I wasn't flaming boo! More like confessing I'm too much of a pussy.
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But I do also side-eye some of the foods babies who are doing BLW are eating at this age
I think we have all side-eyed someone else's parenting choices at some point in this group, let's be real.
No one has ever side eyed me bc I'm a perfect unicorn mom (except the daycare, my mom, DH, my grandma, my co workers...etc.) No matter how you do things somebody is going to judge you.
Which is dumb. I really hate it when people mock me for following current recommendations. They look at me like I grew a third eyeball bc I won't let my kid have rice cereal in his bottle.
DD usually gags from purees too. I admit I've let her try french fries. She gnawed on a chicken bone like a dog because it kept her busy. But I would side eye someone who consistently fed their baby shit foods
To be clear, I wasn't saying anyone was feeding "shit foods" or even consistently feeding bad stuff but some of the stuff I do see (and from my IRL friends too) is not something I would feed my 7 month old.
I'm a pearl clutcher, that's how I roll.
No I know what you meant I just wanted to elaborate on what you said I wasn't speaking of any particular instance.
I think we have all side-eyed someone else's parenting choices at some point in this group, let's be real.
No one has ever side eyed me bc I'm a perfect unicorn mom (except the daycare, my mom, DH, my grandma, my co workers...etc.) No matter how you do things somebody is going to judge you.
Which is dumb. I really hate it when people mock me for following current recommendations. They look at me like I grew a third eyeball bc I won't let my kid have rice cereal in his bottle.
I let dd try lots of foods, I did the pizza crust awhile back. But she's not swallowing any of it? She's just tasting it, sucking on it a bit. I know we don't have to defend, just sayin that it's not like she's actually ingesting pizza crust.
I do blw and purées because she doesn't really swallow any of the solid foods? Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Plus as dumb as it is, purées are fun.
I let dd try lots of foods, I did the pizza crust awhile back. But she's not swallowing any of it? She's just tasting it, sucking on it a bit. I know we don't have to defend, just sayin that it's not like she's actually ingesting pizza crust.
I do blw and purées because she doesn't really swallow any of the solid foods? Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Plus as dumb as it is, purées are fun.
I think ALL feeding sucks. Whether it's solids or purees. It's a pain in the ass and my baby is the slowest chick in the world for every single thing she does. MOVE ALONG DD!
Another UO: I'm so burned out from DS being a shitty eater his whole life and I think it sucks to sit and spoon feed a baby so I wish she would just drink bottles until she's 1, then move on to being a regular eater, on her own.
Another UO: I'm so burned out from DS being a shitty eater his whole life and I think it sucks to sit and spoon feed a baby so I wish she would just drink bottles until she's 1, then move on to being a regular eater, on her own.
That's not a UO it is a pain in the ass they have to look at everything so it takes forever!
I let dd try lots of foods, I did the pizza crust awhile back. But she's not swallowing any of it? She's just tasting it, sucking on it a bit. I know we don't have to defend, just sayin that it's not like she's actually ingesting pizza crust.
I do blw and purées because she doesn't really swallow any of the solid foods? Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Plus as dumb as it is, purées are fun.
I think ALL feeding sucks. Whether it's solids or purees. It's a pain in the ass and my baby is the slowest chick in the world for every single thing she does. MOVE ALONG DD!
Yeah I think it's fun to watch her expressions when she tries new foods. But fuck the mess man, I hate it.
I let dd try lots of foods, I did the pizza crust awhile back. But she's not swallowing any of it? She's just tasting it, sucking on it a bit. I know we don't have to defend, just sayin that it's not like she's actually ingesting pizza crust.
I do blw and purées because she doesn't really swallow any of the solid foods? Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Plus as dumb as it is, purées are fun.
Nah with BLW it takes longer for them to actually start ingesting things. I think that's a lot of why BLW people say "food before one is just for fun." They're getting used to the mechanics of it. Almost 2.5 months later and DS is just starting to actually eat the food I give him.
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I don't even use dishes. It's become the nightly routine. But it's because it's one more thing to add to my already bloated list of tasks to complete before bedtime at 7. Hold the spoon, put the food in your mouth, then we can all eat at the same time! Maybe they won't need to be hosed off after every meal but that's unlikely.
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I complain because it's like a chore to me. Perhaps I'm a jaded STM but I prefer all the other fun stuff. Feeding isn't one of those.
