AFM: I got up and got DS dressed for school, asked him if he wanted to go to school and he said yes. We get to school, and I sit with him on the bench for a few minutes and he's glued to me. He starts crying that his stomach and knee hurts, and asks me in the most pitiful voice to please take him home. I had a full on pregnant lady meltdown b/c I feel so bad that my poor little guy has to deal with so much shit due to his disease. I had tears streaming down my face trying to tell his teacher I'm taking him home, while racing for my car before starting to ugly cry. I'm usually able to deal really well, but it just hit me with how much the kid has to go through. Hubs doesn't always get it, and gave me a kind of annoyed expression when we got home saying he had some client calls today, to bad dude I'm pretty sure DS will be on the couch resting or napping today.
I feel a little better, but am really worn down and exhausted. Hoping DS is up for a nap shortly.
Today is a very shitty day. My hb went to work and was fired. He was fired for shit that he didn't do but got the blame for it. His back office is very delayed on getting stuff processed but the customers blamed him when he had nothing to do with it. I don't make enough to cover all the bills by myself.
Oh God, that's terrible. I hope he can find something else soon! I'm so sorry : (
I was having some back pain last night... Woke up at 4am still having it. I decided to eat and chug copious amounts of water to make it stop. It's now almost 9 and I finally took one of the pills I have to stop contractions. (atrb_partsz) I just hit 34 weeks today. I don't want her here yet. Trying not to cry.
FX for you that LO stays put for a few more weeks! Hang in there!
Today is a very shitty day. My hb went to work and was fired. He was fired for shit that he didn't do but got the blame for it. His back office is very delayed on getting stuff processed but the customers blamed him when he had nothing to do with it. I don't make enough to cover all the bills by myself.
@megaugust10 - that really sucks. I'd hope he could fight it but if he just started in Nov I'm assuming he's still in some probationary period where he basically has no rights. I really hope the thing with his old job, or anything else works out. I can only imagine how stressful this is for you guys!
Not sure how many people here contributed to Suzee's gifts, but I thought I'd update just in case. She has gotten her first week of food (including ice cream!), and the gift card. She posted on the FB group that she is extremely grateful and touched by M15. Everyone here is awesome .
DH came home from work a couple weeks ago and announced that he joined an indoor golf team that meets weekly for 8 weeks… the last one is on my due date, but don't worry - he's "already planning on skipping that one." So, last night was the 2nd or 3rd week of this nonsense. It starts at 7, and is a little ways away, so basically he walks in the door from work; has time to change, poop, and eat; then ditches me to deal with our daddy-deprived toddler at bedtime. Awesome sauce…. Last night, when I was struggling to get dinner on the table with a fussy toddler clinging to my legs, he walked into the kitchen and I said, "I f-u-c-k-i-n-g hate Tuesdays." And he was all surprised and said, "Oh - just because of golf??" like it was this huge epiphany to him that it might be a massive pain in my ass to be forever pregnant and have virtually no help, and that I might be a little pissed that I don't get a night every week off from bedtime duty, and that he didn't discuss this with me before signing up, and that I count the hours/minutes until he gets home so that I can get some shit done in peace/take a deep breath/finally tell DS to "go find daddy!" So, I said, "um, yes, because of golf." And he was like, "Oh - ok - I'll just quit. I mean, I enjoy it once I'm there, but it's not that big of a deal." Which made me even more annoyed that I was trying to be all supportive and shit when it wasn't even a big deal to him.
And then, he stops by on his way back home, picks up some beer, offers me half a glass, notices that I'm stressed that our toddler won't stay in his fucking bed even though I put him down 90 minutes earlier, and suggests that we snuggle up on the couch with mindless TV so that I can relax. You know what would help me relax?? You doing some dishes. Or picking up your damn laundry that I've been tripping over and glaring at.
In case anyone was wondering… he's really not a total cretan, but I'm apparently in a mood
He talked to his old old boss today and he may be sbk free to get his job back there. Possibly start Monday the only thing is it is back to driving an hour away in the opposite direction as me. His boss did give him the number for the district guy and said they are looking for someone down past my work but if he got that we could leave a car at 1 of our parents house and just drive that far together. Grandparents are watching lo when I come back to work so we will be at their houses anyway. His boss will put in a good word for him.
Since he just started in November no severance pay. We are going to look into unemployment tonight to start that if he can't start his old position again monday.
The situation sounds horrible. I'm sorry! I know it's a stressful time already and this is just adding to it. Hopefully he can start Monday at the other job to at least get some income.
In the meantime, maybe you could look into some programs that will at least lighten the load. I know a lot of women on WIC (for pregnant people and I *think* kids under 5) Some free groceries, baby food and formula when LO gets here if you plan to ff or supplement. I'm not sure what the qualifications are, but I'm sure a Google search for your area would be able to tell you.
Post by winningcolors on Jan 28, 2015 10:56:18 GMT -5
My H has been helping me get my Uggs on and off for the past few weeks. They are pretty much the only winter shoes that fit and now they barely fit. After struggling to get them on me today, he mentioned maybe I should start wearing flip flops. It was 25 degrees this morning. Thanks H.
