Post by stellabunny on Feb 20, 2015 8:12:53 GMT -5
I'm jealous that DH gets to travel for work sometimes. I'd love a nice quiet hotel room to escapee to, even if I have to get up early for work. It's probably still later than when I've been getting up with DD.
Since I don't get to travel for work, I have seriously debated getting a decent hotel room for myself just so I can drink and sleep in peacefully. I just want relaxation.
I don't do a lot of activities with DD. I get out crayons, markers, paints, play dough, pipe cleaners, etc for her at times, but not all the time. We go on walks twice day and sometimes I let her watch Elmo. I taught her age group at daycare before and sometimes I think she would get more out of being at daycare. I thought about making a schedule for us, but really dislike the idea. I have a sahm friend who puts pics up of all the stuff her DD does and compare us to that all the time.
TLDR: I don't feel I do enough projects etc, with DD and she would get more out of being in daycare.
*My husband tells me my job is to keep DD alive and he doesn't worry about the fancy projects, etc.
I have the opportunity to travel a lot more for work and I don't because of the guilt of leaving. I guess it's not only guilt, like I'd definitely miss them a lot, too. We don't really have a lot of family and, really, no help at all so we tend to do absolutely everything together so it feels so weird to travel somewhere by myself.
penguin129 I hear ya dude. I think DD gets way more independent play time than she needs. Its not helping were stuck in the house but I always feel guilty about not doing enough with her.
Post by tomorrowisanotherday on Feb 20, 2015 9:04:12 GMT -5
DS hasn't had a actual bath yet.... He is 5 weeks old. I kinda don't feel bad about it; what does a baby do to get dirty? (FWIW He doesn't spit up and we use cloth wipes on him.)
Post by skategirl128 on Feb 20, 2015 9:17:34 GMT -5
DS and SO are up and hanging out downstairs. I know they are waiting for me so that we can brave this cold and get breakfast but I'm lazy and still in bed.
DS hasn't had a actual bath yet.... He is 5 weeks old. I kinda don't feel bad about it; what does a baby do to get dirty? (FWIW He doesn't spit up and we use cloth wipes on him.)
My son had a massive umbilical cord that would not fall off so we couldn't give him a bath until he was like 2 months old, maybe even older, I can't quite remember. He ended up having to have silver nitrate put on it a couple of times to get it off. The doctor said it was one of the biggest ones he'd ever seen, lol.
DS hasn't had a actual bath yet.... He is 5 weeks old. I kinda don't feel bad about it; what does a baby do to get dirty? (FWIW He doesn't spit up and we use cloth wipes on him.)
Not flame-worthy. Too many baths at this age causes skin irritation anyways. Maddy is 5 months and even now only gets a bath every 3-4 days.
DS hasn't had a actual bath yet.... He is 5 weeks old. I kinda don't feel bad about it; what does a baby do to get dirty? (FWIW He doesn't spit up and we use cloth wipes on him.)
No flames from me. Overbathing can be irritating to their skin! DS is 2 and only showers with me twice a week in the winter so his skin doesn't dry out. I only throw him in the tub if he gets exceptionally dirty like pasta sauce in his hair or diaper blow out otherwise I just wipe him down!
Post by TheEleventhHour on Feb 20, 2015 10:14:10 GMT -5
Mine is that DS got out of the house yesterday!!! I was in the kitchen and DH went out to take the trash down to the trash room. He thought he had closed the door all the way behind him but didn't. And DS can reach door knobs now. Luckily he was saying "Daddy! Where are you?" and I heard his voice getting farther away but by the time I got to him he was up the two flights of stairs and standing at the security door thinking DH had left to check the mail! Thank goodness he isn't strong or tall enough to open the two doors to the outside. EEK.
Post by TheEleventhHour on Feb 20, 2015 10:22:55 GMT -5
As far as travel goes ... I left DS overnight for the first time when he was 4 months old to go to my sister's college graduation. IT WAS GLORIOUS. I obviously missed him but I had no hesitation in going. I got to sleep alone in a big ass bed and not get woken up all night long. It was the best. I wouldn't hesitate to go away now either but I just never have a reason or chance.
Post by helenahhandbasket on Feb 20, 2015 10:23:10 GMT -5
Also, I think I have complained about this before-- my co-worker that's supposedly on "bedrest" and WFH but keeps checking in various places on FB?