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I don't even use dishes. It's become the nightly routine. But it's because it's one more thing to add to my already bloated list of tasks to complete before bedtime at 7. Hold the spoon, put the food in your mouth, then we can all eat at the same time! Maybe they won't need to be hosed off after every meal but that's unlikely.
Yeah, it will totally be nicer once he can feed himself and we can eat at the same time, but I don't mind right now. I'd either feed him solids or a bottle at that time anyway, since he's hungry then.
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I know we have differing opinions on it but do you really not get it? A few of us have given examples and specifics about why we don't like giving solids so...
To me it's like someone hating doing laundry. It's one chore, of many, that people have to do in their lives but there's plenty of more enjoyable things they could be doing instead.
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I complain because it's like a chore to me. Perhaps I'm a jaded STM but I prefer all the other fun stuff. Feeding isn't one of those.
Yeah, I might feel differently if I had a second. But I don't think I ever will, so I want to soak up all the moments!
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I know we have differing opinions on it but do you really not get it? A few of us have given examples and specifics about why we don't like giving solids so...
To me it's like someone hating doing laundry. It's one chore, of many, that people have to do in their lives but there's plenty of more enjoyable things they could be doing instead.
No, I get it. Poor choice of words, I suppose. I responded to your last post. I guess it's a chore, I just don't mind doing it.
ETA: Like I said, I'm not knocking anyone that doesn't like to do it.
Another UO: I'm so burned out from DS being a shitty eater his whole life and I think it sucks to sit and spoon feed a baby so I wish she would just drink bottles until she's 1, then move on to being a regular eater, on her own.
Yes yes yes! Feeding our toddler is so painful. He won't try new things. I just want our baby to be an average eater. I don't have the will to handle a second picky eater.
I don't get complaining about feeding the babies solids. Not knocking anyone, but I just don't get it. I love feeding E. Even if it's messy, it's fun to see his reactions and it's fun to spend that time with him. And I remember someone saying that there would be so many extra dishes to clean.. I just wash a spoon. Maybe it's because I feed him purees out of a container. I make it easy for myself.
I complain because it's like a chore to me. Perhaps I'm a jaded STM but I prefer all the other fun stuff. Feeding isn't one of those.
I agree somewhat with this. We are so rushed that feeding solids to the baby on weeknights is just one more thing to do in the 1.5-2 hrs we all have together. But he has been a good eater so I do get joy from seeing him actually eat.
Another UO: I'm so burned out from DS being a shitty eater his whole life and I think it sucks to sit and spoon feed a baby so I wish she would just drink bottles until she's 1, then move on to being a regular eater, on her own.
Yes yes yes! Feeding our toddler is so painful. He won't try new things. I just want our baby to be an average eater. I don't have the will to handle a second picky eater.
It's painful and exhausting. I really hope DD is better and I'll do anything in my power to get her on the right track early on.
Cut out swim suits should not be considered one piece. At least when my fat ass is looking for a one piece and half of what comes up has the sides cut out. Um, no. My love handles would be sticking out to Timbuktu if I was wearing that. That's why I'm looking for a one piece.
I hope that we haven't moved too beyond the sex offender talk for me to chime in. There is so much to say because there are so many considerations, but I don't want to leave a condition out and have it later look like I'm backpedaling. It's taken me like an hour+ to write this.
TL;DR I think everyone deserves the opportunity to be assessed for community risk, but I do believe there are many people beyond fixing.
There are all varieties of sex offenders, so it would help to specify which types we're talking about- public urination is a sex offense, stealing sex toys is a sex-related offense, bestiality is a sex offense, solicitation is a sex offense. Stating all SOs need to be shipped off is a complete overstatement.
That being said, it seems the direction everyone took was toward aggravated sexual assault (both adults and children). What about exploitation of a minor? Being in the possession of child pornography, but not having ever been in contact with the children or the person who took the photos? Is this the same as being in a position of trust? Is it the same as having multiple victims? Is it the same if it was a stranger and the act was violent? If the offender was under the influence of drugs or alcohol at the time of the incident, does that matter?
I believe, honestly, that some people cannot be fixed. There are crimes so terrible, they are burned into your brain. I have seen habitual offenders, those who take no accountability for their crimes, and those who are unsuccessful with treatment. I feel that these clients are not capable of making good choices when someone is not breathing down their neck, and paying someone to follow the offender to work and the grocery store and check internet history 24/7 is not a reasonable request to ask of tax payers or the offender's family. Life in prison might be, for these clients, the best option to minimize community risk. I am not prepared to speak on behalf of life-in-prison v. castration v. eye-for-an-eye aka prison-gang-bang punishments because I have no experience/information in this area. I work expressly with rehabilitation of criminal offenders (all kinds).