Post by mommyofkaylin on Jan 28, 2015 10:58:47 GMT -5
wifieo don't cry! Hopefully the meds work quickly for you and baby stays put a while longer! ruemorgan, I'm glad you're feeling better! @megaugust, I'm sorry about your DH! That is really stressful. My DH lost his job right before we got pregnant with my first for really shitty reasons too. Sending lots of positive vibes that he is able to find something quickly.
Add me to the group of people getting sick. DH and I both have colds and DD is getting over one. I'm so tired of being sick all the time. I'm pretty sure that LO moved out of the head down position as well. Hiccups have been really high again and the pressure on my pelvic area has eased up significantly. Silly baby, get back down there!
My random of today - I've been having the weirdest dreams lately. They are all different overall, but the common theme in all of them is that I've gone to the hospital and given birth; but I cannot remember anything about labor and delivery. In one dream the baby was a boy instead of the girl we've been told we're having; in the one last night there wasn't a baby anywhere to be found; but I was clearly no longer pregnant and was showing my 8 year old son how "stretchy" my skin was on my stomach now that baby was out? Fucking weird. All of this has me paranoid that it's some crazy sign that I'm going to need an emergency c-section and be put under, or something. Anyone a magical dream interpreter? lol.
LO has story time today, which I used to love. Now, it's kind of a headache since the teacher seems to be losing her patience and has scolded him on a few occasions. (For doing complete kid things like running in a circle before any kid gets there so it's just him playing in an empty room) One of my BIGGEST pet peeves is when people discipline my child when I'm clearly right there and I do it myself. I'd understand maybe if I was an absentee parent across the room, on my phone, not paying attention, whatever, but why reprimand my child when I took care of it already and I'm clearly on top of it?? *end rant*
Plus, kids are mean. He tried sitting next to this boy maybe 2 years older than him last time and just wanted to be his friend. The boy kept moving places and running away saying "stop following me" or "don't sit next to me." It's not like he was in his lap, he was just next to him in a room full of ten kids all sitting next to each other. I get it may be annoying, but he's a little kid who just wants friends. It breaks my heart sometimes and I can't wait to finally give him a sibling that can be his little buddy.
Does anyone else have a little pain where their ankles are swelling? The inside of my left ankle is always more swollen and it feels bruised but theres no bruise.its starting to get really annoying now that like none of my shoes fit so there always a lot of pressure on the "bruised" spot.
DH came home from work a couple weeks ago and announced that he joined an indoor golf team that meets weekly for 8 weeks… the last one is on my due date, but don't worry - he's "already planning on skipping that one." So, last night was the 2nd or 3rd week of this nonsense. It starts at 7, and is a little ways away, so basically he walks in the door from work; has time to change, poop, and eat; then ditches me to deal with our daddy-deprived toddler at bedtime. Awesome sauce…. Last night, when I was struggling to get dinner on the table with a fussy toddler clinging to my legs, he walked into the kitchen and I said, "I f-u-c-k-i-n-g hate Tuesdays." And he was all surprised and said, "Oh - just because of golf??" like it was this huge epiphany to him that it might be a massive pain in my ass to be forever pregnant and have virtually no help, and that I might be a little pissed that I don't get a night every week off from bedtime duty, and that he didn't discuss this with me before signing up, and that I count the hours/minutes until he gets home so that I can get some shit done in peace/take a deep breath/finally tell DS to "go find daddy!" So, I said, "um, yes, because of golf." And he was like, "Oh - ok - I'll just quit. I mean, I enjoy it once I'm there, but it's not that big of a deal." Which made me even more annoyed that I was trying to be all supportive and shit when it wasn't even a big deal to him.
And then, he stops by on his way back home, picks up some beer, offers me half a glass, notices that I'm stressed that our toddler won't stay in his fucking bed even though I put him down 90 minutes earlier, and suggests that we snuggle up on the couch with mindless TV so that I can relax. You know what would help me relax?? You doing some dishes. Or picking up your damn laundry that I've been tripping over and glaring at.
In case anyone was wondering… he's really not a total cretan, but I'm apparently in a mood
Wow. That shit would not fly with me!
There is nothing that will piss me off more quickly than when my DH tells me I'm acting up because of the pregnancy, or I'm in a mood, like you said. Um, no dear. If you tried a little harder to help out, this wouldn't be an issue.
I have a similar story: We had a birthday party at Peter Piper Pizza last Saturday for a 2 yr old and a 6 yr old. I walked in the house Friday night after work, while trying to get dinner going, trying to deal with my toddler, and my DH thinks now is a great time to tell me he doesn't think he'l go with me to the party cause his brother needs help with his truck. Excuse me? I am not chasing a 2 year old through Peter Piper Pizza for three hours by myself. His response was that my DD will be playing and I don't really need to watch her. Cue "crazy pregnant lady". I went ballistic. You can't just not watch your two year old at a place like that. Are you serious?
