Hopefully you are pregnant (I woudlnt wish otherwise on anyone), but introing without a BFP is going to get you called out (it was the same on TD). And the SAHM vs "career" offended people. A simple "I'm sorry" would have sufficed.
I did apologize but I will do it again. I am sorry for offending some of you with my mis-worded comment. It did not come across as intended.
And if I don't get the BFP and it does turn out to be something else, then I will disappear. Honestly, I was just coming by to intro, not start all the drama
I highly doubt you weren't trying to start drama but "you do you".
It was the compounding of the "career" with the 'not judging' and 'you do you' that was thrown in there. There are an infinite number of reasons moms (and dads) choose to stay home and/or go to work. It seems like most of the time it's more out of necessity than wanting. I'm sure I don't need to tell you that though. The moms that want to stay at home, but would rather be able to play the bills aren't 'doing themselves' they're responsible fucking adults who are having a hard enough time and don't need to wonder if that 'not judging you' is sincere or not. Like PP have mentioned if you have to start a sentence warning the world you aren't judging then maybe you need to explore your own feelings a bit better.
Oh ffs! Would you guys like me to DD my intro? I can do that and wait for an official answer if it is that important to you.
And I've been handing out all the likes to your comments because you are legit making me laugh. And risscaboobs, I never said that you guys "don't know my lyfe", I said I wouldn't say that. Jeez, at least make sure you are quoting me correctly if you are going to make fun of me.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Can anyone explain to me who the haggard trolls are?
The Haggard Trolls are the moms in March 2015. Back in the days of TD, we had a reputation for being kinda bitchy and giving zero effs about all the drive-bys and WKs. Women used to come through randomly, asking us to guess their baby's gender based on potty shots and asking if we could tell them what they were having. They all got called out for numerous things and usually told us they felt bad for our husbands/families, told us we were horrible people, and called us all kinds of other names (like haggard trolls). They didn't understand why we didn't want to see their naked/lingerie bumps or wouldn't give them medical advice or marital advice when we had no idea who they were and not doctors.
I those girls and everything we went through together made us stronger.
Can anyone explain to me who the haggard trolls are?
The Haggard Trolls are the moms in March 2015. Back in the days of TD, we had a reputation for being kinda bitchy and giving zero effs about all the drive-bys and WKs. Women used to come through randomly, asking us to guess their baby's gender based on potty shots and asking if we could tell them what they were having. They all got called out for numerous things and usually told us they felt bad for our husbands/families, told us we were horrible people, and called us all kinds of other names (like haggard trolls). They didn't understand why we didn't want to see their naked/lingerie bumps or wouldn't give them medical advice or marital advice when we had no idea who they were and not doctors.
I those girls and everything we went through together made us stronger.
The Haggard Trolls are the moms in March 2015. Back in the days of TD, we had a reputation for being kinda bitchy and giving zero effs about all the drive-bys and WKs. Women used to come through randomly, asking us to guess their baby's gender based on potty shots and asking if we could tell them what they were having. They all got called out for numerous things and usually told us they felt bad for our husbands/families, told us we were horrible people, and called us all kinds of other names (like haggard trolls). They didn't understand why we didn't want to see their naked/lingerie bumps or wouldn't give them medical advice or marital advice when we had no idea who they were and not doctors.
I those girls and everything we went through together made us stronger.
Sounds like every BMB. Really.
Basically. It's what I was looking for again. Obviously, I didn't expect the reaction I got, but I also didn't think about how my post could come across as rude or judgy, and that's my fault.
Basically. It's what I was looking for again. Obviously, I didn't expect the reaction I got, but I also didn't think about how my post could come across as rude or judgy, and that's my fault.
I'm sure this group will be like that. It's just kind of assumed that a person would be verifiably pregnant before intro'ing on a BMB, you know?
Basically. It's what I was looking for again. Obviously, I didn't expect the reaction I got, but I also didn't think about how my post could come across as rude or judgy, and that's my fault.
I'm sure this group will be like that. It's just kind of assumed that a person would be verifiably pregnant before intro'ing on a BMB, you know?
I do. In my head it sounded funny-haha not funny-side-eye worthy. Lesson learned. I'm just going to step back from the board for a while until I know for sure.
And FWIW, if it does end up that I go here, I'm not going to come back and be all bitchy and I-told-you-so about it
The Haggard Trolls are the moms in March 2015. Back in the days of TD, we had a reputation for being kinda bitchy and giving zero effs about all the drive-bys and WKs. Women used to come through randomly, asking us to guess their baby's gender based on potty shots and asking if we could tell them what they were having. They all got called out for numerous things and usually told us they felt bad for our husbands/families, told us we were horrible people, and called us all kinds of other names (like haggard trolls). They didn't understand why we didn't want to see their naked/lingerie bumps or wouldn't give them medical advice or marital advice when we had no idea who they were and not doctors.
I those girls and everything we went through together made us stronger.
All of ^^that, and you still don't get why your intro on a BMB without having an actual confirmed pregnancy is strange? I'm really failing to understand your logic here.
so, where do we go from here? Are you going to actually verify the pregnancy so we can all move on?
hippo, did you read anything I wrote? I never said I didn't get why it was strange. In the comment right above yours I said that I was going to step away until I knew for sure. I have every intention of testing again and if I continue to get negatives while not getting AF, I will make a dr appt. I'm not a moron who is just going to just pretend or go on "becuz I know my body".
