Post by chilibeansm0m on Jan 28, 2015 11:24:30 GMT -5
So last night i started getting some constant pain above my belly button. I was able to sleep, i drank some water and just went to bed early. Nothing is really sharp or tiemable and i dont think my stomach is getting hard, it's just uncomfortable. When i got out of bed this morning it's back. I'm just taking it easy at work and maybe I'll leave early. I decided this where I literally have no more fucks to give at this point of the pregnancy.
And i decided to go for it and wear my fleece leggings to the office. jennypm that's a big move for me. Dh was like are you going to work like that? And I'm like yup. See above. Baha.
He talked to his old old boss today and he may be sbk free to get his job back there. Possibly start Monday the only thing is it is back to driving an hour away in the opposite direction as me. His boss did give him the number for the district guy and said they are looking for someone down past my work but if he got that we could leave a car at 1 of our parents house and just drive that far together. Grandparents are watching lo when I come back to work so we will be at their houses anyway. His boss will put in a good word for him.
Since he just started in November no severance pay. We are going to look into unemployment tonight to start that if he can't start his old position again monday.
The situation sounds horrible. I'm sorry! I know it's a stressful time already and this is just adding to it. Hopefully he can start Monday at the other job to at least get some income.
In the meantime, maybe you could look into some programs that will at least lighten the load. I know a lot of women on WIC (for pregnant people and I *think* kids under 5) Some free groceries, baby food and formula when LO gets here if you plan to ff or supplement. I'm not sure what the qualifications are, but I'm sure a Google search for your area would be able to tell you.
Hope your day gets better!
Unfortunately I make to much money to qualify for any type of assistance.
Luckily we have enough between the bank and my paycheck this week to cover our bills that are due the beginning of the month. And my check will cover the end of the month bills. Hopefully he will have something to start getting a paycheck by the end of February to go towards march.
mrsh288 that sounds awful re: the story time. My DD is overly friendly and doesn't really pick up well on the cues from other kids if they don't want to be buddies, and it's heartbreaking sometimes. I'm also pretty excited about her finally having a sibling- I hope they'll be built in buddies for the most part.
luckystarz hugs. I'm sorry, that would make me bawl too.
Exactly! They can be cruel and it's like how do you explain that to them- "um, they just don't want to be your friend?" That sounds mean too. I just try to distract and get him to come sit by me. My husband took him to an indoor bounce house place two weeks ago. DS still tells me about it. I guess there were two little girls that didn't want him bouncing with them so DS always says daddy talked to the mean girls and said "he's just being a little boy."
mrsh288 that sounds awful re: the story time. My DD is overly friendly and doesn't really pick up well on the cues from other kids if they don't want to be buddies, and it's heartbreaking sometimes. I'm also pretty excited about her finally having a sibling- I hope they'll be built in buddies for the most part.
luckystarz hugs. I'm sorry, that would make me bawl too.
Exactly! They can be cruel and it's like how do you explain that to them- "um, they just don't want to be your friend?" That sounds mean too. I just try to distract and get him to come sit by me. My husband took him to an indoor bounce house place two weeks ago. DS still tells me about it. I guess there were two little girls that didn't want him bouncing with them so DS always says daddy talked to the mean girls and said "he's just being a little boy."
Can't we all just be friends?!?
Exactly- she doesn't get it because she's 3, she doesn't understand yet why everyone wouldn't want to be her friend. I know I'll have to explain it all one day (we are also an interracial family, which comes with its own unique set of challenges even in a large city- I dread the day I have to explain to the girls why another child or their parents may not treat them the same because of their race) but I really thought it would be maybe around age 7 or 8... Maybe even 13?! I don't remember kids being like that until I was nearly middle school aged. Maybe I am naive.
@megaugust10 I'm so sorry about your H. I hope he finds something else soon!
AFM, I have to go to the hospital for an NST today. You know public transportation in your metro area sucks when it takes 2 buses and an hour each way to go 12 miles. This is going to be unpleasant (especially for a 20-30 minute appointment), but I'm still too freaked out to drive myself. Ugh *puts on big girl panties...and maternity belt*
mrsh288 that sounds awful re: the story time. My DD is overly friendly and doesn't really pick up well on the cues from other kids if they don't want to be buddies, and it's heartbreaking sometimes. I'm also pretty excited about her finally having a sibling- I hope they'll be built in buddies for the most part.
luckystarz hugs. I'm sorry, that would make me bawl too.
