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[mel7806]

ETA: Clearly I'm an asshole who knows nothing about anyone else's struggles and I'm a condescending bish who was stupid enough to intro/comment on a group without an official BFP. I'm sorry that some of my statements were offensive and I should have remembered that other people have through far more than me and know far more than me. 

[sophiegrace]

Hi! Welcome!

[LizInFL]

Welcome!

[peanutmuse]

Are you going to test eventually?

[hangry]

Hello!

[mel7806]

Mar 9, 2016 7:48:56 GMT -5 peanutmuse said:

Are you going to test eventually?

This is going to sound weird but I tested yesterday and it was neg. but I am seriously never more than a day or two late. My LMP was 1/26! I'm going to test again probably Sunday or Monday. I'm in a state of plausible acceptance at this point lol.

[peanutmuse]

Mar 9, 2016 11:41:35 GMT -5 mel7806 said:

Mar 9, 2016 7:48:56 GMT -5 peanutmuse said:

Are you going to test eventually?

This is going to sound weird but I tested yesterday and it was neg. but I am seriously never more than a day or two late. My LMP was 1/26! I'm going to test again probably Sunday or Monday. I'm in a state of plausible acceptance at this point lol.

Yes, you're right, that does sound weird. I hope you get that BFP when you test. Good luck!

[goldenlove3]

Good luck testing mel7806 but are you sure you didn't just ovulate late? There should be more than enough HCG in your system by 2 weeks late to show up on a test.

[mel7806]

Mar 9, 2016 12:41:24 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Good luck testing mel7806 but are you sure you didn't just ovulate late? There should be more than enough HCG in your system by 2 weeks late to show up on a test.

Thanks goldenlove3, it's definitely a possibility. And if it doesn't work out, then I wish everyone all the best and I will be on my way. I also tested negative until almost 8 weeks with my oldest.

I just thought I would come by and intro myself anyway, because why not. I've met so many fantastic people because of this forum already!

[goldenlove3]

Mar 9, 2016 12:49:21 GMT -5 mel7806 said:

Mar 9, 2016 12:41:24 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Good luck testing mel7806 but are you sure you didn't just ovulate late? There should be more than enough HCG in your system by 2 weeks late to show up on a test.

Thanks goldenlove3 , it's definitely a possibility. And if it doesn't work out, then I wish everyone all the best and I will be on my way. I also tested negative until almost 8 weeks with my oldest.

I just thought I would come by and intro myself anyway, because why not. I've met so many fantastic people because of this forum already!

Hope you get to stay! Good luck!

[peanutmuse]

I am so glad to see that I am not the only one who found this strange...

[icaughtfire]

...."this bitch."

[risscaboobs]

Good thing I'm allowed to do me since I'm not lucky enough to be a SAHM. Too bad I have to have my "career".

OP, you probably ovulated later than you think. Were you temping or anything to confirm ovulation? I'm mobile so can't see if you have a chart in your siggy or anything. If you were two weeks late, then I'm guessing you'd be somewhere around 28dpo (based on a 14 day LP)? You should definitely have enough hcg to turn a test at that point.

[peanutmuse]

Mar 10, 2016 12:28:59 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

Good thing I'm allowed to do me since I'm not lucky enough to be a SAHM. Too bad I have to have my "career".

OP, you probably ovulated later than you think. Were you temping or anything to confirm ovulation? I'm mobile so can't see if you have a chart in your siggy or anything. If you were two weeks late, then I'm guessing you'd be somewhere around 28dpo (based on a 14 day LP)? You should definitely have enough hcg to turn a test at that point.

No chart in her siggy risscaboobs.

But didn't you see, she didn't turn a test positive until 8 weeks once?

[getzystark]

Cool story bro.

[risscaboobs]

Mar 10, 2016 12:32:12 GMT -5 peanutmuse said:

Mar 10, 2016 12:28:59 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

Good thing I'm allowed to do me since I'm not lucky enough to be a SAHM. Too bad I have to have my "career".

OP, you probably ovulated later than you think. Were you temping or anything to confirm ovulation? I'm mobile so can't see if you have a chart in your siggy or anything. If you were two weeks late, then I'm guessing you'd be somewhere around 28dpo (based on a 14 day LP)? You should definitely have enough hcg to turn a test at that point.

No chart in her siggy risscaboobs .

But didn't you see, she didn't turn a test positive until 8 weeks once?

[SheilaTheTank]

It's been so long since we've had one of these. Im feeling sorta nostalgic.

[sophiegrace]

I completely fucking missed that. I worked my ass off in school and love my job. Those are both things I very much want for my future children so thank you very much I will 'do me' and be a "career mom".

[sophiegrace]

This is now what N16 is going to be known for.

This is why we can't have nice things.

[getzystark]

Mar 10, 2016 13:51:54 GMT -5 sophiegrace said:

This is now what N16 is going to be known for.

This is why we can't have nice things.

Congratulations!!!

[wanderingheart]

This is fun. #WHwashere

[risscaboobs]

Mar 10, 2016 14:28:22 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

I want to SAH but we can't afford it. Like, it kind of eats me up some days. Thanks for your condescension tho, OP.

Exactly. I think that's why it pissed me off so much. Plus the fact that ignorance and stupidity always annoys me.

