Post by seerealsky on Feb 23, 2015 10:06:25 GMT -5
My MIL is visiting today, and I only asked my husband to run the dishwasher and to clean the toilet, and I'd take care if the rest. Apparently that list was too long, because the toilet is untouched this morning.
Jesus give me strength. This patience thing is hard when your husband has an attention span to rival your newborn's...
Post by gradschoolmama on Feb 23, 2015 10:15:35 GMT -5
Ugh I hear ya seerealsky ! DH is sometimes needier than LO
So FIL (not my fave person) is recovering in hospital from an accident. All I heard yesterday on the phone w MIL is how he's really enjoying the student nurses at the hospital. Um, hey MIL- that's bc your husband is a DIRTY OLD MAN. It's not "cute" or "sweet" that he's "enjoying" the nurses. It's pervy. Not okay people. Not okay.
Ugh I hear ya seerealsky ! DH is sometimes needier than LO
So FIL (not my fave person) is recovering in hospital from an accident. All I heard yesterday on the phone w MIL is how he's really enjoying the student nurses at the hospital. Um, hey MIL- that's bc your husband is a DIRTY OLD MAN. It's not "cute" or "sweet" that he's "enjoying" the nurses. It's pervy. Not okay people. Not okay.
Yeah I have taken care of some old men that are perverts in the hospital. It is creepy when they say comments to you and their significant other is in the room smiling at what they say! I usually just ignore them, unless they are really inappropriate.
My DH is better at cleaning now, but it took a while to get him to help out too! I think when I had my c-section and was recovering, he realized he had to help out some more.
I am getting sick of winter and hope spring/summer comes soon. We also have to go in and finish our taxes today. We went in on Saturday and just as we were finishing the power strip died and deleted all our information. DH was going out of town to visit his parents, so we just said we would come back and finish up today. Not looking forward to going out in the cold and wind!
The past few days beat me up. My body is really fighting off some sickness, LO has been a hot mess the last few days (it's not even an expected growth spurt or Wonder Week), I was solo with LO last night which was rough and AF is being a bish.
Ack I'm sorry you're dealing w all this! I think a bunch of us got AF back this week - I'm also hating it
My husband is pissing me off!! I am 2 weeks away from returning to work, luckily I already told my boss it will not be permanent. I am only coming back to help get us through budget which will take me until May. During this time we need to set up arrangements to watch our son. Our family all live about 2-2 1/2 hours away. At first we were thinking the grandmothers can come and stay and watch him, but now I am thinking that will be too much for all involved. They both have lives (my mom still works and his mother is retired but they are in process of buying and selling house) plus I don't want just his mom watching our little one. (she is weird sometimes) I am also thinking that when I come home I rather not be smoothered by MIL or my mom.
While I am not happy about it, I am not opposed to daycare as i think it will be easier for us and is more realistic. My husband is dead set against it. He does not want a stranger watching our son. I get it, but I think he thinks this will be easy having family watch him. Now I am planning on having flexible schedule, but it still will be a lot. I also looked into a nanny but of course he didnt like that either. Don't get me wrong I much rather family watch him, but I am trying to be more realistic.
I guess there is also a part of me (irrational) that rather a stranger watch him because there is no attachment. I don't have to hear grandma say OMG Hunter did this for me or that. Plus at least at a daycare they will keep him entertained and learning.
I don't know, it is just so frustrating and he claims he understands but he doesn't. I gues whatever option we choose will not be permanent but it is still rough. I just don't know what to do and I am sure we will argue about it. ugh
Post by gdaniels77 on Feb 23, 2015 12:26:20 GMT -5
MILs, amirite??
First off, why do people say "Had that baby yet?", wtf kind of question is that? I have heard this from clients at work at least once a day since being back. Um, no... I'm just 12 months pregnant and just went on vacation for two months. Not to mention the fact that the last time you saw me before I left I was the size of a blimp and now somehow my belly has shrunk significantly...
One side of the pump wasn't working on my first pumping break, so I took the bag off and took it apart to troubleshoot. Figured it out, put it back together, and started to pump again. Until I realized the bag was still in my hand and milk was being poured straight onto my leg, black slacks, 100% silk, brand new.
Ooh I have been waiting for this. My stepdaughter's mother is my Monday bitchfest topic.
