Family Crap (rant, long, whiny, Dear Diary)
Jan 24, 2015 11:49:32 GMT -5
Post by aimeefarrahfowler on Jan 24, 2015 11:49:32 GMT -5
I'm sorry you have to deal with this and it's causing you so much stress.
I don't really try with my dad anymore. I can only invite him over so many times. We live about an hour apart. I refuse to take my kids to his house. He has a little house and a big german shepherd they can't let outside alone because the yard isn't fenced. His wife has about 10,000 knickknacks covering every surface (aka, the opposite of baby-proofed). And worst of all, they smoke like chimneys in the house. Yuck.
So, if he comes up here, I see him. We both work in the city and have lunch once in awhile. I think when the boys are older he will want to do more things with them, but I don't think he knows what to do with babies. He always wanted a boy and had three daughters, so he is thrilled to have grandsons, so he says.
Let me tell you a story about my dad. His mom and three sisters all live in Florida. We live in Maryland. He hasn't seen his family in years. He doesn't care. He drove through Florida to go to the Keys on vacation and didn't even stop to see his mom, who has been in poor health the last couple years. Last month his sister was driving up to Ohio and stopped at his house. She didn't call or anything to let him know she was coming or anything, but still. It's his sister and he hadn't seen her in years. When she came to his house, he went outside to talk to her, didn't even invite her in. His sister, who named one of her sons after my dad, he didn't even invite her in. After about 20 minutes he was like "well, I gotta get in for dinner. see ya" He tells this story like it's hilarious. Such an asshole thing to do.
So I know that's how much effort he's put in with his family, I don't have very high expectations. Not cutting him out, but I leave it on him to decide how involved he wants to be.
I don't really try with my dad anymore. I can only invite him over so many times. We live about an hour apart. I refuse to take my kids to his house. He has a little house and a big german shepherd they can't let outside alone because the yard isn't fenced. His wife has about 10,000 knickknacks covering every surface (aka, the opposite of baby-proofed). And worst of all, they smoke like chimneys in the house. Yuck.
So, if he comes up here, I see him. We both work in the city and have lunch once in awhile. I think when the boys are older he will want to do more things with them, but I don't think he knows what to do with babies. He always wanted a boy and had three daughters, so he is thrilled to have grandsons, so he says.
Let me tell you a story about my dad. His mom and three sisters all live in Florida. We live in Maryland. He hasn't seen his family in years. He doesn't care. He drove through Florida to go to the Keys on vacation and didn't even stop to see his mom, who has been in poor health the last couple years. Last month his sister was driving up to Ohio and stopped at his house. She didn't call or anything to let him know she was coming or anything, but still. It's his sister and he hadn't seen her in years. When she came to his house, he went outside to talk to her, didn't even invite her in. His sister, who named one of her sons after my dad, he didn't even invite her in. After about 20 minutes he was like "well, I gotta get in for dinner. see ya" He tells this story like it's hilarious. Such an asshole thing to do.
So I know that's how much effort he's put in with his family, I don't have very high expectations. Not cutting him out, but I leave it on him to decide how involved he wants to be.