Post by EmeraldEyes85 on Feb 20, 2015 15:58:36 GMT -5
@wickedcandy PetSquirrel lizblue and all the others:
I just want to say I am truly sorry if I inadvertedly offended anyone, and if I am one of the assholes referred to...
I never meant to hurt anyone, and as I said, I struggle with my personal view of family. Maybe because society in general views "starting a family" with having children.
But you are all correct in saying that family goes much wider, and we are already part of a bigger family in may ways, whether it is extended family, friends, or boards like these. We do also have a furbaby (our strange cat) but she seems to have given herself up for adoption, she only comes in to eat in the house, and spends the rest of her time sleeping on our cars. Come winter she'll probably start snuggling again! But yes, I do need to challenge my own view of family.
Again, I am really sorry if my view offended any people, especially the CFNBC'ers. I have long since admired you for hanging around and being so understanding and supportive.
I appreciate you giving real thought to this, not just for our sakes, but for your own. You are part of a family, you and your spouse. That is a very important point, and one I hope you can own in the future.
I am going to address one more thing, but I want you to first understand that I am not picking on you. You may have been the one to type what I am about to bring up, but it is more coincidental that you brought it up this time, and I am using this as a teaching moment for all our fairly new members.
@wickedcandy is NOT just "hanging around". She is one of the reasons this community exists. Over the years, she helped build it into the strong place of no-bullshit support we all rely on. She nurtured it when cyclical timing left few knowledgable users around, she protected it when we seemed overrun with glitter-farting platitude pushers giving shitty advice. In many ways, this is her community, and we are here because she saw something of such value that even after the TTC part of her own journey ended, she continues to come and nurture ours.
For our newer ladies here (again, not picking on you EE85, this is for everyone who doesn't understand), women like Wicked are not lingering like ghosts, needing our pity. They are the very backbone that our community is built on, and should command our respect.
Also, it's ChildLessNBC, ChildFree gives the connotation that they are just on vacation.
Thus ends this edition of CAL History 101.
Firstly, thank you for clarifying the CFNBC vs CLNBC. I wasn't aware of the difference, but I will remember it!
Secondly, I didn't mean "hanging around" in a light hearted way, although I can see that it might have seemed so. I honestly have the utmost respect for them choosing to still be here, and being so knowledgeable, supportive and understandingl. I wasn't aware of exactly what a rockstar @wickedcandy is, as I haven't been around that long, even on TB. But thank you for (gently) correcting me. I learned a lot since yesterday, and I hope it will make me a more open-minded person as well as a better part ofthis community.