Exactly! They can be cruel and it's like how do you explain that to them- "um, they just don't want to be your friend?" That sounds mean too. I just try to distract and get him to come sit by me. My husband took him to an indoor bounce house place two weeks ago. DS still tells me about it. I guess there were two little girls that didn't want him bouncing with them so DS always says daddy talked to the mean girls and said "he's just being a little boy."
Can't we all just be friends?!?
We deal with the same. DS1 is almost 2 and a huge hugger. Most children are put off by his affection and he doesn't understand. He also does this thing while he's hugging, he'll start to squeeze really hard and kind make a "grrrrr" sound, like he's so overcome with emotion. He's gotten bit in the face for that little move. The issue is that I let him do it to me, but of course other children are like- WTF.
Like everyone else, I'm hoping the presence of a sibling will give him more of a steady source of peer interaction where he can learn to appropriately show affection and get a lot of it out of his system before getting to daycare.
wifieo I hope everything is ok, and baby stays put! Hugs.
@megaugust10 that is so awful. I hope he can find another job quickly. Sounds like this place was a shitty place to be!
Re: kids being mean/not wanting to be friends. I am dreading the day I may have to deal with these issues. I was made fun of constantly in school and I really don't want my kids to have to deal with that too.
Post by chunkymonkeylvr on Jan 28, 2015 12:27:16 GMT -5
I'm on a mision to get my DS to nap by me just laying him down and walking away rather than having to lay in my bed while he falls asleep; he is in a pnp at the end of my bed.
Today I'm laying on the hallway. I'm hoping I can just slowly move each day
@megaugust10 I'm sorry about your dh that sucks! What a terrible situation!
jrp it does sound like a mood. I hope your DH steps up and helps a little. Don't be afraid to ask. Sometimes guys don't get the subtle clues like you know glaring, sarcasm ect....
Post by snarkysparklefart on Jan 28, 2015 12:36:43 GMT -5
chunkymonkeylvr that's exactly how we 'sleep trained' DD, both for the crib transition and the transition to toddler, then big girl bed. Hope it works for you as well as it did for us.
chunkymonkeylvr that's exactly how we 'sleep trained' DD, both for the crib transition and the transition to toddler, then big girl bed. Hope it works for you as well as it did for us.
I made eye contact crap! Lol. He's laying down rubbing his eyes but won't commit. Only been 30 min, but my lunch is calling me down stairs.
There is nothing that will piss me off more quickly than when my DH tells me I'm acting up because of the pregnancy, or I'm in a mood, like you said. Um, no dear. If you tried a little harder to help out, this wouldn't be an issue.
I have a similar story: We had a birthday party at Peter Piper Pizza last Saturday for a 2 yr old and a 6 yr old. I walked in the house Friday night after work, while trying to get dinner going, trying to deal with my toddler, and my DH thinks now is a great time to tell me he doesn't think he'l go with me to the party cause his brother needs help with his truck. Excuse me? I am not chasing a 2 year old through Peter Piper Pizza for three hours by myself. His response was that my DD will be playing and I don't really need to watch her. Cue "crazy pregnant lady". I went ballistic. You can't just not watch your two year old at a place like that. Are you serious?
Anyway, I feel your pain.
Add me on to the "If you tell me that my being in a mood is solely based on my pregnancy, I will straight up murder you," bandwagon. Because with assistance I wouldn't be in this mood.
I've actually gone on strike all of January. Your clothes aren't in the hamper? Tough shit they're not getting washed. You spilled coffee on the counter? Guess it's gonna be there until someone else cleans it. Tracked shit into the laundry room from the garage? Whatevs...
DH works a lot of hours, so I don't expect whole house cleaning from him. But he's fully capable of walking his dishes two extra feet to the sink. My retired FIL also lives with us and he sits and watches TV everyday. Guess who's not vacuuming up all of the crumbs around his chair in the TV room?
winningcolors Happy 33 weeks! We're due date buddies. Since I don't get on the dump anymore and don't have a ticker I may just go by yours when I see it in the randoms
and under 50 days?! WTF?!