That being said, I do think some sex-offenders can be rehabilitated. I think it is very crime-dependent, and there are many things to consider in regards to the circumstances that lead up to the incident. Therapy, group-counseling, and victim empathy classes all have a place in rehabilitation and can all be very successful. I feel that, sometimes, the only difference between some of these offenders and community members without felonies is the ability to control impulses, which can be addressed.
I think that every sex offender deserves the opportunity to be evaluated for rehabilitation. I do not think that every offender will be a good candidate for/should receive rehabilitation. I definitely do not think that everyone who completes rehabilitation is actually rehabilitated. A modest over estimate on my part would be that with strict parole, 15-20% of sex offenders could be deemed a non-threat to the community upon full release. Those few success stories may include someone whose crimes were sex-crimes involving a minor. I do not think that an individual's crime defines his/her ability to change. I do think that the mental process which got the individual in trouble in the first place, though, may prevent an ability to change, but not necessarily the action.
I come at this as a person who works with under-served populations who need an advocate. But I also come at this as the mother of a little girl whose biological father is a sex offender; she was so young at the time, it's unknown if she was a victim, but her half-siblings are. Do I think d-bag bio-dad should be allowed to be assessed for community re-entry? Sure. Do I think that he would be successful in rehabilitation treatment and ought to be allowed in the community? Not a chance.
I love letting the twins try new foods, but man is it a pain. Two wiggling babies in high chairs, two babies who want to put their hands in their mouths and then smear food all over their faces and hair.... it's super cute, but sort of exhausting. (and I don't make my own purees- not to bring up an old UO, but I honestly feel like I don't have time to do it nor do I really want to.)
I pick them up from day care at 4 and then their bedtime bottle is a little after 6. So basically I get two hours with them each afternoon- spoon feeding them definitely feels like just one more chore. Instead of sitting at the table spoon feeding them, I want to take them on a walk or roll around with them on the floor or go play in the grass or whatever!
I think we have all side-eyed someone else's parenting choices at some point in this group, let's be real.
No one has ever side eyed me bc I'm a perfect unicorn mom (except the daycare, my mom, DH, my grandma, my co workers...etc.) No matter how you do things somebody is going to judge you.
Which is dumb. I really hate it when people mock me for following current recommendations. They look at me like I grew a third eyeball bc I won't let my kid have rice cereal in his bottle.
Re: current recommendations: right?! My current babysitter was like "oh, yah, I let him sleep in the bed with loose bedding. NBD." And my friend was all "yah, that's totally dangerous!" And then 1 minute later she was talking about how she put rice cereal in the bottle to help her D sleep longer. Am I the only person who earth who reads EVERYTHING the pedi gives me, the whole newborn guidebook, everything on here (and everything you notches read)? Ok, probably I am, but don't act like I'm crazy for being extra cautious.
Is the purpose of incarceration rehabilitation? or punishment? or both?
Ack. I work community corrections, which is rehabilitation/re-entry. I actually don't know the official purpose of incarceration. I assume it's to immediately reduce the risk to the community, so neither. But if they offer therapy/drug counseling/job training, it's a step toward rehabilitation.
Post by amandajean12 on May 7, 2015 13:45:21 GMT -5
Ok, I have a very unpopular one for this group.
I find the idea of baby wearing completely unappealing. I returned all of the carriers I was gifted. I waited 9 months to not have her attached to me, and I did not want to reattach her with fabric.
Is the purpose of incarceration rehabilitation? or punishment? or both?
Ack. I work community corrections, which is rehabilitation/re-entry. I actually don't know the official purpose of incarceration. I assume it's to immediately reduce the risk to the community, so neither. But if they offer therapy/drug counseling/job training, it's a step toward rehabilitation.
Quoting myself like a boss.
I mean rehabilitation as therapy, a variety of counseling, support and coaching for how to handle specific circumstances, etc. specifically with the intent to release into the community with zero risk of repeat offenses. Clients who are unsuccessful with required treatment, in my facility, are sent back to prison. Some clients complete the program, but I don't think they are 'fixed.' Do they go back into the community anyway? Yep. Do I think they should? Nope. Do I think that for some people and in some cases, it would 'fix' them? Yes.
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