My H has been helping me get my Uggs on and off for the past few weeks. They are pretty much the only winter shoes that fit and now they barely fit. After struggling to get them on me today, he mentioned maybe I should start wearing flip flops. It was 25 degrees this morning. Thanks H.
winningcolors Haha coming from a Florida girl here, that doesn't sound too insane to me! Just make sure you wear them with your tackiest fuzzy socks if you have any.
All joking aside, DH has had to help me put my socks and boots on at times. I wear boots to my knee and it's tough lifting your leg up that high to get your foot into the opening!
Does anyone else have a little pain where their ankles are swelling? The inside of my left ankle is always more swollen and it feels bruised but theres no bruise.its starting to get really annoying now that like none of my shoes fit so there always a lot of pressure on the "bruised" spot.
I have this on the top of my left foot. If you press on it, it hurts like it's really bruised but there's nothing there. I think it's just nerve pain from my feet swelling so much.
Post by bitsybelle84 on Jan 28, 2015 11:10:48 GMT -5
luckystarz I hope your DS feels better soon. I'm sure it is very difficult to watch what he has to go through and not always be able to make it better. Hugs.
My sister had everyone get one when her LO was born last January. I don't remember it hurting too badly, but I do remember my doctor telling me doing pushups or exercising the arm a little would make it hurt less? Random and I can't speak for the validity of that, buttt I thought I'd share just in case. Good luck!
AFM: I got up and got DS dressed for school, asked him if he wanted to go to school and he said yes. We get to school, and I sit with him on the bench for a few minutes and he's glued to me. He starts crying that his stomach and knee hurts, and asks me in the most pitiful voice to please take him home. I had a full on pregnant lady meltdown b/c I feel so bad that my poor little guy has to deal with so much shit due to his disease. I had tears streaming down my face trying to tell his teacher I'm taking him home, while racing for my car before starting to ugly cry. I'm usually able to deal really well, but it just hit me with how much the kid has to go through. Hubs doesn't always get it, and gave me a kind of annoyed expression when we got home saying he had some client calls today, to bad dude I'm pretty sure DS will be on the couch resting or napping today.
I feel a little better, but am really worn down and exhausted. Hoping DS is up for a nap shortly.
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luckystarz sometimes we just need to ugly cry. It's ok. DS is lucky to have a mommy like you who cares so much about him! Hoping you get some good cuddles in today while he's not feeling well. Those should make you feel MUCH better (along with a nap when he goes down!)
Does anyone else have a little pain where their ankles are swelling? The inside of my left ankle is always more swollen and it feels bruised but theres no bruise.its starting to get really annoying now that like none of my shoes fit so there always a lot of pressure on the "bruised" spot.
I have this on the top of my left foot. If you press on it, it hurts like it's really bruised but there's nothing there. I think it's just nerve pain from my feet swelling so much.
Ugh, the top of the foot sounds horrible! I hope it goes away quickly after you give birth
My H has been helping me get my Uggs on and off for the past few weeks. They are pretty much the only winter shoes that fit and now they barely fit. After struggling to get them on me today, he mentioned maybe I should start wearing flip flops. It was 25 degrees this morning. Thanks H.
winningcolors Haha coming from a Florida girl here, that doesn't sound too insane to me! Just make sure you wear them with your tackiest fuzzy socks if you have any.
All joking aside, DH has had to help me put my socks and boots on at times. I wear boots to my knee and it's tough lifting your leg up that high to get your foot into the opening!
Putting on boots has become a huge pain in the arse, as has socks. Sometimes I just sit in my closet and stare at my socks willing them to go on my feet. I never thought bending over would be such a chore.
winningcolors Happy 33 weeks! We're due date buddies. Since I don't get on the dump anymore and don't have a ticker I may just go by yours when I see it in the randoms
Post by snarkysparklefart on Jan 28, 2015 11:23:45 GMT -5
mrsh288 that sounds awful re: the story time. My DD is overly friendly and doesn't really pick up well on the cues from other kids if they don't want to be buddies, and it's heartbreaking sometimes. I'm also pretty excited about her finally having a sibling- I hope they'll be built in buddies for the most part.
luckystarz hugs. I'm sorry, that would make me bawl too.
I was a bit stressed bc LO is transverse and at 35 weeks while she still has time to move I've been advised to try to get her head down ASAP before she gets so big where moving is difficult (plus it's REALLY uncomfortable for me). On Monday I ditched my regular office chair and started using a ball chair and a kneeling chair (alternating btwn the 2 every few hours). After just two days of that my chiropractor says my pelvis and hip alignment has improved quite a bit, so that's great news for getting LO into good position. I'm staying hopeful!
Then, even though I keep my belly as well oiled as a stripper's ass, the past few days my stomach has been itching so terribly that I was worried I might be developing PUPPS. None of my go to tools (coconut oil, pure Shea butter, natural lotion) were working. I tried California Baby Calendula Cream and it worked! I'm so happy bc I felt like I was on fire and it soothed that all away. Thought I'd share if anyone else needs some itchy help.
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