We were texting yesterday and this idiot actually told me that she's not really on bedrest, she just had her doc write her a note so that she didn't have to commute in the weather. She also told me that she's going to ask for a special schedule when she returns from mat leave-- she wants to work 7-4, when our hours are 9-5:30 because her DC closes at six.
Yeah, so does mine. Know what I did? Arranged for DD to be picked up from DC and watched until I get home.
Sorry I keep bringing this up, but I am so frustrated. I was really hoping that job was going to come thru and her attitude really makes me sick. Did I mention that I collected money from everyone at work and sent her a 100.00 BRU GC (this was before I knew she was being so shady). I feel like a complete idiot.
Mine is that DS got out of the house yesterday!!! I was in the kitchen and DH went out to take the trash down to the trash room. He thought he had closed the door all the way behind him but didn't. And DS can reach door knobs now. Luckily he was saying "Daddy! Where are you?" and I heard his voice getting farther away but by the time I got to him he was up the two flights of stairs and standing at the security door thinking DH had left to check the mail! Thank goodness he isn't strong or tall enough to open the two doors to the outside. EEK.
Thank goodness you got to him quickly!
My mom's apartment in Portland has a weird front door. It's locked from the outside, but there are no deadbolts, so it's easy to just open and go from the inside. DS can easily open that door, so I'm terrified he'll get out without us noticing when we visit. Just thinking about it puts a lump in my throat.
Luckily we live in a very quiet neighborhood so if he did get out it wouldn't be on to a busy street or anything crazy but I am officially freaked out now because it made me realize he's bigger and super mobile and could easily get away if given the opportunity!!!
I will admit that I cried as I was getting on the plane, and the reason was split 60/40 (60 I am afraid to fly and 40 I was going to miss DD).
Also, I know it's cold, but people constantly complaing about seasonally appropriate weather drives me crazy.
+1000
Also, I can barely tell the difference between 0 and -20 anyway. It's all devastatingly cold so who cares about a few degrees? I feel like anything under 20, we don't even need numbers to describe it anymore. "What's the weather?" "Oh, it's cold." End of conversation.
Mine is that DS got out of the house yesterday!!! I was in the kitchen and DH went out to take the trash down to the trash room. He thought he had closed the door all the way behind him but didn't. And DS can reach door knobs now. Luckily he was saying "Daddy! Where are you?" and I heard his voice getting farther away but by the time I got to him he was up the two flights of stairs and standing at the security door thinking DH had left to check the mail! Thank goodness he isn't strong or tall enough to open the two doors to the outside. EEK.
I will admit that I cried as I was getting on the plane, and the reason was split 60/40 (60 I am afraid to fly and 40 I was going to miss DD).
Also, I know it's cold, but people constantly complaing about seasonally appropriate weather drives me crazy.
+1000
Also, I can barely tell the difference between 0 and -20 anyway. It's all devastatingly cold so who cares about a few degrees? I feel like anything under 20, we don't even need numbers to describe it anymore. "What's the weather?" "Oh, it's cold." End of conversation.
Right? I mean this happens every year if you live somewhere that gets 4 seasons. It gets cold for a few months, then it gets less cold, then it gets hot, then it gets less hot.
Post by TheEleventhHour on Feb 20, 2015 10:31:36 GMT -5
helenahhandbasket That would frustrate me so much! Seriously to the point where I might consider telling a boss or HR. And seriously shame on her doctor for writing her that note. If I had ever asked my OB to write me a note saying I needed to be on BEDREST just because I didn't like my commute he would have laughed in my face.
Also, DH leaves for work at 6am and when I was in school I usually had to leave at 5am. Daycare opened at 730. You fucking figure it out and make it work. You don't get to have a super speshul schedule because you want to. It's called being an adult!
helenahhandbasket That would frustrate me so much! Seriously to the point where I might consider telling a boss or HR. And seriously shame on her doctor for writing her that note. If I had ever asked my OB to write me a note saying I needed to be on BEDREST just because I didn't like my commute he would have laughed in my face.
Also, DH leaves for work at 6am and when I was in school I usually had to leave at 5am. Daycare opened at 730. You fucking figure it out and make it work. You don't get to have a super speshul schedule because you want to. It's called being an adult!
Exactly-- the funny part is that while I would never "tell" on her-- I don't have to because she's FB friends with our team leader and the team leader has also seen these posts. She told me she was not going to allow her to have a schedule like that, but I am worried she will waver when the time comes and give in.