It started in the summer when DSD had lice. She got it twice and the second time, instead of dealing with it the mother sends me a text telling me she cut off the kid's hair. I was expecting a cute pixy cut. Nope. She took scissors and took it almost down to the scalp. My poor step daughter had to start a new school with a patchy, prisoner of war hairstyle because her mom was too lazy to properly deal with lice.
Now that it was staring to grow out, she needed a trim to tidy it up. It took a long time before she was comfortable with the idea of letting anyone near her with scissors. She told me she wanted to grow it long, so we just got it trimmed in a way it would grow out evenly abd not go all mullety on here.
Then this weekend (maybe two weeks later) her mom sends her back to our house with a new haircut. She must have taken her to a discount hairdresser because it's the worst pixy cut I have seen in a long time.
I am just so mad that my DSD's mom does not take the time to listen to what her daughter wants and forces these decisions on her.
Post by splotch0713 on Feb 23, 2015 13:14:12 GMT -5
Wtf acupuncture person! My DH had his first acupuncture appointment on Saturday. He was tols by the practitioner that they would be back in about 30-45 mins or so. After having the needles in for over an hour he had to use the bathroom. He gets up, takes the needles out himself, and goes to look for the bathroom. Apparently the practitioner forgot about him because there was no one there and the office was locked up. It was also pass closing time. They seriously forgot about him! I'm beyond upset over the negligence but grateful he is ok. We will be filing a report with the department of health.
Post by jennielee123 on Feb 23, 2015 13:44:56 GMT -5
Please tell me why it takes MH two to three times longer to do things than it takes me? Why can I get the dishes done in like twenty minutes and it takes him over an hour?? Just get the shit done already.
This whining thing that happens when step kids come back from even a few hours with their mother and her bf is ridiculous. No you cannot sit in front of the tv for hours you have a room full of toys go play. No dude your sister sat in that chair first just because you wanted it but didn't get there first does not mean you need to throw yourself on the floor and scream
This reminds me of what I deal with when DD comes back from a weekend at her Dad's. She comes back with so much attitude, it's like I have to deprogram her.
Post by liljsmomma on Feb 23, 2015 13:54:20 GMT -5
Ok seriously I understand we live right next door you but I'm not bundling LO up to bring over to your house at -45 and -50 just because you want to see her and don't like that we have an indoor dog!! I've told you before call me beforehand and I'll put him in my room so he doesn't bug you and come visit! Stop bitching and complaining to everyone you see that you never get to see the baby!!! Ugh
Post by ThePregosaurus on Feb 23, 2015 15:44:31 GMT -5
First day back at work was a success.. HOWEVER, DS woke me up to eat at 2:30am and our heat wasn't working! Fast forward to now and about $10k later, we have a new furnace & hot water heater being installed. About 3 more hours of this cold cold house.
ETA: Woohoo! About 22 hours later from when it shut off and our heat is FINALLY back on! It's 2F outside right now and 50 in the house. Time to crank this bitch up!
First day back at work was a success.. HOWEVER, DS woke me up to eat at 2:30am and our heat wasn't working! Fast forward to now and about $10k later, we have a new furnace & hot water heater being installed. About 3 more hours of this cold cold house.
I like your first day at work success, not the very expensive hear issue. That is awful!!!
Wtf acupuncture person! My DH had his first acupuncture appointment on Saturday. He was tols by the practitioner that they would be back in about 30-45 mins or so. After having the needles in for over an hour he had to use the bathroom. He gets up, takes the needles out himself, and goes to look for the bathroom. Apparently the practitioner forgot about him because there was no one there and the office was locked up. It was also pass closing time. They seriously forgot about him! I'm beyond upset over the negligence but grateful he is ok. We will be filing a report with the department of health.
That is absolutely crazy!!! How did that even end??
Post by splotch0713 on Feb 23, 2015 16:33:53 GMT -5
birch113 he couldn't get out the front door because of the kind of lock it has. All the windows were covered with blinds. Luckily, he thought to look behind all the blinds and he found a side door that he could open. He checked every exam room and looked everywhere for someone and couldn't find anyone. We are wondering if we will get a call from the office to see if he is ok or if they won't remember at all.
Post by ThePregosaurus on Feb 23, 2015 16:47:21 GMT -5
splotch0713, you know that awful feeling in the pit of your stomach when you realize you forgot something important like shutting the iron off? Now imagine the feeling that worker is going to get when they realize what they did!! It makes me uncomfortable just thinking about it!
Dear MIL, stop complaining that you don't see lo enough. You live 5 minutes away. Make an effort. You desperately want me to be the daughter you never had, but guilt trips and desperation drive me crazy and make me withdraw.
