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[mambo]

I just had a glass splinter removed from my foot

[caybeh]

Apr 2, 2017 11:38:26 GMT -5 mambo said:

I just had a glass splinter removed from my foot

Ouch. How did you get that?

[caybeh]

I'm sitting in the van with the kids. DH is picking up some shelves for the garage. DD is crying and screaming because I won't let her watch a movie because she was naughty. Fun times. Please hurry up DH....

[mambo]

Apr 2, 2017 12:12:04 GMT -5 caybeh said:

Apr 2, 2017 11:38:26 GMT -5 mambo said:

I just had a glass splinter removed from my foot

Ouch. How did you get that?

We had a glass explode in our kitchen a week or so ago and I found the piece we missed with my foot

[wannabmama]

Apr 2, 2017 12:15:58 GMT -5 mambo said:

Apr 2, 2017 12:12:04 GMT -5 caybeh said:

Ouch. How did you get that?

We had a glass explode in our kitchen a week or so ago and I found the piece we missed with my foot

🙁ouch!!

[laurenash323]

We got back yesterday after traveling for a week (I had a work trip, so dh and dd tagged along). I way overdid it today trying to organize things around here and do yard work. I feel like nesting is way "worse" this time around.

[gwapes]

Ouch mambo !

[salmon2017]

Awesome things that happened this weekend:
1) Took DS out for ice cream and he was not even interested. I ate it all.
2) My hydrangea bushes bloomed and it turns out they are pink, not blue (this is apparently influenced by soil chemistry)
3) Sex. Huzzah!
4) DS woke up at 8 am on Sunday. MH and I woke up naturally at 7:30 and read our books in bed for half an hour. I have not woken up naturally since the day DS was born! Then DS came into bed with us and did some colouring till 9. Glorious.
5) Had time to paint my nails
6) Made bread and muffins for the week
7) DS had ZERO accidents on Sunday!

All in all, it was a great weekend. We didn't do much of anything, but it was lovely.

[leviosa]

I'm leaving for Houston tomorrow and I feel like I may be sick before the day is out. I really hope I don't have DD's stomach bug.

[sarenu]

Prepped a bunch of food this weekend. It's so nice not having to worry about snacks and breakfast.

[laurenash323]

If any of you are sewers, JoAnn's has their flannel fleece fabric for $2.49/yard. I made a ton of burp clothes and receiving blankets out of this for dd. I'm stocking up on boy fabric...but there are way too many cute options!! 

[mambo]

Guys my foot hurts and I'm not supposed to take Tylenol

[salmon2017]

Apr 3, 2017 9:34:23 GMT -5 mambo said:

Guys my foot hurts and I'm not supposed to take Tylenol

Oh, sorry mambo. Why no tylenol? I thought that was on the OK list?

[mambo]

Apr 3, 2017 9:36:33 GMT -5 salmon2017 said:

Apr 3, 2017 9:34:23 GMT -5 mambo said:

Guys my foot hurts and I'm not supposed to take Tylenol

Oh, sorry mambo. Why no tylenol? I thought that was on the OK list?

Because of my liver

[salmon2017]

Apr 3, 2017 9:56:18 GMT -5 @wicky said:

I had 2 baby dreams last night. The first we were apparently team green and I gave birth to a girl and I was so happy. The second we were at the anatomy scan and they said it was a boy and I was devastated and started crying from sadness. I really thought I was perfectly ok with either but maybe my subconscious is telling me otherwise. This is not a fun feeling 😕

I feel ya. I was totally sure I was ok with either, especially because we plan to have a third child. When I found out I was having a boy I could tell I was not as excited as I would have been if they said I was having a girl. I was so disappointed in myself! But, we can't help what our subconscious feels I guess.

[fiercemo]

Apr 3, 2017 8:20:31 GMT -5 leviosa said:

I'm leaving for Houston tomorrow and I feel like I may be sick before the day is out. I really hope I don't have DD's stomach bug.

Did I read you're moving to Houston? What part are you considering? I live in the south, in Seabrook by the bay. 

ETA: Hope you don't catch the stomach bug! That would suck for travel. 

[salmon2017]

Has anyone ever worked with a therapist on parenting related issues? I know I just said what an amazing weekend we had, but I also had a pretty hard time on Saturday, and am continually struggling with not being "the mom I thought I would be". I am not as patient, calm, and gentle as I would like. I snap easily and yell at my poor DS when he doesn't listen. I want to be better. I have always been a big reader of books but wonder if this is something I need to talk to someone about. MH is a great listener but typically tells me I am being too hard on myself. He may be right, but it's important to me to work on this; to try to be a better parent.

I have never seen a therapist about anything before, so I'm not sure even if a "parenting therapist" is a thing......

[bookitboo]

Not sure how to tag anyone yet but, salmon2017, I often feel this way. How old is your LO? I've come to embrace my imperfect parenting but it took years and many times I feel frequently sad about how I'm not the mom I dreamed I would be. I chalk it up to an uncomfortable reality check -- I didn't have the birth experience I wanted, or the breastfeeding experiences I wanted. I think talking to someone will only help and I think you should go for it!

