerous
In the nurses defence, no where does that condition show up in the maternal-neonatal nursing textbook (at least the one recommended here). I just had a potential job in L&D so I read through the entire section on pregnancy complications and it isn't listed once, not even in passing. So it seems like it just needs a lot more education in general.
I had one ask me if Cholestasis makes you itchy..... I get that it isn't common but I feel like an OB nurse on the nurses line should know about a condition like this that causes severe itching and is potentially dangerous
In the nurses defence, no where does that condition show up in the maternal-neonatal nursing textbook (at least the one recommended here). I just had a potential job in L&D so I read through the entire section on pregnancy complications and it isn't listed once, not even in passing. So it seems like it just needs a lot more education in general.
[ High Risk for Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy - Fight the Itch Save a Life Kayden October 21, 2012 and Mira August 16, 2014 Angels Lucas, Serena, and Ana
Ugh poor DS2 and poor you leviosa! I have never had to clean up human vomit (baby spit up or dog puke don't seem equal) and that is one of the things I least look forward to with children. Hopefully his stomach settles and the rest of your trip is better!
DS2 had pyloric stenosis when he was an infant and he puked on my all.day.long! And not just a little. It was all down my body and all over the floor/furniture. My house stunk. I couldn't keep up with the laundry. Worst 4 months of my life (took 2 months to get diagnosed and then another 2 for him to fully recover after his surgery). So I have dealt with more than my share.
XP in Pregnancy but my cat is missing. We saw her last night and this morning she was nowhere to be found. We have no idea when she might have gotten out. She's an indoor cat. She went missing in January for 6 weeks and we JUST found her. I just feel overwhelmed by the whole thing and wish this week wasn't quite so shitty.
In potty training news, we had several victories last night before bed (and one during bedtime - a wake up to use the potty) then a major accident this morning. Two steps forward...
I'm on my way to a conference for work. Traveling without a toddler is SO easy. I felt so bad saying bye to DS this morning, but also looking forward to a few days without having to be a mom...
Also, I'm a stomach sleeper, and I think my bump is now big enough to make me start side sleeping. I did not get a pregnancy pillow last time. Is it worth it? Will it help hip/shoulder pain? I'm a fitful sleeper, so I roll back and forth all night, which is a reason I didn't get one before.
Post by luciddreamer on Apr 5, 2017 10:26:13 GMT -5
littleb92 I broke out my pregnancy pillow a couple of weeks ago. I love it! It really helps a lot with hip pain. Plus, I sometimes sleep on my back and a little on my stomach typically and it helps keep me at an angle.
I roll over a lot at night, too and it hasn't been a big deal to just reposition with the pillow.
What a morning. A preschool mom had called me last night asking if I would bring her boys to school. Sure, no problem. So I get up and try to hurry along as we would need to leave 10 min early to get the boys. Right before I was to make breakfast, I blew my nose and then realized I had a nosebleed. It lasted 40 min. No breakfast at home. I grabbed some juice for my kids and poptarts and off we went. After we did drop off at preschool, DD and I took off for gymnastics. On the way, it hit me that I had to poop....like now. Thankfully, there was a gas station. Then I decided to grab some coffee at the gas station and some donuts. We made it to gymnastics with one minute to spare.
littleb92 I just got a pregnancy pillow with this pregnancy. It isn't a snoogle but same kind of idea. I just had body pillows with my other two kids. I like the pregnancy pillow in the fact it is one pillow and so rolling over I don't really need to reposition it a whole lot.
I'm on my way to a conference for work. Traveling without a toddler is SO easy. I felt so bad saying bye to DS this morning, but also looking forward to a few days without having to be a mom...
Also, I'm a stomach sleeper, and I think my bump is now big enough to make me start side sleeping. I did not get a pregnancy pillow last time. Is it worth it? Will it help hip/shoulder pain? I'm a fitful sleeper, so I roll back and forth all night, which is a reason I didn't get one before.
I am planning to go see my mom for her birthday over memorial day weekend, and I keep trying to sell it as a "girl's weekend" so that she won't expect me to bring her grandson. I am so, so mean (to her and to DS!) but I really want a few non-parenting days before #2 arrives!
I never got a pregnancy pillow - I am always a side sleeper. But I found that as my belly got heavier the side that was "down" would get really sore during the night. I just put another pillow under my side for support.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
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