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Dear MIL, stop complaining that you don't see lo enough. You live 5 minutes away. Make an effort. You desperately want me to be the daughter you never had, but guilt trips and desperation drive me crazy and make me withdraw.
All. Of. This. So much all of this.
Sadly all of this, except it's my mom. She lives 20-30m away, but in our city everything is at least 15m away. My MIL who is four hours away by plane visits as frequently as my mom. LO has some health issues that are making her high maintenance and I could use an extra pair of hands, but I just get text messages saying how much she misses LO and hopes to come soon, alternating with resentful comments that LO and I are closer to my MIL. Aaaaaaaaaaaaah!
My mother in law is always asking my husband why I don't like his family as much as my own family. She lives about 35min away and has come to visit exactly 0 times, she basically expects me to haul me and LO over to Her House. It always has to be me making the effort. And she thinks I don't like Her? She makes no effort to help me.
The worst thing is my husband tries to defend me to her and only makes it worse. Yes DH, telling your family I find them stressful is really helping.
Sadly all of this, except it's my mom. She lives 20-30m away, but in our city everything is at least 15m away. My MIL who is four hours away by plane visits as frequently as my mom. LO has some health issues that are making her high maintenance and I could use an extra pair of hands, but I just get text messages saying how much she misses LO and hopes to come soon, alternating with resentful comments that LO and I are closer to my MIL. Aaaaaaaaaaaaah!
This is my mom to a tee. But when she makes up an excuse for why she can't come, she expects us to just jaunt over there instead.
Post by gdaniels77 on Feb 23, 2015 21:02:06 GMT -5
I just have one more bitch-
My MIL is driving me so crazy that I don't even feel sane anymore. My ILs watch LO three days a week while I'm at work, and before I went back, I wrote out a detailed set of guidelines for feeding and taking care of her. As she was never able to BF (adopted) and fed DH goats milk instead, I have spent a lot of time explaining the logistics of everything at their request. Every day I bring an extra bag of milk in case one gets spilled, I get stranded, etc. And at least once a week I remind them not to overfeed LO.
I have been asking DH what happens to the extra bags of milk, since I can never find them in their fridge the next day and was thinking (hoping) they were being frozen. He said today he was pretty sure they just get dumped out. So I asked MIL and it turns out she has been feeding it all to LO every day and dumping whatever she doesn't finish! And when I asked her why she did that today--specifically, making LO drink a 6 OZ BOTTLE--she said "Well, she drank it all!" and I explained to her (for probably the 5th time) why not to do that, she rolled her eyes and chuckled, and said "Alright, alright, gotcha."
I feel like she's purposefully going against my words to make me look like a bitch or a control freak. And who knows, maybe it's just because I am turning into a control freak. I know for a fact that it's making me irrational because I'm starting to feel like I don't even want her to watch LO anymore because of all of the things she does that they all know I don't like. Over feeding my child, leaving her face crusty, leaving her in dirty clothes or putting her in musty not-yet-washed thrift store clothes, picking a hairy paci off the floor and giving it back to her, leaving sticky lip gloss prints all over her... I just can't anymore.
birch113 he couldn't get out the front door because of the kind of lock it has. All the windows were covered with blinds. Luckily, he thought to look behind all the blinds and he found a side door that he could open. He checked every exam room and looked everywhere for someone and couldn't find anyone. We are wondering if we will get a call from the office to see if he is ok or if they won't remember at all.
That is bananas!!! He should call and let them know what douchecanoes they are.
My MIL is driving me so crazy that I don't even feel sane anymore. My ILs watch LO three days a week while I'm at work, and before I went back, I wrote out a detailed set of guidelines for feeding and taking care of her. As she was never able to BF (adopted) and fed DH goats milk instead, I have spent a lot of time explaining the logistics of everything at their request. Every day I bring an extra bag of milk in case one gets spilled, I get stranded, etc. And at least once a week I remind them not to overfeed LO.
I have been asking DH what happens to the extra bags of milk, since I can never find them in their fridge the next day and was thinking (hoping) they were being frozen. He said today he was pretty sure they just get dumped out. So I asked MIL and it turns out she has been feeding it all to LO every day and dumping whatever she doesn't finish! And when I asked her why she did that today--specifically, making LO drink a 6 OZ BOTTLE--she said "Well, she drank it all!" and I explained to her (for probably the 5th time) why not to do that, she rolled her eyes and chuckled, and said "Alright, alright, gotcha."