[peanutmuse]

Mar 10, 2016 14:52:53 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

Mar 10, 2016 14:28:22 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

I want to SAH but we can't afford it. Like, it kind of eats me up some days. Thanks for your condescension tho, OP.

Exactly. I think that's why it pissed me off so much. Plus the fact that ignorance and stupidity always annoys me.

Plus, any time someone says "I don't judge" in an intro usually means the exact opposite, in my experience.

[teraiin]

...Well if I was pregnant every time AF was late.... well... not going there.

But gotta "love" a dose of condescension. Just kidding.

[teraiin]

Mar 10, 2016 14:55:46 GMT -5 peanutmuse said:

Mar 10, 2016 14:52:53 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

Exactly. I think that's why it pissed me off so much. Plus the fact that ignorance and stupidity always annoys me.

Plus, any time someone says "I don't judge" in an intro usually means the exact opposite, in my experience.

That is pretty similar to statements that start with "I'm not *insert* but" (I'm not racist but... , I'm not sexist but... , No offense but..." in my mind.

[frankenboom]

HOLY FUCK THERE IS N16 ALREADY!?!??!

I just realized I got my first (I say first because obviously I took 290823098 tests) BFP one year ago yesterday.

ILY N16!!!

Also you guys know that because she was called on her weird ass story, she's definitely going to end up being pregnant, right? That's how it always works. Then she'll be all "see! I told you I'm NEVAR late and my speshul body just doesn't like HPTs."

[sophiegrace]

Mar 10, 2016 15:41:51 GMT -5 frankenboom said:

HOLY FUCK THERE IS N16 ALREADY!?!??!

I just realized I got my first (I say first because obviously I took 290823098 tests) BFP one year ago yesterday.

ILY N16!!!

Also you guys know that because she was called on her weird ass story, she's definitely going to end up being pregnant, right? That's how it always works. Then she'll be all "see! I told you I'm NEVAR late and my speshul body just doesn't like HPTs."

I kind of hope she does just so we can tell her she's an "asshole" and we spent the entire afternoon "judging" her.

Honestly though I'd welcome her back in if she'd just explain herself and gain some awareness. We're all good enough at beating ourselves up, we don't need a stranger telling us what's better for us/our kids.

[mel7806]

Mar 10, 2016 16:19:40 GMT -5 sophiegrace said:

Mar 10, 2016 15:41:51 GMT -5 frankenboom said:

HOLY FUCK THERE IS N16 ALREADY!?!??!

I just realized I got my first (I say first because obviously I took 290823098 tests) BFP one year ago yesterday.

ILY N16!!!

Also you guys know that because she was called on her weird ass story, she's definitely going to end up being pregnant, right? That's how it always works. Then she'll be all "see! I told you I'm NEVAR late and my speshul body just doesn't like HPTs."

I kind of hope she does just so we can tell her she's an "asshole" and we spent the entire afternoon "judging" her.

Honestly though I'd welcome her back in if she'd just explain herself and gain some awareness. We're all good enough at beating ourselves up, we don't need a stranger telling us what's better for us/our kids.

Awww, I get to be the first speshul snowflake? Yay, I'm so blessed! Is this where I'm supposed to get all "you don't know my lyfe!" and "I feel bad for your SO's"?

Yeah, ain't gonna happen.

Anyway...I can see how my post and the quotes used could have come off as shitty, and for that I apologize. It truly was never my intention to sound condescending and I truly do respect those of you who work and have careers. Nobody needs permission to do what they do. I had a convo earlier with my original BM group and it was all about sahm vs career mom (btw, that had been in quotes because it made more sense in my head at the time. People work hella hard to get where they are and that should never be discounted). 

As far as my history and my assumptions about my own +/- state, that's all it is and I base it off the three other times I've been in this situation. I also know that it could be a fluke and it could be something else entirely. No, I don't have a chart because I wasn't actively trying to get pregnant. I don't need anyone to pat my head and hold my hand through this. If you all want to judge me for my intro and, at the same time, accuse me of being judgy mcjudgerson about your career/sahm choice, have at it.

Btw, I came here to intro so that I don't seem like some random drive by when I all of a sudden start posting or commenting on posts. Gob forbid, I end up on someone's post-it because I participated without an intro

[sophiegrace]

It was the compounding of the "career" with the 'not judging' and 'you do you' that was thrown in there. There are an infinite number of reasons moms (and dads) choose to stay home and/or go to work. It seems like most of the time it's more out of necessity than wanting. I'm sure I don't need to tell you that though. The moms that want to stay at home, but would rather be able to play the bills aren't 'doing themselves' they're responsible fucking adults who are having a hard enough time and don't need to wonder if that 'not judging you' is sincere or not. Like PP have mentioned if you have to start a sentence warning the world you aren't judging then maybe you need to explore your own feelings a bit better.

Edit: spelling

[mel7806]

Mar 10, 2016 17:18:32 GMT -5 danib said:

You're still being condescending....

Hopefully you are pregnant (I woudlnt wish otherwise on anyone), but introing without a BFP is going to get you called out (it was the same on TD). And the SAHM vs "career" offended people. A simple "I'm sorry" would have sufficed.

I did apologize but I will do it again. I am sorry for offending some of you with my mis-worded comment. It did not come across as intended.

And if I don't get the BFP and it does turn out to be something else, then I will disappear. Honestly, I was just coming by to intro, not start all the drama