Monday Randoms
Jun 15, 2015 12:30:22 GMT -5
Post by nicb13 on Jun 15, 2015 12:30:22 GMT -5
If daycare is closed tomorrow and I can make it to work, he will have to stay home with DS. So he will have him all day. I don't want to sound like I'm dogging on him, because he's a great dad. It's just little things that guys don't think about. Like yesterday we went to my SIL's gender reveal and my H was just walking around talking to people and just left us there. I can never just leave J and walk around and talk to people, he lives in my asshole. I think that dads don't really have the same brain wiring moms do, and they don't quite understand how much we do.
They don't understand all of the things you do or understand the full responsibility of caring for a baby. My H had done 2 baths since DD was born and doesn't help with solids feedings or anything like that.
I don't know if they think that these things take care of themselves or magically happen or what. Its just like they don't' think about this stuff. I am trying to learn that I have to tell H I need him to do something or ask him to help out or it will never happen. I wish he just offered to pitch in, or said hey let me do this feeding or bath time etc. but I think it is a man thing and they just don't thing about it sadly.
And you are absolutely right; you have to specifically ask for things you need. Don't assume he'll pick up on cues cuz that won't ever happen!