I wrote my intro about thinking I go here because I'm assuming it is true, based on my past history. I also read previous posts on this BMB from women who weren't sure yet that they belonged here but wanted it to be true, so I thought I would do the same thing. I didn't see that it was any different. Maybe I should have just posted about it instead of waiting until I was sure before I wrote an intro but I honestly didn't think it would turn into as big of a deal as it is. I can't believe my intro has turned into the most viewed and most commented thread on this brand new BMB.
But anyway, OP, as stated above. Your period is never late unless you have a cyst or are pregnant. So either A) you ovulated late (which chances are high because you weren't charting), B) you have a cyst, which could explain cramping, C) your ute is pregnant.
Either way. Whatever. Just wanted to educate you that it's impossible for your period to be late without you having a cyst or being pregnant.
Fully aware of all these possibilities. And if I were just depending on missing AF or the cramps, or if I had never been in this situation before, I would appreciate the education. I also have nausea all day, hormonal acne pop-ups that I haven't seen since last time, and headaches. I can't tell much if my boobs are hurting because I'm still breastfeeding my 1 yr old.
The reason I wasn't charting is because I never have. I don't track my cycle any more than knowing I average a 28-30 day cycle. I've never temped or done CM checks. I have struggled with getting pregnant before and, in retrospect, doing those things probably would have helped.
But anyway, OP, as stated above. Your period is never late unless you have a cyst or are pregnant. So either A) you ovulated late (which chances are high because you weren't charting), B) you have a cyst, which could explain cramping, C) your ute is pregnant.
Either way. Whatever. Just wanted to educate you that it's impossible for your period to be late without you having a cyst or being pregnant.
Fully aware of all these possibilities. And if I were just depending on missing AF or the cramps, or if I had never been in this situation before, I would appreciate the education. I also have nausea all day, hormonal acne pop-ups that I haven't seen since last time, and headaches. I can't tell much if my boobs are hurting because I'm still breastfeeding my 1 yr old.
The reason I wasn't charting is because I never have. I don't track my cycle any more than knowing I average a 28-30 day cycle. I've never temped or done CM checks. I have struggled with getting pregnant before and, in retrospect, doing those things probably would have helped.
Do you have any idea how much breastfeeding can fuck up your cycle? That could be a huge reason of why ovulation was delayed/your period didn't come when expected.
Awww, I get to be the first speshul snowflake? Yay, I'm so blessed! Is this where I'm supposed to get all "you don't know my lyfe!" and "I feel bad for your SO's"?
Yeah, ain't gonna happen.
Anyway...I can see how my post and the quotes used could have come off as shitty, and for that I apologize. It truly was never my intention to sound condescending and I truly do respect those of you who work and have careers. Nobody needs permission to do what they do. I had a convo earlier with my original BM group and it was all about sahm vs career mom (btw, that had been in quotes because it made more sense in my head at the time. People work hella hard to get where they are and that should never be discounted).
As far as my history and my assumptions about my own +/- state, that's all it is and I base it off the three other times I've been in this situation. I also know that it could be a fluke and it could be something else entirely. No, I don't have a chart because I wasn't actively trying to get pregnant. I don't need anyone to pat my head and hold my hand through this. If you all want to judge me for my intro and, at the same time, accuse me of being judgy mcjudgerson about your career/sahm choice, have at it. Btw, I came here to intro so that I don't seem like some random drive by when I all of a sudden start posting or commenting on posts. Gob forbid, I end up on someone's post-it because I participated without an intro
Yeah, half the people that are going to end up in this group are just now finding out they're pregnant or will in the next month most likely. I can't really see how you thought any of us would think you were a random person busting in. We haven't even agreed on the secret handshake yet.
Not to mention, does anyone really consider it that weird to comment without an intro? I can't say that I've ever introed on any board I've been a part of, mostly because I can never be bothered to type one up.
But anyway, OP, as stated above. Your period is never late unless you have a cyst or are pregnant. So either A) you ovulated late (which chances are high because you weren't charting), B) you have a cyst, which could explain cramping, C) your ute is pregnant.
Either way. Whatever. Just wanted to educate you that it's impossible for your period to be late without you having a cyst or being pregnant.
Fully aware of all these possibilities. And if I were just depending on missing AF or the cramps, or if I had never been in this situation before, I would appreciate the education. I also have nausea all day, hormonal acne pop-ups that I haven't seen since last time, and headaches. I can't tell much if my boobs are hurting because I'm still breastfeeding my 1 yr old.
The reason I wasn't charting is because I never have. I don't track my cycle any more than knowing I average a 28-30 day cycle. I've never temped or done CM checks. I have struggled with getting pregnant before and, in retrospect, doing those things probably would have helped.
Fully aware of all these possibilities. And if I were just depending on missing AF or the cramps, or if I had never been in this situation before, I would appreciate the education. I also have nausea all day, hormonal acne pop-ups that I haven't seen since last time, and headaches. I can't tell much if my boobs are hurting because I'm still breastfeeding my 1 yr old.
The reason I wasn't charting is because I never have. I don't track my cycle any more than knowing I average a 28-30 day cycle. I've never temped or done CM checks. I have struggled with getting pregnant before and, in retrospect, doing those things probably would have helped.
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
I'm new to the board, so whatevs, but the best way to feel at home is to just jump on in.
There are so many reasons why you may not have a period. One of them being stressed out, hypothyroid, etc. I have been known to skip cycles completely.
That being said, keep peeing on sticks, but in the mean time you may not be pregnant.
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