Yay, another 3/18 EDD! Happy 33 weeks to you, too. You should post in the Wednesday Ticker Change thread!
My H has been helping me get my Uggs on and off for the past few weeks. They are pretty much the only winter shoes that fit and now they barely fit. After struggling to get them on me today, he mentioned maybe I should start wearing flip flops. It was 25 degrees this morning. Thanks H.
I have the same issue. There are days the Uggs don't even fit. My grandmother suggested special shoes that are made for diabetics - which are like Velcro sneakers. NMS...
wifieo sending positive vibes your way! Please keep us updated
@megaugust10 I am so sorry that sounds stressful; hopefully he can find something soon!
AFM - the girl who is shadowing me to take over during mat leave just told me I need to eat something nutritious because I was eating popcorn during lunch time. Um excuse me, I exercised this morning, ate gross kashi healthy crap, and a whole bag of fruit. Leave this pregnant bitch alone.
(btw, I just got this healthy salad with kale and avocado and shit - but I wanted pizza just to spite her)
My H has been helping me get my Uggs on and off for the past few weeks. They are pretty much the only winter shoes that fit and now they barely fit. After struggling to get them on me today, he mentioned maybe I should start wearing flip flops. It was 25 degrees this morning. Thanks H.
I have the same issue. There are days the Uggs don't even fit. My grandmother suggested special shoes that are made for diabetics - which are like Velcro sneakers. NMS...
Yeah, I agree, NMS. Yuuuck. I'd rather wear flip flops!
I can't believe that my little man will be here in 2 weeks from tomorrow at the latest. I am soooo unprepared - well that's not true. Bags are packed, we have a car seat, diapers, clothes, somewhere for him to sleep...I think I am just in denial about the whole birthing process...
And ...I just ordered 3 meals from the deli for lunch. Well - they will hopefully last me through at least half of dinner. I am ravenous these days.
My H has been helping me get my Uggs on and off for the past few weeks. They are pretty much the only winter shoes that fit and now they barely fit. After struggling to get them on me today, he mentioned maybe I should start wearing flip flops. It was 25 degrees this morning. Thanks H.
I have the same issue. There are days the Uggs don't even fit. My grandmother suggested special shoes that are made for diabetics - which are like Velcro sneakers. NMS...
Post by luckystarz on Jan 28, 2015 13:10:53 GMT -5
Hubs just told me that we are starting a serious search for a minivan asap, he plans to have it purchased and in our possession this weekend. I put a countdown on our bathroom mirror with how many days until I'm induced, it seems to have struck a chord! He now has active plans to get our room re-configured to get a dresser of some sort in here and all his useless crap in the garbage. The man has a moving box full if wire hangers, he hates wire hangers. Throw that shit away, or take it to a cleaners.
Post by happymamax2 on Jan 28, 2015 13:10:55 GMT -5
@megaugust10 that is seriously shitty! I'm hoping he can talk to someone in HR and get his job back! Gosh I'm so sorry for you guys
mrsh288 my dd is the same way with other kids. she loves to make friends over anything! I hope he has a better day!
wifieo I hope your little baby stays put a little longer! Come on March babies we are almost there!!!
AFM, so I've tried encouraging my dd to practice writing like all of last year. Some days she would do it and other days she was like "writing is boring" lol. Well the past three days shes been writing her full name by herself! It amazes me bc it's like when I try to encourage her she's like "anti-mom" and she just does it when she finally wants to. It was the same thing when I tried teaching her letters she refused to try. Then one day she was like "mom I want to learn my letters" and she recognized them all & their sounds in 2 weeks bc she wanted to do it, not because I told her. & When I say encourage her, I literally mean like I just try to put it in front of her and teach her but if she says no more, then I stop. I'll keep trying to nudge her but if she doesn't want to, then we don't continue. I find it frustrating and awesome at the same time bc it shows she has some sort of independence to do things at her own time as oppose to me telling her let's do them!
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