If that happens I am going to raise high holy hell-- which I NEVER do. Keep you all posted.
helenahhandbasket That would frustrate me so much! Seriously to the point where I might consider telling a boss or HR. And seriously shame on her doctor for writing her that note. If I had ever asked my OB to write me a note saying I needed to be on BEDREST just because I didn't like my commute he would have laughed in my face.
Also, DH leaves for work at 6am and when I was in school I usually had to leave at 5am. Daycare opened at 730. You fucking figure it out and make it work. You don't get to have a super speshul schedule because you want to. It's called being an adult!
Exactly-- the funny part is that while I would never "tell" on her-- I don't have to because she's FB friends with our team leader and the team leader has also seen these posts. She told me she was not going to allow her to have a schedule like that, but I am worried she will waver when the time comes and give in.
If that happens I am going to raise high holy hell-- which I NEVER do. Keep you all posted.
I don't blame you for raising hell if she gets that schedule. She isn't the only employee with a kid and a long commute! It sounds like the team leader can be a pushover. Hopefully she doesn't give in!
Post by helenahhandbasket on Feb 20, 2015 10:42:47 GMT -5
TheEleventhHour-- she is a bit soft (the team lead) and unfortunately (to complicate things) we have all hung out socially together because we live a few minutes away from each other and take the same train line.
helenahhandbasket That would frustrate me so much! Seriously to the point where I might consider telling a boss or HR. And seriously shame on her doctor for writing her that note. If I had ever asked my OB to write me a note saying I needed to be on BEDREST just because I didn't like my commute he would have laughed in my face.
Also, DH leaves for work at 6am and when I was in school I usually had to leave at 5am. Daycare opened at 730. You fucking figure it out and make it work. You don't get to have a super speshul schedule because you want to. It's called being an adult!
Exactly-- the funny part is that while I would never "tell" on her-- I don't have to because she's FB friends with our team leader and the team leader has also seen these posts. She told me she was not going to allow her to have a schedule like that, but I am worried she will waver when the time comes and give in.
If that happens I am going to raise high holy hell-- which I NEVER do. Keep you all posted.
I will admit that I cried as I was getting on the plane, and the reason was split 60/40 (60 I am afraid to fly and 40 I was going to miss DD).
Also, I know it's cold, but people constantly complaing about seasonally appropriate weather drives me crazy.
I agree with this BUT....we have been a consistent 20-30 degrees below our average (not even taking wind chill into consideration) so I can't call this seasonally appropriate weather. Oddly enough, we haven't gotten as much snow as we normally do because it's been "too cold to snow". Go figure.
@misspeansmama-- I can't remember where you are, and I know what you are saying-- that some years we have "colder" winters than others.
But winter is still supposed to be cold. If today was June 1 I would be right on the complain train.
I guess my C today is I totally work my schedule around DS. But I work in an industry where everyone has a flexible schedule. Oh, and I LOVE traveling for work. I miss DS but I know he's having fun with DH and it's nice to have a break. I also feel like I don't do enough activities with DS sometimes, but really, he has a blast going to the grocery store and playing trains with us. I would say our job is to show our kids they are loved, and anything on top of that is a bonus.
Also, I think I have complained about this before-- my co-worker that's supposedly on "bedrest" and WFH but keeps checking in various places on FB?
We were texting yesterday and this idiot actually told me that she's not really on bedrest, she just had her doc write her a note so that she didn't have to commute in the weather. She also told me that she's going to ask for a special schedule when she returns from mat leave-- she wants to work 7-4, when our hours are 9-5:30 because her DC closes at six.
Yeah, so does mine. Know what I did? Arranged for DD to be picked up from DC and watched until I get home.
Sorry I keep bringing this up, but I am so frustrated. I was really hoping that job was going to come thru and her attitude really makes me sick. Did I mention that I collected money from everyone at work and sent her a 100.00 BRU GC (this was before I knew she was being so shady). I feel like a complete idiot.
This woman is being a whiny-ass baby. She is obviously capable of getting around in this weather and just wants special treatment. Sorry, I'm super judgey on this.
Post by smalltownmoon on Feb 20, 2015 11:39:49 GMT -5
I feel only kind of bad because I snapped at DH for taking too long at his work meeting. He's on a task force, they get nothing done and it's conveniently always scheduled on the days I need him to watch M so I can get stuff done. He got home and I'm sort of satisfied because he rushed into dad-mode instead of piddling around like he usually does.
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