I feel like she's purposefully going against my words to make me look like a bitch or a control freak. And who knows, maybe it's just because I am turning into a control freak. I know for a fact that it's making me irrational because I'm starting to feel like I don't even want her to watch LO anymore because of all of the things she does that they all know I don't like. Over feeding my child, leaving her face crusty, leaving her in dirty clothes or putting her in musty not-yet-washed thrift store clothes, picking a hairy paci off the floor and giving it back to her, leaving sticky lip gloss prints all over her... I just can't anymore.
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I don't think you're crazy at all. I would be so pissed about all of that. First of all, pumped milk is freaking liquid gold. I get so upset over any spillage. If someone actively overfed my LOVE and dumped the rest I would lose my poop. All the other stuff is icing on the crap cake. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Can DH say something to her?
Since the theme of the day seems to be MILs, I'll jump in with mine. We went over for dinner because she'll be away for a week and wanted to see LO before she goes (not that she seems him every week anyway, but whatever). LO is finally getting back on the boob, but it's not easy and I'm doing weighted feeds at home, so I brought a bottle of breastmilk in case he was hungry. First of all, she always asked to feed him, then jams the bottle down his throat. I've mentioned this to DH several times, and that he should speak up and ask her to go easy, but he never does. So, she noticed we had new bottles (Dr. Brown's) and commented on how long the nipple was. I explained it was recommended to help with him breastfeeding. She then made some snide comment about me "still trying???" and when I shared our successes, she asked why I'm bothering since I'm going back to work and just have to wean him anyway. She's obsessed with the idea of "weaning" and no matter how many times I explain that I will pump at work, she seems to think I'll fail. I don't know why she has to be so negative and judgemental. It just makes me want to breastfeed my LO until he goes off to college to prove her wrong.
Post by seerealsky on Feb 23, 2015 22:33:35 GMT -5
I just want to give all you ladies creepy internet hugs. My MIL's visit went well (I cleaned the toilet...), and her awkwardness makes me awkward (she assumes my small Missouri town must be backwards, because surely all small towns are that way), but it's nothing like what you all are dealing with.
My MIL is driving me so crazy that I don't even feel sane anymore. My ILs watch LO three days a week while I'm at work, and before I went back, I wrote out a detailed set of guidelines for feeding and taking care of her. As she was never able to BF (adopted) and fed DH goats milk instead, I have spent a lot of time explaining the logistics of everything at their request. Every day I bring an extra bag of milk in case one gets spilled, I get stranded, etc. And at least once a week I remind them not to overfeed LO.
I have been asking DH what happens to the extra bags of milk, since I can never find them in their fridge the next day and was thinking (hoping) they were being frozen. He said today he was pretty sure they just get dumped out. So I asked MIL and it turns out she has been feeding it all to LO every day and dumping whatever she doesn't finish! And when I asked her why she did that today--specifically, making LO drink a 6 OZ BOTTLE--she said "Well, she drank it all!" and I explained to her (for probably the 5th time) why not to do that, she rolled her eyes and chuckled, and said "Alright, alright, gotcha."
I feel like she's purposefully going against my words to make me look like a bitch or a control freak. And who knows, maybe it's just because I am turning into a control freak. I know for a fact that it's making me irrational because I'm starting to feel like I don't even want her to watch LO anymore because of all of the things she does that they all know I don't like. Over feeding my child, leaving her face crusty, leaving her in dirty clothes or putting her in musty not-yet-washed thrift store clothes, picking a hairy paci off the floor and giving it back to her, leaving sticky lip gloss prints all over her... I just can't anymore.
Post by babyrn2009 on Feb 23, 2015 23:40:06 GMT -5
OH!!! I just remembered something else to whine about. DH just got a new and better job (yay!) and gave his required 2 weeks notice, and in return they only gave him 1 week to finish working. So he's losing a week of pay. I suppose it's their right, but he feels unappreciated. And being right at the end of my maternity leave we could use the $$. Ugh.
Speaking of money, Friday was payday and my check didn't go through. So I called and apparently I only had 1 1/2 hours of PTO left! I did the math a million times and had exactly enough for 12 weeks paid leave (using my vacation and sick time), but somehow it was all gone in 9 weeks?? Hmm.
So anyway, DH is being shorted a week of pay and I somehow miscalculated and am short 3 weeks pay. Goodbye savings. :-( Guess that's what it's there for...
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