[bookitboo]

Wicky, while having a preference for either one sex or the other isn't at all what anyone wants (I mean everyone wants healthy kids at the end of the day), having a preference is normal and you shouldn't feel bad about dreams. You're going to be a great mama either way. I have friends who are adamant about wanting a girl or boy baby and I don't think it's bad, just a preference.

[laurenash323]

salmon2017, I think any therapist would be able to talk through this with you and help you work through it. I saw a therapist for a while after DS's loss and the amount of things we ended up talking about and she helped me with in life was amazing.

[leviosa]

Apr 3, 2017 11:01:12 GMT -5 fiercemo said:

Apr 3, 2017 8:20:31 GMT -5 leviosa said:

I'm leaving for Houston tomorrow and I feel like I may be sick before the day is out. I really hope I don't have DD's stomach bug.

Did I read you're moving to Houston? What part are you considering? I live in the south, in Seabrook by the bay. 

ETA: Hope you don't catch the stomach bug! That would suck for travel. 

We are moving to the south west part. We had a house picked last time we went but we decided not to go with a house at the top of our budget so off we go again, house hunting. I took a Zofran today so I am at least functional. I will probably take another tomorrow while we travel too.

[leviosa]

salmon2017, first off, we are our worst critic. We also can't be expected to be perfect everyday. I lose my temper and end up yelling way more than I wish or would like. I saw a therapist to help me cope with DS1's behavior and the affect it had on me. He had ODD and used to be very physically aggressive towards me. To he point I needed medication just so I could pick him up from school without having a panic attack. I never knew if I was picking up my sweet angel or the demon that lived inside him. It helped a lot.

Other things you can do is self care. You have to make it a priority. For ex, I'm a better mom when I work out regularly. I need endorphins and the relaxation that comes with a good workout. I also like hot baths and massages. Those keep me sane.

[caybeh]

I'm getting a massage tonight. I'm so looking forward to it.

[caybeh]

Hugs salmon2017. Parenting is hard.

[salmon2017]

caybeh, bookitboo, @gotgingy, leviosa, laurenash323 thanks for all your support. I just felt so sad when MH told me he was enjoying fatherhood much more than he ever expected to (so sweet). I instantly thought that I was enjoying motherhood much LESS than I expected to!

A big part of the difference is that he had no siblings or cousins growing up. When we had kids, he knew he had no idea what he was doing - his expectations were low. I had siblings, cousins, babysitting - I knew how to take care of kids - I was born to be a mom, this was going to be easy. Well, surprise, it's not easy!

I definitely think I will do some research for a local therapist.

[saltandvinegar]

salmon2017, - A therapist may be a good idea but sometimes it can be helpful to just call another "mom" friend to vent & let it out at the time. The longer I hold stuff in the worse it becomes. I have a BFF that I should just start paying & calling her my therapist because I feel so much better after a vent session with her. I've stopped reading and researching so much & am learning to just go with the flow & do what feels right at the time. It takes a lot of the pressure off of worrying whether I'm doing it "right".

caybeh, - I'm so jealous. Enjoy the massage!

@wicky, - When I was pregnant with DS, one of the reasons I wanted to find out the sex ahead of time was because everyone in the family wanted a girl (there were already 7 boys) and even DH already had a son so he wanted a girl too. I didn't want there to be any disappointment when I actually delivered. I think there was some initial disappointment when we found out and now I feel so silly about it. I can't image anything other than him & am so happy that we had a boy. This time around I still think it would be fun to have a girl but having a boy has been so fun & perfect that I kind want it to be another boy!

[mambo]

@wicky the glass is out but they had to cut into my foot to get the glass out which is why it hurts. It's currently feeling ok. It was about 1/4 inch of glass

[leviosa]

@gotgingy, we had to do hours of intensive in-home behavioral therapy. He finally quit physically attacking me and his behavior at home leveled out. I use a point system for him now that focuses on positive reinforcement and I had immediate success with it. Six months ago we were discussing whether we needed to put him in a facility that helps kids with behavioral problems. Then we started seeing a new therapist and she recommended the point system and his behavior transformed so much that we no longer needed to discuss putting him anywhere. If you ever need to talk to someone feel free to pm me.

[leviosa]

@gotgingy, I always call DS1's outbursts toddler tantrums too. It's the only way to describe them. He is 14 too so way to old to be doing that. We recently started him on time released Focalin (I think that is how you spell it). I feel like that helps his ADHD and keeps him from being so compulsive with his behavior.

[Deleted]

Y'all I am STRUGGLING today.

I checked in earlier and didn't write anything because emotional. It's a long, sordid tale (not that long or sordid but legitimately not worth sharing). My best friend had a baby! And I'm thrilled but I'm sad that I can't be there for her and sad for myself and jealous of her med-free, fast labor. So lots of feelings today.

And I'm 100% over having daily headaches so that's a pregnancy symptom that can GTFO.